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Listening Skills
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Learning Objectives
By the end of this
presentation, you
will be able to
apply the basics of
active listening
skills.
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Introduction
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Being Understood
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School teaches us to read, write, and speak, but rarely
focuses on the skill of listening
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Active Listening
Four key components to active listening
Attending responses
Open-ended responses
Tracking responses
Summarizing responses
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1: Attending Responses
Verbal indicators
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1: Attending Responses
Non-verbal indicators
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2: Open-Ended Responses
Open-ended questions are ones that require
more than a “Yes” or “No” answer
Usually start with or imply “What” or
“How”
• How do you see things changing?
• What do you think is the problem?
• What do you see as the most important issue?
• What have you thought of?
• I’m wondering . . . ?
• What would you like to do about . . . ?
• Could you tell me what that means?
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2: Open-Ended Responses
Be cautious with questions
Avoid leading questions that suggest you know
the answer to the question (e.g., You don’t really
want to do that do you?)
Avoid why questions that imply judgments
about the speaker’s actions or motives (e.g., Why
didn’t you try to solve the problem that way?)
Avoid too many questions as that may suggest to
the speaker that they are being interrogated
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3: Tracking Responses
Reflecting checks your understanding of the
content, words, or feelings expressed by the
speaker:
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3: Tracking Responses
Clarifying gathers further information:
• Do you mean you would like to take up an office ?
• Correct me if I’m wrong, but . . . ?
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4: Summarizing Responses
Summarize the conversation and then ask
a question such as “Is that accurate?”
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Active Listening
1: Attending Responses
2: Open-Ended Responses
ACTIVE
3: Tracking Responses
SUCCESS
4: Summarizing Responses
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Verbal Communication:
“SIER” Hierarchy Active Listening
An alternative representation is :
Responding
Evaluating
Interpreting
Sensing
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Other Features of Effective Listening
Minimize distractions
Listen with respect
Avoid assumptions
Avoid superficial reactions
Situate facts in context
Remain focused
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When Not to Listen
Speaker is verbally abusive
Speaker monopolizes conversation
Speaker is out of touch with reality
In these sorts of circumstances
• Be assertive
• Point out that the person is behaving inappropriately
• State that you will not continue conversation unless you
are treated with respect
• In extreme circumstances, end the conversation until the
person has calmed down
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Being Understood
Be positive.
Practice your communication skills every day
to get comfortable and to communicate well!
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Natural Break
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3 Possible Types of Listening
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Be assertive: Passive Phrases
X I don’t know/care (when I do)
X It doesn’t matter (when it does)
X Either one is fine with me (when I have a preference)
X I’m sorry (when I don’t mean it)
X It’s just my opinion. . .
X I don’t want to bother you, but. . .
X It’s not really important, but. . .
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Be assertive :Aggressive Phrases
X I don’t need/want. . .
X Your opinion is wrong.
X You don’t know what you’re talking about.
X You’re doing it wrong.
X That won’t work.
X You have to. . .
X You need to know. . .
Porridge too hot !!!
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Be assertive: Assertive Phrases
I don’t understand. . .
I need/want/prefer. . .
I would like to. . .
No, I won’t be able to. . .
I’d prefer that you don’t tell me those jokes anymore.
My opinion is. . .
I need some of your time to. . .
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Natural Break
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Active Listening 1
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Active Listening 2
•Give feedback.
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Body Talk (if Face to Face)
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Nonverbal Communication
Think about the signals you may be
inadvertently sending out:
• Facial Expressions
• Eye Movements
• Placement and Movements of Hands, Arms, Head, and Legs
• Body Posture and Orientation
• Variation in Voice Characteristics
•Speaking Rate and Pause Duration
•Pitch or Frequency
•Intensity and Loudness
• Reflecting your brother’s posture with your own to show
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Common Nonverbal Clusters
Cluster Cluster Meaning Body Posture & Movement of Hands, Eyes & Facial
Name Orientation Arms, & Legs Expression
Defensivene Defensiveness, Rigid body Crossed arms & legs Minimal eye contact
ss skepticism, and Glancing sideways
apprehension Pursed lips
Tilted head
Evaluation and Hand on cheek
Evaluation consideration of Leaning forward Stroking chin Dropping glasses to
message Chin in palm of hand lower nose
Increased eye
Deception Dishonesty and Patterns of rocking Fidgeting with objects movement Frequent
secretiveness Increased leg movement gazes elsewhere.
Forced smile
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Enhancing Listening Skills
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Communication No-no’s
X Don’t interrupt.
X Avoid generalizations.
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Verbal Communication:
Listening - Recap
Pay
Attention
Monitor
Confirm
Non-Verbals
Effective
Active
Listening
Encourage Paraphrase
person to Talk and Repeat
Make No
Assumptions
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SUMMARY
Insert your own summary here if you wish.
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CONTACT
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E-mail: ****@****
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