ASSIGNMENT 4

IDENTIFYING ISSUES IN THE DIFFERENT STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT

PEMBANGUNAN MANUSIA (UHAS 3042)

PUSAT: KULIM

NAME OF LECTURE: PROF. DR.SITI AISYAH BT. PANATIK

NAME NO.MATRIX
HIMMANESH A/L SIVASHAREN SX171993KAWF09
DINESH KUMAR A/L SELVAKKUMARAN SX171709KAWF09
SELLVAKUMAR A/L MURUGAN SX172093KAWF09
THAMILAARASAN A/L NATHAN SX171723KAWF09
1. INTRODUCTION

In the life of a human being, we will go through several stages of age, namely the
prenatal period of the baby then to childhood, middle childhood and late adolescence then
move to the early adulthood and middle and the last is the end. Mid -adulthood (or middle
age) refers to the life expectancy between young adulthood and old age. Patterns of
movement or change that begin at conception and continue through human lifespan. This
period starts from the age of 20 to 40 years depending on how old you are. The most
common age definition is from 20 to 65 years, Life expectancy development is associated
with various areas of psychology in an individual’s life including economics. The definition of
aging is in terms of biological and social changes over a lifetime. While the biological
definition of aging is the change in the structure and function of the human organism over
time. It also involves the involvement of changes in the physical characteristics of the
individual such as height and weight gain, development of the mind, development in certain
skills and the last is the decline in health and cardiovascular levels.

Among the processes that involve socio -emotional changes of an individual are
changes in the individual's relationship with others which is able to bring or change the
attitude or nature of an individual such as emotional changes, and personality changes such
as the relationship between mother and child, the relationship between siblings, the
relationship between friends and among the special ones is a relationship with someone we
love. The period of drastic development begins in late adolescence or early twenties and
lasts until the thirties where during this time one is forming or creating personality
compatibility and comfort during this time also begins career development, and when one
has grown up one will choose couples, start a family, and raise children with loved ones.

The film 17 Again was chosen as the topic of this debate because it depicts the
necessity of not having a suitable plan for marriage life in early adulthood, which may cause
a person to regret their decision, causing Mike O’Donnell and Scarlet relationship to become
a problem.At 17 Mike O'Donnell is the star of his high school basketball team, is a shoo-in
for a college scholarship, and is dating his soul-mate, Scarlet. But at what's supposed to be
his big game where a college scout is checking him out, Scarlet reveals that she's pregnant.
Mike decides to leave the game and asks Scarlet to marry him, which she does. During their
marriage, Mike can only whine about the life he lost because he married her, so she throws
him out. When he also loses his job, he returns to the only place he's happy at, his old high
school. While looking at his high school photo, a janitor asks him if he wishes he could be 17
again and he says yes. One night while driving he sees the janitor on a bridge ready to jump,
and goes after him. When he returns to his friend Ned's house, where he has been staying,
he sees that he is 17 again. He decides to take this opportunity to get the life he lost. "17
Again" can teach people valuable lessons. It teaches people that we always take stuff for
granted and that we aren't always sure of what we really want. Another thing is that we don't
know how much we care about stuff and people until it's gone. This poor guy thought his life
was going to hell and everything was falling apart when all he needed was to open his eyes
and have another look at what he really has.

2. SYNOPSIS

17-year-old star athlete Mike O'Donnell's girlfriend Scarlet Porter tells him that she
is pregnant, just moments before his likely scholarship-clinching high school championship
basketball game. Mike plays the first few seconds of the game, then walks off the court and
goes after Scarlet, abandoning his hopes of going to college and achieving a career that
could support their future.

Nearly twenty years later, 37-year-old Mike finds his life stagnant and boring,
abandoning any project he starts. Scarlet, now his wife and mother of their two children, has
filed for divorce, forcing him to move in with his geeky, yet extremely wealthy, best friend,
Ned Gold. He has quit his job after he is passed over for a promotion, he believed he
deserves, and his high school-age kids, 17-year-old Maggie and 16-year-old Alex, want
nothing to do with him. Later, while driving, an encounter on a bridge with a janitor
transforms Mike back into his 17-year-old self.

After convincing Ned of his identity, Ned believes that Mike's transformation was
caused by a mystical spirit guide who is trying to steer him on a better path. Mike enrols in
high school posing as Mark Gold, Ned's son, and plans to go to college on a basketball
scholarship. As he befriends his bullied son and discovers that his daughter has a boyfriend,
Stan, who does not respect her and frequently torments Alex, Mike comes to believe that his
mission is to help them.

