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Laura Shuppert
Professor Sandy-Smith
ENG 1201
15 July 2021
As someone who recently discovered her parents are filing for divorce, I knew
researching the impact divorced parents have on children would be difficult due to my new
sensitivity to the topic. Growing up in a low conflict household, this divorce was somewhat
However, I was curious to learn how I could be affected in the long run and how my view of
marriage could be different than people who have parents that have forever demonstrated love
and loyalty. After hours of research, I uncovered troubling truths. In comparison to children with
nuclear families, children of divorced parents face long-term consequences, including either or
both personal difficulties and different perceptions related to marriage, resulting in the higher
Divorce has always been such a taboo subject that not everyone realizes how children of
divorce are impacted, how often divorce occurs, or how divorce itself has changed over time.
According to Amato, Loomis, and Booth’s journal, one million kids experience parental divorce
every year. Due to this overwhelmingly large number, there is an abundance of information
relating to this topic. Understanding how these children are affected is vital when discussing
divorce, and most sources prove that children of divorce can be negatively impacted in their
marriages and overall well-being. However, there is research that suggests that due to the current
high divorce rate, the increasing normalization surrounding divorce can decrease these adverse
effects. Today, because around 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce, the option
of pursuing divorce has become normalized. This has the potential of weakening the negative
impact on children of divorce (Wolfinger). Although divorce rates are high, the likelihood of
children of divorce experiencing their divorce compared to children of nuclear families has
decreased over time: Pinsker states that in the 1970s, married children of divorce were twice as
likely to get divorced than children from married parents, but now, they are only 1.2 times as
likely to get divorced. Regardless, considering the high rates of divorce and the number of
children who endure their parents’ tragic separation, the long-term impacts they face are still
Children of divorce are more likely to experience negative impacts on their well-being
than children of intact families because of the conflict they witness between their parents.
Through several studies, it has been proved that children of divorce score lower on measures of
relations with their parents (Amato et al.). Tasker and Richards’s journal supports Amato’s
claims by reiterating that these children are likely to experience behavioral problems and
difficulties with psychological adjustment. These long-term consequences are often related to
parent conflict before the divorce and these same consequences are true for people who live in
high-conflict households even when their parents are together. Because these adverse effects are
seen in both children of divorce and children of marriage with high parent conflict, it becomes
clear that it is not always the divorce that causes these issues, but the conflict that occurs between
parents. However, as divorce becomes more normalized throughout America, the two situations
because of the conflict between their parents and the stressors associated with divorce. The
mental health effects on different genders can vary. According to Chase-Lansdale, Lindsay, and
Cherlin’s article, the emotional effects on boys of parental divorce are apparent from preschool
through adolescence. On the other hand, girls of divorce adapt easier to early divorce and tend to
be like girls with married parents. By the time a girl of parental divorce reaches adolescence,
they “are more likely than girls in non-divorced families to demonstrate more antisocial
relationships with boys” (Chase Lansdale et al.). Although the emotional impacts of divorce may
vary between genders, they are both still affected. Chase Lansdale and Cherlin said that “82% of
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women and 94% of men whose parents divorced were predicted to fall below the clinical cutoff.”
These statistics prove that both genders of parental divorce experience emotional difficulties
beginning in their early age until they reach adulthood, which suggests this is a common result of
parental divorce. Although only a minority of children of divorce experience serious mental
health problems, the effects are still apparent, and these children have an increased chance of
Due to the trauma children of divorced parents endure during childhood, they often seek
comfort in marrying earlier than those who come from nuclear families. These children often
marry at a much younger age. According to Wolfinger’s article, children of divorced parents are
more likely to marry before the age of 20 than children from nuclear families. However, after the
age of 20, they are more likely to avoid marriage completely if they are still single. The
increased likelihood of these children marrying before reaching their 20s occurs for a variety of
reasons. In many cases, they could be seeking an escape from their households. Dealing with
more household issues and parental conflict, they also may have more experience with adult
responsibilities, making them feel more mature at a younger age. It is especially common for
women from separated households to get married earlier in a search for financial stability. If they
are not financially stable and marry early, they often have a better chance of reaching their
desired economic stability. Because marriage can provide new economic opportunities, it tends
to be driven by financial resources and these resources provide a sense of comfort. Furthermore,
children of divorce are more likely to be sexually active at a young age, potentially resulting in
an unplanned pregnancy, which can in turn result in an earlier marriage. On the other hand, if
they are still single by their twenties, children of divorce are more likely to avoid marriage due to
fear or certain behavioral issues they have developed due to their parents’ divorce. While
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children of divorce may continue to seek stability in a partner at a young age, as they mature,
remembering the troubles in their households, they often choose to avoid the troubles that come
alongside marriage.
