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Am I a reader or a listener?
Far too few people even know that there are readers and listeners and that
people are rarely both.
Eisenhower apparently did not know that be was a reader, not a listener.
When be was Supreme Commander in Europe, his aides made sure that
every question from the press was presented in writing at least half an
hour before a conference was to begin. And then Eisenhower was in
total command.
Franklin D. Roosevelt and Harry Truman knew themselves to be listeners
and both enjoyed free-for-all press conferences. Eisenhower may have
felt that he bad to do what his two predecessors had done. As a result,
be never even heard the questions journalists asked.
Lyndon Johnson destroyed his presidency, in large measure, by not
knowing that he was a listener
How do I learn? The second thing to know about bow one performs is
to know how one learns.
Winston Churchill is but one example do poorly in school. They tend to
remember their schooling as pure torture. The explanation is that
writers do not, as a rule, learn by listening and reading. They learn by
writing. Because schools do not allow them to team this way, they get
poor grades.
Learning through talking is by no means an unusual method. Successful
trial lawyers learn the same way, as do many medical diagnosticians.
Acting on this knowledge is the key to performance; or rather, not acting
on this knowledge condemns one to nonperformance.
Some people work best as subordinates. Some people work best as team
members. Others work best alone. Some are exceptionally talented as
coaches and mentors; others are simply incompetent as mentors.
Another crucial question is. Do I pro- duce results as a decision maker or
as an adviser?
A great many people perform best as advisers but cannot take the
burden and pressure of making the decision. A good many other people,
by contrast, need an adviser to force them- selves to think; then they
can make decisions and act on them with speed, self- confidence, and
courage.
The number two person in an organization often fails when promoted to
the number one position. The top spot requires a decision maker. Strong
decision makers often put somebody they trust into the number two
spot as their adviser- and in that position the person is out- standing. But
in the number one spot, the same person fails. He or she knows what
the decision should be but cannot accept the responsibility of actually
making it.
The conclusion bears repeating: Do not try to change yourself-you are
un- likely to succeed. But work hard to improve the way you perform.
And try not to take on work you cannot perform or will only perform
poorly.
Where Do I Belong?
The most effective leaders are alike in one crucial way: They all have a high
degree of what has come to be known as emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is the sine qua non of leadership.
We have examined the relationship be- tween emotional intelligence and
effective performance, especially in leaders. And we have observed bow
emotional intelligence shows itself on the job.
Components of emotional intelligence-self- awareness, self-regulation,
motivation, empathy, and social skill.
Self-Awareness
Self-awareness is the first component of emotional intelligence. Self awareness
means having a deep under- standing of one's emotions, strengths, weaknesses,
needs, and drives. People with strong self-awareness are neither overly critical
nor unrealistically hopeful. Rather, they are honest - with themselves and with
others.
Self-awareness extends to a person's understanding of his or her values and
goals.
People with high self- awareness are able to speak accurately and openly-
although not necessarily effusively or confessionally-about their emotions and
the impact they have on their work
One of the hallmarks of self- awareness is a self-deprecating sense of humor.
Self-awareness can also be identified during performance reviews. Self- aware
people know-and are comfortable talking about-their limitations and strengths,
and they often demonstrate a thirst for constructive criticism.
Self-aware people canalso be recognized by their self-confidence. They havea
firm grasp of their capabilities and are less likely to set themselves up to fail
by.
Many executives mistake candor about feelings for "wimpiness" and fail to
give due respect to employees who openly acknowledge their shortcomings.
Such people are too readily dismissed as "not tough enough" to lead others.
Self-Regulation
Self- regulation, which is like an ongoing inner conversation, is the component of
emotional intelligence that frees us from being prisoners of our feelings.
People who are in control of their feelings and impulses-that is, people who are
reasonable - are able to create an environment of trust and fairness. In such an
environment, politics and in fighting are sharply reduced and productivity is high.
People who have mastered their emotions are able to roll with the changes. When a
new program is announced, they don't panic; instead, they are able to suspend
judgment, seek out information, and listen to the executives as they explain the new
program. As the initiative moves forward, these people are able to move with it.
To enhance emotional intelligence, organizations must refocus their training to include the limbic
system. They must help people break old behavioral habits and establish new ones. That not
only takes much more time than conventional training pro- grams, it also requires an
individualized approach.
Motivation
If there is one trait that virtually all effective leaders have, it is motivation. They are
driven to achieve beyond expectations-their own and everyone else's. The key word
here is achieve.
Empathy
Of all the dimensions of emotional intelligence, empathy is the most easily
recognized. Empathy means thoughtfully considering employees' feelings-along with
other factors-in the process of making intelligent decisions.
Finally, empathy plays a key role in the retention of talent, particularly in today's
information economy. Leaders Have always needed empathy to develop and keep
good people, but today the stakes are higher.
Social Skill
The first three components of emotional intelligence are self-management skills. The
last two, empathy and social skill, concern a person's ability to manage relationships
with others.
Social skill, rather, is friendliness with a purpose: moving people in the direction you
desire, whether that's agreement on a new marketing strategy or enthusiasm about a
new product.
Called the Reflected Best Self (RBS) exercise, our method allows managers to develop a
sense of their "personal best" in order to increase their future potential. The RBS exercise is
but one example of new approaches springing from an area of research called positive
organizational scholarship (POS).
Just as psychologists know that people respond better to praise than to criticism,
organizational behavior scholars are finding that when companies focus on positive attributes
such as resilience and trust, they can reap impressive bottom-line returns. (For more on this
research, see the sidebar "The Positive Organization.")
RBS exercise
Like many who participate in the RBS exercise, Robert expected that, given the diversity of
respondents, the comments he received would be inconsistent or even competing. Instead, he
was struck by their uniformity. The comments from his wife and family members were
similar to those from his army buddies and work colleagues.
The process of writing out a two- to four-paragraph narrative cements the image of your best
self in your consciousness. The narrative form also helps you draw connections be- tween the
themes in your life that may previously have seemed disjointed or unrelated. Composing the
portrait takes time and demands careful consideration, but at the end of this process, you
should come away with a rejuvenated image of who you are.
Like most RBS participants, Robert found that the strengths the exercise identified could be
put into play in his current position. This involved making small changes in the way he
worked, in the composition of his team, and in the way he spent his time. (Most jobs have
degrees of freedom in all three of these areas; the trick is operating within the fixed
constraints of your job to redesign work at the margins, allowing you to better play to your
strengths.)
The word "positive" refers to the discipline's affirmative bias, "organizational “focuses on the
processes and conditions that occur in group contexts, and "scholarship" reflects the rigor,
theory, scientific procedures, and precise definition in which the approach is grounded.
The premise of POS research is that by understanding the drivers of positive behavior in the
workplace, organizations can rise to new levels of achievement.
POS does not adopt one particular theory or framework but draws from the full spectrum of
organizational theories to explain and predict high performance. To that end, a core part of
the POS missionis to create cases, tools, and assessments that can help organizations improve
their practices.
The Reflected Best Self exercise is just one example of the kinds of practice tools available
from POS.
Beyond Good Enough:
The RBS exercise helps you remember your strengths-and construct a plan to build on them.
Knowing your strengths also offers you a better understanding of how to deal with your
weaknesses and helps you gain the confidence you need to address them. It also allows you
to be clearer in addressing your areas of weakness as a manager.
In the end, the strength-based orientation of the RBS exercise helps you get past the "good
enough" bar. Once you discover who you are at the top of your game, you can use your
strengths to better shape the positions you choose to play-both now and in the next phase of
your career.