Pillar one, self-discipline.

There's nothing worse than a hypocrite leader. And what I mean by that is, "Hey, I need you here
working while I'm home sleeping in and in a funk and in a depression and not feeling good about myself.
I need you to be firing on all eight cylinders when I'm barely firing on three." Right? People can smell
that.

We all have the reptilian mind. Our reptilian mind is always scanning and we can tell when someone's
off, the energy's not right.

Boss wants this level of work ethic and commitment from me, but he or she is not giving that. I was the
hypocrite leader.

So, in 2013, after that anxiety attack, in late 2013 when I brought Joan on board. I was like, "Oh my god.
She's a bad-ass. Look at all she's implementing. This is great. I'll let her do this." But I was still showing
up to work a little late, right? I was showing up to work a little late. I was unprepared for meetings. I still
hadn't started re-working out again.

Well, I was working out, but I was just going through the motions, but my diet was crap and all of you
know if your diet's crap, you can work out all you want, it's not gonna help. Most of my workouts were
spent in the reclined position in the parking lot in front of the gym, taking a nap in my car. That's how
tired, exhausted, depressed I was. I didn't know I was going through a depression until I looked back and
I was obviously in a deep, dark depression.

I realized that I expect this of Joan and I expect my team members to follow her lead. Joan is doing the
best she can, but oh my gosh. She's starting to ask me a lot of questions that I don't have answers to.
Oh-oh. I need to start playing up to my fullest potential.

I go, "Where do I start to becoming a leader? How do I figure this out?" Go back to what you can control
the best. For me, just like for you, it was my health, my weight.

All right, let me start at the self. Let me just start feeling good about myself 'cause when you feel good
about yourself, your standards of expectations go up. All of life is built around standards of expectations,
nothing else.

You get what you tolerate in life. Do you agree? And whatever you're tolerating is your current level of
expectation. So, if you're being cheated on, abused, money stolen from, whatever it is, be it in
relationship and health or in finance, it's because that's where your standard of expectations are.

So, I had to increase my standards of expectations, and the easiest place for me was not in business,
'cause fuck, that was crashing and burning. All of 2011/12/13. All right, go back to what you know dude,
working out, eating right.

So, I started meal prepping and I starting working out like a machine. And all of a sudden, the
dopamines, the endorphins kick in. I start feeling good about myself. I no longer feel like an imposter
and a hypocrite.
What do you know, when you work out, it is true, you have more energy. I knew that because for a
decade and a half before that, I worked out. I made time for it now.

I started sleeping earlier. I went to bed at 10:00 and woke up at 5:00, instead of going to bed at 2:00. I'd
watch TV all night because that was my alcohol. I'm not a drinker, but I would just binge watch TV all
night and then wake up at 8:00 in the morning, and then my phone's blowing up, emails are blowing up
and I'm trying to catch up and oh shit, I got a meeting with Joan and the web development team. That's
why I show up unprepared, 15 minutes after the meeting has started.

What kind of message was I sending?

But all of a sudden, when I'm starting to get in shape, have more energy, have more self-worth,
standards of expectations goes up and my health. I'm gonna sleep sooner. I'm gonna go to sleep at
10:00, wake up at 5:00, dominate my morning and then go into my meeting fucking dialed in. Right?

So, self-discipline is number one. Self-discipline in these three areas; mindset, physical health and
business. Know your business better than anyone else in your company.