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1. What are some criteria for choosing a spouse that must be considered?
- “First thing, you both must have the trust, integrity and sincerity for these are the
key to a happy and successful relationship. Spend time with the person you
choose to spend your life with and search for these traits, as they will serve as
the basis for your relationship. Make sure you and your partner have clear and
honest contact from the start, and that you are not hiding things from each other.
Hiding is one of the main causes of conflicts in a relationship. Hiding things from
each other is the first way to lead doubt. This maybe small or big matter, it should
be discussed thoroughly by both of the parties so that everything is settled.
Healthy communication with integrity will also lead to healthy marriage. Second
thing you need to consider is having a partner with a strong commitment, a
spouse with whom you believe you will have a long-term relationship, regardless
of the challenges you may face in life together. Silently monitor how the individual
reacts in different circumstances to determine how committed they are, not just
during good times but also when things get difficult and demanding and do not go
as planned. As I’ve read once in an article, “Love starts where excitement ends.”
There will be difficulties along the way, but what’s important is we remain our
respect towards each other. Take the time to make an informed decision, since
this is a life-altering decision. Third, the respect for both of the families. Marriage
is about two families working together to make a happier family marriage
possible, not just two people. Everyone adores their respective families; thus, it's
critical to decide whether you both want to preserve shared affection and good
feelings for each other's relatives, and whether you're able to make the requisite
changes to get along with each other's relatives. Furthermore, it is important to
be certain about life goals since you’re both committed to each other, you have to
share your pains and goals in life. It's possible that the priorities aren't the same
as each other's. And if it happens, it won't be easy and it might trigger a slew of
issues in your daily life. This also necessitates a great deal of flexibility and
understanding from all of you. It is possible to overcome every obstacle and
emerge triumphant when the hearts are united. So, see how you and your
partner can work together to achieve your individual objectives. Lastly, see if your
spouse has the ability to forgive. Everyone makes mistakes, but the desire to
forgive is what separates the strong from the weak. There will be moments where
you will disagree with your mate and you will have different points of view. Are
you, on the other hand, both naturally compassionate, ready to forgive the past
and eager to move on? This is the most important thing. Overall, these
characteristics are just some of the things that need to be considered when
choosing a lifetime partner. As the time goes by, we’ll all discover and explore
new teachings that could help us grow.”
2. Before marriage, what are the matters that need to be discussed by the
couple?
- “One of the important things that need to be discussed before entering into a
marriage life is the financial stability. The views of the couple on money. Our
feelings about money are often emotional and intimate. Our family's money
attitudes may have a significant effect on how we see money. Money cannot be
discussed in some households. In other cases, one spouse can conceal money
or expenditures from the other. Although we do not knowingly engage in these
habits, our upbringing may influence how we feel about money and how we
invest. Recognizing how you each feel about money is the perfect way to handle
latent – and often contradictory – money habits. Then you should take a realistic
view to bring the best practices from the experience into your current partnership.
This would also allow you to discuss any unfavorable beliefs or habits and work
to intentionally improve them. Next is family planning. The size of the family you
hope to have would also have a significant effect on your financial needs. Kids,
no matter how beautiful they are, are very costly to raise. Do you both want
children, and if so, do you want one child or many children? Discussions on how
the children will be raised and taught are also beneficial financially. Will either of
you stay at home with the kids? Can you cover the cost of child care? How much
can the children be apart? Any of these options would have a substantial
financial effect on the family budget. Before entering into this marriage, we made
sure to discuss our plans in raising kids. It is also important to talk about how
you will handle your fights. Arguments are unavoidable, but how spouses treat
them decides whether or not they can survive them. Jauy gajud mga panghitabo
na jay mga butang na di magkasinabot, and it’s normal. We all fight. However,
what’s more important is the move that we will take in order to overcome the
problem. It’s the both of you against the problem. Dapat gajud ta
magkasinabtanay sa mga butang para dili mu dako ang problema. Taason sab
dapat ang pasensya kay amoy kinahanglanon para mudugay ang ijo relasyon.”
3. What is the hardest thing you have had to deal in your married life and how
did you deal with it?
