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DEVELOPMENTAL ANALYSIS

In Partial fulfillment of the Requirement in Nursing Care Management (N-100)

Theoretical Foundation in Nursing

Submitted By:
Rhuby P. Abenoja

Submitted To:
Ernaline A. Fermin RM, RN, MAN

Date Submitted:
November 18, 2021

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 II. Profile:
Name: Rhuby P. Abenoja
Age: 32
Marital status: Married
Occupation: Nursing Attendant II / Student
Address: 92 Camp 8, Kennon Road, Baguio City, Benguet

III. Developmental Process and Analysis

A. Marital History of Parents

My mom went to Manila to arrange her papers to go abroad. While she was in Manila,
she lived at her cousin’s place. There she met my father who is a soldier and who happen to be
the best friend of her cousin. My mom told me it was just like a “love at first sight”. My father
fell in love with my mom the moment he saw her. During her stay in Manila, my father decided
to court my mom. At that moment also, my father asked my mom not to pursue going abroad
because he said that he could manage to sustain her needs if and only if he would accept my
father to be his boyfriend. He was so confident in saying that because he was already financially
stable at that time. But my mom refused and continued to go abroad. However, despite that, my
father still pursued courting my mom even if it means that they’re going to have a long-distance
relationship. He said that he’s willing to wait, whatever it takes. My mother didn’t give assurance
that she would accept his love not until she came back to the Philippines. My father courted my
mom for about two years, and after a long wait, when my mom came back, she already gave her
“sweetest yes” to my father. They dated for almost six months and after they got to know each
other better, my father decided to propose to my mom. Though my mom loved my father so
much at that time, she was hesitant to accept the proposal. She still wanted to help her parents in
their financial needs because she was the only one expected as her siblings were still young. But
because my father loved my mother so much, he promised that he would help her in providing
for the needs of her family. It took time for my mom to decide but because of their love for each
other, she accepted my father to be her lawful husband. My father’s years of waiting paid off.
They got married at Fort Bonifacio, Makati, Metro Manila on June 4, 1988 and a year later, they
were blessed with a child, and that was me.

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 B. Antenatal and Birth
My mother was excited to have a child. She felt that having a child is one of the greatest
blessing a person can receive. My mom told me that being pregnant is the time to be most fragile
to your body inside and out. During her pregnancy, she had lots of pains every day, along with
vomiting all day. Her feet stayed swollen, and her back felt like it was always about to crack with
any movement she makes. Though there was so much to complain about, my mother had lots of
help from my father. He provides whatever my mother wants during pregnancy. He accompanies
her during her check-up’s and made sure that all of her needs will be given. So much love and
caring ways were shown to my mother, which she felt made her pregnancy feel a lot better than
it if was vice versa. Though my mother craved caffeine and junk food, she would not dare to eat
any of that because she feared that it would affect the baby in every way. It was her first time
being pregnant, so she listened to everything my grandmother said of what to do and not to do
when pregnant. She just took tips from her mother. Long walks became an everyday thing for
her. She said that words just cannot explain the feeling that she felt when she knew it was time
for the baby to come. She also said that it was like the inside of her stomach was being pulled out
by pliers. She just knew that she was in labor when her pain was nothing compared to what she
had felt before. My father was there as my mother began her labor and he was also the one to
rush my mom to the hospital and was there the whole-time during delivery. She was already
dilated too far and by the time she got to the hospital, she had to have the baby right away. She
remembers the delivery being so painful yet so quick. She felt a sense of achievement in giving
birth to her first child.

C. Birth and Infancy

Both my parents played an equal role in raising me, nurturing me and making me feel
safe. During this stage, my parents put a lot of importance on learning my trust, showing me love
and affection. When I was a baby, I was dependent on my mother for my comfort. She made sure
to attend to my needs quickly. She remembers breastfeeding me quickly whenever I cried
because she knows that I am hungry and that it’s the only way for me to stop crying. She told me
that she always cuddles me whenever he sees me restless. There was this time when I was
practicing on how to walk or stand on my own. My mother told me that I prefer walking
barefooted as much as possible, that is why she see to it that our home is completely baby proof
and all the furniture is secured to the wall. She encouraged me to become more confident while
cruising and try to let go of the wall or furniture. She made sure I had a soft-landing spot in case
I fall.

