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the paper when there are topics we need clarification about, and adjusting deadlines
when we need more time. She also reassures us when we are worried with graduating,
and never fails to motivate and remind us for the tasks that we need to do.
regardless of his busy schedule as a professor and a director. We are thankful how he
takes the time to check on our paper, as well as following up the progress of our
members as a group. He also takes the effort, especially during the first semester, to
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Instruments ………………………………………………......... 34
Procedure ………………………………………………......... 36
Data Analysis ………………………………………………......... 37
CHAPTER 4. RESULTS AND DISCUSSION …………………………………………….. 39
CHAPTER 5. SUMMARY, CONCLUSION, AND RECOMMENDATIONS ……………. 87
Summary ………………………………………………......... 87
Conclusion ………………………………………………......... 89
Recommendations ………………………………………………......... 89
Reflexivity ………………………………………………......... 90
References …………………………………………………………………………………… 94
Appendices
A. Permit to Conduct Research ……………………………………………………………… 102
B. Certification of Approval of Research Proposal ………………………………………….. 103
C. Sample Accomplished Informed Consent …………………………………………........... 104
D. Letter for Review of Research Instrument ………………………………………………… 105
E. Certificate of Approval of Research Instruments ………………………………………… 108
F. Sample Personal Data Sheet ………………………………………………………………. 111
G. Certification of Pilot Study ……………………………………………………………...... 112
H. Interview Guide ………………………………………………………………………........ 113
I. Transcribed Data …………………………………………………………………………... 114
J. Demographics of Respondents ……………………………………………………............ 153
K. Researchers Bionote ………………………………………………………………………. 154
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Abstract
romantic relationships, including the challenges they faced, their motivation, and the
benefits that they gained. The study has a total of 10 college participants from Metro
Manila within the age range of 18-26, who identifies themselves as heterosexual, and
are currently in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex for at least three years and
above duration. The researchers utilized a phenomenological research design within the
participants, including the difficulties they faced, their motivation to maintain their
relationship, and the benefits they derived from being in a long-term relationship.
Results revealed that the experiences in the relationship are composed of positive and
negative states of emotions from the challenges and benefits of the couple that are
relationship and affection for their partner were the primary reasons why individuals
pursued to maintain it that happens when their needs are met and their contributions are
perceived as significant, growing in the process as they practice the values and virtues
established within that helps them overcome the challenges and becomes beneficial for
their goals. Benefits gained from the relationship revolved around the college student
Chapter 1
Introduction
long. (Spring, 2021). A relationship in general is a connection among people, and this
partners are intimate and passionate towards each other where they use labels that
they will give to each other can also vary. This includes labeled romantic relationship,
Gonsalves mentioned the labeled romantic relationship where couples use identifiers
maintain what they have for a long-term duration which is why they allot quality time
and show intimacy for each other. Couples harness it to acquire a better understanding
of themselves, of the world around them, and of the future they are trying to build.
and there are zero to little number of research on defining what is considered “long-
term.” Some research say it is about two years, other articles say its three years, but
according to Applebury (2020), nine months to three years duration are the days when
relationships are still the fresh years since the “honeymoon phase” or the lovey-dovey
state are still high. As time passes by, couples get to know each other more, and being
deeply immersed in each other’s routines gets boring as there is not much to know
about them anymore. Applebury explained that when the high levels of oxytocin or
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the “love hormone” are dropped off from this duration and a couple are still making
an effort to be together, they want to commit and make things work out. She added
that to be considered “long-term”, it still depends on the couple on what they consider
as a long duration, and there are no rules bound to define if it is long or not. Other
research for lasting couples often mentions 3 years and above, but others do not tackle
a romantic relationship’s duration without involving marriage. Married years are often
deemed as long when a married couple is already together for 11 years, or more than.
keeps people healthy, may it be in the casual encounters on daily basis such as
colleagues. Kirtly Parker Jones, MD (2023) from University of Utah expressed that
people involved in relationships, even the Philia ones (love without romantic
attraction), are often feeling positive, hence the lesser need to do hospital visits.
Further stated in the article that there are other health benefits in a relationship such as
it can contribute to longer life, and it can heal people due to having social support.
On the other hand, when it comes to romantic relationships, the benefits that it
has are similar in essence. The study of Braithwaite and Holt-Lunstad (2017) found
that there is an association between romantic relationships and mental health. Their
study generated that romantic relationships are key components for a human to
function better and influence various effects in mental health. Their study also implies
health that is at par regarding performance of treatments that are used for improving
individual mental health. There is also an article by McIntosh (2015) where it is stated
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that the body and mind benefits, especially when a person is in a healthy relationship.
Partners encourage stopping vices or being fit which contributes to a healthier body.
Warm physical interactions such as hugs are also found to lower heart rates and lower
blood pressure.
much as it can benefit the mental health, it can also be detrimental and be a major
stressor (Till & Niederkrotenthaler, 2022). Rowe (2021) explained that problems
occur in relationships, and there are arguments or negative situations that don’t get
resolved right away. When this persists, it causes couples to fight which leads to loss
After adolescence, people outgrow their old ways where they start to navigate
want, and who they want to be with. In the young adult age range of 18-26 years old,
a lot of them are already in college, and according to Lantagne & Furman (2017),
romantic relationships in this phase have higher rates of intimacy, selflessness, and
support tend to last longer with at least one year duration. Maturing also plays a role
on how young adults view their romantic relationships as they gradually start to
change their goals and focus, hence they change their attitudes towards relationships;
having a better insight in handling relationships that can potentially lead to marriage.
Stated by Cherry (2020), romantic relationships score high on the priority list of
college students as it is in this stage that the connection with possible romantic
partners determines their passion and satisfaction for life, and there is also excitement,
and sense of belonging that romantic relationships provide. Although there are a lot of
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positive effects to others, where some fall apart as soon as months or even weeks
College students experience an array of emotions and stress that affects their
behavior, productivity, and mental health. They also participate in various activities
that are prominent in universities such as socializing with a lot of people and building
people, views, and attitudes are arguably best for most people during college. This is
the time when students in their late adolescence and young adulthood learn to interact
with other people with different perspectives from them through social relationships
(Brockman, 2018). Life values and other circumstances can change or improve a
person depending on how it affects the person and how he copes with it. Late
adolescence usually starts during the years in college which is also the start of most
Being in college is the most stressful era of a student's academic journey and
one must see to it that they find a balance in their life where they can focus on their
academics but is still able to consider the life that they have outside of it (Karambelas,
2019). It is important that as a student they must be able to play different roles and be
able to tell the priority of it such as it could be their role as a friend, employee, or a
partner. Balancing these roles is a must to a student’s life because it will ensure the
optimal functioning of a student with their academics. Often, students would put their
academics on the top list of their priorities in exchange of factors which are personal
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such as living a healthy lifestyle or their relationships, and by doing this a student
could lead to a sudden decline on their performance (academic-wise) since all those
factors are very critical when it comes to how well they will do in school.
