Emotional stages in LDR relationships.

I write this so that you can be familiar with these circumstances that they happen to anyone at some
point in time. This is a combine work of Psychiatrists and sociologist I didn’t make the stuff up haha
yet I was able to make notes from both ends of the books and articles using my experiences and
little knowledge that I have from these authors “ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, l Ron Habbard and more..

This is about Long-Distance relationships emotional stages and how to understand how you feeling
and accepting the situations.

1. Deep Sadness & heartbreak upon silence/ departing. Separation feels/seem physically
heavy in the first few days. Example some questions go as far as “does the person even need
me? did we ever mean anything?” such questions are normal in the early stages when one
stops talking to another or depart to other place.
2. Freedom & Euphoria. The second stage is the sense of freedom. You start feeling strong,
capable & optimistic about the fact that “your all your own”. Example you go through a day
with a positive mindset and independence this usually happens after a week or so without
seeing your partner or hearing from your partner. But this does not mean all is well.
3. Loneliness & emptiness. The so-called independence and positivity start to diminish, your
whole mood changes. “The free time you had turns into oppression” you now start to feel
sorry for yourself again this is very common. Example you start having questions such as
“why are things like this? Why can’t we be like other couples” again here you start to notice
that the time you having without the other is like a mental prison.
4. Anger and Frustration. Here the tone increases the state of Loneliness can cause one to be
angry, here one starts to realise that they have needs! Such needs need to be satisfied.
Example there comes questions such as “why did I get myself to situation? I am a strong
person why do I feel week and betrayed?” here one lacks control of the situation this is the
time many starts diverting the anger towards things or others.
5. Detachment. Most common why? Because having not seen one another in a while max 2
months or month questions arise such questions include “are we still in a relationship at
all?” lack of physical or emotional intimacy causes a form of detachment. Example “body
feels tired, you begin to see the feelings diminishing rapidly yet you still love one another.
6. Last one and most important ‘getting reacquainted’. “don’t fool yourself” no matter how
much you love someone at some point in time you grow apart from that person. This can be
due to one finding “new challenges in life, meeting new people, learning new things. And the
world itself without the other. Here you experience the fresh start of things after going
through the emotional roller-coaster all by yourself.
7. Solution & what to expect. getting back together without communicating for a while expect
these things “feelings of anxiety, unfamiliarity ‘feeling as if you no longer know the person’,
Expectations ‘as said expecting more from a person could lead to disappointment although
you knew each other for some time. Unsatisfactory ‘feeling unsatisfied with the other being
edgy at times. All these things are normal and are a true test to every relationship, but
Communication is the best cure to overcome all these ill feelings to do that its best to go to
the very first thing of ‘why did you let the person to your life’.