The document discusses different ways that desire can be sparked in a relationship. It argues that desire requires some psychological distance and sense of otherness between partners. It then provides examples of when attraction is strongest, including when a partner radiates confidence and mystery, when reconnecting after time apart allows imagination, when surprised by a partner's unexpected behavior, and when seeing a partner attract interest from others as a reminder they cannot be possessed. It concludes that true intimacy does not involve control or ownership of another.
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[English] This is Why 90% of Relationships Don't Last _ Esther Perel (You Can Need to Know This) [DownSub.com]
The document discusses different ways that desire can be sparked in a relationship. It argues that desire requires some psychological distance and sense of otherness between partners. It then provides examples of when attraction is strongest, including when a partner radiates confidence and mystery, when reconnecting after time apart allows imagination, when surprised by a partner's unexpected behavior, and when seeing a partner attract interest from others as a reminder they cannot be possessed. It concludes that true intimacy does not involve control or ownership of another.
The document discusses different ways that desire can be sparked in a relationship. It argues that desire requires some psychological distance and sense of otherness between partners. It then provides examples of when attraction is strongest, including when a partner radiates confidence and mystery, when reconnecting after time apart allows imagination, when surprised by a partner's unexpected behavior, and when seeing a partner attract interest from others as a reminder they cannot be possessed. It concludes that true intimacy does not involve control or ownership of another.