As mentioned in the earlier part, as any other people after adolescence, college
students as young adults already have an idea on how they identify, and who they
want to be in a relationship; may it be in the same sex, opposite sex, etc. Although in
"opposite" sex and gender feel emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attraction and
channels as the cornerstone of the country and the sole acceptable way to structure
connection that serves as the foundation of the nuclear family and establishes
With this being said, young adults now tend to spend more time dating, being in
romantic relationships, and thinking or talking about the ideal mate because of the
Westernization of urban society. However, most parents and adults may disregard this
as being shallow, while most adolescent relationships are short-lived and lack the
complexity of a long-term one, they are nonetheless important for young people and
Theoretical Framework
Rusbult et al. (2011), and it proposes that people stay in a romantic relationship even
when faced with challenges with their partners. These experiences can be detrimental
to their overall health, yet they still stay due to their investment in the person and
when they see no better alternative in a partner. Rusbult explained that this leads them
elaborate on the components of the investment model, it was stated in the study that
the concept of investment is not limited to the things that has been given to a person,
but it also includes those that are yet to happen, such as the plans that they have with
their partner, and those things that are yet to be established in the relationship. The
situation, so instead, they redirect it into looking for more reasons to continue to be
together. Their plans are also a reason to keep them going as they believe that
executing those things will heighten the likelihood of making the relationship
successful. People differ in terms of tolerance and resilience because some of them
experiences in a way that must positively contribute to the relationship, and they do
not think about themselves alone, rather their partner’s feelings must be put first.
unacceptable behaviors of their partner which results in denial. On the other hand,
those that are less inclined to stay in a relationship often show a damaging response
where it does not promote the relationship. Rusbult’s model also posited that external
factors such as opinions and societal norms play a significant role in the relationship
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where couples commit to each other, and it broadens the lens as to why couples
2004) where he posited that there are three significant components of relationship
per vertex in the triangle, and the upper top part is where the intimacy lies. Passion is
found in the left vertex of the triangle, and in the right part is where the
has no bearing because they were only put in random places, which is arbitrary. To
discuss the three components, the first is intimacy where it is defined as the bond
between a couple and how they can closely relate to each other. Intimacy also makes
individuals feel connected to their partner where it contributes to making them feel
loved and experience a warm relationship with one another. The second component is
passion where there is the drive towards physical attraction, romantic aspect, and
sexual consummation. Sternberg refers to passion as the “hot” part of the relationship
because it involves having arousing experiences to keep a passion that provides drive
existing relationship they have with their partner, and it is up to them to decide if they
want to continue by staying and by keeping the love, intimacy, and passion alive in a
relationship. Upon deciding to stay invested, this will ensure the longevity of a
relationship because an individual wants to pursue the relationship in the long run.
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Conceptual Paradigm
Figure 1
The construct of the paradigm roots from the heterosexual college students'
of the relationship, and the benefits that they gained while they are in the said
relationship.
is best fitting as the starting point to which data will be coming from. An inductive
approach is utilized to collect narratives that describe the experiences, challenges, and
whether a person desires to remain and maintain the said relationship. How they
manage the challenges faced and how they feel about it contributes to why they
maintain the relationship. On the other hand, determining the benefits of being in the
relationship also helps in revealing the positive reinforcements that they go through to
maintain it. Information gathered from these circumstances can provide general
themes that summarizes what drives them to maintain their present romantic
relationship with another individual of the opposite sex. Shared ideals within romantic
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relationship stability (Frye & Trinitapoli, 2015). Hence, the experiences, challenges,
discussion of various similarities and difference of the individual with their person of
interest and what they do with them whether they are aware of it or not; these will
The experiences are the overall understanding of the circumstances they are
immersed in that brought awareness of how they can describe it. The challenges are
being with their partner for a longer duration, or else it will lead them in parting ways.
can either result in detrimental or beneficial consequences (Laursen, B., & Hafen, C.,
2010). Meanwhile, benefits are the knowledge on how college students are positively
occurrences they face with or from their partner as they maintain a long-term
romantic relationship and how these variables affect their willingness to maintain the
romantic relationship?
relationship?
Assumptions
individual.
3. The benefits that an individual gets from their partner also positively affects
their life where they become healthier, experience lower stress, and are more
satisfied in life.
maintaining them is crucial to keep oneself healthy, as humans are social beings
a couple, but it is not limited to this concept alone as other facets of a relationship
may be discussed. The benefactors are identified by the researchers such as the
following:
Couples
The findings of this study could help the couple’s understanding of why they
act in a certain way, particularly why they choose to maintain their relationship as this
Researchers
enables advancements of research in the topics that can contribute further literature on
relationships.
Synthesis from the study contributes to the systematic approach that mental
health professionals and mental institutions follow in producing relevant and efficient
romantic relationships that may reveal correlations to mental issues and/or disorders
This study focuses on these variables which they could use to expand their knowledge
on the topic as romantic relationships are considered by the researchers a big interest
Parents
May utilize the findings of the research on their children. Findings would give
parents an idea how romantic relationships are now in the status quo given that there
romantic relationships.
The scope of the study is limited to the experiences of college students on how
they stay in a long-term romantic relationship, along with the challenges and benefits
that they get from it. Short-term relationships will not be further discussed by the
researchers, and other types of romantic relationships such as those that were
dating, etc. Marriage and separation are also excluded as the paper will focus on the
Additional inclusion criteria for the study are heterosexuals as the paper will only give
relationships.
within the duration of less than three years, or individuals who identify as being of
another gender will not be covered by the study. Social influences and inferences of
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the study as well because it will not be further elaborated. Terminologies such as
limited to the bounds of their indicated definition in the paper. Any aspect not
befitting of the scope is considered the limitation of the study thus future study
regarding these aspects not within the scope are highly encouraged for future
researchers.
Definition of Terms
Benefits
The things that can provide positive effects for the people engaged in a relationship
Commitment
The term used for couples to refer to their investment with each other. They
Challenges
The difficulties that make a relationship hard to maintain. This includes the
relationship.
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The selected students who are actively pursuing their degree and identify
themselves as heterosexual who are in a relationship with the opposite sex within the
Couple
Individuals who are in a romantic relationship with each other where they use
Experiences
relationship. These experiences are the relevant information and the in-depth
explanation for their encounters in life that will be used to draw data for the research.
