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In the early days of her marriage, Nazneen spends much of her time
watching a neighbor she refers to simply as “the tattoo woman” drink
beer. Nazneen invents a friendship with the woman, fantasizing about
sitting down to tea with her and talking about their days. White, fat, and
later institutionalized when she is found wallowing in her own filth, the
tattoo woman symbolizes the depth of Nazneen’s disconnection from her
home and culture. When Nazneen begins to venture out of her apartment,
she finds the city streets a maze of unfriendliness and teeming traffic. She
watches the white faces of businessmen and the white legs of business
women flash by her, and, sensing their judgement of her for being a
confused woman in a sari, clearly lost and out of place, she “began to be
aware of herself. Without a coat, without a suit, without a white face,
without a destination. A leafshake of fear—or was it excitement?—passed
through her legs. But they were not aware of her. In the next instant she
knew it.” Her self-awareness is short-lived. White disregard erases her, and
Nazneen exists mostly as an extension of her husband and, later, as a
mother to her children.
The self she constructs as a wife is on shaky ground from the start. Her
marriage to Chanu is, in its initial stages, characterized by indifference and
mild disgust. Their connection is almost nonexistent. He talks at her rather
than to her, preferring to pontificate about Bangladesh’s bloody and tragic
history under British colonial rule than hear what his wife has to say.
Nazneen hints that, like her friend, Razia, she would like to learn English,
but Chanu sees no reason for her to do so, thereby limiting her ability to set
down roots in her new home.
When Nazneen falls in love with Kamir, she admires how the young activist
appears to her to be completely secure in his place in the world, and she
finds his political passion and seemingly endless energy for pursuing social
justice irresistible. She starts attending the meetings of his pro-Islamic
youth group, the Bengal Tigers, and it would appear that she might find
herself in the love and education Karim offers her. It is, of course, not that
simple, and with so many people pulling her in different directions,
Nazneen suffers a nervous breakdown. She has given herself away to her
husband, her children, and her lover. There is nothing left over for herself.
It is only when Hasina writes to tell Nazneen that their mother did not die
accidentally as they’d always been led to believe but, instead, committed
suicide—the ultimate sin against the God Rupban always claimed to hold
above all else—that Nazneen truly begins to inhabit herself fully. The news
releases Nazneen from the burden of trusting in God and fate to determine
her future, since Rupban obviously defied her own belief system and took
decisive action, rather than waiting for Fate to determine when and how
she would die. Rupban’s action was self-annihilating. Nazneen’s, in
contrast, is self-affirming. She finds the courage to trust herself, telling
Karim she will not marry him and Chanu that, when he goes back to
Bangladesh, he will have to go alone.
Hasina, shortly after her marriage to Malek, writes to Nazneen that “Just
because man is kind to wife do not mean she can say what she like.”
Hasina, it would seem, is unable to hold her tongue like a good wife. Malek
beats her and she leaves him, but the news of Hasina’s escape is not
greeted with unmixed approval by either Nazneen or Chanu. Instead, they
worry about the scandal and about Hasina’s chances for happiness and
financial security without the benefit of a husband. The conventional
wisdom is that it is better to be married and beaten than unmarried and,
hence, unprotected.
Believing in the all-powerful force of fate allows first Rupban and then
Nazneen to avoid taking any action to determine the course of their lives. In
Rupban’s case, such fatalism leads to the kind of black despair that can
only be dispelled through suicide, and in Nazneen’s, an anxiety-inducing
cycle of self-blame and recrimination that likewise nearly deprives her of
her will to live.
Nazneen defies her mother’s fate decree when her own son Raqib gets
sick. She and Chanu rush Raqib to a London hospital, and Nazneen
remains by his bedside day after day, night after night, praying for his
recovery, fighting, if only in her mind, for his life. When he appears to
recover, Nazneen is filled with contempt for her mother’s passivity. She
wonders how Rupban could have possibly thrown her child to the vagaries
of fate when she could have had access to modern medicine. But when
Raqib dies, Nazneen is again plagued by uncertainty. Perhaps, she thinks,
she should not have stood in the way of his fate. The ghost of Rupban
appears to her and accuses her of causing her son’s death by interfering in
God’s plan, and Nazneen’s guilt burden, already substantial thanks to her
affair with Karim, is unnecessarily and unproductively redoubled.
Hasina, too, suffers under the delusion that God is punishing her for
imaginary wrongs. In reality, she is a victim of circumstance and a
hardened class system designed to reward the prosperous. At first glance,
Hasina would seem to be her sister’s opposite, her foil. Born beautiful and
stubborn, she is as strong-willed as her sister is timid. Rather than submit
to an arranged marriage, she runs off at sixteen to marry Malek, the
nephew of the village sawmill owner, and the love marriage is blissfully
happy for a short time. Also unlike Nazneen, Hasina remains in the country
of her birth, tied tightly to Bangladesh and its traditions. One of those
traditions, unfortunately, is ensuring that the wealthy get richer on the
backs of the poor.
