Professional Documents
Culture Documents
ADMINISTRATORS
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FALAJIKI ABIODUN MICHAEL
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SELF DEVELOPMENT
• Ability to control your emotions
• Ability to calm yourself down when you're upset
and cheer yourself up when you're down.
• Ability to control and reduce impulses and
reactions
• To respond by having the judgment to think
before acting
• Ability to act in your long-term best interest,
consistent with your deepest values
THE SENSITIVE LINE
• The point at which individuals become defensive
when encountering information about themselves
that is inconsistent with their self-concept.
THE BLIND SELF
• The Blind Self is what you don’t see in yourself
but others see in you.
• You might see yourself as an open-minded person
when, in reality, people around you don’t agree.
• You might see yourself as a “dumb” person while
others might consider you incredibly bright.
• Sometimes those around you might not tell you
what they see because they fear offending you.
UNDERSTANDING SELF
Personality
• Enduring traits that make an individual unique.
• Your personality is how you think, feel, and act
• Understanding your personality will help you pick
a career you will like.
• Your personality can make you well suited for
certain types of work.
Interests
• Things you like to do
• Knowing and understanding your interests will
help you choose a career and plan your life.
• You can figure out your interests by thinking
about your experiences at school, home, work,
and in the community.
Experience and volunteer work
• Experience: Activities you have tried.
• Volunteer work: Work you do without receiving
pay.
Skills
• Abilities to do specific tasks.
• Your skills are your specific abilities
• Skills are things you know how to do.
• Taking care of children is a skill.
• Operating a wheelchair is a skill.
Types of Skills
• Job-specific skills:
• These are abilities you need to do a specific job,
like using a table saw.
• Transferable skills:
• These are general abilities, like reading and
writing
• And personal qualities, like responsibility and
honesty.
Knowledge
• Understanding facts.
• When you put knowledge and practice together,
you get a skill.
• To improve a skill, you need to learn more and
practice more.
• Practice means repeating something again and
again.
Talents
• Your talents are your natural gifts
• A talent is the ability to do something easily or
to learn something easily.
• You will be happier if you choose a career that
lets you use your special talents
Ways to identify your interests and talents
• Trying a wide range of activities
• Taking an interest or aptitude survey
• Paying attention to what other people say you do
well.
Self-image
• How you see yourself.
• Self-image is how you picture yourself in your
mind
• When you have a positive self-image, You feel
good about yourself.
• You can picture yourself achieving what you want
in life.
Self-esteem
• A positive feeling about yourself.
• When you see yourself in your mind, do you like
what you see?
• If so, you probably have high self-esteem.
ADVANTAGES OF SELF-ESTEEM
• It helps you feel confident.
• It helps you try new things
• It helps you learn.
• It helps you get along with other people.
• It helps you succeed at school and on the job.
INTERPERSONAL SKILLS THROUGH EMPATHY
• To communicate well, it is important to use
empathy.
• Empathy is caring about the feelings, thoughts,
and experiences of others.
• Use empathy when you talk and when you listen.
• If someone makes you upset, stay calm and ask
what the person meant to say.
• Communicating with empathy is very important on
the job.
• It helps you get along with customers,
coworkers, and supervisors.
STRUCTURAL CONFLICT
• The power of your powerlessness
• Many of us have a dominant belief that we are
not able to fulfill our desires -a by-product of
growing up
• We believe in our powerlessness -our inability to
bring into being all the things we really care
about.
• This illustrates the conflict -out vision pulling us
forward, while our belief in powerlessness pulls
us back
ELIMINATING SELF LIMITING BELIEFS
• Many of us do not believe that we are worthy or
deserving to have what we truly desire.
• Manifestations are:
• loss of energy
• Not able to finish the job
• Unexpected obstacles develop
• People let us down
• We don’t believe we can do it.
STRATEGIES FOR COPING WITH SELF LIMITING
BELIEFS
• Letting our vision erode self-limiting beliefs
• Will power/determination to get things done.
• We psych ourselves up to overpower all forms of
resistance to achieving our goals
• Motivate ourselves through heightened volition
• Tell yourself the truth
• Continually broadening our awareness
• Continually deepening our understanding current
events
ACTIONABLE AND DO-ABLE TIPS TO ENHANCE
SELF DEVELOPMENT AND PERSONAL
EFFECTIVENESS
Prioritize tasks
• Set priorities for each day by using the ABCD
category grid based upon urgency and
importance.
