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Nonviolent Communication (NVC) helps you to create a high quality of connection out of which people spontaneously
enjoy contributing to one another’s well-being.
NVC uses consciousness, language, and communication skills to create a framework from which you can:
NVC is often associated with self-help communication skills, but it goes much beyond. Rather than a format, NVC is a
consciousness based on the intention to create positive connection — recognizing that mutually enriching outcomes
will emerge from the quality of the relationships. Rather than be motivated by fear, guilt, or any coercion, people give
freely and happily when they feel good about each other and trust that their needs matter to the other person. NVC
can help you create these kinds of relationships, personally and professionally.
NVC recognizes that how we interact with each other is driven by core human motivators also known as universal
human needs. By using NVC in our daily lives, we can identify and transform deeply ingrained "violent"
communication methods that get in the way of having satisfying relationships (Key Facts About NVC).
What violent communication is, in everyday desired relationship terms, is a way of thinking and speaking that gets in
the way of the quality of connection for which we are looking. It can also lead to anger, shame, guilt, depression and,
in extreme cases, emotional or physical violence.
Many of us are taught to express our feelings in terms of what another person has "done to us."
Unfortunately, we are not taught to take ownership of our feelings and needs in order to ask healthily for only
what benefits and is fair to all parties involved.
The overwhelming majority of people do not consciously know what violent communication is, and because of this they end
up using "violent" communication unconsciously. Or, they do not mean to communicate in a way that judges, demeans, or
manipulates other people. This leads to conflict that could have been avoided using the consciousness and tools of
"compassionate communication," another name for NVC.
Feelings and needs are an inherent part of human existence. Because everyone has them, they can provide a basis
for human-to-human connection. Anytime we can take a conflict and distill it down to the essential feelings and
needs, at that point people can see each other human-to-human, and it’s much easier to find a mutually agreeable
resolution.
A compassionate communication needs list is an extremely helpful tool in the self-discovery process.
Identifying common needs all human beings can help us understand our own and others’ deeper
motivations, can help us feel more comfortable with our feelings and can help us open to the powerful
vulnerability of truly being human.
A compassionate communication needs list can also help shape how we choose to interact with ourselves and
others every day.
Marshall routinely used Nonviolent Communication to solve disputes, and he could envision us using it
preemptively to promote understanding between neighbors…. be they two human beings or two bordering
nations.
At present, hundreds of certified NVC Trainers and supporters work tirelessly teaching NVC skills to people from all
walks of life around the globe. How can you help actively support Marshall B. Rosenberg's vision? By learning and
living the Nonviolent Communication in your own life!