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Introduction
The practice of counselling in India has a short history but an ancient past. I
begin this chapter with a brief overview of the present status of counselling needs and the
challenges that confront the practice of counselling in India. A significant portion of the
chapter is then dedicated to examining a frame of reference that could inform the
insights into the field of counselling in India would do well to take into account the
impact that philosophy, religion and spirituality have had on Indian culture. Indian
philosophy is replete with concepts and constructs, all of which could in someway be
related to assumptions that surround emotional well being. This chapter introduces the
influence the practice of counselling in India. I will attempt to do this by delineating key
philosophic constructs, drawing upon illustrations from field research and my own case
records.
Western, academic psychology was introduced to India about 75 years ago and at
undergraduate or postgraduate levels. The focus of these courses has largely been on
Counselling psychology is a more recent addition to the group of subjects taught under
when the Acharya Narendra Dev Committee underlined the importance of counselling
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and guidance in education. Subsequently, various commissions from the early 1950s
national level. Bhatnagar (1997), in her review, pointed out that counselling and
guidance thrived and grew in India during the 1960s – 70s. Guidance and counselling
were considered to be new and emerging forces that were vitally important to the
education system. The same vigour was not seen between the late eighties and nineties
and interest in guidance and counselling diminished. Evidence of this decline in interest
is seen in the number of research studies available for review. While approximately 160
studies were identified between 1974 and 1987, barely 13 studies were identified for the
period between 1988 – 1992 (Bhatnagar, 1997). The recent past, however, has seen a
significant increase in the demand for counselling services at the national level. For
example, strong recommendations have been made for policy action to support
counselling services for adolescents (Report of the Working Group on Adolescence for
the 10th Five Year Plan, 2001). Counselling was also identified as an essential service by
the national framework curriculum review in 2005 (Position Paper of the National Focus
Group on Work and Education, 2005). The strongest attention toward counselling has
emerged from the school sector. During its 2001 national conference, the Central Board
for Secondary Education (one of the largest education Boards in the country), resolved
that it would be mandatory for all of its schools to have trained school counsellors.
Training opportunities have become available over the last few years that range
from full time post graduate degree programmes to certificates and diplomas. Post
departments of psychology, education and social work. The National Council for
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Educational Research and Training (NCERT, Government of India) offers a post
graduate diploma in Guidance and Counselling. Private organisations offer post graduate
counselling are available through the distance education mode. The length of these
programmes range between short 10 day certificates and diplomas to full time two year
post graduate courses. Students have the option of specialising in a specific client group.
counselling, and educational counselling. The better courses require students to obtain
neglect of quality. India has not as yet defined the parameters for counsellor
qualifications and ‘counselling’ is a term that is loosely used. The nature and scope of
counselling itself remains poorly articulated. Monitoring of counsellor training does not
occur in a systematic manner. Someone who has gone through a three-day ‘counselling
skills workshop’ could be referred to as a counsellor just as easily as someone else who
has gone through a two year programme. At present there is no licensing system for
counsellors.
very little has emerged in terms of Indian models for counselling (Arulmani 2007). The
attempt seems to have been to adopt (or at best adapt) Western concepts with little or no
consideration for ‘discovering’ new approaches and validating them for the Indian
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situation. On a more positive note, an emerging trend is a gradual move toward more
varied approaches to counselling. Although these courses are few and far between, they
have set valuable training objectives “to sensitise learners to the possibilities and
Counselling, Bangalore University, 2007). Course content includes skills to use yoga,
survey (Arulmani & Nag, 2006) of 12 different Indian regions reaching a sample of over
7000 young people revealed that less than 10% of this sample had access to any form of
counselling. These findings echo trends from the preceding decade where Bhatnagar and
Gupta (1999) found that formal counselling services were available only in 9% of schools
in India.
counsellors cover the entire gamut of mental health needs, ranging from severe psychotic
disorders, substance abuse, counselling for career development and questions about
Finally, the need for counselling in modern India manifests itself against a
background of social change, the nature and pace of which is unprecedented. A decade
of economic reforms has pushed India towards becoming one of the world's fastest
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growing economies. This in turn has given the need for counselling a new complexion.
The ripple effect of a rapidly globalising world, increasingly coming under the control of
the free market economy has also arrived at the door step of the Indian counsellor.
