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Lilith in the Houses

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Lilith in the Houses

Houses represent parts of life, where the action of life takes place. All
situations and relationships can be led in one of the 12 houses. The
house of a person’s true Black Moon Lilith is the arena of that
person’s life in which she shows up. The energy of the wild feminine
and what cannot be controlled will be available to the chart holder in
areas of life tting with his or her true BML placement. These are also
the parts of life in which the person will show up as a Lilith gure,
bringing something of the status quo-busting wild energy with him or
her. When we have experienced suppression and domination as
Lilith gures, our house describes where, how, and why. When we
can turn around our relationship with the wild within, our true BML
house represents the stage on which we can teach others by
example how to honor the feminine, the Earth, and the rest of life by
coming out of their heads and being exactly who they are.

Lilith in the 1st House

With Lilith in the 1st house, a person will be a(n often unwitting)
symbol of Lilith’s experiences and issues. Lilith will inform the body
and personality in very direct ways. Often, we gain awareness of
planets in the rst house by others’ reactions to us. In the case of
Lilith, this can be what seems a constant stream of rejection for just
being who we are, abuse as an attempt to control the native, some
form of beating into submission, and a sense of not tting in
anywhere with any group of people. Though this is a general theme
of Lilith, her placement in this house makes that theme much more
personal and part of an individual’s daily life than it would be in any
other house. People with Lilith here need to learn to stand up for the
self and believe in their rights to be autonomous, indepedent, and
self-interested. Others will begin to respect this if they accept
themselves as Lilith and love themselves for it.

Lilith in the 2nd House

With Lilith in the 2nd house, the natural inclination to gather skills,
develop consistency and stability to ensure survival, and live in ways
that re ect one’s positive feelings of self-worth are wrapped up in
Lilith’s issues, including rejection for one’s natural expression of what
is important and being nothing more than who one is. In general,
allowing betrayal from others to condition us to betray ourselves is a
maladaptation to life (i.e., “It’s clear they don’t accept me, so why
should I accept myself?”). Yet in the house of self-worth, the rejection
of one’s value system by, and the withholding of approval from
others of what one nds important can lead to terrible and
destructive patterns of self-abuse that can, in fact, threaten survival.
With Lilith in this house, it’s critical that a person learn to take back
the power from others regarding the judging of what he or she is
worth. This is done through self-acceptance and compassion for self
and other.

Lilith in the 3rd House

With Lilith in the 3rd house, our sense of curiosity about the world
and capacity for the sense of wonder at what we nd all around us,
or might nd, is tied up in Lilith’s issues. With this placement here, if
we’re hiding our Lilith, there can be a sense of jadedness that the
world does not have amazing things to o er us in varied splendor,
and perhaps that it only o ers the harsh judgment or abuse of
others. The curious, open, and wonder-infused 3rd house nature of a
person is what others have reacted against and used to punish the
person with Lilith here. These people need to allow others their
discomfort while the natives explore the world around them and ask
and learn what they need to ask and learn.
Lilith in the 4th House
With Lilith in the 4th house, the family and heritage we come from
centered on some or all of Lilith’s themes in one way or another. It
could be that a particular family member ends up representing Lilith
for the entire family, or that the family as a group experiences Lilith
in a direct way. Or it could be that many members live Lilith stories
from one side or the other – shunning or suppression or wildness
and punishment for it. Now, this might sound like many people’s
families, but there’s an edge with Lilith: the stakes of either forceful
authentic self-expression in the family or at home (or leaving it
behind to create a new life elsewhere to maintain wholeness), or
those of suppressing the expression of self and other, are high. In
other words, there is a great investment in such families either of
trying to be Lilith or trying to suppress her, or both, possibly resulting
in generations of what may seem on the outside of it to be a war
between the sexes or other sort of power struggle between one
faction and another (old and young, foreign and domestic, etc.).
People with this placement need to accept these realities and learn
to manage their own emotional landscapes with consciousness,
compassion, and intention.

