How an excellent eagle uses the buddy bench!

3 styles of
communication
ss in g w ha t y o u w a n t o r
Passive: not expre
need
r e ssin g y o u r n eeds
Aggressive: o n ly e xp
t h e rs’ f e e li n gs
sp e c t fo r o
without showing re
f o r w ha t y o u w an t or
Assertive: Askin g
e e d in a fi r m , r e sp e c tful way
n
How not to play: Passive
How not to join in: Aggressive
How to join and play!
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Which c
t h e e a g l e p l e d g e ?
helps us live

● RESPECTFUL
● RESPONSIBLE
● READY TO LEARN
❖ Stand nearby,
watch, and listen
ie nd to join you at the
hOW TO A S K a fr
❖ Give a buddy bench
compliment, ask a
question, or offer
help

❖ Assertively ask to
join in
A very special place A place to sit and
that reminds you to The right way to use the bu
ddy decide what looks
be your kindest bench interesting to you to
selves. play on the
playground
A place to include A place to say “yes!”
people in your play to new friends who
and make new ask you to play
friends
A place to hang out A place where you say
and play with friends The wrong way to use the “no!” to a friend
you already have buddy bench who invites you to
play

A place where being A place where

mean or hurtful is excluding others is
ok ok
If after trying the
Buddy Bench you
and your friends
still need help, ask
a trusted adult to
guide you toward
an activity or
remind you of the
Buddy Bench rules
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