LOW SELF-ESTEEM

LOW SELF-ESTEEM - What is Low self-esteem Low self-esteem is characterized by a lack of

confidence and feeling badly about oneself. People with low self-esteem often feel
unlovable and awkward, or incompetent. According to researchers Morris Rosenberg people
with low self-esteem tend to be hypersensitive. They have a fragile sense of self that can
easily be wounded by others.

people with low self-esteem are hypervigilant and hyperalert to signs of rejection,
inadequacy and rebuff, Often individuals lacking self-esteem see rejection and disapproval
even when there isn’t any. The danger always lurks that they will make a mistake, use poor
judgement, do something embarrassing, expose themselves to ridicule, behave immorally or
contemptibly. Life, in all its variety, poses on ongoing threat to the self-esteem.
While everyone’s self-esteem is vulnerable to other people, who may openly criticize them,
ridicule them, or point out their flaws, I would argue that an even greater threat to each
person’s self-esteem lurks within.

As observers of our own behavior, thoughts, and feelings, we not only register these
phenomena in consciousness but also pass judgement on them. Thus, we may be our most
severe critic, berating ourselves mercilessly when we find ourselves making an error in
judgement, forgetting what we should remember, expressing ourselves awkwardly,
breaking our most sacred promises to ourselves, losing our self-control, acting childishly in
short, behaving in ways that we regret and may deplore.

“In a nutshell, to have low self-esteem is to live a life of misery.”

overcome a low self-esteem?

Overcoming Low Self-Esteem
The good news is that it is entirely possible to overcome low self-esteem There are two key
components to combatting this negative self-image. The first is to stop listening to your
critical inner voice. The second is to start practicing self-compassion.
Stop Listening to Your Inner Critic

The critical inner voice is that internal observer that hurtfully judges our thoughts and
actions. This nasty inner critic continually nags us with a barrage of negative thoughts about
ourselves and the people around us. It decimates our self-esteem on a consistent basis with
thoughts like..

“You’re fucking stupid.”

“You’re fat."
“Nobody likes you.”
“You’re worthless.”
“You should be quiet. Every time you talk you just make a fool of yourself.”
“Why can’t you be like other people?”
Then Start Practicing Self-Compassion
In many ways, the cure for self-criticism is self-compassion. Self-compassion is the radical practice of
treating yourself like a friend, It is a wonderful way to build more confidence in yourself. Research
has shown that self-compassion is even better for your mental health than self-esteem.