Through their kids, Mike spends time with Scarlet, who notes his remarkable
resemblance to her husband, but rationalizes it as an odd coincidence. Deciding to also try
and fix his relationship with Scarlet, Mike begins to finish (under the preteens of getting
"volunteer credit") all of the garden projects he abandoned as an adult. He does his best to
separate Stan and Maggie while also encouraging Alex to be more confident so he can
make the basketball team and go out with a girl he has a crush on named Nicole. Mike has
difficulty resisting his desire for Scarlet despite the relationship's clear inappropriateness.
Ned, meanwhile, begins to pursue the school's principal Jane Masterson through
increasingly extravagant stunts to win her affections, which she adamantly rebukes, though
she agrees to a date after he offers to buy laptops for the school.

On their date, Jane is completely unimpressed with Ned until he drops the
"sophisticated rich-guy" persona and admits he is actually a geek. Jane then reveals her
own enthusiasm for geek culture by speaking to him in Elvish, and the two hit it off. Mike
throws a party to celebrate a basketball game win at Ned's house while Ned is out with Jane,
where he confronts Stan, who had recently dumped Maggie for not sleeping with him. Mike
gets knocked out and wakes up to Maggie trying to seduce him. Mike tells his daughter that
he is in love with someone else and Maggie leaves, much to Mike's relief. Scarlet arrives at
the party worried about her kids attending, but Mike shows her that Alex has finally managed
to get together with his crush. The two have an intimate conversation where Mike, caught up
in the moment, tries to kiss her. Disgusted, she storms off as Mike tries unsuccessfully to
explain his identity.

On the day of the court hearing to finalize Scarlet and Mike's divorce, Mike makes
one last attempt to win her back (as Mark) by reading a supposed letter from Mike. He states
that although he couldn't set things right in the beginning of his life, it doesn't change the fact
that he still loves her. After he exits, scarlet notices that the "letter" is actually the directions
to the courtroom and she begins to grow curious. As a result, she postpones the divorce by
a month. Frustrated that he could not salvage his marriage, Mike decides to once again
pursue a scholarship and move on with a new life. During a high school basketball game,
Mike reveals himself to Scarlet. As Scarlet runs away, Mike decides to chase her down, just
like he did in 1989, but not before handing the ball off to his son. Mike is then transformed
back into his 37-year-old self, and happily reunites with Scarlet, saying that she was the best
decision he ever made.

As Mike prepares for his first day as the new coach at his kids' school, Ned, who has
successfully started a relationship with Jane, gifts him a whistle, both happy with their new
starts in life.
3. LIST OF THE ISSUES/PROBLEMS RELATED TO THE DEVELOPMENT

3.1 Divorce

Mike O'Donnell's wife wants a divorce, his kids are remote, he didn't get the job
promotion he expected, and everything else in his life has gone wrong since that magic year
when he was 17, a basketball star, in love, and looked like Zac Efron instead of Matthew
Perry. He's obviously a case for treatment by a Body Swap Movie.

Revisiting the trophy case at his old high school, Mike encounters a janitor who, from
the way he smiles at the camera, knows things beyond this mortal coil. If only Mike could go
back to 17 and not make all the same mistakes. In "17 Again," he can. He falls into a Twilight
Zone vortex and emerges as Zac Efron. They say be careful what you wish for, because you
might get it. Mike should have been more specific. Instead of wishing to be 17 again, he
should have wished to go back 20 years in time.

Yes, he becomes himself trapped inside his own 17-year-old body. Same wife,
same kids, same problems. As Old Mike getting divorced, he'd moved in with his best friend,
Ned , and now he throws himself on Ned's mercy: Will Ned pose as his father, so Young
Mike can be his son and help out his kids by enrolling in the same high school again? Ned,
who is a software millionaire and middle-age fanboy, agrees, especially after he falls
helplessly in love with the high school principal, Jane.

But at last, On the day of the court hearing to finalize Scarlet and Mike's divorce,
Mike makes one last attempt to win her back by reading a supposed letter from Mike. He
states that although he couldn't set things right in the beginning of his life, it doesn't change
the fact that he still loves her. After he exits, Scarlet notices that the "letter" is actually the
directions to the courtroom and she begins to grow curious. As a result, she postpones the
divorce by a month. Frustrated that he could not salvage his marriage, Mike decides to once
again pursue a scholarship and move on with a new life. During a high school basketball
game, Mike reveals himself to Scarlet. As Scarlet runs away, Mike decides to chase her
down, just like he did in 1989, but not before handing the ball off to his son. Mike is then
transformed back into his 37-year-old self, and happily reunites with Scarlet, saying that she
was the best decision he ever made.
As Mike prepares for his first day as the new coach at his kids' school, Ned, who has
successfully started a relationship with Jane, gifts him a whistle, both happy with their new
starts in life.

3.2 Parenting

Parenting may or may not form part of adulthood. Those that do have children often
report improved relationships once the children have left home provided that they remain in
contact with the children. Those that do not have children tend to spend more time involved
in companionate activities with one another.