Economically empowered Indian women, for instance, no longer need to silently accept
abuse and disregard. Age old values are now questioned. The belief that marriage is a
life long commitment, for better or for worse, for example, is no longer as unshakable as
it was. Marital discord is on the increase, as are divorce rates. The Indian middle class
high school student is typically required to put in almost 16 hours of study a day, in order
to beat the competition and win a seat in a course leading to a degree in engineering or
medicine. Counsellors are repeatedly presented with young people who were forced to
choose careers that were popular and ‘in demand,’ but who soon discovered that their real
interests and talents lay elsewhere. Increasing numbers of young workers show flagging
motivation and often express the desire for a career shift within the first year of working.
On another plane, ‘development’ has become a double edged sword, benefiting a few but
exploiting a large number only for the ‘cheap labour’ they offer. Aggression and violence
fed by resentment are increasingly seen. These are examples of the complexities that the
counsellor practicing in India faces today. I will examine the issues that surround the
of recent advent in India. Indian scholars have consistently pointed out that modern
Western psychotherapy and counselling have at best a tenuous foot hold in India (e.g.
Neki, 1975). One of the reasons for the apparent failure of counselling to ‘take’ in Indian
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soil could be that the development of psychology in India has been a largely Euro-
American enterprise (Dalal & Misra, 2001). These arguments point to deeper questions
Western contexts.
theology and metaphysics, separated itself from its earlier preoccupation with the “soul,”
and oriented itself instead to the study of “behaviour.” It committed itself to the
epistemology of logical positivism and chose as its tools the inductive process of
scientific reasoning. The discipline of counselling psychology emerged from within this
framework, in direct response to psychological needs that had their roots in the Western
emerged in the West were created by members of a particular culture in response to needs
expressed from within this culture. The approaches were in effect developed by a people,
and for a people, with certain cultural orientations. One of the reasons for the success of
these approaches could be that both the creators of the service and the consumers of the
service have been culturally prepared in a closely similar manner to offer and partake of
the service. They share a similar vocabulary of values and cherish a particular approach
could be developed and were necessary and sufficient for the Western context. The key
point to be noted is that the same conditions may be neither necessary nor sufficient for a
people from a different cultural heritage. A counselling approach that is empirical and
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individualistic in its orientation, for example, may not find resonance amongst Indians,
whose culture has prepared them over the ages to approach their existence in an intuitive,
building bridges that would allow counsellors from different persuasions to function in
tandem (Laungani, 2005). This chapter argues that cultural preparedness must be
context.
with the questions that surround diversity. The source of this diversity has its roots in
India’s ancient past. The landmass that today is called India was gradually populated
over two thousand years by people from diverse backgrounds through a natural process
groups of people from other regions of the world settled in India, they brought with them
their own traditions, social norms, rituals and ways of living (Thapar, 1966). Notably,
diverse groups seem to have learned to coexist rather than merge. Terms such as
‘encompass’ (Dumont, 1970) and ‘enfold’ (Sinha & Tripathi, 2002) have been used to
describe this process whereby people retained their cultural characteristics while
simultaneously living in accord with those whose cultures were dissimilar from their
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own. Over the ages, this has led to the gradual evolution of a cultural atmosphere that
has allowed for the coexistence of contradictions (McKim Marriot, 1989; Sinha &
Tripathi, 2002). This deeply ingrained toleration of ambiguity seems to be the thread that
draws together the diverse elements that compose Indian culture. The following detail in
It was the 8th of August 1942. The ‘Quit India’ resolution had been passed by the
All India Congress Committee marking another phase in the civil disobedience
movement across the country. Massive strikes were organised that brought the vast
calico textile industry in Western India to a grinding halt. Factories were closed.
Workers refused to join duty. Tension was in the air. Within this environment, charged
with discord and hostility, occurred an interaction between two men. One of them – the
owner of a textile mill that had been shut down – took it upon himself to care for the
wellbeing, ease and even sought the counsel of the very man who was responsible for his
worries. And the instigator of all the trouble on his part lavished praise and expressed his
admiration of the mill owner. This instigator was Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi,
revered in India as the ‘father of the nation.’ The viewpoints that these two men held
were contradictory and perhaps irreconcilable. They were in fact adversaries. Yet they
seem to have been able to compartmentalise their sharp disagreements and sustain a
meaningful personal engagement. The interaction between Mahatma Gandhi and the mill
owner reflects a cultural process that allowed (or perhaps required) them to abide
within a cultural matrix that allows for relationships to be formed and maintained despite
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Culturally prepared for Individualism, collectivism or something else?
studies throw a different light on this view. Sinha and Tripathi (2002), moved away from
three alternative statements. The first and second alternatives addressed I/C respectively
while the third alternative offered the respondent a mixture of individualistic and
collectivistic elements. Their findings indicated that the majority of their participants
demonstrated mixed orientations. Similarly, Arulmani and Nag (2006) found that Indian
orientations were not individualistic versus collectivistic, but were in fact a combination
of the two. To illustrate, I present below extracts from the responses of two participants
from our surveys (Arulmani & Nag 2006) to the sentence stub: “I want to be….”
