The caller's boyfriend gets very upset whenever the caller is late, even if it's just a little bit. This triggers big fights between them. The therapist suggests that the boyfriend has developed a bias that interprets any instance of the caller being late as intentional disrespect. He ignores evidence that might challenge this view. The therapist advises the caller to acknowledge her boyfriend's feelings without justifying herself, and to give him space while staying connected. Both partners also tend to excuse their own flaws while seeing the other's flaws as more deeply characterological.
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[English] Fight Smarter_ Avoid the Most Common Argument Patterns - Esther Perel [DownSub.com]
The caller's boyfriend gets very upset whenever the caller is late, even if it's just a little bit. This triggers big fights between them. The therapist suggests that the boyfriend has developed a bias that interprets any instance of the caller being late as intentional disrespect. He ignores evidence that might challenge this view. The therapist advises the caller to acknowledge her boyfriend's feelings without justifying herself, and to give him space while staying connected. Both partners also tend to excuse their own flaws while seeing the other's flaws as more deeply characterological.
The caller's boyfriend gets very upset whenever the caller is late, even if it's just a little bit. This triggers big fights between them. The therapist suggests that the boyfriend has developed a bias that interprets any instance of the caller being late as intentional disrespect. He ignores evidence that might challenge this view. The therapist advises the caller to acknowledge her boyfriend's feelings without justifying herself, and to give him space while staying connected. Both partners also tend to excuse their own flaws while seeing the other's flaws as more deeply characterological.
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