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Adventures in Grandparenting
University of Arkansas, United States Department of Agriculture, and County Governments Cooperating
3. Is the parent predictable? anticipate and want to see their parents,
while others wish to have no contact at
Some parents are more responsible than
all. Grandparents need to think care
others. When a parent does not show
fully about their grandchildren’s feelings
up for a scheduled visit, it is very hard
before arranging a visit.
on the children. Grandparents need to
help the children understand that their 2. What meeting times and locations are best
parents may not come without speaking for the child?
negatively of the birth parent.
When deciding times, the grandchild’s
The Grandparent schedule should be taken into considera
tion. The location will also have an
1. How does the grandparent feel about the influence on the meeting. The grandparent
birth parent and child visitation? should consider whether meeting at home
Due to the reasons the grandparents are versus a neutral location would be best.
raising their grandchildren, they may not 3. How often should the child see his/her
want the birth parent to have visitation. birth parent?
This could be due to many reasons, such
as former abuse of the child, the parent’s When deciding meeting times, the
drug habits, troubled relations between grandparents should consider the
the grandparent and the birth parent child’s age, relationship to the parent
and/or the belief that the visitation would and the reaction to the previous visit.
upset the grandchild. Younger children need more frequent
contact to maintain a relationship,
2. Can the grandparent facilitate the whereas older children may desire less
visitation? frequent contact.
There are many
factors involved
The Legal Situation
in arranging the
1. Has there been a legal decision about
visit. Can the
contact? (To prohibit or require contact)
grandparent
transport the
2. Are there institutional rules that
grandchild? Is
determine contact? (Such as prison
there long dis visitation schedules)
tance travel
3. What is the context of the visit? (Such as
involved? If the
visitation rules or conditions; for exam
grandparent is
ple, where will it take place and who will
still working, is
be there)
there time for the
Alternatives to Visitation
Grandparents are often placed in the
middle of the visitation issues. Having a
case worker or other family member help
References
with the arrangements for face-to-face Clyman, R., B. Harden and C. Little (2002),
visitation may ease the burden on the “Assessment, Intervention and Research With
grandparent. Sometimes, alternatives to Infants in Out-of-Home Placement. Infant Mental
Health Journal, 23, p. 435-453.
visitation are needed. Depending on the
child’s age, other suggestions for contact University of Wisconsin Extension, (2003)
include drawing pictures, sending letters, “Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Children’s
receiving phone calls and taking and Contact With Their Parents,” B3786-7.
sending photographs. E-mails and videos
U.S. Department of Health and Human Services,
are also ways to keep in contact without Administration for Children and Families,
face-to-face contact. www.acf.hhs.gov.
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