Alano P.

Limbag 29 April 2020

Theo104—BSIT-4B Prof. Carlo Tinio, S.T.B., M.A. PaM., M.A.L.

Final Term Paper

“A Husband and a Father Responsibilities”

From the very beginning, marriage between man and woman was part of God’s plan for
humanity. Genesis 2:18-24: Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone, I will
make him a helper fit for him”. Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the
field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them.
And whatever the man called every living creature that was its name. The man gave names to all
livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam, there was not
found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man. Then the man
said, “This, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman because she
was taken out of man.” Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his
wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 1:28: And God blessed them, and God said unto them,
be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of
the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. The
unity of man and woman as faithful servants of the Lord God will be blessed with children. Psalm
127:3, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.”
I chose this topic as a man who waits for my blessings to have my own family. A guideline
based on my observation and research about how to be a great husband and a father. Guided by the
teaching of the Holy Scriptures and the Church.
God said “I will make him a helper fit for him”, this means that woman created for man to
share the responsibility and pro-creation as stated in Genesis 1:28. Ephesians 5:28-29, “In the same
way husband should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no
one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the Church.” This
means that women are the heart of the Church, women’s role is essential in strengthening the
kingdom of God. The man and woman distinctively contribute but evenly to oneness and unity
through the Sacraments of Marriage. The unbreakable bond involves their entire life as they fight
together through better and for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health. The best
marriages are those in which couples actively cultivate roles, where they not only identify their
imperfections but also find ways to fix them.
To be a better husband, you must do your share in your wife’s personal feelings. Their role in
managing the household is stressful and unpaid. Ask your wife about it and comes up with a plan.
Husband and wife are meant to share and helps for one another’s burden. Make your wife’s
emotions being valued and show compliments more often. Maintain positive emotions. In marriage,
arguments come in normal, avoid blaming instead think for the best solution. Be aware of what
emotions you bring home from work as it can affect your wife’s mood and behavior. Exert effort for
excitement and surprises as a reward for managing the household, show your affection every day,
and prove that you can sacrifice for her.
Colossians 3:19: “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” Learn to
control your anger and master the art of keeping yourself calm. Treat your wife as an equal, allow
her to speak her mind, and listen to her thoughts. Being at a life-long commitment, your wife also
had a dream for herself and her family, support her to achieve it. 1 Peter 3:7: “In the same way, you
husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together.
She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as
you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” Respect your wife, be honest and open about
everything. Before making decisions, you must consult her first, especially when it affects your
family.
Becoming a better husband will come naturally when you truly love and respects your wife.
Take care of the greatest fragile gift from God. Husband and wife should overlook their mistakes, not
confines by rules, love each other, love each other more, and love each other endlessly.
Children are blessings and gifts from God. The Bible gives advice about parenting, there were
times parents get confuse if they were doing it right. Hebrew 12:11, “No discipline seems pleasant at
the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those
who have been trained by it.” Aside from being a good provider of the family, the father should
educate their children, knowledge, and discipline comes first at home. Father plays an important role
in cultivating child behavior to righteousness. Teach your children to fear the Lord God, and fill their
hearts with love. Reminds your children that there will be an upshot in every action they make.
Children need guidance and discipline, it is hard on your part as a father, it is not a punishment but
this is to set reasonable limits of their actions. Show it calmly and fairly and come up with meaningful
rewards for desirable behavior. Be a good example to your children, demonstrate honesty, humility,
and a sense of responsibility.
A loving father spends time with children, show to them that you can sacrifice for them. You
must know how to balance your time in work and family. When they were young, train your children
to be open to speak their thoughts and help them feel respected and understood, so that there will
be no gap and awkwardness being developed as they get older. The best way to let your children
know that you love them is to show affection. Hug them more often so that they feel wanted and
loved.
Teach your children the value of service to others by being active at school, church, and
volunteering in your neighborhood. Encourage them to do their best and never give up. Help your
children to learn the basic lessons of life, as they grow old, they will remember the value of your
advice, and they will be able to discern right from wrong. They will grow responsible, humble, loving,
and respectful.
Deuteronomy 6:6-9, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.
Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the
road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on
your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.” Parenting is a
shared responsibility, parents should educate their children in the Bible through the Church. The
passage explains that God is saying that no matter what we do and say, no matter what comes to
our life, we should consider God in our life. The way you speak and act towards your children, they
see an example of the way of God. Parents must practice the way of God to the best of their ability in
every aspect of life. As the domestic church, children first receive the faith, verbally taught, and
witnesses the actions of God’s way at home.
The permanent and exclusive commitment of marriage exists only between man and woman.
Giving themselves as equal completely to one another, cooperate with God by bringing children to
life as part of His plan and taking care of them. The aforementioned passages from the Bible prove
that God instructed His people that marriage is exclusively for man and woman. People nowadays
even Christians pushing through same-sex unions. To connect it to my topic, how can you fulfill God’s
plan of procreation? The Church refuses to legalize this union to preserve the definition of marriage
as intended only for one man and one woman. Students should evaluate my topic and use it as a
guide before you jump into marriage to be aware of what responsibilities lie upon your shoulder.
Marriage is not like a chewing gum that you will spit it out when it is tasteless. Plan first before you
settle into a life-long commitment. Make a bigger accomplishment early in life and the basic
guidelines provided in my topic to preserve a harmonious family, how to take care of your wife, and
to be a great father to your children.