Back in his 17-year-old body and with a new identity, Mike re-enrolls in his old school,
now attended by his children. However, Mike soon realizes that the second chance he has
been given is to be the father that he never was and to help his kids out of their various
difficulties. Specifically, his son is being bullied by the star of the basketball team who is also
dating and trying to seduce Mike’s daughter.

Young Mike becomes the new best friend of his insecure son, Alex. Then he meets
Alex's mom, Scarlet, who, of course, before the vortex was his wife, and before that his high
school bride. She thinks it's strange that he looks exactly like the boy she married at 17. He
explains he is the son of an uncle, who I guess would have to be Old Mike's brother, so it's
curious Old Scarlet never met him, but if she doesn't ask that, why should I?

In high school, Young Mike again becomes a basketball star, befriends Alex, and
attempts to defend his Gothish daughter, Maggie, against the predations of her jerk
boyfriend, who as a hot-rodding jock traveling with a posse is, of course, the last guy in
school who would date, or be dated by, a moody girl who wears black.

I've seen Body Switches before Tom Hanks in "Big". The first act of this movie
seemed all retread. Then it started to dig in. There are twin romances; as Shakespeare
demonstrated, one must be serious and the other farcical. Young Mike is still seriously in
love with his wife, Old Scarlet, and she is powerfully attracted to this boy who's a double for
her first love. She thinks that's wrong.
3.3 Bully

Stan is Maggie O'Donnell's aggressive boyfriend. He dumps her because she did not
want to have sex with him. Although Maggie is his girlfriend, he tortures her little brother,
whether it is stuffing him in the washing machine or duct taping him to the bathroom door.
He gets no repercussions for his actions until Mike berates him. Mike want to teach a lesson
to bully (Stan) the star of basket ball to backup his son and save a daughters life. So he get
a chance at cafeteria where he took his meal with his best friend or son Alex. So Stan arrive
there with his team and kiss Maggie and then hit Alex with his basket ball. So Mike took this
opportunity and start to insults him.

In his first insult Mike compares Stan to someone who is insecure, to a weak girl and
to a gay boy who doesn’t quite have the courage to come out of the closet. Mike’s comments
are sexist and homophobic. They are also inaccurate. Obviously, being female or being gay
have nothing to do with being a bully.

Nor does insecurity have much to do with being a bully. Psychological studies find
that most bullies “see themselves quite positively” and are unaware of what their fellow
students actually think of them. What makes most bullies starts in early childhood. They
have ingrained patterns of using aggression and hostility in their relationships with others. To
solve conflicts and get along in life, bullies rely on aggression and the fear and power that
their aggression creates. They have difficulty relating to people on other levels. Marano,
H.E., Big Bad Bully Psychology Today.

A feeling of insecurity is only one of many things that can trigger a hostile or violent
response from a bully. In fact, no trigger is necessary for a bully to be hostile or
aggressive.The idea that bullying behavior arises from feelings of insecurity comes from the
efforts of normal people to understand what makes a bully. When most people think about
this question they use the context of their own, more normal personalities. For them,
covering feelings of insecurity by lashing out at others is a natural, if dysfunctional, response.
However, bullies don’t see the world that way. For them, aggression, violence, and hostility
in human relations are the normal.
4. SOLUTIONS

4.1 Divorce

4.1.1 Go for counseling

Out of all of the ways in how to avoid divorce that will be shared in this article, this may
be the most effective one. Unfortunately, there are a lot of couples who will wait until they
feel totally hopeless within their relationship before even considering seeing a professional
marriage counselor, but the reality is that it’s healthy for all couples to go at least a couple of
times per year. That way, they can get tips and tools to either get viable remedies for the
problems they are having or to make their marriage even stronger. Marriage counseling is
proven to improve physical and emotional intimacy, increase communication and establish
an overall better connection between spouses which enables you to find solutions to divorce.

4.1.2 Honor and Respect Your Partner

People inevitably change over time. Understanding, appreciating, and adapting to

those changes is critical for any relationship. Start by making a list of your partner's best
qualities to remind yourself of the wonderful person you married. This exercise will help you
remember why you fell in love with them in the first place.

4.1.3 Communicate Regularly

In the age of smartphones, Netflix, and work-from-home lifestyles, it's easy to get
distracted. You might find that you often go days without having a real conversation with
your spouse. Communicating openly about your life, interests, dreams, frustrations,
and feelings is an important way to foster intimacy in a relationship.
4.2 Parenting

4.2.1 Children Who Do Not Obey:

Children often do this to show their importance. Saying no to what you want them to do
and disobedience in taking orders is very common.

Solution:

Don’t try to curb your child’s autonomy.

 At the same time, do not tolerate rude behaviour.

