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Art of Conversation
Prof.Sangeeta
Sharma
Department of Languages
BITS,Pilani
Conversations
The Art of Conversation
• It requires 3 ingredients:
• Attending skills
• Listening manners
• Your conversational contribution
Attending Skills
1. Don't talk too long without pausing for a reaction. More than a minute is usually
too long. Forty seconds is ideal.
2. Never contradict or flatly disagree with the other person. It's an implied insult.
3. Don't be too forceful or emphatic in stating your opinions until you learn the
other person's attitude.
4.Give the other person intellectual freedom and cooperation and claim them for
yourself
Assess the
Engage in
situation
conversation
and our role
Question and
foster
understanding
Discern whether
Develop a response – plan and
modification is needed
make change
and
commit to change
Ideal Conversationalist
If you find the world dull, the chances are that your companions will find you dull.
10 Most Common Business Etiquette /
Conversation Blunders
1.Inappropriate Language
2.Disregard of other’s time
3.Inappropriate dress and poor grooming
4.Misuse of the telephone / Chat room
5.Failure to greet someone properly
6.Poor listening skills
7.Disregard of shared property and other’s space
8.Embarrassing others
9.Poor table manners
10.Inappropriate or inconsistent recognition of others
Businesses are run by and for people. To be successful in business, you must be
successful working with and for people.
Introductions
•Conversation is neither a:
•Lecture
•Sermon
•Debate
If you have nothing to say on the topic under discussion, say nothing. According to
Voltaire, `One always sounds foolish when one has nothing to say.'
Attempting to steer the conversation round to your pet subjects will engender
resentment in your listeners.
Sometimes when you find yourself with nothing to contribute to a general
conversation you may feel uncomfortable and inadequate. The impulse to get rid of
the feeling by saying something is
best resisted.
To stay on topic is not enough. One must stay in tune with the conversation. Otherwise
one's remarks will grate on the rest of the company.
AMBIGUITY AVOIDANCE
• Be pragmatic rather than philosophical. Remember words do not mean what you
intend
• Whatever your instructions, look for possible misunderstanding and clarify
ambiguity by asking the listener questions
• If you are instructed to undertake a project, make notes, paraphrase each item to
confirm understanding.
• Write back to all concerned for consistency and validity check
DIALOGUE
The engaging conversation is an art form –an ability that can be cultivated by practice
For conversation to be successful:
• You must demonstrate Interest in the subject
• You must show interest in the person. The interest in the person is by far the surer
ingredient for success
Engaging Conversation
• To mix it up with something that implies a real consciousness of the adviser's own
shortcomings
• To acknowledge other party's merits as much as possible.
• To plant a suggestion in a subtle and skillful manner
One to One Conversation
If you do not fit into one or more of these categories, DO NOT attempt to be friend
According to a study the average person is interested in job, home, politics, recreation,
health, current events in that order
• In dialogue conversation you should usually not be brilliant or scintillating.
• About half of your time should be spent listening unless it is clear that the other
person wishes you to talk more
The advantages of listening are:
In times of trouble a sympathetic ear is more valuable to most people than anything
that can be said to them
•Conversation should generally attempt to remove barriers
•Some barriers that cannot be removed and no attempt should be made to do so
It is easier to talk with an inferior than with a superior, but it is not easier to
talk well.
General Conversation
•Effective conversation: you should decide (in advance) on the purpose of the
conversation and the plan for achieving it
•Assertiveness
If someone argues against you, even loses their temper, you should be quietly
assertive. The final message is a three-fold plan of action: