CASTOR Z.

CONCEPCION MEMORIAL NATIONAL HIGH SCHOOL

“Touching Lives, Nurturing Minds, Pursuing Excellence”
Balaoan, La Union

Chapter IV
RESULTS AND DISCUSSIONS
This chapter presents the analysis and interpretation of the Lived

Experiences of Househusbands While their Partners are Working Abroad.

Themes of the Husbands Assuming the Roles of Their Wives: Lived

Experiences of Husbands While their Partners are Working Abroad.

Themes:
1. Fulfilling her roles

2. The challenge of being far from her

3. The changes in my life

4. Raising my children

The following are the themes drawn from the data collected in the analysis

of the Lived Experiences of Househusbands While their Partners are Working

Abroad.

Fulfilling her roles

Every man needs women to care for him. However, there are many

reasons why a man lives without his wife. Because of these reasons, a wife

needs to work abroad and her responsibilities as a wife hand over to her
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husband. A man needs to do all his responsibilities to fulfill the needs of their

children.

Mr. Darwin Ragmac stated that,

Siak aminen nga responsibillidad ngem ipalabak nu dadduma iti

murengko ayanti anakko. Narigat dagitoy nga responsibilidad ta diak met

mabingay-bingay iti orasko ta nu dadduma apanak idiay pallutan. Nu dadduma

ket siak met iti agaw-awir. Adda latta met iti orasko nga makibarkada ngem

gappo ta malemen, isuda met iti umay ditoy. Awan iti makunak nga nagbaliwan

iti kasasaad ko ta isu met latta iti ar-aramidek ngem isuna lang ta nanayunan

dagiti responsible’k a kas ama. Kas kunak tattay, narigat nga ibalanse iti oras

ko ta umay dak met sunduen iti alas otso iti bigat nga apan agtrabaho. Haanko

pay maasikaso iti annakkon nu dadduma. Ngem haan ko met nga baybay-an

isuda. Adda met da Mamang ken Papangko nu dadduma nga mang-aywan

kadagiti annako ken dagijay kakabsat ko met nu awanak. Nu awan iti

pinansyal ket apanak bumulod ayanti kakabsatko nu dadduma ta nu agpaw-it

met diay baketko ket han met nga adda nga sigud.

(I’m doing all the responsibilities but sometimes, my daughter is the one

who wash our clothes. These responsibilities are not easy to do. I can’t manage

my time because I also have my work. But sometimes, I’m the one who care my

children. I also have my time to bond with my friends but because it is late in
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“Touching Lives, Nurturing Minds, Pursuing Excellence”
Balaoan, La Union

the afternoon, I can’t go outside so they are the one who will come here in the

house. There is nothing change but my responsibilities become more difficult

because my wife’s responsibilities hand over to me.)

The challenge of being far from her.

By the time changes, you didn’t realize how the flow of your life changed.

When your partner left to work in abroad to have a better life. She left a big

responsibility from you, to care the treasure that the two of you have been

growing. That’s why you must endure it, be patient, don’t regret and fulfill her

wishes until she came back.

Mr. Crispino Ragmac stated that,

Nu dadduma, siak iti mangpadpadigos iti anakko ken agpart time ak iti

konstraksyon. Narigat ta nu dadduma, haan ko mabalanse iti oras ko para iti

anakko ken para iti trabahok ta narigat iti nasapa nga agasawa. Isu nga

sakripisyo laeng. Manipud idi adda asawakon, haanak nga nagbabbabae’n.

Ipaspasyarko iti putotko tapno haan na nga biruken iti ina na.

Tultulungan dak met iti nagannak kanyak ta nu awanak paylang nga aggappo

idiay trabahok , isuda iti mang-as-asikaso iti putotko. Mangpakpakan,

mangdigdigos. Kayang kayak met nga paggiddanen iti trabahok ken iti panag-

aywanko iti putotko basta laketdi adda iti orasko.

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“Touching Lives, Nurturing Minds, Pursuing Excellence”
Balaoan, La Union

(Sometimes, I’m the one who take a bath of my child and I also have a

part time job in construction. It’s really hard to do these responsibilities

because it is hard to have an early marriage. That is why I sacrifice. Since I

already married, I’m not going out with other girls.

Sometimes, I am bonding with my child so that he will not look for his

mother. If I am in my work, my families are the one who care my child. They

feed him and take a bath for him. I can do all my responsibilities in my work

and also to my child as long as I have a time.)