- “I can say the hardest thing that I had deal within our marriage is the time where I
was in my darkest days. The time when I was still addicted to prohibited and
forbidden drugs. What happened to me was a nightmare. I can still remember
how it affected me and my life. I was devastated. My life and my marriage fell
apart. Even my kids were all distant. Going through that part wasn’t really easy.
That was not a phase either. I had to go through that for years and my life was
also complex. I lost so many things including myself and my family. And I can
say, those temporary happiness, weren’t worthy of the damage that it may give
you. I cannot really recall what I did to handle those because if I really think of it
deeply, I’d burst into tears. All I remember was during those times, I found God.
In difficult times, it can be difficult to believe God when our confidence in Him is
insufficient. Until we can seek to grasp God's will from this, we're inclined to
misinterpret God and blame Him, and we'll risk our evidence in the middle of
trials. I admit I’ve experienced all of this. I nearly lose my faith in Him. But what’s
important, is that during those times, my faith in Him was tested. That problem
made me stronger and brought me to a better version of myself. Things don't
always go as planned due to conditions outside our grasp. In the midst of our
lives, particularly in the darkest moments, God calls us to trust Him. God has not
promised a life free of trials and tribulations after all. “ – DEO R. BESARIO,
Father
In this topic, I’ve come to realize and learn many things about the sacrament of
matrimony. I delved deeper into the concept of marriage and understood the importance
of this. Christian marriage is not about a church service with roses, a gown, and
pictures. Christian marriage is a rite that occurs in the Church and thus forms the
Church by forming a new family group. “This mystery is a profound one, and I am
saying that it refers to Christ and the church” says the Apostle Paul in his famous
phrase (Eph 5:32). Paul claims that the relationship between spouses is an image of the
love between Christ and his Church, as inspired by the Holy Spirit. Unfathomable
dignity! Marriage is a great act of faith and devotion: it is a testimony to the courage to
trust in the goodness of God's creative act and to live the love that is always urging us
to move on, beyond ourselves and even beyond our own kin. The Christian vocation of
unconditional love is also at the heart of the free consent that makes up marriage. A
second great horizon marks the sacrament of union, which opens in the depths of this
wonder of life, remembered and restored in its innocence. The decision to "married in
the Lord" also has a missionary component, which implies having at heart the need to
be a conduit for God's blessing and grace to all. Christian partners do, in fact, share in
the Church's mission as spouses. And I believe it’s a brave step.
I did not only learn about the concept of this matter but also the importance of
having one, and deciding wisely in choosing your spouse. After I did the interview with
my parents, I have learned so many things. Although I admit that marrying was never
really included in my plans, doing the interview gave me reasons to reconsider. Growing
up, I was always afraid of the thought of marriage because I have witnessed how my
family fell apart and how my mom and dad separated. It traumatized me to the point that
I thought of being alone for the rest of my life. I did not even consider planning about
getting a family because I dwelled in the notion of failure. I was scared that it might turn
into something that I feared the most. However, upon hearing their perspectives about it
gave me encouragement to never lose hope. It also taught me not to hinder myself from
being happy just because I’ve experienced terrible things in my life. Their advices
shaped my personality and my well-being. They taught me things such as the values
that we should consider in getting a partner, the things that should be discussed before
entering into marriage, dealing with conflicts and etc. I firmly believe that it makes a
difference who you marry. Unfortunately, one of the most crucial choices we can ever
make occurs because we are not good at making decisions, are not concerned about
long-term outcomes, and are not concentrating on the most pertinent facts to make the
best decision. Our choice of partner has a significant effect on our lives, but what
motivates us to do so is rarely relevant to what matters.
In overall, I figured out how it is important to be prepared in all aspect before
being married. Marriage will always be a leap of faith in every way. There will be few
pleasant surprises. Any of them are impossible to stop. You will not be able to anticipate
any complications before you marry. However, tough times will inevitably arrive. And it's
at these moments when you'll have to find out how to sort out your differences when
staying together as a couple. Putting money into your friendship before you get married
will pay off for several years. Getting ready for marriage entails getting ready in a variety
of respects. Couples who are happily married have worked tirelessly to figure out how to
overcome their problems by cooperation, consensus, and sacrifice. So, if you talk about
your goals ahead of time, you'll have a much better chance of living a happier life
together. Preparing for marriage is the secret to a happy family life ahead.