INFORMAL SPEECH

AVENDAÑO, KRIS ANNE D.

THE BLIND ITEM

Our family doesn't know how much difficulties and pressure you go through in your daily life or
in your job. And your work doesn't know the circumstances of your life and your home. It can be a huge
struggle to be the breadwinner in a family, whether you are a husband or wife, a mother or father, or
even a child.

This is a breadwinner's lifestyle. You were forced to spend days debating whether you wanna
buy this or nah. You'll receive a lot of criticism for lacking funds, insurance, and future planning. How to
survive the present because there is a lot dejavu that need to consider and concentrate on. The family
does not foresee the primary earner's role as the source of financial and societal costs, thus Isn’t a piece
of cake like “ gurl you gotta go your ass”. To nearly everything, insecurity has been added. People
assume you are making a dump truck of money because you can pay for everything, but in reality, you
are barely making ends meet. No one else would pay for anything, so you have to. There will be times
when you will deprive yourself, and there will also be times when you will battle with your conscience
about whether or not you should reward yourself.

Anyone who is the main breadwinner for their family will be able to attest to the numerous
concerns and difficulties that come with the role. These fears, whether mental or physical, can wreak
havoc on a person. Every night you can’t sleep because of overthinking about the things you worry
about. Those silent battles you encounter everyday that make you breakdown that can lead to anxiety
attack. However, the funny things is that you are scared that your family will see you weak. So you butt
in and laugh at the mirror while wiping your tears and saying ‘’ ganda ko damsel in stress”. Just to Avoid
this pressure can result in poor mental and even physical health. You don’t want to be in depress and
make you illness. Your family know you are strong enough that is why you don’t wanna dissapoint them.

Once you gave up and your body the first thing that will affect is your work. And as a breadwinner
you don’t want to happen that because that is your main source to rely on. You always give your best
shot just not to lose your job. Even sometimes, your patience is ready to burst out. Your boss and co-
worker don’t know about your struggle that you have in pocket. Your work is the only way to save your
bills; paying the utility bills, providing for a family’s daily needs. Saving for big expenses like mortgage
payments, school fees, and unexpected expenses like illness and doctor’s bills.

This kind of struggle that breadwinner encounter in their daily life as blind item. Isn’t auction but
every family have one that don’t need to bet.

As a family member, little chit chat saying “how are you?” is a big means to us. Let’s normalize treat
them not as a ATM machine because sometimes they are nearly giving up that we can’t see because
they are hiding it to us. And for you the primary earner of the family. This is a huge responsibility and it
is important to realize that because you are providing the single income, you might experience problems
and challenges. But the most important thing is to remain in control and not let small problems let you
lose focus. Also try and create happiness and fun as a family that does not involve a lot of money.