Heterosexuality
It is the sexual attraction and only preference towards the opposite sex. The
relationship.
Long-term
This refers to the duration of three years or longer when being in a romantic
Romantic Relationship
each other such as “boyfriend” or “girlfriend.”. It also implies that they are
Chapter 2
Romantic relationships are essential to humans as they help with survival rate,
as well as to mental and emotional well-being. Sheehan Fisher (2021) discussed that a
person must build a connection of relationships because having social support is a part
of being a human. It also improves the quality of life. With the study of Mertika et al.
(2020), people are more interested in this during adulthood. There is also a positive
effect on happiness and well-being when people marry afterwards. Fisher explained
some benefits of relationships such as less stress, healthier behaviors, greater sense of
increased less stress as explained by Fisher because she claims that the anxious
feeling of waiting for another person, and the expectation for the flirting to go well
can be a problem. Another negative outcome that Raypole cited is that people tend to
develop poor judgment to make an impression on the person that they love. The
amygdala and the frontal lobe are parts of the brain that helps to detect danger shut
down which is why warning signs or red flags of the other person can be
relationships negatively affect the academics of college students. The findings of this
study explain that aspirations to improve academically are made difficult or more
international students, it can also reflect or be in line with the findings of this current
research and participants. In the same manner, this research could also produce a
different outcome from the study mentioned and be used for future research.
Regardless, this study suggests that the academic view and aspirations of students can
For other studies like the research of Seligman & Csikszentmihalyi (2014),
romantic relationships are being associated with well-being, self-esteem, and other
Along with these claims, health and well-being is influenced by these positive
psychological experiences. Health and well-being were only associated with the
absence of illness and disability but currently, psychology has been involved in
conditions such as well-being, strengths, and quality of life are addressed from a
newly established perspective from positive psychology. It is also stated that optimal
These evaluations lead to well-being being associated with personal and social
for humans, and romantic relationships are not an exemption (Lopez et al., 2019).
lessons during adulthood. Some factors that are improved during this stage in a
romantic relationship include one’s communication skills, how to properly deal with
emotions, learning how to empathize with their partner as well as others, and
exploring the intimate needs of the body. Not only do these learnings which are
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become long-term, it also has its fair contribution towards a person; especially a teen
adult can improve their confidence. The article states that the youth have shown to
people and even more when they experience it with their partner. Teens and young
adults have actually been found to encounter more conflict with their peers and
parents rather than their partners. Furthermore, a romantic relationship also promotes
fact, a lot of the youth believe that sexual intercourse should only occur if one is in a
romantic relationship, and even if not, all sexual relationships are romantic, it still
that conflicts arise, such as encountering the stage of being emotionally vulnerable
which may lead to separation. For some youth who are more sensitive to being
rejected, they will most likely experience having self-doubt and be buried with
communication, one which is built by constant conflicts, dating violence, and lack of
Lopez mentioned in their study that romantic relationships play a huge role in
an emerging adult and adolescent’s development and are also a source of both
negative and well-being outcomes during those stages. Their study has found that
being such as creating a positive mindset and improvement with their overall mood.
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Not only does it have contributions to their well-being, but it appears to have an
impact even more so when things don’t turn out well with their relationship. The
authors mention how the negative outcomes are far greater compared to well-being
anxiousness, and longing penetrate one’s mental state deeper especially with young
adults. Generally, the youth is often very ecstatic upon entering a romantic
responsibility for someone which is found to be something that emerging adults want
to feel at that age, however, upon encountering conflicts and negative outcomes some
of them choose to get out of the relationship to feel relieved of the emotions that they
some, other students perceive this as a hindrance or burden. Schmidt & Lockwood
(2015) claims that college students' romantic relationships are considerably associated
with absences in class. Their study shows that engagement to romantic relationships
highly affects the odds of nonattendance to three or more class meetings in a semester
per course. This negative effect can be associated with positive effects that are
it can prove as well if academic performance is or is not a motivator for such action.
parents, romantic relationships are rapidly becoming a source of emotional support for
experiences in them, both good and bad. People who describe their romantic
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relationships favorably, for example, are often outgoing, at ease speaking their minds,
and capable of being more articulate. On the other hand, those who express their
trouble maintaining relationships as adults, and feel lonely. Adolescents and teens
Romantic relationships in adulthood tend to give those who are involved a more
(2016), stated that based on relationship status, those who are still with their romantic
to balance the need of his needs and the partner for a mutual rewarding bond than
those who aren't but those who aren't scored higher in romantic agency or the ability
to adapt and cope on unpleasant emotions that are caused by romantic engagements.
Same study suggests that when it comes to gender, women referenced a higher
percentage of social cognitive maturity and romantic agency than men. This
mature enough to handle this kind of relationship as it develops one's social cognitive
maturity and coherence. On the other hand, experiencing separation with a partner
romantic relationships.
The outcomes of being in a romantic relationship during adulthood have its fair
substance use with the influence of a romantic relationship. Angulski et al. (2018)
substance use in emerging adulthood. Their study suggests that monitoring your
substance use. Although this study lacks other evidence, the association of romantic
according to Maas and Lefkowitz (2014). Although their study didn't focus on sexual
esteem, it showed a particular pattern in sexual satisfaction with those who are in a
romantic relationship and those who aren't. The study suggests that adults who are in
a romantic relationship appear to be more satisfied regarding their sex lives than those
who aren't. In the same manner, college students who are in a romantic relationship
tend to experience greater satisfaction sexually than college students who are in casual
predicted based on the prior research that emerging adults who have spent more time
college semesters would gain a higher sexual esteem and those who spent less college
semesters while engaged in romantic relationships would have less sexual esteem.
In college, it is the phase where students experience numerous new things, and
this may include keeping an active social life and being engaged in a long-term
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students differ in their rationale for staying in a relationship. Sandoiu described the
relationship between college students and said that people from this cluster are more
whereas married people focus on the practical aspects of life such as family
responsibilities, investments, and wanting a relationship to progress and last for a long
time. Although the terms why both relationships of college and married couples end
doesn’t differ, and reasons like differences, deception, or the lack of affection towards
through: 1) Constant effort, 2) Meeting the needs of the other person such as giving
them affection or their partner being a support system to them, 3) Sharing money or
give gifts for one another. Challenges are also extensive as there are problems that
exist within and outside the relationship. However, the study of Hamlin (2018) about
conflict in long-term romantic relationships explained that arising problems are not all
negative. It can be unpleasant for couples, but there are positive influences that can be
acquired from these events such as development of communication from both parties
Machia and Ogolsky (2020) said that there are several reasons why people
Hamlin also explained that dissatisfaction among couples only comes along when the
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weight of the negative impacts, which results in distrust of one another. The study of
Kansky et al. (2019) also found that the affect of a person is significant to
relationships because people who are happier engage more and have shown a higher
competence in socializing than those who have a negative affect. Hence, they are
better with social relationships, especially the romantic ones because they have more
positive feelings which helps them regulate and decide rationally conflicts arise.