Because children of divorce face behavioral issues that often affect their academic
performance, they are often subject to lower educational opportunities; in turn, they are more
likely to marry those with a similar educational background because of their desire to have a
homogamous marriage. Children who experience divorce between the ages of 3-5 years show
that it can “negatively affect a child’s motivation, engagement, and learn-related behavior in the
classroom, which results in lower academic success” (Nusinovici et al.). Because children of
divorce are likely to experience obstacles in the classroom, they are likely to perform lower in
school. Children of divorce’s likelihood to have a lower education correlates with who they will
end up marrying because many people decide to marry someone with similar educational
backgrounds, which supports the idea that children of divorce are more likely to marry people
with less education. A study conducted in Finland claims that “children of divorce have a lower
likelihood of marrying spouses with secondary education or more, and especially low rates of
marrying someone with a tertiary degree” (Erola et al.). The cause of this gap is related to the
fact that children of divorce are less likely to have secondary education or tertiary degree,
meaning they are less likely to marry someone with that degree due to their educational
differences. However, this gap is less apparent for children of divorce with a tertiary degree
because they are likely to marry someone with equal or similar education. While the study does
state that children of divorce who manage to obtain a tertiary degree often have successful
that most marry those with much lower educational backgrounds. In general, people who have
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endured a divorce between their parents are more likely to marry those who have similar life
experiences, which education being a large aspect of those experiences. Because children of
divorce are likely to have lower education, they are more likely to marry someone who has a
similar educational background as them. Although results on whether children of divorce marry
at higher or lower rates are inconsistent, these “lower marriage rates among children of divorce
are actually lower rates of marrying certain people, in this case, these with higher educational
qualification.” Research states that children of divorce are 13% less likely to marry someone
with an intermediate secondary education, 20% less likely to marry someone with higher
secondary education, and 28% less likely to marry someone with tertiary education. (Erola et
al.). However, children of divorce who are highly educated are likely to marry someone with
similar education because many people choose others who are like themselves. Furthermore, due
to not only their own lower educational status but certain behavioral problems, children of
divorce may also appear as unfavorable partners to both themselves and others. The study
continues to say that children of divorce tend to have behaviors that cause them to be seen as less
marriageable candidates. Both behavioral issues and diminished self-worth contribute to this
issue. The diminished desirability of those who come from a background of divorce further
Children of divorce experience higher rates of marital conflict and divorce compared to
children who grew up in stable, loving families. In Amato’s article, he says that adults who grew
up in divorced families have a lower level of marital well-being. When children live through
their parents’ divorce, it can cause emotional damage that can carry over into their marital
relationships in the future. This damage tends to be from the conflict that occurred before their
parents’ divorce. Because children of divorce are more likely to experience divorce and it is
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associated with conflict before their parents’ divorce, children whose parents had low conflict
before the divorce are more likely to divorce than those with high conflict parents (Braithwaite et
al.). Many children who live in low-conflict households, but still experience parental divorce,
feel that their parents were not fully committed to the relationship. This causes those children to
lack understanding of proper commitment and a successful relationship because there is less
understating about why their parents got divorced or they feel like their parents did not make the
necessary effort to stay together. Additionally, people with divorced parents are more likely to
marry other people with divorced parents and couples with both children of divorce are more
likely to get divorced than couples with only one child from parental divorce (Pinsker). The rates
of divorce for children of divorced families are shown to be greater than those who have married
parents, which could result in fear or distorted views towards their marriage.
