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your Social
Styles
Jan 2013
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Social Styles in Action
There are obvious differences – appearance, age, race, gender, height, weight, hair
colour and so on. But it goes further than that:
One of the biggest challenges that we all experience in our working lives is that of
building strong relationships with the people that we come into contact with,
particularly those that are most unlike ourselves.
Knowledge of your social style can help you to be successful in your personal and
business relationships. Knowledge of social styles can give you the edge!
For the past thirty years, much research has been conducted on social styles as
related to interpersonal relationships and the work of Dr. David W Merrill has formed
the basis for a number of tests and assessments used in business and industry. The
information gained, self-awareness and an understanding of ourselves and those
with whom we associate, can be of significant value in the achievement of personal
and professional goals and objectives. If we know a person’s preferred behavioural
style is we will know how to approach that person and communicate more effectively
thus enhancing our communication abilities.
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Interpersonal Dimensions
Responding, and
Influencing
Responding
Reserved Open
RESPONDING
Influencing
Influencing is the way in which we approach other people to get what we want. It is
how we go about influencing their behaviour and varies from ‘Indirect’ to ‘Direct’:
Indirect Direct
INFLUENCING
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Interpersonal Dimensions
Reserved
People at the ‘Reserved’ end of the Responding Dimension are likely to:
Share their feelings only after a relatively long time with people that
they know well.
Have a few close friends that they trust rather than a large network of
contacts.
People at the ‘Reserved’ end of the Responding Dimension are likely to show less of
their feelings and focus on the task at hand.
If you think you are at the ‘Reserved’ end of the Responding Dimension, some of
these descriptions may apply to you and some may not.
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Interpersonal Dimensions
Open
People at the ‘Open’ end of the Responding Dimension are likely to:
Develop new relationships and build trust quickly. They will also come
across as being friendly.
Share thoughts and feelings easily and comfortably with most people.
Risk talking too much and ‘turning off’ the other person.
People at the ‘Open’ end of the Responding Dimension are likely to show more of
their feelings and focus on people.
If you think you are at the ‘Open’ end of the Responding Dimension, some of these
descriptions may apply to you and some may not.
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Interpersonal Dimensions
Indirect
People at the ‘Indirect’ end of the Influencing Dimension are likely to:
People at the ‘Indirect’ end of the Influencing Dimension are likely to ask more
questions, be modest and prefer a slower pace.
If you think you are at the ‘Indirect’ end of the Influencing Dimension, some of these
descriptions may apply to you and some may not.
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Interpersonal Dimensions
Direct
People at the ‘Direct’ end of the Influencing Dimension are likely to:
People at the ‘Direct’ end of the Influencing Dimension are likely to make more
statements, be self-confidant and like a faster pace.
If you think you are at the ‘Direct’ end of the Influencing Dimension, some of these
descriptions may apply to you and some may not.
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Plotting Your Style
Instructions:
1. You will find 2 sets of questions below which will help you determine where
you think you sit on the Responding and Influencing Dimensions.
2. In each of the sets of questions there are 2 groups of words.
3. If you think the word on the left reflects your style then circle 1.
4. If you think the word on the right reflects you style then circle 10.
5. If you think you are in between select a number which reflects where you
think you are.
6. Try to avoid too many 5’s and 6’s.
7. When you have finished add up the circles and write the score at the bottom
of each section.
RESPONDING
Formal 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Informal
Controlled 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Responsive
Disciplined 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Spontaneous
Head oriented 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Gut (heart) oriented
Appears organised 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Appears disorganised
Reserved 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Impulsive
Withholds feelings 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Expresses feelings
Task oriented 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Relationship oriented
Cool 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Warm
Distant 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Close
INFLUENCING
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Plotting Your Style (Continued)
RESPONDING
Reserved Open
0 50 100
INFLUENCING
Indirect Direct
0 50 100
Reserved
Analytical Driver
Indirect Direct
Expressive
Amiable
Open
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The Interpersonal Grid
Social Styles
Analytical Driver
Amiable Expressive
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Style Summary
Analytical
Behavioural characteristics:
Environmental Clues:
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Style Summary
Analytical
Over reliant on data & documentation Guarantees that they are right
Lacking in imagination
Withdrawn
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Style Summary
Driver
Behavioural characteristics:
Environmental Clues:
Desk may appear busy, lots of work, projects and material separated into piles.
Walls may contain achievement awards or large planning sheet.
Décor suggests power and control.
Seating arrangement is closed, formal, non-contact and positioned for power.
Desk may be large to show success and to separate them from you.
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Style Summary
Driver
Pushy
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Style Summary
Amiable
Behavioural characteristics:
Environmental Clues:
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Style Summary
Amiable
Defensive
Indecisive
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Style Summary
Expressive
Behavioural characteristics:
Environmental Clues:
Desk may look disorganised and cluttered, but they know if something is missing.
Walls may contain awards, personal motivation slogans, stimulating posters or
notes.
Décor is relaxed, open, airy and friendly.
Seating arrangement indicates warmth, openness, contact and activity.
Likes contact, may move to alternate seating arrangement when talking to you.
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Style Summary
Expressive
Unrealistic
Wasteful of time
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Changing your Behaviour
Analytical
Amiable
No change in directness
Increase openness
Show personal interest and discuss personal opinions
Respond to the ideas of others
Expressive
Increase directness
Increase openness
Express personal opinions
Respond to ideas
Be enthusiastic
Analytical
No change in openness/directness
Take control of the process
Be tolerant of imperfections
Driver
Increase directness
No change in openness
Be prepared to express opinions
Be assertive and decisive
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Changing your Behaviour
Driver
Amiable
Decrease directness
Increase openness
Show personal interest and encourage opinions from others
Adopt informal slower approach and exercise patience
Expressive
No change in directness
Increase openness
Be friendly and enthusiastic
Respond to ideas and accept opinions
Analytical
Decrease directness
No change in openness
Slow down and exercise patience
Be diplomatic
Driver
No change in openness/directness
Remain receptive
Do not impose your view
Let the other person feel in control
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Changing your Behaviour
Amiable
Amiable
Expressive
Increase directness
No change to openness
Be prepared to express opinions
Be objective and try to speed up
Analytical
No change in directness
Decrease openness
Adopt and organised approach
Introduce accurate and factual information
Driver
Increase directness
Decrease openness
Be assertive and objective
Express opinions
Be disciplined in use of time
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Changing your Behaviour
Expressive
Amiable
Expressive
No change in directness/openness
Exercise discipline – establish an agenda
Give structure to interactions by note taking, verification and follow-ip
Summarise agreements in writing
Analytical
Driver
No change in directness
Decrease openness
Be businesslike
Back up any feelings with facts
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Changing your Behaviour
Action Plan
Analytical Driver
Amiable Expressive
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Social Styles
Summary
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