“A perfect woman as well as a perfect architect. First I am a girl and then an architect.
I will achieve this…”
17 year old girl, middle class family, from a mid sized town in Eastern India.
“I want to be a police officer. This will realize my dream and the dream of my father of
seeing me in uniform. We are four sisters. I want to give ‘something’ to my parents as a
‘son’ might have given. People should not sympathise with them for not having a son…”
16 year old girl, low income family, from an urban slum, in a large South Indian city.
The point that seems to emerge is that Indians are collectivistic with reference to certain
cultural constructions but they are individualistic with reference to other engagements
with life. The primacy of the family and caste and kinship bonds could be examples of
thread that runs through the responses of the young people cited above is their struggle to
blend the assertion of self on the one hand, with family values on the other.
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Religion occupies a central position in Indian culture. Almost all aspects of life
have religious connotations and are coloured by religious beliefs. For example, most
forms of classical Indian art have been inspired by religious themes. Almost all
would invoke the gods and ask for their blessing. India is home to some of the major
surrounded by its own unique culture propagates a certain way of life. The objective of
this chapter is not to look for the interface between religion and counselling. My attempt
instead is to derive principles that could be integrated into a counselling approach that is
person to engage with life. Hinduism pre dates the advent of other religions in India and
is today practiced by more than 80% of the population. Several aspects of the Hindu way
of life have permeated the Indian peoples’ engagement with life, irrespective of their
religious persuasion. Ideas and constructs that originated in Hindu thought have over
time been assimilated into Indian epistemology and today have a strong influence on
Indian culture. The following section will use some of these ideas to articulate culturally
The most fundamental aspect of the Indian view rests upon the postulation that
boundaries between the self and the other are porous. The individual and the cosmos, the
self and nature, the person and society are all perceived as being a part of a single
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continuity. Such a world view presents a platform upon which separateness as well as
Relationships between self and other are governed by the principle of dharma –
an ancient concept that seems to have been first articulated two millennia ago in the
Rigveda. In a cosmic sense, dharma underlies the harmony seen within the natural
world. In its most common usage dharma is understood as the ‘appropriate way of
human personality comprises three gunas or qualities – sattwa, rajas and tamas. This
was the basis for guiding young people toward occupations for which they were suited.
system takes a life-span approach and provides guidelines for fulfilling specific aspects of
one’s dharma and varna as one progresses through the stages of life.
progresses, ends and begins once again. The doctrine of Karma Yoga qualifies the
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manner in which the individual engages with his or her duties, roles and responsibilities.
absence of passion. The motivation to work is not what one gains from it. Instead, one is
required to perform one’s duty with the highest degree of effectiveness, without being
driven by self-centered desires. Taken together samsara and karma describe life as being
a cycle that perpetuates itself (Pederson 1979). Karma is a thread that draws the past,
present and future together. The actions of the past qualify the present and the actions of
Indian scholars have found that these concepts have a significant bearing on
everyday life in the Indian context. Sinha (1969) examined the aspirations of rural
Indians. He reported that when asked to describe a ‘happy life,’ his respondents referred
initially to materialistic endeavours but quickly began to equate happiness with religion
and spirituality. Roy and Srivastava (1986) conducted a series of open-ended interviews
with individuals and groups from rural backgrounds in North India. The sample included
different castes as well as a cross section of Muslim groups. Content analysis of the
responses revealed that although these were semi-literate people with no access to
philosophic texts, their view of life was a reflection of dharma, karma, samsara and
nishkama which seemed to be integral to their orientations to life, work and interpersonal
relationships. For example, one of the respondents – a farmer, held the view that total
“God gives rewards and punishments according to a man’s karma…” Concepts such as
these have their roots in India’s ancient past and represent traditional India. The question
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that surfaces then is: Does this traditional approach to life continue to influence lifestyles
in modern India?
