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ESPIRITU, ANDREW G.
LORENZO, ROSALINDA T.
MALDO, JOVEN O.
HABIT 5: SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND,
THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD.
Influence others by developing a deep understanding of their
needs and perspectives.
“Most people do not listen with the intent to
understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
1. READING 2. WRITING
3. SPEAKING 4. LISTENING
4 LEVELS OF LISTENING
1. Evaluating: 2. Probing:
You judge and then either agree or You ask questions from your own
disagree. frame of reference.
3. Advising: 4. Interpreting:
“The essence of emphatic listening is not that you are agree with
someone, but rather, it’s that you fully and deeply understand that
person, both emotionally and intellectually.”
Psychological Survival
- to be understood, to be affirmed, to be validated and
to be appreciated.
Psychological Air
4 Developmental Stages of
Emphatic Listening
1. Mimic content. This is the skill taught in “active” or “reflective”
listening. Without the character and relationship base, it is often
insulting to people and causes them to close up. It is, however a first
stage skill because it at least cases you to listen to what’s being said.
2. Rephrase the content. It’s a little more effective, but it’s still
limited to the verbal communication.
3. You reflect feeling.
Seek to Understood
- requires maturity. The balance between courage and
consideration.
• Ethos – your personal credibility, the faith people you have in your
integrity and competency.
• It’s the trust that you inspire.
• Pathos – emphatic side – it’s the feeling. It means that you are in
alignment with the emotional thrust of another person’s
communication.
• Logos – the logic, the reasoning of the presentation.
When you can present your own ideas clearly,
specifically, visually and most important contextually – in
the context of deep understanding of other people’s
paradigms and concerns – you significantly increase the
credibility of your ideas.
HABIT 5 is also:
Inside-out approach.
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Seek First to Understand… …Then to Be Understood