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COVID-19 Pandemic
As the global world is struggling to meet up the immediate needs of the COVID-19
pandemic, this crisis is challenging the state authorities to consider the unavoidable trade-off
between saving lives and controlling economic loss or preserving jobs and continue
livelihoods. Governments around the world are considering options for restarting their
economy and putting back their citizens to work while experts are considering what recovery
might look like after the virus is contained and how countries can use this recovery
opportunity to achieve longer term resilience goals. Countries like South Korea, Japan,
Singapore and even China have almost contained the pandemic and already back to business.
Meanwhile, in Nepal with the assumptions that this pandemic will take longer time to be
contained and also to avoid economic losses and showcase its citizens the presence of the
state bureaucracy, government has changed the lockdown modality by giving mobility to
This lockdown has changed our lives in many ways. With this lockdown, many realities in
between a husband and wife or the couples have surfaced that has raised many questions.
This corona virus lockdown can actually test a relationship among the couples. It brought to
light many facets of life as well as made us face some ugly realities, which we had never
imagined to be possible. From discovering our inner strength to accepting our weakness as a
turned into an ordeal for many couples. “There are no external factors at play. There are no
escapes,” she said. “I’ve heard couples say they can’t stand each other any longer during the
In a recent article published on 17 April 2020 in the Telegraph, a housewife stated that this
lockdown has actually exposed her husband of not having interest in her and their children.
Another article published in Times of India, a woman shared her story of how she found out
her husband’s extra marital relationship during the lockdown. Coming to Nepal, a civil
servant shared in a Nepali language newspaper on how his wife’s behaviour to him has
changed in the fear of the virus as he rejoins his civil duty. These stories have a different
concern as much as their differing cultural context. Whatever the concern or the context is,
without showing agreement or disagreement to any; all these three stories from Nepal, India
and United Kingdom highlights that this pandemic has exposed the crisis in between the
With the Nepalese local government implying strict lockdown measures in place to control
the spread of coronavirus, you may be spending more time with your partner than ever
before. While the couple spends a considerable amount of time with each other at home, it is
most likely that they are engaged with their own work and less about the households and
family.
Already there have been reports of a spike in divorce applications in the Chinese city of Xi’an
after couples were forced to quarantine together in close quarters, and divorce lawyers in the
US and UK are forecasting a similar phenomenon later this year. Domestic abuse experts
while Women’s Aid in Ireland has reported that its helpline is receiving calls from women
who have had to sneak out to their cars to call and get support during this crisis.
Unsurprisingly, some influencers and even your own close friends are covering your social
media posting photographs of their beautiful homes and garden, wearing fancy dresses,
preparing yummy dishes, doing workouts and yoga and showcasing their hidden talents as if
to make social isolation look like a luxurious spa retreat and those never-to-be perfect couples
trying hard to become one just to become viral online. If you’re both working from home,
and with nowhere to go out to in the evenings, there’s a chance you might start to get on each
other’s nerves. Perhaps it’s happening already. The sink is full of utensils to clean, the
bathroom is untidy and the empty tea cups are in your front room and many things are on the
wrong places. This is normal; particularly given the increased stress and uncertainty, we’re
all feeling right now. Some might even question themselves that isn’t this the time you
dreamed of where you do not need to wake up early and rush to work. You begin to wonder if
there’s something wrong with your relationship, if you can’t survive simply being in your
home together. The answer is big NO. This is not the time of Honeymoon to feel great
throughout the day and night. It is completely okay to feel anxious, stressed and angry. Many
people need privacy and seclusion to function well. Some people’s mental health and
happiness is depended on their routine, hobbies and the social lives which has been upside
down due to this lockdown caused by the COVID-19 pandemic. However, you are not a
failure or a bad partner if you could not enjoy in a confined walls in home with one person,
As a way out, you can just accept this would be challenging and ignore the mess as it’s the
period of social distancing and no one is going to come for a visit as most Nepalese bother
cleaning their homes just to show others. This gets exposed when you are on the video call
with your colleagues and your partner bumped you from behind yelling at you.
But since we could be in this dilemma for a while yet, it’s worth taking steps to ensure we get
through this period with our relationships intact. We might even be able to come out stronger.
How we talk to one another is absolutely critical. What do I feel, what do I need? I think
we’re in an economic crisis and socio-emotional crisis. I think there is or isn’t anything we
can do about it. Don’t attack the other or look for how the other is not behaving OK.
Many Nepalese work in corporate or development sectors and they are aware of planning and
review meetings. Also, myself being a sociology student, I would recommend that couples
have a kind of such management planning and review meeting once a day or two to review.
Thinking about what has worked and what not and planning for the following day is
important for survival during this pandemic. It’s a bit like the army. Though all Nepalese do
not have a military duty and never might need to go for it, the couples should now treat like a
war situation where the teams review each day, learn lessons, and plan for the next day.
Another idea could be talking to one another about how they are feeling. The important thing
here is to be focused and not to attack or criticize your partner. Put any anger,
example, feels that her husband is not pulling his weight, now is not the time to dive into it.
This may help to understand one another’s coping mechanism and if not understood well
could lead to conflict. For example, being anxious, my father ends up watching every
COVID-19 related videos in YouTube, but for my mother, having seen him watching
continuously, it became an anxiety-inducing factor for her. Thus, if not addressed well this
situation could make people feel distant and unsupported to one another.
References:
Chakraborty, D. (2020). Why Singles are Doing Better Than Couple in the Lockdown. The
https://www.huffingtonpost.in/entry/singles-couples-
lockdown_in_5eb7a851c5b64711c0c9281b
The telegraph. (2020) Lockdown has revealed my husband's lack of interest in our children.
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/relationships/lockdown-has-revealed-husbands-lack-
interest-children/
Time of India. How I found out about my husband’s affair during the lockdown.
https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/love-sex/how-i-found-out-about-
my-husbands-extramarital-affair-during-the-lockdown/photostory/75137916.cms