Influenced by the family dynamics seen between their own parents’ relationships during
childhood, spouses with divorced parents are more likely to go through a divorce themselves.
There are many reasons as to why children of divorce are more likely to go through their
divorces, one of those being their perception of marriage. When a child experiences parental
divorce their view of marriage is more likely to be negative than those with married parents.
Although each parental divorce is different, some children are left feeling like their own
marriage will not work out or they never want to get married because of how their parents’
relationship ended. According to Braithwaite, children of divorce are more likely to imitate their
parents’ interpersonal process in their romantic relationships because that was what they saw
growing up. When children have divorced parents, they tend to be less favorable towards
marriage and less likely to see the benefits of having married parents. Also, some children may
not understand the commitment that goes into a relationship and what goes into a successful
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marriage: Wolfinger says, “if your parents stay together, they fight and then you realize these
things aren’t fatal to marriage. If you’re from a divorced family, you don’t learn that message,
and it seems like things are untenable. And so you bounce” (Pinsker). Children’s experiences
while growing up have a huge impact on how they will act in the future. When a child does not
see work being put in or commitment in their parents’ relationship, it can lead to the same habits
in their relationships. The environment that a child grows up in can shape their values and more
importantly teach them lifelong lessons. Additionally, in Erola’s article, he states children of
divorce are more likely to have problematic skills, behavioral patterns, and lower marital
commitment. Without these skills, it can be difficult to maintain a healthy marriage and these
children are likely to believe that divorce is the only solution to the conflict. Children who
experience parental divorce can be left without positive views towards marriage and feeling like
marriage is impossible to make work. All the aspects contribute to the higher divorce rates for
children of divorce.
Although most of the research focuses on the negative impacts of divorce, children of
divorce can benefit from divorce in specific situations. In Amato’s article, he states that children
are better off in a single-parent family than having 2 parents with high conflict. For those living
in high conflict households, divorce could be a positive outcome. Because the long-term effects
of divorce on children are directly correlated with conflict before the divorce, parents getting the
divorce could create a better living environment for the child if there were a lot of conflicts.
Divorce for high conflict households could truly benefit the child because if the conflict stops or
decreases, the child is less likely to see negative consequences towards their well-being and own
marriage in the future. Also, in Pinsker’s article, he explains that children of divorce could take
marriage more seriously because they understand the consequences of divorce. If a child has
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first-hand experience with parental divorce, they are more aware of what could go wrong in the
marriage and be more selective in who they choose to marry. This could result in a more
successful marriage or a better chance of their marriage lasting. Overall, more research focuses
on the negative impacts of parental divorce, but it is important to understand that not all
situations of divorce are negative, and children learn from their parents’ mistakes.
Although most of the research associated with the effects of parental divorce concludes
that children of divorce experience high divorce rates than those with married parents, some
studies find inconclusive results. In Wolfinger’s article, he argues that parental divorce can result
in higher or lower marriage rates and there is not a conclusive answer. He defends the argument
that parental divorce can decrease marriage rates for their children because of negative attitudes
towards marriage or they have developed behaviors that would make marriage difficult.
However, he claims that parental divorce can also increase marriage rates for children of divorce
because they want to leave their household, suffer economically, or seek romance. Wolfinger
does not conclude on whether parental divorce increases or decreases marriage for children of
divorce, however, he provides a new argument that contradicts the other research. Although
Wolfinger defends both sides of marriage rates for children of divorce, most of the research can
conclude that marriage rates for children of divorce are higher than those with married parents
different perceptions related to marriage, which cause a higher likelihood they will experience
divorce compared to children from intact families. As proven throughout the essay, many aspects
cause children of divorce to have higher divorce rates like education, mental health, negative
image of marriage, and more. Before reading this essay, it may have been an assumed fact that
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children of divorce were more likely to experience divorce than children of married parents.
However, the reason for that statement was not obvious and needed more explanation. Without
understanding that parental conflict before the divorce is one of the main reasons why children
experience higher divorce rates, it would not be clear what part of the divorce causes harm to
children of divorce. As divorce rates remain high in the United States, more children are
experiencing mental health and personal difficulties that they would be less likely to experience
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