First Quarter

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Learning Module No. 4

Name: _________________________________ Date: ___________________

Grade level & Strand: __________________ Score: __________________

Name of Subject Teacher: Reyboy P. Tagsip

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Topic: The Challenges of Middle and Late Adolescence
Duration: Week 4-September 6-10, 2021
Learning Competencies:
1. Identify ways that help one become capable and responsible adolescent prepared for adult life
2. Discuss understanding of mental health and psychological well-being to identify ways to cope with stress during
adolescence
Learning Objectives: Students were expected to:
1. discuss how facing the challenges during adolescence, you may able to clarify and manage the demands
of teen years,
2. express your feelings on the expectations of the significant people around you, such as your parents,
siblings, friends, teachers, community leaders, and,
3. make affirmations that help you become more lovable and capable as an adolescent.

References: Moving Up A Guide to Personal and Career Development. Maricel Ilag-Ramos

INTRODUCTION

What particular challenges do middle and late adolescents face? In the previous chapter, we studied about the
crisis or conflict that comes with adolescence as theorized by Erik Erikson. He identified identity vs. role confusion as the
developmental challenge an adolescent faces. We also discussed the changes that happen during the adolescence
stage. It involves the whole person, and all the aspects of a person, from the physical changes that result to puberty, to
the cognitive and brain development, social skills, personality, and spirituality. We also explored the different ways in
which the adolescent is evolving from childhood to adolescence.

In this chapter, we will discuss the challenges that an adolescent faces, particularly, the challenges a Filipino
adolescent faces. Below is a list of common challenges normal adolescents encounter. The list is not exhaustive nor is
definitive.

PRE-TEST

On the other sheet of paper, print or paste three (3) pictures that show a scenario of “The Challenges of Middle and Late
Adolescence”. Then, explain or write a reflection essay about that scenario at least three (3) sentences.

CONTENT
THE PASSAGE TO ADULTHOOD: CHALLENGES OF LATE ADOLESCENCE

Physical Development
 Most girls have completed the physical changes related to puberty by age
 Boys are still maturing and gaining strength, muscle mass, and height and are completing the development of
sexual traits.
Emotional Development
 May stress over school and test scores.
 Is self-involved (may have high expectations and low self-concept).
 Seeks privacy and time alone.
 Is concerned about physical and sexual attractiveness.
 May complain that parents prevent him or her from doing things independently.
 Starts to want both physical and emotional intimacy in relationships.
 The experience of intimate partnerships
 Social Development
 shifts in relationship with parents from dependency and subordination to one that reflects the adolescent’s
increasing maturity and responsibilities in the family and the community,
 Is more and more aware of social behaviors of friends.
 Seeks friends that share the same beliefs, values, and interests.
 Friends become more important.
 Starts to have more intellectual interests.
 Explores romantic and sexual behaviors with others.
 May be influenced by peers to try risky behaviors (alcohol, tobacco, sex).
Mental Development
 Becomes better able to set goals and think in terms of the future.
 Has a better understanding of complex problems and issues.
 Starts to develop moral ideals and to select role

The Courage to Be Imperfect

by Timothy D. Evans, Ph.D.

Encouragement is the key ingredient for improving your relationships with others. It is the single most important
skill necessary for getting along with others –so important that the lack of it could be considered the primary cause of
conflict and misbehavior. Encouragement develops a person’s psychological hardiness and social interest.
Encouragement is the lifeblood of a relationship. And yet, this simple concept is often very hard to put into practice.

Encouragement is not a new idea. Its spiritual connotation dates back to the Bible in Hebrews 3:11 which states
“Encourage one another daily.” Encouragement, as a psychological idea, was developed by psychiatrist Alfred Adler in
the early 20th century and continued to evolve through the work of Adler’s follower Rudolph Dreikurs. However, even
today, relatively few educators, parents, psychologists, leaders or couples have utilized this valuable concept. Most of
the time, people mistakenly use a technique like praise in an effort to “encourage” others.

Half the job of encouragement lies in avoiding discouraging words and actions. When children or adults
misbehave, it is usually because they are discouraged. Instead of building them up, we tear them down; instead of
recognizing their efforts and improvements, we point out mistakes; instead of allowing them to belong through shared
decision-making and meaningful contributions, we isolate and label them.

Most of us are skilled discouragers. We have learned how to bribe, reward and, when that fails, to punish,
criticize, nag, threaten, interrogate and emotionally withdraw. We do this as an attempt to control those we love,
bolstered by the mistaken belief that we are responsible for the behavior of everyone around us, especially our spouses
and children. These attempts to control behavior create atmospheres of tension and conflict in many houses.

Most commonly, we discourage in five general ways:

 We set standards that are too high for others to meet because we are overly ambitious.
 We focus on mistakes as a way to motivate change or improved behavior.
 We make constant comparisons (self to others, siblings to one another).
 We automatically give a negative spin to the actions of others.
 We dominate others by being overly helpful, implying that they are unable to do it as well.

Encouragement is not a technique nor is it a special language used to gain compliance. Encouragement conveys
the idea that all human beings are worthwhile, simply because they exist. In one sentence, Mr. Rogers does more for a
child’s sense of adequacy than a hundred instances of praise when he says, “I like you just the way you are.” Not I like
you when you do it well enough, fast enough and get it all correct. Encouragement develops children’s psychological
hardiness – their ability to function and recover when things aren’t going their way.