With romantic relationships among college students, one cannot be sure that it
part of a student's life that can help with all the adjustments and conflicts that they can
or may encounter. Being in a relationship while being in one of the busiest and
hardest stages of a person's academic life; for sure that may only come with its own
set of hardships, and of which are considered by students who want to be in a long-
term romantic relationship. According to Newman (2020), there are a lot of tasks and
activities that are much harder compared to the previous academic stages which is
why a student is obligated to put a lot of effort and focus on their lessons and
activities. So, with the demands of time for the student's partner in having a
relationship, it may only complicate both their time together and can possibly reduce
their focus towards their supposed time for studies. In conflicts such as the demand
for time in a relationship, both must be able to establish communication and if they
fail in talking things through, it may only end up affecting both of them negatively.
responsibilities and romantic relationships, they exhibit and practice acts which
balance these two aspects. Many fail to achieve balance due to various influences that
affect their management. A study by Rhjin et al. (2018) showed that school both had
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the supportiveness of their partners; focus was much better for students who had
who had less supportive partners. Class absences are twice as likely to happen for
those who are in romantic relationships according to Schmidt and Lockwood (2015).
Another study by Kasagga and Naikoba (2020) stated that when attitudes in a
student.
The study of Kuperberg and Padgett (2015) explained that relationships are
area may not have similar beliefs to someone who lives far away or residing in a
different location, hence, affecting the longevity of a relationship. The norm in age
also differs as expectations for those who are still college are expected to continue
studying and date casually, but those in their late or early 20s are free to date and
expected to marry which pushes them to stay longer in relationships. They also avoid
casual hookups because older adults differ in mindset which makes them lean more in
It has been a principled concept for the past decades that marriage and
2019). Typically, late adolescence and early adulthood. As in these times as people
are within these ages. People would be starting their professional lives and would start
to part or practice and apply independence from their parents. This stage in life is
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critical in determining the outcome or the life of the person in the following years in
Cultures have an impact on how love and dating is perceived, and it differs
everywhere around the world because a person may be tied to a certain tradition
meanings to these things. Historical and cultural traditions serve as foundations for
romance that is culture-specific expressed in many forms. The difference can be seen
in what is more emphasized when showing affection towards their partner; other
cultures place more value on implicit and indirect means of expressing love to a
romantic partner, while certain cultures emphasize explicit and direct approaches.
different beliefs such as religion, history, as well as eastern and western cultures
(Devani, 2022). Devani cited a few traditions practiced by Filipinos, and the first of
them is how a man must initiate in asking for a date. In Philippines’ tradition, courting
or “panliligaw” is among the man and the woman, where the parents and the
“nililigawan” or the girl being courted are wooed by the man. This is the getting to
know stage where the man sets his best foot forward to impress the girl and her family
whether to say yes to proceed in a romantic relationship with the man, or to decline
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his offer. The courtship can include a serenade, sending love letters or gifts, or serving
the woman by taking her home or visiting their home in a constant manner to show
respect.
bumble and tinder to find someone they are compatible with and to eventually build a
relationship with them (Torres, 2019). Torres also mentioned the use of online
messaging or video calling because the rise of technology gave people easier access to
dating like using the Messenger application by adults, as it is also cost-efficient and
convenient. Moreover, Labor (2020) revealed that online identities formed by young
Filipinos in mobile dating apps created self-presentation strategies that are both
individual’s positive characteristics and traits are expressed, regulated and shaped by
the systematic structure of online dating apps overall. In addition to this, Labor also
mentioned that online identity reflected the intentions and interactions of a user with
another.
The dating culture is similar to the West as they also have courtships and
situationships. The courtship ritual in the West is a duration where two individuals get
to know each other before they settle down to marry (White, 2021). White said that
courtship may vary to the culture; it can occur in the form of a casual date such as
going out and doing enjoyable activities together, or it can be for a longer period
where they date in preparation for cohabitation. Page (2019) claims that situationships
also occur where the relationship is vague. The boundaries are not clear, but there are
parameters that they can’t also date other people. Being in a situationship is not clear,
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nor does it have labels unlike a long-term relationship, Page explained. The set-up
because it is the relationship where they do not have a concrete plan on what to do
with the relationship, but still wants to keep the other person around. According to
Vandergriendt (2020), a situation ship is not necessarily bad because if both parties
are willing to communicate, the undefined relationship can eventually turn into a
labeled one. A person should also know what they want to avoid anxiety, and to turn
In modern times, dating applications are also often used in the West. Diaz
(2022) explained that even though most adults are now utilizing dating applications, it
is still harder to find a potential partner compared to the earlier generations. In the
article, Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, a sociologist of Pew Research Center, said that the
pandemic, political strife among countries, and climate change has an impact on
dating in the West, especially that the dating applications let people see each other as
“disposable.” Gunsaullus also mentioned that dating in the West using dating
applications makes it more convenient and easier, but the likelihood of keeping a
In the Philippines, Tinder has been accepted by the market. According to the
article of Radic (2022) Filipinos are drifting away from the traditional dating styles
Filipinos prefer casual dating and strolling, and this is useful as a hybrid between
speed dating and a hot-or-not app because it takes out the fear of rejection in dating. It
also allows users to send a message to those that have shown interest. Despite the low
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smartphone penetration rate in the country, the app has gained popularity among
Based on the article of Ankush Bahugna (2018), relationships are hard, and the
failure rate is high because people are not prepared. Having to compromise and to do
the things that will make a relationship work is often discarded, which leads to
disagreement and failure of relationships among people. It is so easy for people to let
go and they give up easily when the wants and needs are yet to be met. Most people,
Bahugna explained, that excitement is often confused with love. People look for
someone to do things with, but not to understand and love them on a deeper level.
Although, for other Americans, dating applications are helpful for them, and statistics
from Pew Research Center (2020) have shown that three-in-ten U.S. adults used
dating sites and apps, and 12% if them successfully married and committed to their
partners, and the 23% went on a date with a person they met in an online platform.