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 D. Early Childhood Experiences
At this stage, I began to explore my world. I began to control my actions and act to my
environment. I began to show preferences on food, toys and clothes. My mom told me that when
I was at this age, she lets me choose my own clothes and dress myself. I began to assert my
independence, by walking away from my mother, picking which toy to play and make choice
about what I like to wear or to eat. Rather than put on my clothes, my mom had the patience to
allow me to try until I succeed or ask for her assistance. She told me that although my clothes
preferences were sometimes not appropriate, she still allows me to do it on my own because she
believes that if she denied me from that opportunity, I might begin to doubt my abilities, which
could lead to low self-esteem and feelings of shame.
My mother also told me that it was also at this time that I begin to dislike wearing a
diaper that’s why I started being potty trained. She started to teach me some words for going to
the toilet-for example “wee” “poo” and “I need to go”. She encouraged me to use the potty or
toilet in the morning, and before or after snacks and meals.

E. Childhood Experience
When I was this age, I always spent a good time playing with other children. I usually
take the initiative to choose what game we will be playing. But sometimes my playmates didn’t
want the game that I chose that’s why there are times that I already avoid trying to initiate
games.
My mother also told me that there was this time that I made a painting on the walls. I
want my mom to appreciate the fact that I already know how to paint, but instead being
appreciated, my mother scolded me for what I did.

F. Adolescence Period
With all the stages that I’ve been through, this period has the greatest impact in my life. I
remember when I was in high school, when I am having my class, my mother called my teacher
and asked if she could send me home right away. I was confused. By then, when I arrived at our
house, I saw my mother crying. That was the time she told me that my father passed away. I
don’t know how to react. I was so shocked. It is the most intense experience that happened to
me. It was very painful knowing that he already passed away because he was the biggest
influence in my life. I was so very angry at that time, so angry that I find myself shaking. I even
question God “Why him? Why so soon”? I felt a heartbreak that I cannot even imagine. Losing
him changed my life in several ways. I have lost the person who gave me unconditional love. I

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have lost the person who remembers my childhood and could answer questions about my past.
My position in family changed. I felt confused about my role in the family. Questions like “What
will happen to us? Who will help my mother now that my father died”? I want to enjoy life as an
adolescent but because my father died, I wasn’t able to. I was torn between my responsibility as
growing adult and my desire as a child.

G. Early Adulthood Experience

In this stage, I was able to experience on how to love and to be loved. It is the period
where I met the man whom I thought was my better half. It is such a great feeling to be in love.
Words can’t express how happy I was during those times not until that man betrayed me. It was
at this time that I felt betrayed, abandoned, disgusted, confused, and depressed. I’ve had a failed
marriage. My husband cheated on me not only once but several times. I felt that I am no longer
needed, wanted and will eventually be discarded. It is the worst part of my life because it is when
the person, I trust the most, is the same person who hurt me the most. It’s painful because I have
invested so much of myself in the relationship, that I also lost my most significant support pillar.
It’s depressing for me to think that my family and my children was suddenly faced with a bleak
future. No loving mother will want that for their kids. It’s hard to imagine how to trust after
being cheated on. After what happened, I hardly trust anyone and sometimes I isolate myself
from people and I have the fear of involving myself into any kind of relationship. It’s like for me,
it is better not to involve in any kind of relationship rather than being hurt and losing myself over
and over again.

H. Present Psychosocial Status

I am far better now. Better without the toxic relationship I’ve been through. I must say
that despite those struggles, battles that I fought for, I am still here, moving forward. The
heartbreak improved my lifestyle. I was able to seek out new experiences and discover more
about myself. Breaking free from unhappy marriage not only allowed me to become a better
version of myself but much better mother to my kids. I become an independent woman, who runs
her own show and enjoys life much better.
Having friends who support me played a big role in building my self-esteem, or how
much I appreciate and love myself. I’m also incredibly blessed to have such an amazing family.
They have the power to mold me into the best version of myself, that’s why I am proud to say
that I am living in a wonderful world because of these positive people I have in my life.

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V. Reflection/Insights
As we age, we develop the ability to decipher what is good and what is bad. The irony of life
however, ushers us to either sitting on the fence as we avoid making decisions or committing
mistakes. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or means of luck. But no
matter how hard life seems to be through the hard times, especially now that we are all trying our
best to survive in the midst of pandemic, everything will be fine someday. I am currently
working in a hospital wherein everyday is a struggle and every day is just another battle. It’s a
battle between life and death. Any moment of time, this disease will be going to take our lives in
just a snap and it’s just so frustrating to think of it. But no matter how hard the situation is, we
should always have high hope that one day, everything will be back on the track and things will
ever get better again. Most importantly, whatever happens in our life, whatever comes our way,
whatever battle we have raging inside us while we are achieving our dreams, whether we are just
on time or too late, there’s always a chance for improvement and growth, regardless of how old
we are. That’s what I am doing right now, working while chasing my dreams- to be a future RN
someday.

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