After several bleak and desperate years of near starvation, Hasina finally
finds work as a house maid for the wealthy couple Lovely and James, she
settles in to the comfortable lifestyle their well-appointed home affords. She
pampers the children in her charge and, having lived on the street suffering
from hunger and illness, enjoys being clean and well-fed for once. All the
luxury around her belongs to someone else, though.
Lovely, whom Hasina looks up to at first, turns out to be petty, shallow, and
vindictive. Lovely sees the poor as unattractive and off-putting
inconveniences, and she is not alone in this view. Her husband James,
who is a powerful businessman specializing in plastics, and their circle of
wealthy friends enjoy all the benefits of a power structure biased in their
favor, blaming the less fortunate for their own plight. Hasina does not
openly dispute their worldview. She needs the job, and so humors and
flatters Lovely and bows and scrapes in the presence of James.
Nazneen and Hasina are not victims of Fate or God’s holy wrath. Rather,
they suffer the same random setbacks and successes as everyone else,
finding, in the end, the strength to set aside the often-damaging mythology
of their youth and finally live as free and independent women. For
Nazneen, that means no longer trusting her life to mysterious forces
beyond her control, and for Hasina, rejecting the notion that any suffering
she experiences is the result of God’s punishing her for her so-called sins.
Chanu finds even more evidence for his theory in the anti-Islamic hate
spewed regularly by an area white gang, the Lion Hearts. When the Lion
Hearts begin distributing anti-Muslim flyers in and around Tower Hamlets
estate, Chanu feels vindicated in his sense of history and racial warfare.
The pamphlets suggest that, far from being a religion of peace, Islam
advocates violence and flies in the face of everything British culture stands
for. Of course, in Chanu’s mind, England has no culture beyond beer and
cricket (and colonialism).
Chanu wants very much to give his daughters the gift of national pride. He
tries to introduce them to Bangladesh’s cultural and artistic leaders as well
as its illustrious past as a textile giant. Bibi, his youngest daughter, listens
to him with the rapt attention of a born people-pleaser, but it’s Shahana, his
oldest, who he hopes to influence, and who is stubbornly pro-West. She
doesn’t want to learn about Bengali poets and singers; she listens to
American pop; she prefers baked beans and ketchup to Bengali cuisine;
and she hates the idea, floated often by Chanu when he is at his most
discouraged with work and England’s racial politics, of going home to
Dhaka.
Other Tower Hamlets parents struggle to bridge the gap between what they
expect from their children as Bengalis, and what their children, as English
citizens, want from the world. Razia, short of money after the death of her
husband, doesn’t know how she is going to keep her children in the five-
pound notes they are always begging for. They lust after computers and
textbooks and pretty clothes. Later, like many other young people on the
housing estate, Razia’s son, Tariq, succumbs to heroin addiction. Razia is
then in the unenviable position of trying to cure her son of his dependency.
It’s a problem many immigrant parents never thought they would face, but,
as immigrant children embrace more and more the appetites of the West,
they are bound to fall prey to Western vices as well.
To save their children from the horror of drug addiction and the pitfalls of a
possible love marriage, many Tower Hamlets parents, including Jorina,
send their children home to Bangladesh, only to find in short order that the
children have gotten into more trouble at home than they might have in
England under the watchful eye of their mother and father. The folly, Ali
suggests, lies not necessarily with Western culture and naïve ideas about
romance, but in thinking one can shelter one’s children from pain.
Chanu arrived in London with unrealistic and outsized hopes. Those hopes
are then chipped away, day by day, year by tedious year, usually courtesy
of the relentless and soul-crushing forces of systemic racism. Chanu,
introspective and full of regret, tells Shahana that his life in England is
analogous to waiting forever for a bus to arrive, only to realize it’s already
full and going in the wrong direction. For her part, Nazneen, like many of
her fellow Tower Hamlets parents, is torn. She wishes Shahana would
show her father the respect and love he so desperately craves, but she’d
also like her daughters to be given chances she never had. Chanu only
wants to escape into the past because his present and future seem to him
so bleak. The Bengal Tigers, meanwhile, instead of presenting a solution to
the problems of immigrant fury and displacement, are a cautionary tale of
what happens when tribalism and tunnel vision trump cause. Razia is, as
usual, the voice of reason in this debate, revealing in her own practical
approach to her very real problems that immigrant life need not be a
tragedy. It is, instead, a marathon juggling act involving patience,
compromise, grit, and a willingness to reinvent oneself over and over, for
as long as it takes.