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ROMANTIC LOVE
- most enduring subjects for artworks through the ages
- MOVES: The Notebook, A walk to remember, sana maulit muli, one more chance, valentines day,
Christmas, new year
- Takes two to tango: if there has been some unpleasant situation in which two people were involved,
NEED FOR AFFILIATION
- desire to establish and maintain relationships with others
1.LOVE AND BELONGINGNESS NEEDS
- social needs on 3 level of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs relate to human interaction, friendships,
rd
- Ambivalent - have difficulty leaving parents to explore, too clingy. Unlike avoidant children, anxious or
resistant children may have parents who are demonstrative of feelings, but not in tune with the
children's needs. they demand to be picked up but at the same time push the mother away.
- Disorganized - Disorganized attachment is linked with the caregiver behavior that (intentionally or
unintentionally) frightens children. abused or neglected are more likely to suffer from disorganized
attachment (Barnett et al 1999). But babies don't have to be abused or neglected to develop
disorganized attachment. children avoid eye contact.
ATTACHMENT STYLES AND ADULT RELATIONSHIPS
- Secure – comfortable expressing emotions openly. depends on partner, vise-versa. relationship based
on honesty, tolerance, and emotional closeness. tend to have positive perspective.
- Avoidant – ‘lone wolves’: strong, independent, and self-sufficient. adults like this generally avoid
emotional closeness. doesnt depend on others, vise-versa.
- Ambivalent – anxious adults seeks approval, support, and responsiveness from their partner. fears
abandonment, priorizes safety. provided with positive response from partner: remedies anxiety. lack of
response from partner: causes to be clingy and demanding.
- Disorganized-Disoriented – shows ambiguous behavior. wants intimacy, but at the same time have
trouble trusting and depending on others. cant regulate emotions well and avoid emotional attachment,
due to ther fear of getting hurt.
INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION
Inter – between personal – people.
Love is like a MAGNET. Both opposite but held together by a strong force. The FORCE OF LOVE.
SIMILARITY EFFECT
- bird of the same feather flocks together.
- similarities include: personality, values, goals and aspirations, similar socioeconomic status, social
circles etc.
- the greater the degree of similarity, the greater the attraction and liking.
Explanations:
2.) The fact that another person has attitudes and views similar to your own may confirm your
view of the world.
4.) People may like similar others because they assume that they will be liked by those others.
The more dissimilarities people find, the more apt they are to avoid an individual since they
assume that interaction will be unpleasant.
Dissimilarity of personality may lead to increased interpersonal attraction ---if those differences
allow a person to better fulfill the needs of another.
NEED COMPLEMENTARITY HYPOTHESIS – the notion that indivs. are attracted to others who
have significantly different personalities but whose needs complement theirs. Compatibility
matching (dominant wife-submissive husband).
Therefore married partners tend to be attracted to one another on the basis of similarity rather
than difference.