FACULTY OF EDUCATION AND LANGUAGE

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MAY 2014

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 Good morning to all parents. Today I want to present about the characteristics of a
good parent. I am ……………….a founder of Brainny Montossori “Permata Hati” who will
deliver a speech on parenting tips.

Ladies and gentlemen,

Parents have important roles in their children lives. Parenting styles differ from
family to family, and may even vary from day to day within one family. All parents make
decisions for their children that may be more strict or more indulgent on occasion. For the
most part, however, the way that one parents falls into one of three general parenting
methods. These are authoritative, authoritarian and permissive parenting styles.

Authoritative parents are firm, loving and kind. They set boundaries and expect their
children to abide by them. Neither overly strict nor overly indulgent, authoritative parents
strike a good balance between expectations that are too high and expectations that are too
low. These parents allow their children to make choices that are age-appropriate, encouraging
them to take on more responsibility as they grow. They respond well to the needs of their
child, but do not give in to every desire. They give their child reasons for certain rules and
guidelines, and allow natural consequences to take place whenever feasible and when no real
harm will come to the child due to those consequences. According to the Cornell University
Cooperative Extension, children of authoritative parents often display social competence,
independence and a high sense of responsibility as they grow into young adults.

Authoritarian parents are strict, unbending and inflexible. They may attempt to
control every aspect of their child's life, and do not allow the child to make choices.
Authoritarian parents expect obedience without questioning. They may use harsh discipline
methods with their children, and may be insensitive to their children's emotional needs. They
often do not explain the reasons behind the rules that they set, and impose their own
consequences whenever a rule is broken. Adult children of authoritarian parents may be
unable to act without specific direction, and may have trouble expressing themselves.

Permissive parents are indulgent, not wanting to impose their will on their child's
developing personality. They often set no rules and have no consequences. They might cause
their child to avoid even natural or logical consequences in order to save him from perceived
harm, unhappiness or hurt feelings. Permissive parents are usually kind and loving, but may
become frustrated when a child's behavior is defiant or unacceptable. Despite this frustration,
permissive parents often do not step in to cause a change in the child's actions as long as he
will not be physically harmed. Permissive parenting may cause teen and young adult children
to remain egocentric or lack self-control, according to the Cornell University Cooperative
Extension.

Dear Parents,

To train the mind and abilities of children, any aspect or different method and manner
can use to create the excellent of descent. This is because, every children having their own
characteristic and different attitudes too. Otherwise, what the parents practise to elder
children are not totally same what they practice to younger children.

Parenting is the process of raising and educating a child from birth or before until
adulthood. It is usually done by the biological a child parents of the child, although
governments and society take a role as well. In many case, orphaned or abandoned, children
receives parental care from non-parents blood relations. Other may be adopted, raised by
foster care, or be plaked in an orphanage.

Usually, parental figures provide for a child’s physical needs, protect them from harm and
impact in them skills and cultural values. This way usually after adolescence. There is general
consensus around parent providing the basic necessities, with increasingly interest in
children’s right withim the home environment. This can make through the parenting duties
such as:-

Parents should provide their child refers to a safety of a child’s body safety of a child’s
life. For examples, provide them from shelter,clothes,nourishment, etc. Also, parents
responsibility to protect their child from dangers, through physical care and also care for a
child’s health. The environment is good – including neighborhoods,schools and society.
While your child can have fun playing sports or other physical games outside, there are some
safety issues to consider before choosing a specific spot. Parents should make sure that
outdoor and backyard areas are free from dangerous or poisonous plants, have either fences
or clear boundaries and are away from areas with traffic. Additionally, parents should make
sure that grassy play areas are level and free of debris or hazards such as holes. Likewise, any
concrete play surface should have a level field without any cracks. If your child has an
interest in trying smaller activities such as board games outdoors, choose a level picnic table
that is free of rust, has no potentially poking nails and no splinters.
 Developing a child physically refers to providing appropriate conditions for a healthy
growth of a child. This way is to train a child with the means to develop physically such as
train their to playing games or introduce them to sport, develop their habits of health and
others. This method, can make them stronger body and make them more healthy from their
mind and physical. For the example of content is set aside a day to go to a theme parks likely
Kidzania at Damansara and Kidlands at Penang. There children can improve physical
development their to playing games. At 3 to 4 years old, your child should be able to: walk
up and down stairs, alternating feet -- one foot per step, kick, throw, and catch a ball, climb
well,run more confidently and ride a tricycle, hop and stand on one foot for up to five
seconds, walk forward and backwards easily and bend over without falling.

Parent should provide opportunity to a child to learn about laws of nature and moral laws.
Including playing intellectual games,reading,writing and calculating to improve their child
skill and etiquette. From other side, parent also can teach about moral and spiritual in
development and depress about ethics and value systems, and norms and constribution to the
child’s belief and cultural also customs. For example, parents can give the interactive CD
such as learning mathematic,learning alphabet, drawing and dot-dot. Help your youngster
strengthen cognitive abilities with engaging memory games. Try verbal games such as “I
went to Grandma’s house and I brought…” Each player must add an item to create an
alphabetical list with players repeating the list on each turn. Play visual memory games with
pairs of cards or pictures, overturned and mixed up on a horizontal playing surface. Or your
also can play cognitive development necessary for energetic pretend games. Name various
animals familiar to your child, such as frogs, birds, dogs, squirrels and fish. As you name the
animals, suggest that your child move like each one. Once you go through several animals,
ask your child to choose an animal and act it out so you can guess it. Turn the game around
and you act out animals for your youngster to guess.

