PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT POINTERS TO REVIEW
ABRAHAM MASLOWS’ HIERARCHY OF NEEDS
Self-
Actualization(Self-
fulfillment, Realization
of one's potential)
Self-Esteem
(Achievement,
Approval, Confidence,
Competence)
Love & Belongingness
(Friends, Love, Acceptance by
the Others)
Safety Needs(Security, Being out of
Danger)
Physiological Needs(Cloths, Shelter, Food,
Sex)
LESSON 1: KNOWING ONESELF
⮚ KNOWING ONESELF - How to understand and
admit our weaknesses and strengths.
⮚ FULGENCIO (2006) - “The Barriers in knowing
oneself are lack of awareness, egoism and fear
of change”.
⮚ SELF-AWARENESS - It is important to realize
one’s potential. Understanding your own needs,
desires, failings, habits.
⮚ INTROSPECTION – It is define to examine your
feelings and thoughts.
⮚ GURUS- Means “Teacher” Professional.
IMPROVE YOUR SELF-AWARENESS WITH A
FEW EXERCISE
⮚ Learn to look at yourself objectively.
Study and criticize your decisions.
⮚ Write your own manifesto.
Make sense that you need to have a goals. Push
yourself into figuring out what you want.
⮚ Keep a journal.
Document anything of what you are doing and
where problems might be coming from.
⮚ Perform a self-review.
Examine yourself how to improve.
⮚ Owning it: Identifying your strengths and
weaknesses.
It’s really easy as opening up, thinking about it a
little, and most importantly listening to those
around you.
⮚ Acknowledge them and truly believe in them.
Have confidence in the positives and know how
great you really are.
⮚ Put all of your energy into them.
Don’t afraid to try anything until you find what
makes you happy.
⮚ Keep developing them.
The sky is really the limit. Every day is a
chances.
⮚ Take them into account when making career
decision.
Choose a career path that doesn’t heavily rely on
being strong in that area.
⮚ Look at the other side.
Be straight to the point. Honesty.
⮚ Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Everyone has weaker areas. Don’t beat yourself
up about it.
10 WAYS TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AGAIN
1. ACCEPT YOUR CURRENT SITUATION.
Accept your current life situation.
“First, accept sadness. Realize that without
losing, winning isn’t so great”. Alyssa Milano.
2. THINK ABOUT YOUR PAST SUCCESS.
If you are feeling down and out, use your past to
get motivated again.
“Every day is a new opportunity. You can build on
3. yesterday’s success or put its failure behind and
start over again. That’s the way life is, with a new
game every day”. Bob Feller.
4. TRUST YOURSELF.
This is one of the most important things that can
help you get that belief and confidence back.
“Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all
from yourself”. Rumi.
5. TALK WITH YOURSELF.
We are the ones who create who we will become.
“If you tell yourself that you cannot, what can the
only outcome be?”. Shad Helmstetter.
6. DON’T LET FEAR STOP YOU.
Face your fears and don’t let them stop you from
achieving your goals.
“Always do what you are afraid to do”. Ralph
Waldo Emerson.
7. LET YOURSELF OFF THE HOOK.
You have to look at the future and stop living in
the past.
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8. GO WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE.
Be thankful for whatever you are and whatever
you have. Always have a positive approach.
9. LET A LIFE COACH HELP YOU.
A life coach is a professional that helps, supports
and guides you. A life coach can help you
recognize your abilities and skills.
10. KEEP MOVING FORWARD AND NEVER LOOK
BACK.
Be strong and keep moving on. Never give up on
yourself. You have to keep on going and
eventually you will reach your destination.
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then
walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever
you do you have to keep moving forward”. Martin
Luther King Jr.
11. LET LIFE MOVE YOU.
Let your life follow its own natural flow. Allow it to
let you move in the direction you are meant to go,
and you will find success.
THE JOHARI WINDOW
⮚ Useful tool for helping you build self-awareness
and gain an understanding of how others
perceive you.
⮚ Developed by American Psychologist
JOSEPH LUFT & HARRY INGHAM in 1955.
⮚ Mnemonics:
A-rena: Which is known to ALL.
F-acade: Area that is known to YOURSELF but is
hidden from others.
B-lind Spot: Area that is known to OTHERS but
not to yourself.
U-nknown: Area that is BLIND to BOTH yourself
and to those around you.
TIPS FOR USING JOHARI WINDOW FOR
SELF-AWARENESS
✔ REVEAL YOURSELF: Share your thoughts and
feelings with others.
✔ SEEK FEEDBACK: Never be afraid to ask for
feedback from others.
✔ TEST YOUR LIMITS: Testing yourself in new
situations and surrounding yourself with others.
LESSON 2: DEVELOPING THE WHOLE
PERSON
“Growth doesn’t just happen. It has to be on
purpose.” – John C. Maxwell.
⮚ ADOLESCENCE: “Teen Ager”; “Youth”;
the time of life between puberty and maturity.
⮚ PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT: Experience growth
spurt. Which involves rapid growth of bones and
muscles.
⮚ For GIRLS, 9 to 12 and for BOYS, 11-14.
⮚ SEXUAL MATURATION (PUBERTY): It is define
to maturation of the sex organ of an individual.
Especially, Adolescent.
TYPES OF EATING DISORDER
● ANOREXIA NERVOSA: Physical and Mental
disorder of young female who is FEAR OF
BEING FAT.
● BULIMIA: Physical and Mental disorder of young
female who is eat a large amount of food and
they vomit it.
⮚ CULTURAL DIFFERENCES: Ethnic identity
includes the shared values, traditions and
practices of a cultural group.
⮚ COGNITIVE DEVELOPMENT: Dramatic shift in
thinking from concrete to abstract gives
adolescents a whole new set of mental tools.
MOST DEVELOPING ADOLESCENTS WILL:
✔ Argue for sake of Arguing.
✔ Become more Independent.
✔ Jump to Conclusions.
✔ Be self-centered.
✔ Increased responsibilities: babysitting, summer
job.
✔ Look to peers and media for information and
advice.
✔ Begin to develop social conscience: concern in
global warming, racism, discrimination.
⮚ SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT: Adolescent take place
in the context of all their relationships.
TWO MAJOR INFLUENTIAL PER itSON IN
SOCIETY OF AN ADOLESCENT
● Peers
● Family
⮚ YOUNG ADOLESCENCE: Ages 9 – 13.
PEERS: Center of social world shifts from family
to friends. Peer group tends to be same-sex.
Strong desire to be conform to and be accepted
by a peer group.
FAMILY: Increasing conflict between adolescents
and their parents. Family closeness most
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important protective factor against high-risk LESSON 3: DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES
behaviour. IN MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE

⮚ MIDDLE ADOLESCENCE: Ages 14 – 16. ⮚ DEVELOPMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY: Concerned

PEERS: Groups gradually give way to one on with both physical and psychological changes
one friendships and romances. Peer group tends throughout life from conception until death.
to be gender-mixed. Less conformity and more
tolerance of individual differences.
FAMILY: Increasing conflict between adolescents
and their parents. Family closeness most
important protective factor against high-risk
behavior.
⮚ LATE ADOLESCENCE: Ages 17 – 19.
PEERS: Serious intimate relationships begin to
develop.
FAMILY: Family influence in balance with peer
influence.

ADOLESCENT’S COMMUNITY CAN ALSO

HAVE A GREAT IMPACT ON HIS/HER SOCIAL
DEVELOPMENT. ⮚ ADULTHOOD: It defines fully grown, developed,
● Neighborhood not childish and sensible. Life span is more than
● Schools 70.
● Religious organizations ⮚ EARLY ADULTHOOD: Concerned with
● The media developing the ability to share intimacy, seeking
⮚ BEHAVIORAL DEVELOPMENT: Changes that to form relationships and find intimate love. Long
adolescents experience prepare them to term relationships are formed and marriage and
experiment with new behavior. children result. Work/career choice.
⮚ EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT: New cognitive ⮚ MIDDLE ADULTHOOD: Develop a genuine
skills of maturing adolescents give them the concern for the welfare of future generations and
ability to reflect on who they are and what makes to contribute to the world.
them unique. PSYCHOSOCIAL DILEMMA by ERIK ERIKSON
✔ SELF CONCEPT: Set of beliefs about oneself,
including attributes, roles, goals, interests, values
and religious or political.
✔ SELF ESTEEM: Also known as “Self-confidence” /
Develop relationship skills that allow them to get
along well with others and to make them friends.
⮚ GENDER DIFFERENCES: Boys and girls face
different challenges in our culture and may have
different emotional needs during adolescence.
GIRLS tend to have lower self-esteem. Need
help learning to express anger and to be more
assertive.
BOYS it’s okay to express emotions other than
anger.