Evident in the statistics, the engagement of adults from the U.S. are heightened with
The study of Ellen Lamont on gendered dating (2020), the study generated
results that heterosexual men and women aims for the equality in terms of education,
career, and the chores to do at home. There are also old cultures followed such as the
man leads by planning and paying the dates. Whereas the LGBTQIA Community
members are more flexible and believe that there must be clear communication
between the parties, and it doesn't matter who pays or initiates the date. The focus of
The gathered studies both local and foreign are important in providing
information that tackles a similar topic about the long-term heterosexual romantic
relationship in Philippines and the West has similar ideas such as having a courting
stage, although applications are now prevalent given the technological advancements
in this modern age such as using dating applications or dating sites like bumble,
tinder, omegle, etc. Dating heterosexuals often expect their partners to have a give and
take, and they must be equal in terms of effort. There are also advantages and
such as it can be a source of stress for them and can affect their academic performance
potentially affect the time that they are allotting to the relationship especially it must
be maintained. Although in the positive side, they are given help in the academic
aspect, and they are motivated to study well. Romantic relationships can also
positively affect their life in general such as improving their mental well-being and
improving their overall health, as well as make a good impact on their well-being and
self-esteem.
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Chapter 3
Methods
Research Design
(Creswell & Poth, 2013). This is used in the study of understanding the experiences of
challenges that they have, their drive, and the benefits that they get and experience
with their partners. Furthermore, the dependent variable in this study will be the
experiences of college students as they will vary from every participant. The
independent variable will be the existing relationship of the students as it will stand
Participants
The study has a total of 13 participants. Three (3) of them were utilized to be
included in the pilot study, whereas the remaining 10 participated in the main study.
The criteria for the participants in the study are the following: young adults in
the age range of 18 to 26 years old, in college regardless of the year level they are in,
the opposite sex. Also, the duration of their relationship must be at least three years or
above, their partner is also a young adult who can be pursuing a college degree, in the
working scene.
experiences with other participants due to being in the same age range. The study
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doesn’t limit the participants within the institution of Far Eastern University Manila or
its other branches, hence, participants can come from any school as long as it is in
Metro Manila. Those who are studying and residing outside of it are not qualified to
be a participant in the study as the setting is only limited to the aforementioned city.
Campbell et al. (2020), purposive sampling is used to gather participants who fits the
criterion of the study where they are a good match for what the researchers are aiming
to know. With this sampling, it will allow the study to draw results that are relevant
and credible, as well as provide deeper and detailed information about the subject
matter.
The pilot study participants were chosen using the purposive sampling method
and there were no specified sexes for them, making it random. It also doesn’t limit to
one member of the relationship. On the other hand, the participants in the final study
are also chosen in the same manner but they were divided into both sexes – both men
and women. There was an equal distribution as there were 5 (five) men, and there is
Ethical Consideration
The methods that are made by the researchers are done with an involvement
with another human being, hence, ethical considerations are important in conducting
this study. By adhering to ethical guidelines, this protects the participants as well as
Risk/benefit Assessment
The risks are: researchers have personal biases, but it is set aside and
experiences which should not in any way interfere to the study. The study will also
focus on the romantic relationship which may need the participants to draw ideas
from retrospect where it may trigger emotions, as well as tap into sensitive topics in
For the benefits, will have a better understanding of their relationship more as
it requires for them to recall and explain why they behave or act in a certain way in
their relationship. When recalling experiences, this also test their maturity on being
able to verbalize and explain reasons as to why and how the events in their
relationship occurred.
Informed Consent
they read and signed before choosing to participate in the study. The informed consent
form contains enough background information and ethical standards about the study.
It also highlights that participants have the free will to decline in joining the study
whenever they wish where it is assured that incidents like this will not be taken
against the participants. The informed permission covers the interview as well as the
validated interview guides that will reduce any risk that can elicit a prejudice in the
said study. While the researchers ensures to follow safety protocols for the health of
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our participants as well as the researchers, with this we also ensure that we have a
conducive surrounding that the participants can share their thoughts with the topic.
Confidentiality
The data gathered are handled by the researchers for safe keeping. All the data
gathered concerning this research are only used for the paper, and their identity will
other personnel that would take part in the research are the only ones who has an
access to the. Proper disposal of the participants’ data will be done once the study is
finished through deleting it in the devices of the researchers, and even files that has
been uploaded will be deleted permanently. and getting rid of the physical forms filled
Debriefing
debriefing with the participants to ensure that they are aware of their participation in
the study. Any questions from the participants are answered and addressed by the
researchers. This is also to show that the researchers are well educated with the
transcription are also going to be done the researchers by sending it to the participants
The findings of the research are all reported with honesty. There is no
fabrication of the results and parts that may mislead a reader in understanding the
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research paper. The researchers also partnered with credible validators for the
interview guide who ensured that questions used are valid, reliable, and ethically
constructed.
Instruments
The researchers are equipped with instruments to collect data. The main
answer the statement of the problems indicated in the paper. It also guides the
discourse of both the participants and the researcher in discussing their experiences
Procedure
approval for the researchers to conduct the study. It was accepted by the board of
panels, and the researchers utilized the social media application, Facebook, in
recruiting participants who are studying or living in Metro Manila. They were chosen
depending on who fits most for the criteria of the study and who can provide data that
is relevant for the researchers. The researchers also recruited participants face-to-face
A pilot study was conducted where three (3) participants were needed, and 10
is used for the main study. The procedure is similar in essence for both, although the
pilot study is used to initially conduct what the researchers have at hand to see its
flaws, revise, and to conduct the final study in a more orderly manner.
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During the pilot study, flaws were seen and this includes the availability of
participants and the time to conduct interview, the setting on where to hold it, how the
discourse will flow, and how the set up would be for the interviewer.
Given this, the researchers then found more effective ways to improve the
main study which includes conducting a one-on-one interview for the rest of the study
after attempting to have a grouped interview to have a uniformed rapport and follow
up questions for all across participants. Time management is also found significant for
all the interviews that will happen, as well as not having leading questions that would
contaminate the data. The questions are also elaborated properly so that the flow of
interviews are comprehensible for the end of the participants. The setting in conduct
the study are also put into consideration by the researchers to provide the participants
a place was conducive enough, hence making them able to think well and share their
experiences better.
The process of the main study is similar to what was done during the pilot
study, where it started after the researcher and the participants have a designated
location and date to hold the interview in their convenience. Before proceeding, the
researcher first provided an informed consent form where the terms of the study are
stated, letting the participant read it all as well as reiterating it to them by reading. The
form contains statements of their liberty to proceed or decline the study, their benefits
and risks, as well as how their data will be gathered and discarded after the study
ends. After the participant understands the Informed Consent Form and wishes to
continue, they are asked to sign form, as well as the personal data sheet where it is
used by the researchers to collect information such as name (optional), age, sex,
contact information, and a question to ask the longevity of the romantic relationship
of the participant. Both forms include full disclosure of the study including the
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possible risks and the significance of their participation. Clarifications are also be
After the needed forms are filled out, the interview was held anywhere within
Metro Manila, depending on the availability and preference of the participant. The
researchers adhere to their preferred time and date to avoid distracting them, and to
not have a conflict with the course subjects they are attending in their respective
drawing out experiences of the participants for it to serve as the data of the study.