The Changes in my life

As a husband, you need to accept if there are changes in your life since

your wife works abroad. There are a lot of changes you will encounter by being

alone without someone. It will be more responsibilities that you will carry when

your partner left to work abroad. Even if the changes come, there are things

that you can do and don’t but changes makes you more responsible man that

they couldn’t imagine.

Mr. John Lester Regpala stated that,

Nangrugi idi nagtrabaho idiay abrod ni baketko, siak iti mangay-aywan iti

annakko. Haanak nga agin-inoomen. Narigat nu awan ni baketko ta dagiti

responsibilidad ko ket nanayunan. Adda met iti oras ko makibarkada ngem

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“Touching Lives, Nurturing Minds, Pursuing Excellence”
Balaoan, La Union

haan nga kasla idin ta adda met iti annakkon. Haan ak pay nga agbalballugen.

Nu apan agiskwela iti annakko, ilugan ko isuda iti motor ko. Nu dadduma, siak

iti mangpakpakan kaniada. Haanko met nga baybay-an iti panagdakkel da.

Tultulungan nak da Mama ken Papangko. Ilablabaan da kami ken ilutlutwan.

Dagidiay met kakabsat ko iti tumulong nu awanak. Lalo nu iti pinansyal nga

tulong, pabuludan dak. Ta nu agpaw-it ni baketko, haan met nga sigud nga

maawatko.

(Since my wife works abroad, I’m the one who care for my child. I also

not drink alcohol. It is hard if your wife is not around because her

responsibilities will pass to you. I have my time to bond with my friends but it

is not like the way I bond with them before because I already have children. If

my children will go to school, I will ride them to my motorcycle. I’m also the one

who feed them. I teach them to be a good person. My mother and father help

me to care my children. They wash our clothes and they cook for us. My

siblings are also there to help them if I have my work especially in financial

problem, they lending me. When my wife is sending money, it’s not that I

received it immediately.)
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“Touching Lives, Nurturing Minds, Pursuing Excellence”
Balaoan, La Union

Raising my children

Raising children is not easy. You need to sacrifice your wants,

happiness, needs and do anything for your children so that they will grow as a

good son and daughter and as a human.

Mr. Galang stated that,

Ditoy lattan iti ayankon, agtrabaho iti arubayan ken taltalon. Apanak

agmula mais. Narigat met ta sipud-sipud manipud napan idiay abrod ni baket

ko, kastoy lattan kasasaad kon. Apanak agtrabaho idiay taltalon. Suweldok

taltalon ket duagasot laeng iti agmalem. Sakripisyok latta met ta kasta met iti

panagbiyag ko. Nu niya ti mabirukak isu met latta ti maited ko. Adda madi,

adda mayat. Awan met iti naipaay ni baket ko nga madi. Ikkannak met bassit,

ikkannak met duagasot alawans ko laeng. Ti maysaritak lattan ket nasayaat

met iti naipaay ko iti annak ko ta awan met pagkunaan da kanyak nga ama da.

Ti bayabay ko dagita annak ko sipud-sipud ket napintas met dagita annak ko.

Ta syak ket amin nga mabirukak ket ited ko amin kanyada. Awan sisiyak

lattan. Narigat latta met iti sarilik nga pagsapulan. Dagita annak ko ket

tultulungan met ni baket ko ngem siyak met iti mangtultulong iti alawans mi

binigat, alawans dagita annak ko. Narigat nga balansyen iti time ko ta awan

met pagkunaan iti nagannak kanyak ken ti asawak. Nu kasapulan iti annak ko

ikkan nak met bassi-bassit alawans da laeng. Siyak ket hanak dumawdawat
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“Touching Lives, Nurturing Minds, Pursuing Excellence”
Balaoan, La Union

kenni baket ko ta sipud-sipud manipud nagabrod ni baket ko awan dagita

dadduma siguro nga nagabrod asawa da dumawat siyak ket haan.

(I only stay here, working at the backyard, working at the farm. I’m

planting corn. It is hard since my wife went abroad, my responsibilities

becomes harder. My salary in working at the field is 200 pesos a day. That is

life, sometimes you need to sacrifice. My wife also gives me allowance, but it is

not enough to sustain our needs. All I can say is that I did all I can do for my

children so that there is no reason for them to doubt me as their father.

Because the way I care them is great. I give all salary to them. It is hard for my

own need. My wife and I are helping each other to sustain the daily allowance

of our children. It is hard for me to manage my time. I am not requesting

money to my wife. If she sends money, it is only for our children. Not for me.

Unlike other husbands whose wives are working abroad.)