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THREE MAJOR STYLE OF PARENTING
⮚ AUTHORITARIAN PARENTS: view children as
having few rights but adultlike responsibilities.
“BOSSY” “STRICT TO THEIR STANDARDS”.
⮚ PERMISSIVE PARENTS: parents require little
responsibilities behavior from their children.
Rules are not enforced, and the child usually get
his or her way. “COOL MOM/DAD”
⮚ AUTHORITATIVE PARENTS: BALANCING
freedom and restraint, effective parents help
children become responsible to their actions and
responsible adults.
NORMAL CHILDHOOD PROBLEMS
⮚ Sleep Disturbance - Including wakefulness,
frightening dreams, or desire to get their
parent’s bed.
⮚ Specific Fear - Dark, Dogs, School, or a
particular room or person are also common.
⮚ Overly Timid - Most children will be overly
timid at times, allowing themselves to be
bullied by other children into giving up toys,
a place in line and be like.
⮚ General Dissatisfactions – Temporary
periods, when nothing pleases the child.
⮚ General Negativism - Marked by tantrums,
refusal to do anything requested.
⮚ Clinging – Children refuses to leave the side
of their mothers or to do anything on their
own.
⮚ Sibling Rivalry – Jealousy, Rivalry. A limited
amount of aggression give and take
between siblings.
⮚ Rebellion – Some of them are against to the
rules and regulations of their parents.
THE FOUNDATION OF YOUNG ADULTS SUCCESS
These factors capture how a young adult poised for
success interacts with the world. These three factors
are more powerful.
● Agency – The ability to make choices about
and take an active role in one’s life path.
● Integrated Industry – Serves as an internal
framework for making choices and provides a
stable base from which one can act in the
world.
● Competencies – Abilities that enable people
to effectively perform roles, complete complex
tasks, or achieve specific objectives.
RESPONSIBILITY - All children need opportunities to
demonstrate that they are responsible for their actions,
school works, chores, and relationships. The act or
responsibility involves being trusted, making decisions,
and answering for one’s behaviour.
HOW DO I BECOME A RESPONSIBLE PERSON
▪ Be Accountable – You are always responsible on how
you respond.
▪ Stop Blaming - When you stop pointing the finger,
you have a control over yourself.
▪ Acknowledge what Happen – “How can I make it up
to you?” it makes people willing to forgive,
Your integrity earns respect.
▪ Accentuate the Positive - Move through your day with
positive attitude. Remember, a small shift in
focus turns a loser into a winner.
▪ See yourself Clearly – A responsible person does not
dismiss her/his own achievements.
▪ Say “Thank You” - Accept praise graciously.
Practice Healthy Self-focus - Thinking too much about
our problems, can worrying endlessly about the future.
Take time to really what makes you happy. It is a way
of beginning self-love
LESSON 4: THE CHALLENGES OF
MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE.
ADOLESCECE (12 – 13 Years old) are
experiencing all kinds of new changes in their bodies
and in their feelings. As well, they often encounter
challenges such as struggling to leave behind their
childhood and become adults.
CHALLENGES OF ADOLESCENT.
Geldard and Geldard (2006) explain that
adolescence is a time in a young person’s life where
they move from dependency on their parents to
independence, autonomy and maturity.
BIOLOGICAL CHALLENGES.
Adolescence begins with the first well –
defined maturation event called puberty. Included in
the biological challenges are the changes that occur
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due to the release of the sexual hormones that affect
emotions.
COGNITIVE CHALLENGES.
Jean Piaget Cognitive Development Theory.
SCHEMATA – Basic units of the intellect.
ASSIMILATION – Taking in new information that easily
fits.
ACCOMODATION – Deal with knowledge from
environment by changing our own structures.
PSYCHOLOGICAL CHALLENGES.
The adolescent must cope with are moving
from childhood to adulthood. A new person is
emerging, where rules will change, maybe more
responsibilities will be placed on him/her so that a
certain standard of behaviour is now required to be
maintained. ACCOUNTABILITY is becoming an
expectation from both a parental and legal concept.
EIGHT DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS THAT ENABLE
ADOLECENTS TO CREATE AN IDENTITY
1. Achieving new and more mature relations
with others, both boys and girls, in their age
group. Adolescents learn through
experimentations to interact with others in more
adult ways.
2. Achieving a masculine or feminine social
role.
Male (Assertive & Strong)
Female (Passive & Weak)
Adolescents conform to the sex roles of our
cultural view of characteristics. We need to
encourage males to express their feelings and
encourage females to assert themselves more
than they have in the past.
3. Accepting one’s physique.
The beginning of puberty and the rate of body
changes for adolescents varies tremendously.
4. Achieving emotional independence from
parents and other adults.
Children derive strength from internalizing their
parents’ values and attitudes. However, must
redefine sources of personal strength and move
toward self-reliance.
5. Preparing for marriage and family life.
Sexual maturation is the basis for this
developmental task. Achievement of this
developmental task is difficult because
adolescents often confuse sexual feelings with
genuine intimacy.
6. Preparing for an economic career.
In our society, an adolescent reaches adult status
when he or she is able to financially support
himself or herself.
7. Acquiring a set of values and an ethical
system as a guide to behaviour developing an
ideology.
Adolescent is able to develop his or her own set
of values and beliefs.
8. Desiring and achieving socially responsible
behaviour.
The family is where children define themselves
and their world. Adolescents define themselves
and their world from their new social role.