When the interview session ends, a debriefing was made by the researchers where all
of what was talked about during the explanation of ICF is repeated, and it is again
mentioned that they can stop participating in the research if they wish to even if the
researchers.
triangulation to check the validity of the study. This also provides a deeper
overlooked codes and themes, and minimize the existing bias after conducting the
study. The researchers had three processes in triangulation such as: 1) Cross checking
within the group, 2) Validation from transcription from the participant, 3) Confirming
or contrasting with the findings of other studies from the RRL and other researchers.
With the data gathered by the researchers, safe keeping are made for any
physical forms signed by participants. They are kept securely in a locked cabinet
when unused, and only research members have access to it. The confidential data of
their interview are also stored solely in the devices of the researchers where it is only
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used to code and analyze themes. There will be a proper disposal of the data once the
well as shredding or burning their informed consent forms and personal data sheets.
The researchers understand the security practices where they will adhere to ethical
Data Analysis
thematic analysis to configure patterns from the participants to deduce initial codes
that leads into revelation of specific themes that arose from data gathering. These
themes are beneficial for researchers that drew inferences that can verify the
The steps were as follows: (1) Applying a thematic analysis where it allowed
researchers familiarize the gathered data by transcribing and noting down initial
impressions. (2) Generated initial latent codes in selecting engaging features of the
data; assembled the data relevant to each code. (3) Explored themes that had a relation
to the coded extracts and laid out the blueprint for the thematic map of the analysis.
(4) A thorough review of themes helped the validity and reliability of the thematic
map constructed by the researchers. (5) Following the evaluation and refinement of
themes comes the construction of definitions and names for each theme. (6) Data
Triangulation. Interpretations are done after from final analysis with a written report.
complexity of data and strengthened the overall meaning of the research (Alhojailan,
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process.
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Chapter 4
parallels and contrasts between this study and earlier studies and literature, the findings
are also presented in the context of prior research findings and relevant literature, when
appropriate.
(lines 5-6).
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5-8).
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pa yung relationship
a
Emotions and feelings in the relationship are the experiences that has an emotional
where it can affect them on having experience where it can be either pleasant or not.
b
Happy or Happiness is when a person is in the state of joy where the feelings of
satisfaction on a certain action, event, or situation is the factor why this is felt.
c
Sadness can range from different emotional states such as being disappointed,
d
Romantic excitement or “kilig” is a feeling where a person feels good due to the love
stimuli or being in love. The heart races, and there is a thrill around the person
romantically involved.
(line 64).
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21-22).
58)
a
Bonding and Quality Time: Bonding is the process of nurturing a connection , how
spend more and more time with someone, and it frequently encompasses feelings such
where they don’t let quality time gets disrupted even at busy times.
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c
Daily bonding moments are those quality time moments between couples that occur
on a daily basis. It can be just being around with each other where the significant
other is, or enjoying each other company whether by doing nothing or things that the
couple enjoy.
d
Going on dates are moments where couples are typically alone for the purpose of
spending time with each other. They also bond through this, catch up with the lives of
each other, and get to know the other person in a deeper sense.
other of the participant bonds with each other. It can be through family celebrations,
trips, dinners, or family gatherings. With this, couples enjoy as they can build a
(lines 43-45)
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(line 74)
58).
perceived well by
attempt na mag- na
a
Relatedness of sadness and conflict is how both variables interconnect with each
separate one person from another and hence contribute to the definition of each
person's uniqueness.
c
Arguments in this sense is not physically involved, but arguing due to different
opinions while maintaining a respect for one another, enough to resolve it even
accepted by the family of their significant other. It can also happen the other way
around where the participant’s family doesn’t perceive their significant other well.
2. What are the challenges faced by the participants in staying in a long-term romantic
relationship?
75-78)
75-78)
pagkaoverthinker ba ganun, so
(lines 81-83)
a
Emotional Impact is defined as the influence of circumstances to the emotional
health of a person, and in this context, comes from the challenges in the relationship
experiencing.
b
Feelings of insecurity pertain to the lack of confidence with uncertain circumstances
excessive worrying that may create irrational thoughts. It appears to happen with
during Resolving that affect the “‘Yun lang talaga yung pinaka
nagiging challenge sa
(lines 115-121)
120-122)
nagkaroon kami ng
78)
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“...biggest challenge is
a
Individual differences are variations in personal characteristics of people that
the settlement of the argument at hand, and during decision making where choices to
of a person in the relationship which can happen simultaneously with their partner. In
instances where one or both are struggling with personal problems, demands are held
back that causes frustration to the person doing so; it is evident that there is difficulty
c
Difference in personality that comes in conflict with their partner is considered a
common challenge due to the contrast in how situations are managed that leads to
Maintaining Affection towards the relationship b male: “Sa mom niya, yun
(line 69)
“Nabanggit ko yung
85, 88-89)
lang sa pagmemaintain
na na- encounter ko is
napapansin both na
nagiging kampante na
kaming masyado na
iniisip na kailangan na
72-75)
naging komportable ka
(line 89-91)
male:“Siguro yung
doon sa parents
namin.”(line 69-70)
kanya ng financial
a
Hindrances in maintaining affection towards each other in a relationship are
instances that delay the giving or receiving of expressions of love that are influenced
regarding this matter include the perception of parents towards the relationship,
as the personal views of adults towards the activities or choices done together by their
children with their romantic partner or by the mere establishment of the said
relationship base on how they perceive it. Restrictions can be imposed based on the
relationship.
c
Different time schedules are fixed or flexible hours of a person that require
the responsibilities included in the role of the person. When schedules are mismatched
are unconscious of the risks and danger it imposes. Applied in romantic relationships,
this can lead to dissatisfaction of the relationship from the partner of one doing so.
Acts of complacency can jeopardize values and virtues built and agreed upon.
e
Financial instability is the unpredictable changes that happen in finances due to
factors related to spending. Funds from college students usually come from
allowances given by their parents and is allocated for the prioritization of academic
expenses, leaving the allocation for acts of affection lacking that is a challenge in
maintaining affection.
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relationship?