 You can always respect their opinions, but teach them what is right and wrong.

 Your calmness and composure will definitely soothe them.

4.2.1 Shy And Lack Of Confidence:

Some children shun company and are always lonely. This can be a cause for concern,
as parents may feel their child is getting left out.

Solution:

 If your child is going through this, you need to tread carefully.

 Understand his temperament.

 Whatever you do, do not force him to mix with others.

 It is often seen that after a certain age shyness vanishes.

 Get in touch with a therapist if he/she is not being able to mix with peers at all.

4.3 Bully

4.3.1 Empower Your Kids

One of the most helpful things you can do is provide your kids tools with tools for
dealing with bullying. Walking away, telling an adult, or telling the bully in a firm voice to stop,
are all strategies that you can practice with your child.It's also important to teach kids how
and when to report bullying when they witness it, and help them understand why they do not
want to be a bystander

4.3.2 Report Bullying Incidents

If your child tells you they are being bulled, start by contacting school personnel and
ask to meet with them in person. By holding a face-to-face meeting, you are demonstrating
that you’re committed to seeing that the issue resolved.It can also be useful to document all
bullying incidents. This will help you be prepared if the situation escalates and law
enforcement or other outside sources need to become involved.

4.3.3 Set boundaries with technology

Educate your children and yourself about cyberbullying and teach your children not to
respond or forward threatening emails. “Friend” your child on Facebook or Myspace and set
up proper filters on your child’s computer. Make the family computer the only computer for
children, and have it in a public place in the home where it is visible and can be monitored. If
you decide to give your child a cell phone think carefully before allowing them to have a
camera option. Let them know you will be monitoring their text messages. As a parent, you
can insist that phones are stored in a public area, such as the kitchen, by a certain time at
night to eliminate nighttime bullying and inappropriate messaging. Parents should report
bullying to the school, and follow up with a letter that is copied to the school superintendent if
their initial inquiry receives no response.Parents should report all threatening messages to
the police and should document any text messages, emails or posts on websites.
5. CONCLUSION

From my opinion this movie is really good to watch because it has some very
interesting value. The moral value in this movie is life must go on no matter what happen in
the past. Second, you should take care of your family and be with them all the time. Third,
you should appreciate her because choosing her was the best decision you make in your
life.
From the movie we can conclude when Mike first gets zapped back to pubescence, he
figures this “second chance” is all about him. “I have not done anything for me since 1989,”
he tells his nerdy best friend, Ned (who, it’s important to recall, hasn’t received the same
time-shifting treatment).

But Mike soon concludes that his trip back to high school isn’t so much about him as it
is about helping his kids through their own dilemmas. His son, Alex, gets targeted by the
school bully. And his daughter, Maggie, is going steady with said bully. So Mike decides to
use his new peer-to-peer influence to help Alex discover some self-confidence. And he
imparts to Maggie lessons in self-respect, staying chaste and choosing the right guy.

But while those unlikely mentoring relationships clip along, Mike also falls in love with
his own wife all over again. He watches with admiration as she tenderly mothers his kids. In
the process, he’s able to see her once more as his beloved soul mate—not as the ball and
chain that had kept him (he wrongly believed) from reaching his potential.

Granted, the fact that Scarlett’s in her late 30s and Mike appears to be 17 makes this
on-again romance feel a little uncomfortable. But in the movie’s ethos, it’s quite sweet. And
the two don’t fully get back together until after Mike turns back into his “old” self.“You’re the
best decision I ever made,” Mike tells Scarlett. “I just forgot.”

If we could go back in time, what would we change? That’s the central question in 17
Again a lightweight exercise in sentimental metaphysics that meanders in some problematic
directions in search of the right answer.

Zac Efron is likable as Mike, but he’s not particularly believable as a teenager going
through a midlife crisis.. But in some ways, perhaps that’s not such a bad thing. Along
comes Mike, a guy who’s given that very chance. He returns to high school with everything a
guy could ever want. He’s got killer looks, awesome athletic skills, a fancy car and a fat bank
account.
And yet he walks into his high school not as a child, but as an adult. He’s learned the value
of sexual responsibility (a lesson many of his teenage contemporaries and some of his
school’s employees definitely have not). He understands the importance of wisdom and
experience. And, as he looks at the world through his suddenly younger eyes, he realizes
that all he wants all he needs is the adult life he chose and made for himself.

values in this movie that you might wish to reinforce with your children include:

 the importance of appreciating what you have and making the most of it

 true love and family, and the sacrifices that can come with this

 standing up for yourself, for others and for what you believe

 being yourself and being proud of who you are.

This movie could also give you the opportunity to discuss the following attitudes and
behaviours with your children:

 bullying

 underage drinking and drink driving

 peer pressure.