PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Objective:
1. Evaluate his/her own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors

You cannot escape life challenges so you should know how your thoughts, feelings, and actions in managing personal agency
should be handled.

Thoughts are impression activated by a stimulus in your mind that is evident from the environment that you are in. This
conscious thought occupies emotions that give life to thoughts and it expressed through feelings. Sometimes when you are too
emotional, you could not think properly because your emotions occupy your thoughts, this means there is lesser space to
analyze the situation because feelings occupy it. Behaviors are bodily reaction made based on our feelings that result to actions.

Conflict Management Diagram

Situation 1: You are walking alone on the road that is so dark and you heard a whimper nearby.
Situation 2: You are working on your research paper and you need to concentrate on it, but your brother plays his electric guitar
despite you calling his attention many times.
Situation 3: You are about to enter the door of your house then you hear your father who is drunk shouting sarcastically at you
because it is already past 8:00 pm when you class ends at 3:00 pm.
Situation 4: Your teacher tells you that you that you have been selected as the representative of the school to compete for a
division contest and this is your first time to participate in a competition.
Situation 5: You are the leader of your group but while presenting the concept that you worked on the whole night, but your
ideas fail to impress one of your classmates which upset you.

Objective:
1. show the connections between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in actual life situations.

I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud

by William Wordsworth
I wandered lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o'er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;
Beside the lake, beneath the trees,
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.
 Continuous as the stars that shine
And twinkle on the milky way,
They stretched in never-ending line
Along the margin of a bay:
Ten thousand saw I at a glance,
Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.
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The waves beside them danced; but they
Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:
A poet could not but be gay,
In such a jocund company:
I gazed—and gazed—but little thought
What wealth the show to me had brought:
For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.

By analyzing the poem and relating this to your everyday life as an adolescent, you can now clearly identify the
connections between your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. As discussed above, the three do not necessarily have to be of the
same succeeding level or intensity that one of them may contradict or control the others. That is the reason that as a responsible
adolescent, it is imperative that you evaluate yourself through self-assessment. Self-assessment is your own assessment of your
thoughts, feelings, and behaviors which is completely necessary for you to arrive to an informed decision. However, while
decisions may be individual, these are affected by factors like values, goals, and positive affiliations. In the study of B. Bradford
Brown entitled The Psychology of Adolescence, he wrote that the aforementioned factors are affected by positive family and
community context, emphasizing that skills to deal with anxiety and adversity are also keys. Hence, an individual must be able to
assess himself or herself accurately prior to making decisions as the outcomes of his or her actions can be the reflections of how
he or she is raised, chooses peers, and deals with the community.
Meanwhile, in an online article published in carolinapeds.com entitled “The Connection Between our Thoughts, Feelings,
and Behaviors, the author Courtney Bancroft”, it was discussed that the three are connected with one another in such a means
that when one (e.g. thought) or any two of the three (e.g. thought and feeling) is/are on negative pole, it may be changed by
having the remaining factor/s focused
on the positive pole.

Questions:

-Have you had an experience when your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors agreed with one another? What
situation was that?
-Have you had an experience when your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors disagreed with one another? What
situation was that? How did you arrive to an informed conclusion afterwards?
-Why do you think that at times, people tend to have thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that do not agree with
each other?
-Can we control our thoughts, feelings, and behavior? How can we do that?

Activity 1.1 Making Connections

In this activity, you are given a set of situations where you should track your thoughts, feelings, and
behavior until you reach a decision. Your answer must be in full sentence or paragraph, depending on
your intent. Use a different sheet of paper.

1. You saw one of your friends getting something from the teacher’s drawer without permission. What
would your decision be?
2. You felt an urge to help an old man crossing the street, but you are already in the jeepney. How would
you decide on it?
3. One of your neighbors is insulting the religion of your other neighbor by posting blasphemous articles
on social media. How would you decide on it?