Companionship built Partner Presence niya sa akin. Ako kasi sanay ako
through couples a b
mag-isa sa buhay. So ayaw niya ko
kaharapin ka nanamang
(lines 200-205)
ko na kailangan makipag-socialize
mapagkukwentuhan ka ng araw
makukwentuhan ka na ganito
(lines 132-137)
napaguusapan, napagkwe-
a
Companionship built through couples involves a created deep bond and connection
which enhances the overall quality and longevity of the romantic relationship.
b
Partner Presence in the context of a romantic relationship refers to the level of
trust, mutual respect, shared values, and a deep emotional connection that transcends
romantic angles.
(lines 151-152)
(lines 139-140)
(lines 109-112)
155)
ko na paandarin. Nagchachat
158-170)
bumangon everyday.
212)
na sukung-suko ka na,
aaksyunan mo ng naiisip- ng
160)
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a
Support and Personal Welfare is when the partner helps their significant other in order
even emotionally. All in all, this is a certain act of service that is willingly provided by
one as a symbol or way of showing their love and care towards their partner.
b
Convenience from certain life activities is when the assistance that one receives from
partner with their academics, this help can vary from helping with finishing their
wise, this is when one sees their partner as a motivation to do well with their academics
that their mental health has improved. Their partner’s support makes them feel mentally
stable.
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e
Emotional/Moral Support and Motivation incorporates the emotional and moral
assistance that a partner provides including their role as one’s motivation. When one
feels the struggles and pressures of life especially as a college student who needs to
balance their academics as well as other things in their life, the partner serves as a
vessel that eases their stress and frustrations because of the emotional support and
moral boosting that they provide. A partner becomes the symbol of motivation for one
person that is open to other’s perspectives and is open to ideas that are outside of their
comfort zone. The partner becomes someone that influences one to become a better
person, that is patient and understanding of others and oneself composed and not
101-106)
mong magkaroon ng
longingness ko sa parents
114-118)
“Nakita ko sa kanya na
committed sa relasyon
ka hindi ka nagsinungaling.
146-150)
hinahanap. Hinahanap mo
147-156)
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a
Connection of Satisfaction and Maintaining the Relationship influences the overall
health and longevity of the relationship in terms of how much the individual’s
emotional and sexual needs are met. This involves the overall level of contentment,
emotional requirements that an individual seeks to have fulfilled by their partner. This
involves affection, intimacy, trust, security, and contentment, among many others.
c
Sexual Needs in a romantic relationship refer to the sexual engagement that an
Discussion
Interacting with others affects lifestyles and interactions with others (Cherry,
2022). Across relationships, emotions are related to how a person acts and relates with
others, and even people who are in a long-term romantic relationship. The first theme
basic types of emotions, but in most participants, they talked having positive and
negative experiences which led the data to have codes of happy experiences or
happiness, sadness, and having a romantic excitement or the “kilig”, an adjective that
makes a person thrilled and elated due to their romantic experience (Tan, 2016).
There are also mentions of stress that is obtained on the participants’ end, may it be
In the happy moments of couples, they often mention that relationships start in
an elated state where the “kilig” is heightened given that most of their experiences are
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new to each other. Quality time is prominent, as well as romantic gestures, and the
affection that is given by their partner. Feelings between couples are also fresh, and
they are still learning how to navigate within relationships. Sadness and stress come
when the romantic relationship progresses because they are already facing a lot of
setbacks. They are also in the state of exploration regarding managing conflicts and
better solve the occurring problems that lead in strengthening and deepening the
relationship.
college life gives them a lot of workloads, so when they get a chance to spend time
with their significant other, it contributes to their happiness. Bonding or quality time
The themes for this section have two subthemes such as bonding with the
partner, and bonding with the family. For the bonding with the partner, time includes
dates, normal events, traveling together, spending time in campus, or just being in
each other’s presence. On the other hand, the bonding with the parents or family are
also prominent in the participants’ interviews whereas they say they feel proud and
happy whenever their significant other is connected and can spend time with their
face problems that come from the internal or external aspects of life which affect their
relationship and emotional state. For this, the key theme is the relatedness sadness and
conflicts in relationships because there is discomfort present, and it also impacts the
Participants relate sadness to the setbacks that they went through. Most of
them are similar where they perceived compromised quality time as the saddest point
heavier duties to fulfill especially when they are mostly in college, and some of them
also work such as having a part time job. With this, participants tend to forget that
they still need to spend time with their partner due to being comfortable in the
relationship that leads to lack of moments of bonding with each other. This also
Familial issues also show importance in this topic where some of the
participants see it as the saddest moment or point. Not every participant is accepted by
the families of their partner, or it can be the other way around where their family does
not approve of their significant other. Family members’ intrusion between couples
misunderstandings, and problems that drag along the course of the relationship.
challenges are inevitable in couples, and there are no “shortcuts” in engaging with it.
relationships. Based on the participants’ responses, subthemes that have emerged are
problems that occur within the relationship. For the feelings of insecurity of the
mentioned, they have different love language from one another that affects the
emotional aspect of the participant where feelings of insecurity also get involved.
Schafler (2020) explained that love language is how an individual shows their
love, and how they want to be treated to feel loved. In the participants’ perspective,
when the expectations or the way how the challenge is not done by her way, there is
an uncertainty whether the partner still likes her. The participant also mentioned
anxiety and feeling anxious when problems are not being talked about, given that her
partner prefers to calm down first before settling the issue, whereas on her part, it is
the opposite. In addition to this, not only the two were mentioned, but also,
overthinking emerged as a subtheme since the participant dislikes the state of not
knowing or being shut down. Participant 4 on the other hand also expressed having
the similar trait of rushing to talk to their partner after a fight, otherwise it causes
overthinking.
Although validation from the significant other is also a factor to the emotions
levels of negative emotional arousal, but invalidation has been shown to sustain or
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dealing with insecurity, it can be difficult to muster the energy and goodwill necessary
moments, and one may lack the energy or motivation to accomplish anything. Hence,
when the partner asks for anything, it could feel difficult, burdensome, or even
problems might affect our daily life when they arise frequently or severely.
problem solving were considered challenges for both parties in the relationship as the
differences made a common ground harder to achieve for better understanding. Some
of these individual differences include the personal struggles they have affecting the
relationship dynamic and their personality traits that clash with their partner. Results
showed that there is hesitance in demanding wants for the sake of consideration of
styles of those in a long-term relationship are not always the same despite years of
being together, causing miscommunication in the process. Most of the time, the
Field (2022) explained that affection is liking and caring for a person, and to
be able to show it, gestures are done so that the person on the receiving end will know
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that they are loved. Although affectionate gestures may vary from one person to
Affection between lovers is one of the reasons why romantic relationships are
continuous and prolonged as individuals feel happiness in giving and receiving it.
successfully doing so. Results showed that the hindrances in maintaining affection
root from the perception of parents towards the relationship, different time schedules,
The views of parents were significantly affecting the relationship as the factor
disapproval from those who have authority in their household is respected but is
frowned upon by the participants who experienced this. According to the participants,
protocols or from strict parents. Along with this is the challenge of exerting effort to
make ways of giving and receiving affection despite the mismatched schedules.
unaware of what is lacking in the relationship because of the satisfaction of the status
quo. Moreover, complacency gave more freedom to behavior that was inconsiderate
to their partner, such as doing whatever they liked without consulting their significant
other if it was fine, forgetting about the risks and danger of doing so.
