CONSCIOUS LEADERSHIP

LEFT COLUMN & RIGHT COLUMN

Do I tell you what I think?? Or better I don't say anything??
 I THOUGHT, I FEELED AND DIDN'T SAY WHAT I SAID AND HEARD
Left Column Right Column

What?! This guy is never satisfied ... BOSS: This report is useless!
Frustration, fear, anger

I followed the F$## unintelligible model that you gave ME: I did it following the specifications that
me. you gave me.
Frustration, fear, anger

What the F$##!! I never had such a bad boss! BOSS: If you had followed them, I would not be here.
Anger, frustration

WTF!!! Say what you want and go ME: …

Anxiety, anger, fear

What the F$##!!! You’re such an idiot!!! BOSS: Re do it for 2pm. This time, follow my
Anger, sadness Specs!

It’s impossible to tell him anything. He doesn't listen! ME: …

Fear, anger, sadness
Cosmetic, Toxic and Profound Truth

Cosmetic Truth: What I Think I "Should" Say

Seeks to be "respectful", but is usually not authentic

Toxic truth: what I "think" without a filter

It feels more "authentic", but is disrespectful

Deep truth: what I deeply "feel"

Talk about what is at stake to me, but
in an authentic and respectful way
COMMUNICATION
Express yourself as a Clear Thinker.
5. CHECK UNDERSTANDING AND OPINION OF
THE OTHER I reveal the "kitchen" of my thoughts
4. I CONCLUDE WITH IMPACT AND SUGGESTION

Interpretations,
3. I SAY WHAT I THINK AND FEEL emotions, values,
standards

2. AND BASED ON WHAT I ASSUME

1. BASED ON WHAT I OBSERVE

0. THE REALITY
 SEEKS TO EXPRESS OR
ADVOCACY INQUIRY
UNDERESTAND
“When I see…” “What happened? Can you give me examples…?”
- Provide examples - Request precision of facts/ examples

“I feel…” “How do you feel about this?”

- Describe emotional state - Inquire into emotional state
THE TWO SIDES OF COMMUNICATION

“Because I believe…” “Why do you think it happened?”

REASONING
- Share interpretations / inferences - Inquire into interpretations

“Does this make sense to you? “Is it a fact or an inference?”

- Check if the other understands the logic of your reasoning. - Seeks to identify inferences, if any.

“My concern is…” “What are your concerns…?”

- Share your concern about what is at risk - Inquiries to discover what is at risk INTERESTS OR
“Because I value…” “Why is this important to you?” CONCERNS
- Share your principles/standards (core truth) - Looks into principles / standards and essential truth

“I want, I need…” “What do you need / what would you like?”

- Express desire - Seeks to understand desires

“Therefore I suggest / request…” “What do you suggest?”

- Express recommendation or request - Inquiries recommendations / requests IMPLICATIONS AND
“What do you think?” “What I understand is…” RECOMMENDED ACTION
- Check understanding and reaction - Summarizes and checks for own understanding
 BIBLIOGRAPHY
ü Fred Kofman
- Book: Conscious Business
- Fred Kofman Site: https://www.fredkofman.org/
- Company Site: https://cbcinternational.org/
ü Otto Scharmer
- Book: Theory U
- Otto Scharmer Site: https://www.ottoscharmer.com/
- Company Site: https://www.presencing.org/
ü Marshall Rosenberg
- Book: Comunicación No Violenta
- Who is Marshall Rosenberg?
https://es.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marshall_Rosenberg
ü Rafael Echeverría
- Book: La Ontología del Lenguaje
- Company Site:
https://www.newfieldconsulting.com/rafael-echeverria/
Enjoy Conscious Leadership!