Past generations have had stronger and long lasting relationships.

To explain further, in the past

relationships were made from the roots of the ancient courtships, the medieval chivalry, and the victorian
formality.

 Ancient courtships had many different factors involved when it came to marriage and
relationships for example family’s arranged marriages between their children for the benefit of the
family, also when a woman was married off it was more like a business transaction because they
were considered property rather than a human being. Tribes used to make a peace transaction by
marrying off the chief’s daughters to another chief’s sons for the greater good of the tribes.
 Medieval chivalry was when men were “taught” to open doors, give a woman their jacket to stay
warm, pull out chairs, carry them over puddles, and have a gentleman’s manners. Still in this time
more often than not there were arranged marriages for money also known as dowries rather than
marrying for love.
 Finally victorian formality was a time when people began marrying for love, men would court a
woman, the courting was done in the women’s home with their parents present, as well as men and
women always need a chaperone to speak with each other or to go on dates with one another, and
proposals were written instead of done in person and when proposed to by the man a women
would write back her answer.

Now that you understand the three different styles of relationship that were created in the past
relationships you can see how family was everything and how men and women needed one another to
survive. In these times the men were the head of the household and the women took care of the house,
cooking, cleaning and the children while the men were away working to provide for their family.
Family’s believed strongly in family traditions,religions beliefs,the upkeep of the household and the
structure of the family. These values that they learned from their childhood reinforced the need to keep
a family together . If women went against the tradition of keeping a family together they were exiled
from their family but men were treated differently in that kind of situation. In the past divorce was
unacceptable but as more and more people started to get divorced it became something that had to be
accepted by society.

(Xong đến phần Now của Lan Tuong)

In order to make you guys see the differences, me and Lan Tuong will give out some specific examples :

1. Attitude to differences

- In the past, boys and girls always hope that there will be a common ground in their relationship. Before one
started a relationship, he/she may spend time looking for the person who share the same interest with them and
never look twice at someone whose hobby were so different from yours. When loving someone who have a
different hobby, couple may have blazing rows which easily led to break-ups.

- (Now cua Lan Tuong)

2. Values

- Back in former times, parents require a lot more from your mate than just love. They mostly want to know
what your mate’s job is, whether your mate have graduated from an outstanding university or not. Somehow,
parents during that times keep in their mind that for instance, their daughter will be safe and happy when she
got married to a handsome charmer with a shiny car and designed suits. Moreover, parents may force their
daughter to dump her boyfriend if he does not have an impressive college degree and a nice appearance.
- (Now của Lan Tuong)