• A = Act now: B = Better earlier; C = Chase later;
D = Do, Delegate or Dump.
• Daily `do lists’ ideally are written down at the
start of the day or during the previous day.
Remove clutter
• Removing physical clutter from our everyday life
allows us to focus better upon what is important
rather than what is a continual distraction.
• Getting clutter out of sight is a good way to keep
it out of our minds
Develop Good Habits
• Acquire and develop good habits to replace doing
the things that we are not very happy about.
• Stopping any bad habit is notoriously difficult
for most people
• it is easier to displace it with some better habit.
Write Down Goals
• Writing down our goals, aims or objectives
enables us to clarify them, to focus upon them
and to commit to their accomplishment.
• Having goals that are not written down achieves
the opposite effect and then they lose their
impact.
Plan Ahead
• Planning the use of our time enables us to use
that time more efficiently particularly when we
are faced with several demanding tasks.
• Also, having a plan will often mean that we can
gauge progress and therefore gain satisfaction
and motivation.
Keep Promises
• Keeping promises preserves our credibility and
integrity.
• Other people then view us as dependable and
reliable.
• Breaking promises is the fastest way of removing
our personal effectiveness and credibility
Be Decisive
• Being decisive about the myriad of daily events is
far more effective than dithering or not making
decisions
• People who do not know what they want in life, or
lack direction, or have no plan or suffer great
stress will all have some difficulty in making good
decisions.
Invigorate voice tone
• Make your voice go up and down in pitch and
volume to reflect the message that you wish to
convey.
• Take your lead from the wide range of public
speakers that you might hear in person, on the
radio or on television.
Smile
• Develop a smile that is warm and genuine and use
it whenever you interact with others, even over
the telephone.
• People will then be attracted more to what you
have to say.
• A false smile will achieve the opposite.
Use body language
• It encourages people to believe more easily the
message that we are trying to convey.
• Body language that sends a message different to
our words will totally undermine our message.
• Using appropriate body language enables us to
generate much greater impact with our spoken
words.
Listen Attentively
• Listening to others in a manner that active and
responsive is a prime key to personal
effectiveness.
• We are all rapidly turned off by people who do
not listen to us or who only half listen and then
jump in with what they want to say.
Maintain `Soft' Eye Contact
• Maintaining a form of eye contact that is
attentive without staring is a key skill in personal
effectiveness.
• It shows others that you are listening and that
your thinking is not some distance away.
Assert yourself
• Being assertive - standing up for one's personal
rights while respecting the rights of others - is a
balanced way to communicate and behave
effectively.
• It can also build confidence and feelings of self-
esteem.
Persistence
• Keeping going in the face of enormous adversity
sets apart people who are really effective.
• No-one wants to hear from people who gave up at
the first obstacle
Empathise
• Trying to see things from another's point of view
• Empathizing - can help us to achieve the required
depth of understanding.
• With a proper understanding we can choose the
most appropriate ways to respond to others.
• That makes us more effective.
• We openly wish for the consequences of error to
be wiped away.
• Asking may be the only way to achieve that.
Ask Forgiveness
• Asking forgiveness from others is an act of
modesty and humility where we openly admit to
some mistake or error of judgement that we
have made.
Seek Feedback
• Being open to, and actively seeking feedback
from others
• Whether that may be praise, criticism or some
of each - sends a powerful message that we wish
to improve what we do.
• People who simply defend their current position
are less likely to improve
• And are also less likely to influence others on a
personal level.
Use Questions
• Asking relevant questions - open or closed -
enables us to maintain our interest in others and
understand their situation more fully.
• We can then use that understanding to influence
how they communicate and behave.
Avoid negative people
• Escaping and successfully avoiding the vast
amount of negativity that so many people
generate is a well-honed skill.
• This negativity is all around us and is propagated
intensely through modern media.
CONCLUSION
• Everyone has a business to run, whatever your
business is, you -will have to manage
customers/clients, produce a quality product or
service and use your resources well.
• To achieve your goals, you will not only have to
manage other people, but you will have to manage
yourself first.
• Being professional means being self-aware,
managing and developing self, being visionary,
having clear goals, being creative, acquire critical
thinking skills and above all, maintain a work-life
balance to avoid unnecessary stress.
• Therefore, the need for self- awareness,
development and management.
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