From emotional development refers to giving a child an opportunity to love other

people, to care, to help and ability to love through is showing empathy and compassion to
younger and older, weaker and sicker and others. For caring for others can showing through
helping parents, helping grandparents etc. Other support that parent can give line financial
support or the state insurance coverage and payments for educations. Educate yourself to
show their love child through voice,face and action. You need to show,then they know you
love them.
 Parents need to effectively discipline their children. Let me stress here that discipline
does not meaning punishing their children.But rather, teaching children right from
wrong,acceptable behaviour,the need to control impulses and how to deal with the stresses of
everyday life especially dealing with the demands of being in secondary school.Even if this is
often one of the most difficult aspects of being a parent,it is however,absolutely
necessary.Parents should set rules and limit and enforce them. When they do something
wrong,parents should not just focus on the wrong,but instead,emphasize on what needs to be
done right in the future. Needless to say,parents should discipline their children consistently
and not just when they have the time. Discipline your child when she is behaving badly. You
can put your child in a time-out session, revoke television privileges, give her extra chores or
not allow her to play with her friends. Explain to her that her behavior is unacceptable and it
needs to stop. Be consistent with discipline, so your child will know there are consequences
for her actions.

I strongly feel that it is extremely important for parents to establish with their children
and to keep track of what is happening in their children’s lives. No matter how busy parents
are they should find time for their children, for example, find time to be engaged in their
children’s education.Children are usually delighted when parents express interest in their
children, show their willingness to listen to them and involve themselves in their children’s
activities. In this way they can create a positive atmosphere in which children come to them
with their problems and concerns.however large or small.This will foster a sense of love and
security.Parents could also praise and reward children appropriately in order to provide them
with a sense of pride and accomplishment.

However is that no matter how busy parents are, they must know where their children are
at any time of the day.Parents also need to get to know who their children’s friends are and
who they going to be with. You can even set aside a time to talk to your children every
day.This can be before bedtime,at breakfast,or during a walk after school.Spend time with
each child individually. Try to divide your time equally if you have more than one
child.Listen and respect your child and respect what they want to do with their life. Set aside
a day to go to a park, theme parks,museum or library depending on their interests.

Ladies and gentlemen,

According to Dr Fadzillah Kamsah from their book in the title is “21st Kaedah Mendidik
Anak Cemerlang” to teaching the children adapt their skill are very different between the
other parents because their knowledge also not same.This knowledge are not inside in lesson
measurement. Other skill like how to manage their money general knowledge about our life
and also knowledge about their region.

However, Dr Fadzillah also guilde the several methods to teach their children become a
successful person in their life. The methods/ways are; methods of giving information and
instruction; story methods, question and answer methods; methods from advise and criticism;
method from playing games and make jokes.

Methods of giving information and instruction; This method are one of the best way
that Rasulullah like it. Parents should remind their children first before do it something. Then
look their reaction, if they want to listen our advice or not or maybe should remind
everybody. In addition, the parents should be always remind their children without any
feeling bored or give up. According to expert person in educational methods, the brilliant
children should be given some advised 200 times without bored to make sure that they are
very clearly and understand what their parents try to told/advise them. This is example of
instruction to children;

1.1 on time in solat

1.2 be polite with the older

1.3 be polite with the teacher

1.4 be polite with the friends

1.5 study with the best way method.

Story methods; This methods can make the relationship between parents and their
children being strongers. This is because, parents can give motivation through the story
methods, especially story about advised from Al-Quran, story about our prophet and others.
The purpose is to bring their mind to focus and understood if direct or indirect what the
information they get. Otherwise, this way can make good relationship with their parents,and
how to children elobrate and imagine in their mind what the moral of story and this methods
very effective hang on their narrator.

Question and answer methods; This methods can use to make their children can
thinking. Positively and their neuron also can develop. The excellent parents are how their
train their children to answer what question given and always take care themselves and
follow their development activities and also their process of studying. This methods should
be interminable without suppose the time,condition/environment and place such as at the
home, time to eating or anything.

Methods from advise and criticism; Parents should trying to answer all questions
from their kids, but if they don’t know what the answer, don’t let their children in
puzzled/bewildered, but just admitted that they don’t know the answers. Parents can suggest
the question to the expert in a particular branch on a subject to answer the question.

Usually, the kids always want to know something and also trying to ask everything
that they should to know. So, as parents, try to attend their inertia and please don’t let them
without guidelines. If this happen, their mind will be slowly and this is not good in their mind
develop to be a successful person in future.

Method from playing games and make jokes; This method style can doing
everyday or everytime to avoid uncomfortable and feeling boired to their children. From the
advised and criticism especially beaking in their responsibility,behaviour,healthy,religions
workship,faith, and understand about adversity. From this method, parent try to teach their
children to listen and see their faces or bow while their parent giving advice and criticism.

Firstly, ask in your question how far you playing and making joke with your children?
Purpose of this method is to try make them happy because in psychological them when they
happy and feeling comfortable with their parents this can make they more to be discipline and
have good attitude. But, don’t abysmal/extreme until forgot about another responsibility of
children.

But as a father should know the guidelines when they playing with their daughter
especially when they growing up to be teenagers. Also to mother, to take care their guidelines
when they playing with their son.
 Conclusion

If you want be excellent parents, the parents must have various branches of knowledge,
skills,education,psychology and understanding of human behaviour, patience and others. It’s
not easy being a parent wants to excel but with the effort to increase knowledge, review the
erros and mistakes, God willing we will succeed to be excellent to be parents and become a
role for the children to inherit brilliance.
Michelle Kulas http://www.livestrong.com/article/76463-types-parenting-styles/ The 3 Types of
Parenting Styles