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Ruoyu Yao
Linguistics 3C – 3:00 PM
11/17/2022
The main benefit of giving love to each other is to satisfy our inner needs and generate a
sense of well-being. If we seek the love of the other individual, we may not perceive it when our
inner condition is full of negative emotions. Love is the activity of considering others, doing
what you can to make them feel well, and acting in a way that makes them feel comfortable. It is
not a needed possession because it cannot be kept; we cannot receive it or feel it unless we make
ourselves capable of doing so. Everyone can experience the effects of love in their lives. When
you care for others, you are on the same wavelength as your interior, and this makes you feel
relaxed and delighted. This feeling is love. Love is omnipresent in our lives, but what does it
bring to us? In fact, love potentially is a reason for banishing fear and loneliness emotionally, it
teaches us to be kind and to praise others, and it can even change physiological and neurological
functions.
Love can neutralize fear and banish loneliness. In Arthur C. Brooks’s article, “Love Is
Medicine for Fear” he discusses one way to deal with these fears is to strive to eliminate the
threats that cause them. As important and possible as social and economic progress is, there will
always be threats to be confronted. Fear will always be present in our lives. Therefore, the way to
fight our inner fear is with its opposite emotion. It is not calmness; it is not even courage. It is
love. He also illustrates, however, that we have a natural regulator of amygdala hyperactivity: the
neuropeptide oxytocin sometimes referred to as the "love molecule". Oxytocin is often found in
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the brain in response to eye contact and touch, especially between loved ones. It produces intense
feelings of pleasure; In fact, life without it would be very unbearable. There is evidence that one
of the reasons for the increase in depression during the coronavirus pandemic was the absence of
oxytocin, as it locks in and socially alienates. Oxytocin has also been found to reduce anxiety
and stress by inhibiting the amygdala's response to external stimuli. There is a similar state that
can be seen in the Ted Talk “Why Do We Love”. According to Skye C. Cleary’s video, “Why
Do We Love?” he points out that our fear of the cold, cruel world tempts us to build hard shells
to protect and isolate ourselves. Love’s delight, intimacy, and warmth help us overcome our fear
of the world. Escape our lonely shells and engage more abundantly in life. Based on some of the
perspectives above, we understand that love plays an important role in fear. A well-behaved
lover can help people get rid of their fears and help them get out of loneliness. It can even avoid
depression and provide people with the courage to face a more fulfilling life.
Also, Love can alter physiological and neurological function. In Diane Ackerman‘s
who were in loving, committed relationships. The results showed that if people were in a healthy
relationship, holding the feet of a partner to subdue one's blood pressure, ease the response to
stress, improve one's health and soften physical pain. Also, there is the same opinion that love
can change physiology function. According to Emily Esfahani Smith’s article, there is a study
that divided part of the couples into two categories: masters and disasters. After comparing them,
he found that masters exhibited lower physiological arousal. They felt calm, which translated
into warm and affectionate behavior, even when they were quarreling. This is not to say that
masters are better physiologically by default than disasters; rather, masters create an atmosphere
of trust and intimacy that makes them both more comfortable emotionally, and thus physically.
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But catastrophe shows them in fight or flight mode. It spikes their heart rates and makes them
more aggressive toward each other. There is a similar state can be found in the article, “What is
Love – and Is It All in the Mind?” the author Hannah Devlin demonstrates the VTA. It is part of
the brain's reptilian core and is associated with desire, motivation, focus, and craving. MRI scans
of the brains of people in love have found a surge in dopamine activity. Moreover, in the early
stages of love, emotional arousal raises the body's cortisol levels. It causes the heart to race, and
other chemicals that play a role are oxytocin, which deepens feelings of attachment, and
vasopressin. From the common denominator of the three profiles above. It is clear that love has a
positive impact on both physiological and neurological aspects. Love can relieve stress and
improve health. Being in love creates a feeling of attachment through a dopamine surge. Love is
In addition, Love enables us to learn to be benevolent and praise each other. Based on
the article, “The Secret to Love is Just Kindness,” the author Emily Esfahani Smith emphasized
that kindness holds couples together. Their research indicates that kindness is the most important
predictor of marital satisfaction and stability. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for,
understood, and affirmed. That is love. There is overwhelming evidence that the more kindness a
person receives or witnesses, the kinder they themselves become, which leads to a spiral of love
and generosity in the relationship. That is why kindness and generosity of spirit are necessary for
couples who can not only endure but live together blissfully for years and years. There is also
other evidence to support this. In Mandy Len Catron’s article, “To Fall in Love With Anyone,
Do This,” she declares one study focused on creating intimacy in interpersonal relationships. In
particular, several studies have investigated the ways in which we incorporate others into our
sense of self. Some positive compliments make certain positive qualities that belong to one
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person have clear value to another person. In light of these sources above, we can realize that the
presence of love leads us to gradually learned kindness and praise for each other. Kindness and
proper praise are essential in individuals. When people are in love, they will be able to make
Furthermore, Love enables us to improve ourselves and get better. In the Ted Talk,
“Why Do We Love?” the presenter Skye C. Cleary mentions that love is the desire to integrate
with another and that infuses our lives with meaning. Lovers support each other in discovering
themselves and reaching beyond themselves. And enriching their lives and the world together.
We can also find the same idea in another Ted Talk, “Falling in Love is the Easy Part,” the
presenter Mandy Len Catron suggests that she is more patient with love after a breakup and
becomes less obsessive. More confident to pursue what she wants. Also, recognize herself better.
She found that what she wanted was love as a guarantee. It is love that lasts and is not just a
momentary pleasure. After that, put in the effort to accomplish her goals. From the above two
illustrations, you can see that through love, we can find our own direction to strive for because of
each other. From proper and constructive love, we consider each other as motivators. Through
love, we appreciate people with unique personalities that attract us. From there, we challenge
ourselves to become more excellent and stronger inside. This is a fabulous way to achieve
To conclude, the presence of love can bring us a lot. For instance, love can exorcise fear
and loneliness. Love can teach us to be kind and praise each other. Love can even change our
physiological and neurological function. These physical and spiritual improvements also alter
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our lives. It is because of love that we are less vulnerable and can have a happier life with those
we love.
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