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2 - Adult - Parenting Styles
2 - Adult - Parenting Styles
Semester 2 – 2020
Assoc. Prof. Dr. Diana – Lea Baranovich
Parenting Styles
Parenting – Leadership Styles
The following is based on the research and theory of Diane Braumrind (who only worked
with parents of preschoolers); however, the Queen Diana of the QDSS has put her own
“spin” on it. Also, Diana wrote an article about her parenting styles for Star Newspaper –
attached is a copy. The Queen will gladly autograph it free of charge – although feel free to
make LARGE donations.
Furthermore, although these are referred to as “parenting styles” they can cross over to
any style of leadership.
Basically parenting styles are ways in which a parent communicates (verbally and non-
verbally) with his child, which allows for a certain type of rapport to be built.
In a Nutshell –
There are five different styles of parenting: Dictating, Bonded, Doormat and
Ghost.
usually either quiet and overly complaint (to avoid punishment) or anxious,
unhappy and turn rebellious especially as they grow older (adolescent
years).
can not make simple “positive” decisions for themselves.
have low self-esteem
can strive to be “over achievers
full of self -doubt
Bonded parenting places a high level of importance on listening to the child’s point
of view and giving the child “freedom within limits.” The child is free to explore and
discover his unique potentials and the parent serves as an advocate of the child; however,
the child is expected to “own” his behavior. These children have high self-esteem, are very
autonomous and have the highest potential for reaching Marcia’s “identity achievement”
by the time they finish high school. Furthermore they validate and praise, accentuate the
positive and are great listeners.
Doormat parents do not know how to set limits. They give the child too much
freedom because they don’t want to upset the child. These parents tend to be
overindulgent and give in to the child’s every whim. The child doesn’t learn rules,
boundaries or limits. These children often manipulate the parent into getting whatever
they want. Often times, the parent begins to act like more of a “buddy friend” than a
parent. As they grow into the adolescent years they often make poor choices or “run with
the wrong crowd.”
Ghost parents are neglectful emotionally and/or physically. They are not involved
with the lives’ of their children because they are too busy “doing their own thing.” There is
no attachment, so basically the child is left to raise himself completely. These children
have very low self-esteem and very poor social skills.
See Dictating Style above – Dictating Ghost are the same they just
Dictate through electronic communication.
The absolute worse thing to do is to “mix and match” styles – very confusing.
What type(s) of parenting styles have your clients (children and adults) been
exposed to?