Professional Documents
Culture Documents
(2) We pretend to pay attention and only listen to parts of the conversation
(3) We listen carefully, focusing all our energy on the other person
(4) Active listening: we listen empathetically, stepping in the other person’s frame of reference,
seeing things through this frame, understanding their paradigm and what seeing the world
as that person feels like.
12 rules for active listening
Update what’s motivating you to listen: tell yourself immediately before listening: Why is it important
that I listen?
This will remind you here and now of what’s motivating you to listen.
Indicate that you’re listening with a receptive body posture. Keep eye contact.
Use empathetic (mirroring) or approving expressions, sounds and gestures.
When there are pauses, wait, this will encourage the other person to keep speaking.
Allow silent moments to stand, don’t rush to fill them in.
Avoid interrupting the other person or finishing their sentences.
Use open questions to encourage the other person to keep speaking or explain themselves better.
Ask about their emotions or about aspects that interest them.
Summarise or paraphrase what you heard to clear up questions or show that you’ve understood.
Be aware of your emotions, since they can interfere with the active listening process or provide valuable
information on what’s happening.
Listen to the emotional tone and respond to the emotions that might lie behind the speaker’s words,
gestures, expressions, movements and paraverbal language.
Show that you feel what the speaker feels.
When we listen we
Listening implies hear not only sounds,
hearing and we pick up on gestures,
interpreting. postures, movements,
Listening emotions and
Listening is a generates
completely active concerns, and we
interpretations. assign meaning to all of
phenomenon.
We’re not passive it, even how it affects
receivers. the listener.
We speak to
be heard.
Listening
validates “Remember that nature has given
speaking. us two ears and one mouth,
that we may hear twice as much
. Zeno of as we speak.”
Elea
Greek
philosopher
References checked
ALEMANY, Carlos (1998) 14 Aprendizajes Vitales: Aprender a escuchar bien. Bilbao: Desclee De Brouwer, 2010.
CORTÁZAR, Julio (1963) Rayuela. Buenos Aires: Sudamericana.
COVEY, Stephen (1989) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Barcelona: Paidós Ibérica. 32nd ed., 2015.
GALLEGO, Verónica (2015) Comunicación eficaz. Caracas: Universidad Simón Bolívar.
ROGERS, Carl (1951) Client-centered Therapy: Practice, Implications and Theory. Barcelona: Paidós Ibérica, 1981.