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Re Attraction Cheat Sheet
Re Attraction Cheat Sheet
Your ex did show up; If you cheated, lied, or did something devious to your ex, add a
Move on with after weeks of dating, genuine apology to the statement of interest, acknowledging all the
Your ex IS NOT
your life (No transition into a ways you’ve perhaps hurt them and what you’ve learned from the
receptive.
Contact) relationship incident. Then promise not to repeat your mistake and keep that
promise. Don’t be dramatic when apologizing, and do it only once.
IF ex initiates
End After you state your interest you move on and never look back. The
contact down the
only time you should give your ex another shot is if they respond
road
positively to your "confession of interest" or if they initiate some form
of contact down the line.
Self Development/Investing In Yourself
No contact is one of the most effective ways to recover from a How to invite your ex on a date IF they reach out: First, feel free to Once you’ve gone on a couple of dates with your ex and can sense
breakup, grow as a person, retake control of your life, and ultimately, chat for 3-5 texts or about 5 minutes if they called you. Then, as soon things are getting more serious — more sex, intimacy, personal
get into a position where you have the best chance of getting your ex as reasonable, say something like, “Nice hearing from you, tell you conversations, and verbal exchanges of love — then comes the most
back and mending things. It essentially translates to cutting them out what, why don’t we get together again. I’d love to see you. What time critical part of getting your ex back: re-commitment.
of your life. So from now on… are you free next week?”
If your ex brings up the topic of getting back together, have the talk,
You don’t call, message, or engage with their social media Then let your ex answer. By this point, you’ll get one of three and come to a mutually beneficial decision. And if they haven’t
activity anymore (in fact, quietly unfriend and unfollow them) responses: brought it up yet and you can sense you’re already acting like a couple
You don’t go to places where you’d have an “accidental” (i.e., you’re spending a lot of time together, kissing, making out,
encounter with them. 1. Your Ex Commits To A Date having sex, etc.) bring up the topic yourself.
You don’t wish them happy Birthday, Valentine’s day, Easter,
Christmas, Thanksgiving, whatever. Now all you have to do is agree upon a set date and time for your Maybe they’ll try again, maybe they won’t, and they’ll give an excuse
You don’t even express your condolences if they lose a family date, show up, and have fun. For the first date or two I recommend instead. If that happens, respect their decision. At that point, how you
member or a dear friend. you meet up with your ex on neutral ground. You want the both of move forward really comes down to your values and boundaries. Just
You hide every reminder of them that’s within your control. you to feel as comfortable as possible. whatever you do know this: always be willing to walk away.
You avoid going to places that elicit (or can potentially elicit)
painful memories. After the date unfolds, and if it unfolds in such a way where you end If you got back together with your ex, things can work out. But that’s
You throw away or return everything your ex gave you (or at least up kissing, making out and being all over each other, invite them to only if the both of you changed. For relationships don’t end because
lend those things/gifts to a friend until you’ve moved on). your place for a romantic dinner. And, of course, in the end, have sex. two people did something wrong to each other. Relationships end
because two people are something wrong for each other.
Where classic no contact isn't possible resort to modified no contact. 2. Your Ex Doesn’t Commit To A Date
Meaning, you can talk to your ex, but your discussions should ONLY And when I say you and your ex must’ve changed, I’m referring to a
revolve around things like kids/work stuff/living arrangements, etc. Don’t force them to change their mind. Just end the conversation and couple of things: you both have to learn from the breakup,
return to no contact. If they reach out again in the future, invite them acknowledge your mistakes, alter the behaviors that made you part
The length of no contact must be indefinite. Meaning, if your ex ever out one more time. initially, partly redefine your values, learn how to accept each other’s
wants another shot with you, they’ll need contact you — from which flaws, and, most importantly, repair the fundamental components of
point you should set up a date with them and try to mend things. And if you get turned down even then, stop inviting them, even if they any healthy relationship: mutual trust, respect, and affection.
reach out first. At that point they’ll either bring up the topic of a date
themselves or they’ll stop contacting you altogether.