Thou shall help others accomplish their goals

Otherwise you lack social influence + people wont help you achieve your goals

You must actively build a group of friends that are smart, resourceful, and ambitious.

Leave your old friends, encourage them to come with you to make a better life.

Visit your old friends for an hour or so once a year.

Understand your value proposition with others ( what are they getting and what am I getting)

When you come across men with similar values + goals, invest in those people

Don’t make promises you cant keep with these men. Be consistently trading value with these men.

Don’t shit talk anyone in your social circle, if you don’t like it you can always leave.

Look for guys who are fun, smart, not pussies, who have values, goals, and a work ethic.

Pickup is a team sport

Never contradict your wing for any reason. Whatever they say, you can just say ‘yes, and’

Never sabotage him or insult him

A good wingman can be your best friend of your lifetime

Helping the girl achieve her goals:

Offer encouragement, help her get information, introduce her to friends that can help her, go get
educated with her (ted talks, self help talks etc.) Take her on fun adventures.

Helping her friends: help her friends have fun, help her find a guy she likes, take them to cool clubs,
take them to fun places. Then her friends will love you and help you fuck and date her. They will
cockblock other guys for you.

Helping high value men: business is also a team sport. Introduce him to people that can help him,
invite him to cool shit, introduce him to some hot girls.

Talk to everyone, security, waitresses. Thank them. Give the security doorman some good $ tips On
the way out of the club!!! Noone does this. Chat to him a bit as well and give him appreciation.

Doing all this can get you access to cool clubs, you wont have to wait in line, you can get people
kicked out of the environment, massive social proof. Remember to be thoughtful and help others.

Don’t treat strangers with the same respect as your close friends

If its some random guy with no value proposition talking to you, keep it moving.

Treat your close friends with loyalty and intelligence. Put them first 100% of the time. If they don’t
treat you the same way, go make new friends or train them to do so.

Exercise: tell a close friend of a future goal you have and invite them to come along.

Make sure you contribute to peoples lives.

Tell a friend what youre going to do for them, when it will be done, and how youll follow up with
them.

If you come across someone who doesn’t has things going on in their life, tell them you are not
interested and wish them a good night.

Books: How to Win Friends and Influence People by dale carnegie, the 48 laws of power by Robert
greene

Seans’ notes

Don’t be around people for short term value, but with people who will have long term loyalty with
you

Keep the people around that are loyal

90/10 rule: spend 90% on your on shit, 10% on other peoples projects + things.

Your 10% will be massively impactful because it is usually something you specialize in and they don’t
that they need help with.

Ask yourself: what can I help this guy with that no one else can?

Building a tribe is good because everyone can have a specialty and this will massively increase
productivity.

Girls love a guy with a tribe.

Being in your own tribe has an unlimited amount of advantages- events, help in different areas, the
development of massive projects, extended social circles, permeation of personality traits,
permeation of habits, permeation of knowledge, blindspots, and other perks.

Tribe is the inner social circle, they are killing it and are very loyal.

To get into a good tribe, you want to get reaaally good and 1 or 2 things and people would get lots of
value from just being around you. Also have a fun and non-suplicating personality.

Everyone has to be on the same page, including shared values and knowledge of rules.

Wingmanship can be very effective, you want people who have potential- who are smart, approach,
and willing to learn, and who has long term thinking. Don’t have someone who talks down to or
contradicts their wing.

Books: guns, germs, and steel by jared diamond.

Travis

You don’t need to know hundreds of things, just the basic 10 commandments

This gets you the higher quality women, and gets you access to these women

Raise your access by raising your social resources and intellectual resources
How to get anything you want from other humans: they have to know how it is in their best interest
aka help them accomplish their goals.

For me: I can help many guys by helping them in their dating life.

17 principles to help others accomplish goals and get anything you want in life:

1. Everyone is selfish, including you. Exercise: 3 columns; examine the ways that you were
acting ‘selflessly’, and write down what ‘need’ this is satisfying in you. There is always a
selfish reason for your altruism. figure out if this helps you achieve your long term goals. In
the 3rd column, write if these help you achieve your long term goals. Y/N After this, decide if
you want to continue doing these things or not.
2. It is in your selfish best interest to help others achieve their goals because they will be
compelled to help you achieve your goals. This is a psychological phenomenon called
reciprocation.
3. Understand consumer surplus. Basically over-deliver on value. What you give to them should
be more or equal to what they give you.
4. Understand what value is and how that relates to goals. Value you can give:
money/goods/service, information, emotion, status, time. What a person values depends on
the goals they want to accomplish.
5. Understand what value YOU can provide. Become highly specialised and very good at 1 or 2
things and help people in these areas, and then get people who are specialised in other
areas to help you. Your value should satisfy the following criteria: 1. It is something you have
the potential to be one of the best in the world at, 2. It is your favorite thing to do, 3. It is
valuable. 4. It allows you time to build your social network. Exercise: find the thing that
meets this criteria using answers from the questions.
6. Understand your own goals first. If your goals are accomplishable by yourself, they are too
small.
7. Understand WHO’s goals you want to help accomplish. This should be people whose help
you want. To find these people, go to the places they would go. If they don’t reciprocate and
help you achieve your long term goals, cut them off.
8. Know how to uncover what other’s goals are. E.g women in the club like fun and envy from
other women, all men like sex and money. However it is specific for each person. Ask good
questions and be a good listener to understand what their goals are. Just ask them what
their short and long term goals are. Help people’s explicit and implicit goals.
9. Know under what conditions they are willing to reciprocate. Know what you have to achieve
for them first. Be willing to walk away if they cant help you.
10. Know how YOU in particular could help them accomplish their goals. (Tip the bouncers on
the way out)
11. Go forward and help them accomplish their goals.
12. After you’ve helped them, tell them what your goals are and how they can help you. People
want to help and people want to feel neded.
13. Start where you are, and trade up and across. This is how you end up anywhere you want in
life. Use your resources to trade higher and higher resources.
14. Develop long term mutually beneficial relationships.
15. Get on a team. You are the 5 people you hang around with.
16. Get a coach.
17. Build your value.