Lilith in the 5th House

Those of us with Lilith in the 5th need to create and express in
authentic and unabashed ways. The connectedness that Lilith retains
(or seeks, if we’re unaware of or hiding her) is in unfettered
expression of her wild nature. Which she would say, of course, is
simply her nature. Everything that contributes to or might result in
creative expression can be avoided for fear of experiencing pain. A
person with Lilith in this house might have been shamed in youth
because of how he or she played. Before such a child’s behavior is
edited into conformity, his or her natural expression of creativity will
be colored by Lilith’s themes. The games of such children may
involve one or more of Lilith’s heavy themes, any of which will be
di cult for most parents to understand as natural expressions from
their children, let alone accept: betrayal, abandonment, rejection, or
sexual power games including rape. And they’ll play on either side of
these issues – receiving or giving, as victim or persecutor.

Lilith in the 6th House

With Lilith in the 6th house, a person’s natural sense of duty and how
he or she goes about getting things done is what is judged by others
as potentially dangerous. People who might be in a position to
mentor or train the person as an apprentice may sense something
unruly and threatening about him or her and not be willing to take
the person on as a student. It also indicates that this person’s natural
mentors are connected with Lilith; understand and express their
own version of Lilith’s energy. Finding such people will be di cult if
Lilith is hiding in the person, and if she is not, nding them will
involve rst crossing many potential teachers o the list who reject
the individual’s forthright expression of his or her reality.

Lilith in the 7th House

With Lilith in the 7th, we can look for Lilith in other people so that we
don’t have to express her (the 7th holds energies we’re not
necessarily sure how to relate to in ourselves and so we seek others
to embody them). Whatever is in the 7th house, we need to learn to
run the energy for ourselves. When we keep others around us to do
it for us, we make the statement that we’re not whole. With Lilith
here a person needs to take responsibility for being Lilith, and take
care not to keep a door open for others’ understandings of and
reactions to Lilith to come in.

Lilith in the 8th House

Lilith in the 8th house means that the instinctive, irrational, and
primal side of a person is most comfortable in arenas of life where
trust and intimacy are of paramount importance – this is her natural
home in the person’s psyche and, therefore, outer life. This includes
sexuality shared with other people, but also any relationships that
require absolute honesty and have something to do with power,
hence the traditional assignation to this house of “sex, death, and
other people’s money.”

Lilith in the 9th House

With Lilith in the 9th house, this relationship with living a life based in
having a guiding principle is what has been judged by others, and for
what a person has received censure and punishment. All of the
arenas of life described by the 9th house involve a sense of acting on
belief and hope, understanding that such action is a risk. This risk is
that the beliefs might be misguided or based in inappropriate
assumptions. So, then, those with this placement may avoid risking
living according to his or her beliefs to avoid negative reactions from
others for bringing, or being, Lilith.

Lilith in the 10th House

With Lilith in the 10th house, a person can become a symbol of
Lilith’s irrational instinct and primal wisdom to other people. His or
her public self carries the energy of Lilith, and others will want to
apply the prevailing labels for Lilith to this person, no matter how he
or she behaves. If, after enough of this sort of treatment, Lilith in the
person is hiding, developing a healthy and mature public role will be
suppressed by this person. This is the house of being out in the
world and of participating in the economy, leading the person with
this placement to experience di culty at work and just being out in
public, for having this label applied.

Lilith in the 11th House

With Lilith in the 11th house, our prerational, instinctive, and wild self
is most evident in the kind of future we envision, how we plan for it,
and those we ally with to assist us in creating it. This can lead us to
experiences of nding ourselves labeled as Lilith in every group we
join, but this is an unconscious manifestation of Lilith’s placement
here. We may have experienced being rejected from many groups
for expressing our views, and we may have been feared as
dangerous in uences by organized others we attempt to befriend or
with whom we attempt to become involved.

Lilith in the 12th House

With Lilith in the 12th house, a person will experience being Lilith in
all contexts related to the way he or she connects with other and
greater realms. To the degree that someone with this placement has
internalized others’ fears about the wild as a negative statement of
his or her worth and lovability, 12th house activities will be limited,
avoided or denied. With Lilith here, entering into the meditative,
creative or spiritual sides of this house means in some way being
Lilith. Most of us choose not to experience the collective’s negativity
about Lilith and will therefore avoid being her at almost all costs. Yet
she is real, a part of each of us, there are times when she is
activated.

“Notes on Lilith” article, presenting the basics of my approach to

Lilith.

Lilith in the Signs

Natal Lilith Aspects

Transits to Lilith

Lilith in Relationship
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