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Mia Hubbard
COM 2206
Reflection Essay
There are so many lessons that I have learned from taking this interpersonal
communication class. I have not only learned about the way that I communicate with
others, but I have learned to understand how other people are the way that they are as
well. It helps me understand people in a more whole sense. I can be a better listener; I
can work differently with others based on their personality. Just by understanding
where someone is coming from can make a world of difference in the way that we
communicate. Three lessons that stuck out to me that I can apply to my personal, as
understanding how to control them and to use them for good can help in my
communications with others. Second, learning how to react in social and professional
relationships can also help me tremendously. Lastly, a big one that I struggle with at
times would be handling conflict in a positive manner rather than a negative one.
enhances or inhibits one’s goals, (Floyd, 2011, p 246). This is often misunderstood as a
mood which is defined as a feeling often prolonged that has no identifiable cause,
(Floyd 2011, p 246). That is often something I get quite confused from time to time. I
suffer from depression which is defined as a physical illness involving excessive fatigue,
insomnia, changes in weight, feelings of worthlessness, and/or thought of suicide or
death, (Floyd, 2011, p 251). When I am in a depressive state I often say that I am in a
mood, I am sad, etc. Learning the difference between these terms has better helped me
understand myself better so that I can better relate to others in a more positive manner.
The steps to identifying your emotions would be: Listen to your body, paying attention to
your thoughts, and take stock of the situation, (Floyd, 2011 pgs. 269-270). This really
has helped me for when I am feeling any emotion to take a step back and identify what I
As I am entering the customer relationship work field a big lesson for me was the
focus of chapter 9 and the relationships within personal life as well as professional
roles. We all have a need to belong, a hypothesis that says each of us is born with a
fundamental drive to seek, form, maintain, and protect strong social relationships,
(Floyd, 2011, p 279). We all have that desire to “fit in”, and we want to feel important,
and loved within our relationships. Identifying how we get along with certain people is a
big step in approaching them in the future. There are many ways that we are attracted
to people that we interact with. There are four main attractions which could be
interpersonal, physical, social, or task, (Floyd, 2011, p 283). We are also attracted by a
person’s appearance, proximity (how closely you live or work to someone), similarity,
complementarity (because they offer a quality that we lack). There are many ways that
consumers that come in the door. Everyone has a different personality and I form a
bond with each customer based on different attractions. I met one customer who was
very much into the same things that I am into, we both enjoyed the same hobbies, we
both had no kids, even though there was a large age gap, there was still similarities that
attracted us and formed a bond between us. With another customer, we had people in
common that we knew in our lives and we were able to hold conversations. Realizing
that there are different attractions helps me in forming bonds with my customers. This
clients, so much so that a lot of them request to see me all the time.
Lastly, conflict, probably the biggest struggle many people face. Interpersonal
perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from one another,
(Floyd, 2011, pg. 350). Everyone experiences conflict in one way or another, whether it
is beneficial or not, everyone experiences it. I know in the healthcare field conflict
between co-workers can be beneficial, each person is taking a side on the care that
they believe in the best interest of the client can lead to collaboration and compromise
to provide the best options even if the two individuals don’t see eye to eye. I have
learned a lot about how to express myself when it comes to conflict. Arguing,
screaming, getting angry is not the way to go. Discussing, collaboration, talking things
through is a better approach. Another way is to identify the start of the conflict, if we
is natural, has many dimensions, can be direct or indirect, it can be harmful, and it can
also be beneficial as I mentioned above, (Floyd, 2011, p 354-357). Looking at the most
common sources of conflict also had me thinking a lot as well. Number one is personal
criticisms, nobody likes to be criticized on a daily basis or even at all. It had me thinking
about small offhanded comments that I would make to people that I took as a joke but
they may not. Making a joke about the way someone does something, making them
feel less than adequate, making a joke about their hair, or their clothes has an impact
on our self-esteem and leads to inevitable conflict between the two people. The second
most common source of conflict of course, you guessed it, finances. My girlfriend and I
have had so many differences on finances. She likes to save every penny; I like to
spend it all. So we have learned to come together and work out a plan where any extra
money we each have a certain amount of spending each week and we save the rest so
that it works out that both of our needs are met. I like to buy nice things for the house,
or do projects here and there which takes money and she likes to save so we both get
something out of it, I just have to limit my projects each week or month down a bit so
that I can compromise and put money away for a rainy day as well. Number three I can
one I have a struggle with my niece. She lives with us and can be a little aggravating
sometimes. After reading this chapter though I tried to look at other ways to handle the
conflict. I decided to make up a chore chart and offer incentives if she completed the
chores that I asked her to do. While I believe that you should not have to be bribed, it
was one of those pick your battles situations where I chose to resolve things in a
different way and so far it has worked out to the positive. These sources of conflict are
Thinking back on each of these lessons that I have learned throughout this
course I think of myself and others around me a lot differently. I am a very shy person
in general and this class has helped me see common ground that I could have with
fellow students, co-workers and clients that I work with. It has helped me open up more
and handle my relationships much differently by being able to open up more and speak
understanding more about the way people are and why they are that way. While I did
not experience that light bulb moment throughout this course I was able to understand
more about how to handle myself in conflict, and to more closely pay attention to my
emotions so that I could better relate to people in my life. I believe moving forward from
be more wholesome and I can much better express myself. I thoroughly enjoyed the
class and discussing these subjects with my peers and can’t wait to put the lessons
from this class into action in the future for my future relationships.
References:
p. 246
p. 246
p. 251
p. 269-270
p. 279
p. 283
p. 350
p. 354-357
p. 357-358