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Congrats!
This is a huge step. Too many partners go through
their lives together without a plan. They don’t know
where they are going. Sure, they have goals
individually, but they rarely share those goals with
each other.
What is the result of this? They end up growing apart.
You have heard that excuse before when a
relationship ends. “We just grew apart?”
Last, make a commitment to each other to get some outside help if this is a
struggle for you. You don’t need couples therapy if you struggle with goal
setting at first, but you may need someone to guide you through the
process. We are happy to help with this-- email us at
collab@bashleymoyer.com.
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few items at first, but then it gets difficult. It sure got hard for us.
That is when it’s time to expand your thinking.
SIDE NOTE:
Feelin' stuck?
We thought back to
ours dreams as kids.
Continue to add to your list often. We also keep running notes in our phones. When we get an idea
from someone we just add it to our note. You can add it to your list as quickly as you send a text.
We often joke about stealing dreams from other people. When you hear someone else or another
couple talk about something they just did or a dream they have and it sounds fun to you... STEAL IT by
adding to your list!
One time we heard someone talking about wanting to stay at a hotel made of ice that they saw on The
Travel Channel. We added that to our list because come on, who doesn’t think that sounds cool!? Get it,
cool?
Feel free to steal from us. Some of the other things on our dream list are: Live in Hawaii, start a family
foundation (we have made strides in this one), and learn to speak another language.
As a couple, we know that WE make any dream come true. And so can you! The first step though, is the
actually dream it.
Continue when (and only when!) you have completed all fifty lines on the dream list.
To be fully prepared, go through the above section a few more times together to ensure you both fully
understand. All that really matters though is that you are on the same page with your future goals.
Go back to your Dream List and begin pulling out items for your goal list. You don’t have to have 10.
Maybe you want less. Just no more than 10.
Top 10 Goals
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We're going to challenge you (A little)...
Each item on your list demands careful thought and introspection. No one else
Feelin' stuck?
can do your thinking for you. BUT... we've put together a list of questions to What are the benefits of
get you thinking. accomplishing the goal?
Is this a journey goal or a
These two questions don’t require written answers, but writing does add destination one?
clarity. What will be the key
milestones along the
Go through each goal on your list and ask yourselves... way?
Do you really want it? Is it worth the time, energy, money, relationships, effort
and all the other resources involved?
If the answer is yes, great! But don’t be afraid of No. The timing may not be
right. It is okay to remove a goal from your list. Don’t waste time on something
you both don’t really want.
Whatever held you back before is important. It could hold you back again. The
key is to get ahead of it. When you both understand why you haven’t achieved
the goal before, you can decide how best to overcome the challenges ahead.
Belief in yourselves is an attitude. You and your partner alone can determine
your level of success and happiness in life. Armed with belief in yourselves and
a passion for making your dreams reality, the obstacles and circumstances
which have held you back are suddenly no longer valid.
Working together, you will find a way to move your lives forward, to accomplish
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everything you have ever wanted and build the best partnership ever! Who else must we
involved in the process?
How will we celebrate
Copyright 2018 Billy and Ashley Moyer when we are successful?
You guys have now spent time together creating a Obstacles - We have come to understand that there
Dream List and a Top 10 List. How do you feel? are three main obstacles to every goal we set
together.
We love talking about our future together. It motivates
us. It excites us. And it really helps bring us together. 1. Us - We get in our own way a lot and we always
Hopefully you both feel the same way! need to think of solutions that will help us overcome
our own struggles. A true team of two keeps each
But the work is not over. You now have some clarity on other motivated and keeps each other from being the
where you want to go together, but... obstacle to achievement.
How can you make sure you 2. Everyone else - Other people are both the
obstacle and solution to every goal you will ever set.
You must ensure that they remain a solution. Think
accomplish your goals together? through how other people in your life might be
obstacles and how they can also be solutions.
The key is ACTION. 3. Other Goals - Two goals can be in conflict with
one another. Or maybe your individual goals end up
Each goal should be accompanied by an action plan. competing with your goals together. If you have some
which includes a list of possible benefits, obstacles, conflicting goals be sure to determine which one is the
solutions for overcoming those obstacles, and some most important and work on that one first.
kind of method for tracking progress.
Tracking Progress - Monitoring progress allows you to
Benefits - You only do things for two reasons, to gain a dedicate the right amount of time and energy to
benefit or avoid a loss. Each of your goals should have achieving your goals together. We like using
very clear benefits. This is what will motivate the two barometers to track out progress on major goals. It
of you! If the benefits are not strong enough you may makes us feel like we are leading a major fundraiser.
give up. Losses to be avoided are short-term
motivators. These are hard for some people to Action Steps - Each goal you set should have multiple
understand. Think about it like this, if we don’t steps to go through before you accomplish it. These
accomplish the goal what will we lose or miss out on are mini-goals. Set target dates for your action steps
together? This is a loss to be avoided. and then begin scheduling time on your calendar to
work on the action steps.
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For many partners (including us!), developing Action Plans seems like a time-consuming and elaborate process.
But it gets easier with practice.
We believe this entire goal setting process is worth the time and energy that we put into it. It is worth it because
it leads to us achieving our goals together. It leads to success together. And it ensures that we are growing
together rather than apart.
Once you have gone through this entire process it is time to START.
We are not just planning or like some people in our home state of Texas say “fixin to start”. Goal setting is about
planning, which hopefully you have now spent a lot of time doing together.
But Goal Getting is about ACTION. It is now time to get moving on the goals you have set together.
You are successful together the minute you start working towards the goals you have set. Why not start today?
Once we have gone through the process we laid out for you, we then look at our calendars and begin scheduling
actions steps.
We make sure we are working on something every day that is
moving us closer to our goals.
We check-in with each other sometimes daily, weekly and
definitely monthly to ensure we are on track and that the
goals are still worth it to us.
It takes time to set goals. It takes time to plan to achieve
those goals. And it takes time throughout the year to
manage our progress.
But it is always worth it when we are celebrating our
victories together.
It is worth it because we know we are on the same
page. We are growing together.
Be sure to make this process your own. The steps we laid out are important to follow, but you don’t have to do
everything our way. Find what works for you. Just be sure to do this together. It will help you build on your
already great relationship.
Lastly, we want to leave you with a word that really spells out goal setting in partnerships. If you want to be
successful, to grow together by setting goals all you have to do is…
COLLAB.
C – CLARITY, which we touched on quite a bit. Your goals must be clearly defined.
O – OUR because these should be your goals together. It’s not about you individually.
L – LIMIT. Your goals should be time-limited and know that your potential together is unlimited.
L – LOVE. Your love and commitment to each other is amazing. Remember that through this process.
A – ACTION. You must plan for action and be willing to take action together in order to accomplish your goals.
B – BELIEVE. Believe in the power of your partnership and know you can have everything you want in your life
together, just not all at the same time.
Goal setting and getting starts with a desire to change your future together and ensure that it is the best
possible future. We know you can do it.
Let us know if we can help you along your journey together. You are not alone. We are here for you and you
always will have each other.
Email - collab@bashleymoyer.com
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