Encouragement enhances a feeling of belonging which leads to greater social interest. Social interest is the
tendency for people to unite themselves with other human beings and to accomplish their tasks in cooperation with others.
The Junior League mission of “developing the potential of women and improving communities through the effective action
and leadership of trained volunteers” is rooted in the idea of social interest.

The first step to becoming an encouraging person is to learn to distinguish encouragement from discouragement.
As a rule, ask yourself: Whatever I say or do, will it bring me closer together or farther apart from this person? We
all have the power to be more encouraging people. The choice, as always, is yours.

THE POWER OF PERSONAL DECLARATIONS

by Dr. Emily De Carlo
 So often we accept the declarations that others have made concerning our own lives, well-being or fate. It is
imperative that we recognize that in order to achieve what we want in life; we must not give our power away to others
by accepting their declarations concerning our affairs. When one decides that he or she will boldly declare good fortune,
wellness, joy, etc. relative to his or her life, all of heaven will break loose! Goodness and mercy shall surely follow.

From birth, we are often told what we are going to be. Sometimes, this is a good thing, but suppose you have
been told time and time again that "you will not amount to anything just like your mother or father"? This is a dangerous
declaration because it sets into motion the actualization of an unwanted occurrence. All of us want to amount to
something! In order to counteract this and all of the negative declarations with their destructive potential, one must
consciously replace them with one's own declarations. In so doing, you are now in control of setting into action what
you really want to occur. You can declare that goodness and mercy shall surely follow you all the days of your life!

The following are some declarations that you may want to make concerning your life:
I declare:
that I am totally free of all addictions.
that I will survive any attempts of others to control my life.
that I am free in my mind, body, and emotions.
that I am free to set goals and reach them.
that I am a loving individual with the capacity to give love.
that I am a child of God with all rights and privileges thereof.
that I will contribute to the welfare of others.
that I will be an ambassador of goodwill to all I meet on the journey.
that I will be a good example for others to follow.
that I will help all that I can to reach their goals.
that I will speak words of encouragement to others.
that I will find the goodness in life and focus on it.
that I will not succumb to the negative influences of others.
that I will read the information that will encourage my personal,
and spiritual growth.
that I will commit to being the best I can be.
These declarations are meant to encourage you to take control of the influences in your life. They are suggestions
as to what positive things you can speak about your own life instead of accepting whatever has been said about you in the
past. You now have the authority to plant the seeds of love, encouragement and victory in your garden, thereby crowding
out the weeds of negativity that may already have taken root! Just as in a garden, you may have to pull and pull until you
get some weeds out. Sometimes, the negative comments and declarations of others have taken such a stronghold in our
lives, that we must persist until we see the bough not only fall, but break into pieces. Don't be discouraged if you don't
reach your goals overnight. Just remember that even a small stream of water will crack concrete eventually!!

BEING HAPPY
You may have defects, be anxious and sometimes live irritated, but do not forget that your life is the greatest
enterprise in the world. Only you can prevent it from going into decadence. There are many that need you, admire you
and love you.
I would like to remind you that being happy is not having a sky without storms, or roads without accidents, or work
without fatigue, or relationships without disappointments.
Being happy is finding strength in forgiveness, hope in one’s battles, security at the stage of fear, love in
disagreements.
Being happy is not only to treasure the smile, but that you also reflect on the sadness. It is not just
commemorating the event, but also learning lessons in failures. It is not just having joy with the applause, but also having
joy in anonymity.
Being happy is to recognize that it is worthwhile to live, despite all the
challenges, misunderstandings and times of crises.
Being happy is not inevitable fate, but a victory for those who can travel towards it with your own being.
Being happy is to stop being a victim of problems but become an actor in history itself. It is not only to cross the
deserts outside of ourselves, but still more, to be able to find an oasis in the recesses of our soul. It is to thank God every
morning for the miracle of life.
Being happy is not being afraid of one's feelings. It is to know how to talk about ourselves. It is to bear with
courage when hearing a "no". It is to have the security to receive criticism, even if is unfair. It is to kiss the children,
pamper the parents, have poetic moments with friends, even if they have hurt us.
Being happy means allowing the free, happy and simple child inside each of us to live; having the maturity to say,
"I was wrong"; having the audacity to say, "forgive me". It is to have sensitivity in expressing, "I need you"; to have the
ability of saying, "I love you." So that your life becomes a garden full of opportunities for being happy...
In your spring-time, may you become a lover of joy. In your winter, may you become a friend of wisdom. And
when you go wrong along the way, you start all over again. Thus you will be more passionate about life. And you will find
that happiness is not about having a perfect life but about using tears to water tolerance, losses to refine patience, failures
to carve serenity, pain to lapidate pleasure, obstacles to open the windows of intelligence.
Never give up ... Never give up on the people you love. Never give up from being happy because life is an
incredible show. And you are a special human being!

Enrichment Activity

Answer the following questions briefly and concise. Write it below the space provided. You can also use another empty
sheets if needed. But, make it sure that you’ll attach it together with this module.

Slogan or Personal Declaration on Being Happy

1. Read the essay on “Being Happy”.

2. Choose a phrase, sentence, or paragraph that strikes you.
3. Make a slogan or personal declaration on how you can be committed to your self-development.
4. Explain your thoughts and feelings about it. Include specific ways in which you will develop yourself further.
Prepared by: Checked by:

REYBOY P. TAGSIP KATHERINE G. ENCABO

Subject Teacher SHS Coordinator

Noted by:

MIRA ROCHENIE C. PIQUERO

Academic Coordinator

Approved by:

MA. NANETTE D. BAYONAS

School OIC-Principal