Contemporary India
development has triggered tremendous social change. The need for counselling in
contemporary India manifests within a social, cultural and economic ethos that this
country has not experienced before. I present an excerpt from my case notes to illustrate
This was an interaction with a 24 year old woman working as a Call Centre Agent
in a Business Process Outsourcing company. She came from a traditional Indian middle
class home and had grown up in an urban environment. She held a bachelor’s degree in
commerce. Given below are excerpts reconstructed from my case notes of my first (and
Client:
Some of my friends have come to you for help to leave their job as call centre operators.
But I don’t want to leave. I am happy with the job. I earn well. I want to know how to
come up in this job and reach the top in this job.
Counsellor:
How have you done at your job so far?
Client:
Average. I should have risen higher by now. I am more or less where I started. My
performance appraisal said I get irritated with callers. That’s why I have come to you.
Counsellor:
What makes you irritated?
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Client:
I don’t like answering only to people’s complaints. The whole time I have to listen to the
complaints of someone from another country. You are a psychologist. You know how to
change my personality to suit my job requirement.
Counsellor:
Changing a person’s personality is difficult and most often not necessary. Your physical
and emotional health are far more important than your job.
Client:
I can’t leave this job. I have taken many loans based on my income. I will not earn as
much as I am earning now in any other job. I can’t quit. If you can’t help me change my
personality, then I will go to some other expert.
Counsellor:
Do you know of any one who can do that?
Client:
Yes! There are many experts. I know an astrologer who can do that.
Counsellor:
I can only help you learn to help yourself. I do believe that you can learn to help
yourself. What this means is that I am willing to work with you, but you are the one who
is really at the centre of our interactions. Think about what I have said and let me know
if you would like to continue.
The session ended on this note. The client did not return. Routine telephonic
follow up a month later indicated that she had indeed visited her astrologer who through
his divinations found that she was unsuited for the job that she held. He had advised her
to look for another job. My client took his advice, found employment as a receptionist in
contemporary India. It raises the question of a counselling paradigm that could respond
to these needs with effectiveness. It raises again the issue of cultural preparedness. In
this case, clearly, a therapeutic relationship was not forged and a number of questions
surface: How could the counsellor have been more effective? Would it have been
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possible at all to establish a counselling relationship with this young person on her terms,
rather than on the terms dictated by the school of counselling to which the counsellor was
committed? I was stung in the first instance by my client’s rejoinder that she would
rather go to her astrologer to find answers to her situation. And then my chagrin knew no
bounds when I learned that she had followed the astrologer’s advice! My initial response
of course was one of indignation. However, I gradually realised that this client was
embedded in a culture that was different from the culture that had spawned the form of
counselling I was trained to administer. I could (and did) of course say that the suitability
of this client was low for counselling! What I failed to consider was the possibility that it
was in fact the suitability of my form of counselling that was questionable for her. It
dawned upon me that my client did in fact receive a type of “counselling” from her
astrologer. This form of counselling did not have its cultural orientation in the tenets of
Western psychology. It was rooted in Indian tradition – a tradition of which both the
counsellor (astrologer) and counselee were a part. The astrologer delivered a form of
counselling for which the young woman was culturally prepared. It was to answer the
that I visited the consulting rooms of traditional healers. I briefly report below my
My approach was to first ask my client group the following question: “To whom
do you turn when you or your family are in distress?” Their responses in fact reflected
the findings of a comprehensive survey that at some point in their lives more than 90% of
Indians use the services of the priest, the faith healer, the astrologer, the “holy man,” the
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guru and a wide range of others who are sanctioned representatives of religion, including
1991). I presented myself as client to six of the most well-known astrologers in South
India. While there were individual variations in the approach taken, the common
principles in their method pointed once again to a shared matrix of cultural preparedness.
The consulting chambers of each of these persons were filled with representations
creating an ambience of tradition and spirituality. In all cases, I noticed that these
persons had gone through many years of rigorous training which began in their late-teens
and went well into their early adulthood. Training usually was under a guru (teacher)
who was a part of this tradition. The astrologer also had at his / her disposal a
compendium of astrological charts and ancient texts to which constant references were
made. In one case (the nadi form of astrology), the texts were beautifully hand written on
type,’ or ‘type of ailment.’ The nadi astrologer had inherited his set from his guru. This
body of knowledge was itself an object of veneration to which both the astrologer and I
My first impression was that right from the outset, interactions were directive.
