Aniceto Lagang Jr.

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT 09-23-2022

12-EIM B Quarter 1-Module 4:

The Challenges of Middle and Late Adolescence
Lesson 1: The Challenges during Adolescence
What I know

1. 1st stage
2. 3rd stage
3. 7th stage
4. 4th stage
5. 6th stage
What is In

What you want: I want to finish in school and become an engineer.

Expectations from other important people: They believe that I couldn’t do it because were poor and I can’t afford the
course that I choose.

1. How do you feel about it? - I feel bad, depress and sad.

2. What is your normal reaction at times when you are into these situations? - My normal reaction at times when you
are into these situations is being sad and embarrassing because people look down on my abilities.

3. How do you carry yourself in addressing such situations? Accept all my emotions as natural and
understandable. I carry on myself and believe that I can do it even though people look down on me. And I just
stay positive to overcome this situation.

4. Yes, I often make it my own way because being on my own way improves my self to overcome challenges in life.

5. The values behind our behavior towards this on or in any other situations that cause strong feelings are the
thoughts and feelings, those thoughts trigger feelings, and based on those feelings we engage in behaviors
which in turn impact the situation (either positively or negatively), and the cycle continues.
What’s More

My story

At one time in my life, I stopped and wondered to myself, "What if..." The query "Are my parents my
biological parents?" was prompted by the sense of amazement I get every time I receive a reprimand. When
I'm reprimanded, I frequently think it's excessive or question why I'm being reprimanded in this way. As a
youngster, I was obviously immature, occasionally guilty, and also the one who needed to be reprimanded.
Another thing I saw when receiving a reprimand was that, just as my dad will always support my mom when I
receive one, so will my mom always support my dad. Why is it so difficult to just say no, that's enough.

But it all happened and ended in my thoughts because nobody was ready to do whatever i was thinking or
have going on in my head. The scolding increased day after day, time after time. I must admit i was very
stubborn while growing up and i tend to do what i was told not to do. Down here in Africa, scolding most
times seems like warfare, either by the use of gigantic canes, belts, spatula, and so on. You will be scolded
by and with whatever your parents find around them at that particular point in time. Oh mine, this was really
an experience, a lot of times i was scolded for what i didn't even know of, by that i mean what i didn't do.
I can remember vividly this faithful day, i can not forget the day, what happened, and what led to my scolding
by my parents. There was a Sunday my parents didn't go to church and we went by ourselves, my sister and
i. The service ended and we were meant to follow a church member who promised my parents they were
going to drop us home. We were in the car with his family, while we were in transit i was having a discussion
with my sister and suddenly we talked about a particular subject and we laughed out loud. Unfortunately for
us, that was the exact time the man's car bumpers hit the speed breaks on the road, little did we know that
we were in for it that very day. As normal, we alighted the car and we greeted ourselves bye, unknowingly
for us the man had already called my dad and told him "He decided to help us and when his car hit the
speed breaks we laughed at his car." We got home happy, i can remember smiling with my sister, my
parents welcomed us in and then it suddenly changed to a masquerade festival. My dad was handling me
while my mom was handling my sister.

We were beaten and beaten with these words coming out of their mouths, "As a child of God are you meant
to do that to your helpers, these people decided to help you home and yet you were laughing at their car, do
you guys even have a car for yourself?" Immediately i heard that i was so furious and i said out loud i was
going to deal with the man's son the next Sunday, I am really laughing out loud now, my mom of blessed
memory walked up to me and she said, "If you try it, i will beat you double." At that point, i gave up, still
furious, after some hours they called us and told us we need to learn how to caution our mouths when we
are around people because people are different. Right now i am laughing at it all but then it was one of the
scolding I got from my parents i would never forget.

What I Can Do
1. Human cognitive functions such as perception, attention, learning, memory, reasoning, and problem-solving
are all significantly influenced by emotion. Emotion has a particularly potent impact on attention, modifying its
selectivity in particular and influencing behavior and action motivation.

As a result of their great awareness of their inner world, emotionally intense persons frequently engage
in constant internal debate, compulsive thought patterns, or even self-criticism. Physical reactions like
symptoms like nausea, skin allergies, or migraine headaches are further examples of how emotions
can be intense.

The speed at which you make a decision might also be impacted by emotional decision-
making. Anger can breed impatience and hasty judgment. As you ride the crest of confidence and
optimism about the future when you're excited, you could make snap judgments without thinking
through the repercussions.

Let me share a case from the past where I was experiencing tension and intense emotion with important
individuals in my life and afterward regretted how I handled it. Due to the numerous extracurricular activities we
had in school during my adolescence, there was a moment when I arrived home after midnight. But when I got
home, my mother yelled at me for being late and said a lot of horrible things that really hurt my feelings. I was
only a teenager at the time, and we all know that teenagers are notorious for being highly expressive with their
emotions. So, I lost control of my emotions at that point and spoke back to my mother. When my emotions
subside, however, I come to the realization that what I did that evening was actually a mistake, and I regret
acting or responding in that manner. I am aware that I also injured my mother's sentiments. She only acted in
such a way because she loved and looked out for me. I therefore swear to not do it again and apologize to my
mother for what I did after we have both cooled down.
2. I am given the opportunity to go back in time, then I will change decisions that cannot causes my mother
conflict , I will be just calm and polite to explain what was the reason why I’m late to go home .

Lesson 2: Stay mentally healthy while coping with stress.

What I Know

1.C.

2.D.

3.H.

4.G.

5.B.

6.F.

7.A.

8.E.
What I Have Learned

1.D.

2.A.

3.A.

4.B.

5.C.

What I can do

1. I will do my best, work hard, don’t be stress and be confidence to overcome those incoming challenges.
And I will not be pressured by those expectation because it’s my own life and my own choice, I make
my own journey in life so I will just who I want to be in the future.
2. Family Problems, family problems cause my mental health including symptoms of depression, anxiety,
conduct problems, and peer problems, its elevating in my adolescent's emotional insecurity about the
family system. Yes, I cope these challenges through managing my own stress · Setting and maintaining
boundaries · Building my emotional intelligence (EQ). And I approach to my friends and cousin to beg
personal advice.