The astrologer presented him / herself as an expert in the field. The initial objective
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biographical details and religious persuasion. My ambiguity regarding my religious
Interestingly, I was never asked what my difficulties were. Arriving at a diagnosis was
taken as the astrologer’s responsibility as well as a demonstration of his / her skill. In all
cases, the astrologer did arrive at a fairly accurate description of my life situation. The
the skilled use of leading questions, gleaned the information he / she required. Given
below is an edited excerpt from one of these interactions (translated from Tamil: a South
Astrologer: Your facial expression tells me that you are stressed about something.
Correct?
Gideon: Yes.
Astrologer: One can be stressed about many things. You are stressed about your work
duties. Is that correct?
Gideon: Yes.
Astrologer: You have studied a lot for many years. Your work is not an ‘outside’ type of
work. It is in an office. It is with people and not so much with machines. Am I right?
Gideon: Yes, I work mainly with people.
Astrologer: Working with people could be of many types. For example, you could work
as a teacher or doctor. Your job is like what a doctor does.
Gideon: Yes. It is like a doctor, but I am not a medical doctor.
Astrologer: Alright. Are you saying that you work with people who have different kinds
of problems?
Gideon: Yes. But that is not the source of my difficulty.
Astrologer: Do you work on your own or do you have an office?
Gideon: I work on my own. I also have an office.
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Astrologer: You are doing too many jobs. That could be the reason for your stress.
Gideon: I don’t think so. I like all the jobs I am doing.
Astrologer: We may like all the jobs we do. It is true you are in the stage of life when
you must work hard. But if we do not have a way of getting back our energy, we will
feel tired and stressed. This is a law of the universe. I have an idea of the source of your
difficulties now. Please come back after three days. I will meditate about you and check
the texts for the best solutions. There are solutions to all types of problems. Do not
worry. I am here to help you discharge your dharma.
physical and psychological vulnerabilities. I was given a concise diagnosis and prognosis.
The final step was devoted to curative and corrective aspects. A series of pujas (religious
exercises) were read out from the texts and explained to me. Some of them were
list of pujas to be performed with regularity for the next few months. Almost all the
interactions were interspersed with stories and folk tales to explain my life situation.
preparedness. Each of the persons I met were members of the community, commanded a
high degree of respect, were revered and held in awe. Their methods tapped into
processes that are already an integral part of this culture. For example, the approach was
directive and oriented to giving advice. It was closely linked to religion. It was
deterministic in its orientation but at the same time laid emphasis on personal effort. It
was not oriented to the client’s problem but instead to his personhood both as an
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The primacy accorded to religion and spirituality is perhaps the foremost
representation of cultural preparedness in the Indian context. The almost invariable first
step for which the Indian is culturally prepared is to seek, in times of distress, the
implications of this aspect of cultural preparedness are profound for the development of a
relevant counselling strategy. The common Western understanding that these traditional
approaches are primitive and unscientific reflect a suspicion of methods that are
culturally alien. The loyalty of the masses to these methods has been routinely attributed
to ignorance and the lack of knowledge. Some scholars, however, have attempted to
draw a balance and argue that it is the scientists who are not able to transcend the
boundaries of their education to examine these alternate methods with equanimity (e.g.
Watts, 1975). Others have pointed out that these are ancient practices, distilled over
hundreds of years from the collective experience of the community, that in fact have a
high degree of efficacy at the practical and every day level (e.g. Kakar, 2003).
The Indian who approaches a healer comes from a background that venerates this
profession and views healers as representative of what is considered spiritual and sacred.
The nature of cultural preparedness, therefore, is that the individual is oriented to being
advised, directed and guided toward the solution of his or her difficulties. The Indian
would most certainly respond to exhortations that one should help oneself. But the
Indian is relatively less prepared to engage with a non-directive form of counselling that
does not give advice. The astrologer’s approach reported above was directive and advice
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Abiding Contradiction
synthesis and thereby create the space to tolerate dissonance. Culture sensitive
counselling would build this capacity and help the Indian counselee cope with situations
that are incongruous. For example, an Indian healer would use illustrations from
parables, stories from the holy books and folk tales that depict the gods, folk heroes and
other characters whom the Indian counselee is already culturally prepared to revere and
respect. The attention of the help seeker would be drawn to the principles that the
characters in the stories use to deal with contradictions and the help seeker would be
exhorted to emulate them. The counsellor who is responsive to the client’s cultural
preparedness would draw upon the wit and wisdom enshrined in the stories told by court-
jesters, poets and itinerant bards of ancient India. Tenali Ramakrishna, for example, was
a famous poet and court-jester in the 16th Century C.E and his stories are a wonderful
blend of humour and satire rooted in the cultural ethos of South India (Sastry, 2002).
Raja Birbal was the Wazīr-e Azam (grand vizier) of the Mughal court in the 16th Century
C.E. and his stories reflect the culture of North India and offer simple but deeply
meaningful insights into the complexities of life (Moseley, 2001). Indian epics, folk tales
and proverbs are excellent repositories of a folk approach to dealing with the
incongruities of life. They are a part and parcel of everyday life in India and have not
would include the physical being, as well as the individual’s mind, emotions, beliefs,
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spiritual inclinations, occupational status and all aspects of his or her existence. It also
would include the nature of the individual’s linkages with society and the relationships to
which he or she is bound. Ayurveda, an ancient and well established form of traditional
Indian medicine, provides detailed descriptions of how emotions are linked to physical
illnesses and that health is a function of maintaining the correct balance between the
individual’s physical self and aspects of his or her social interactions (e.g. Das, 1974). In
the Indian context, an approach to counselling that separates mind from body and the
individual from family would most likely fail to address the felt need.
Determinism
fatalistic approach to life. The postulation that the present is determined by past actions
constructs is the emphasis on volition and effort. The notions of karma and samsara do
not negate the action of the free will. The exercise of effort in the present is linked to
future gain and development. Accordingly, the quality of future life could be influenced
and shaped by the manner in which one lives one’s present life. This emphasis on
personal responsibility offers a valuable pointer to counselling techniques that draw upon
The ashrama system links life’s purpose to life stages and offers a framework
within which to plan one’s progress through life. This concept has been drawn into an
Indian career counselling programme (Arulmani, 2007). The programme has been
named Jiva, which means ‘life’ in most Indian languages. Career is portrayed as an
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extension of life and is described as a process that unfolds based upon previous
development. The counselling method provides the young person with tools for
introspection that help him or her ponder over the purpose of work, one’s role as a
worker, and the manner in which one could engage with the world of work. It culminates
with the counselee plotting a career development chart that describes the different kinds
of jobs he or she would consider at different stages in life and the different duties he or
she would discharge as a working member of society as he or she grows through life.
Conclusion
it is practiced today has any relevance outside urban, Westernised India, which is a
miniscule proportion of this vast and culturally diverse nation of over one billion souls.
While counselling in India may not have existed as a specialised discipline there has
existed a form of counselling that is ages old. It is essential that this fact is acknowledged
and accepted. If the attempt to establish counselling in India is merely an exercise to fit
into pre-defined descriptions of counselling, the resulting outcome would not only be
irrelevant to felt needs but would most likely fail to take root. In the light of the forces of
globalisation and the nature of social change today, the promotion of one method as
superior to another is ill-advised. Instead, the urgent need is to look for bridges between
epistemologies, always keeping the felt need in sharp focus. This writing has attempted
to point to the rudiments of a method that could build these bridges, suggesting that
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counselling in India. This would require us to search existing epistemologies in the spirit
Staying within the theme of religion, I conclude with a personal story. Being of
the Christian faith, I went to the venerable institution of the church to be married. Since
my bride was from a different religious persuasion, the pastor sat us down and in a warm
and genuine manner asked her, “Are you willing to become a Christian?” We went away
to ponder over the implications of converting from one religion to another. In the
meantime, I met my wife’s grandmother. She had weathered loss of everything she held
dear by the devastations wrought by the partition of India. She was seated in her tiny
puja room, her little temple at home surrounded by many representations of god: little
idols, intricate paintings, incense and vermillion. I presented my case to her with
trepidation. Would I encounter religious norms once again? She gave me a long,
searching look and asked me three questions. “Will you learn Bengali (the family
language)? Do you eat fish (the primary diet of the Bengali)? and will you ask for dowry
(bride price)?” What a dramatic difference between the question the pastor had and this
eighty year old, conservative, Hindu woman. One set of questions laid down the law.
The other drew from the wisdom of the ages and confronted me with life.
humility, set aside our assumptions and acknowledge that a given culture has been
already prepared in a certain way over eons of time to engage with the counselling
process. This would lay the foundations for a service that would blend naturally with the
orientations of a people.
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