Lastly, financial instability limits the ways that affection is given and received
as most activities like dating, travelling, or eating out require enough money. Since
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the participants are unemployed students who depend on their allowances given by
their parents, it is a challenge to allocate funds for the enjoyment of the relationship.
The struggle in funding is only experienced by students who are well off, with
families funding them, and family members abroad or have local businesses.
Based on the results that have been garnered through theme generation,
that is long-term in the participants. With their time spent with getting to know about
each other, they are having high levels of comfortability for one’s partner is expected.
The participants experience allowed them to feel at ease and free from all of one’s
inhibitions and not having to feel reserved. Moreover, feeling comfortable with one’s
partner allows one to reveal their true self. Jacobsen (2021) mentioned in their article
that couples gradually show their true selves as they go further into the relationship
understanding and trust. In the process of getting to know each other, revealing
oneself is also through sharing experiences and feelings that they accumulated over all
Partner presence, of course, differs from one person to another. For the
research participants, having a bond or a level of comfort is like having a friend even
though that person is their partner, it contributes very well for a person to
communicate better with their partner. Aside from that, seeing as there is a friend-like
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connection, that whole idea just makes the relationship more than just love and
intimacy, it creates bonds that bound the couple together and helps them see common
things they have with each other and learn how they can better enjoy each other's
Results show that there are many benefits that couples get from each other.
One of the many benefits is the support and personal welfare as a college student in a
when it comes to sharing their knowledge, especially if they tackle the same topics.
Aside from this, participants also ask their partner for a favor to lend a hand with
Next is, convenience from certain life activities. A participant opened about
the different things where one’s partner can help them with. These certain life
activities vary from getting picked up from school when they are dismissed late,
getting help them with house-hold chores, etc. These initiations which are consider
acts of service in a love language positively affected the participant and benefitted
them by being eased from stress because of the convenience brought by their partner.
A partner’s act of service made her feel she was they cared for.
Also, drawn in the participants answers is that they get into a relationship with
someone that they trust and someone they enjoy spending time with. It is evident that
moral and emotional support are provided by the significant other when conflicts or
problems arises. The support obtained in the relationship positively affects couples
through understanding their feelings and point of view where it contributes to their
growth as a person. Lewandowski (2022) states that people have the tendency to have
more value for partners who help them grow and push them to be their better version.
The satisfaction in maintaining the relationship showed that it goes beyond the
basic needs where the satisfaction comes when it is met or done by both of the person
in the romantic relationship. The kinds of satisfaction identified are emotional needs
The study of Campbell et. al (2015) implied that emotional needs, such as
When it comes to one’s emotional needs, one yearns for affection, security and
contentment from their partner among others. This influences how a partner interacts
with and treats their partner in terms of their emotions, feelings, and overall well-
being. Emotional needs in the study are met by the participants’ partners where there
is a fulfillment on their end when they receive it from their loved one.
satisfied in the relationship and their reason why they maintain the relationship.
Subthemes emerged in this topic such as the emotional needs and the sexual needs.
According to the participants, since their needs are met in the relationship, it allows
them to stay. Participant 4 noted that her partner knows how to handle her personality.
There is also an emotional fulfillment on making up after a fight. With this, her needs
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are met and she is satisfied on the turnout of the events and the dynamic in their
relationship.
Another participant mentioned that there is trust between her and her partner
where they are able to last long because there is a share of responsibility between the
maintaining it because they also love each other. Other concepts are also mentioned
such as honesty, dedication, and love where emotional needs are met in the
The other subtheme is sexual needs where they fulfill their desires through
their partner. It was described as a primary meet wherein one is satisfied with their
sex life, they will continue to stay in the relationship. Given that the participant
mentioned that he is contented, this allows him to stay and not look for other girls.
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Chapter 5
as college students. In gathering the data, face to face interviews were done around
instrument. With it, it assisted the researchers to conduct the study in an orderly
manner where they drew relevant answers from the participants regarding the topic.
There were 10 participants for the main study- 5 males, and 5 females who are in 3
years and above duration of romantic relationship. On the findings of the study, the
researchers presented three (3) themes per statements of the problem; narrowed down
from all the concepts that surfaced after the researchers coded, patterned, and
The themes generated under the statement of the problem 1 where it answers
highlighting subthemes such as happiness, sadness, bonding, and conflicts. In the early
relationship progresses, challenges such as demands of college life and familial issues
may lead to sadness and when unresolved, turn into conflicts. Bonding, both with the
partner and with family, is seen as crucial for relationship satisfaction, while conflicts
strain the relationship. Understanding how these emotions form and factors that affect
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relationship dynamics can provide valuable insights into the complexities of romantic
relationships.
from factors such as parental disapproval, different time schedules, complacency, and
Lastly, the benefits gained from the relationship under the statement of the
problem 3 generated themes that tackled certain benefits gained between long-term
perception of companionship as a benefit. Feeling at ease and revealing one's true self
with a long-term partner is expected, and having a friend-like connection creates bonds
that bind the couple together. Support and personal welfare, including academic support
and emotional support during difficult times, are also significant benefits. Improving
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maintaining the relationship comes from emotional treatment and sexual needs.
Emotional needs obtained in affection becomes a craving that couples want to receive
from each other, as well as contentment in life, derived from the relationship, is a
valuable benefit that contributes to overall happiness, and meeting sexual needs brings
satisfaction.
Conclusion
a complex journey that mainly revolves around growth, in a sense where particularly
needs and companionship. This growth builds their sense of identity, expression of
love and bonding behavior towards each other as they become more mature in
influence of the willingness and encouragement to grow comes from the support of
their partner. People would stay in the relationship when the perceived treatment from
their partner fits their standards of what is right. Treatments such as support, show of
affection, and spending quality time together may strongly manifest a long and strong
relationship.
Recommendations
The study indicates that growth, affection and managing conflicts are key
not its particularities. Further study is needed to know what the certain experiences
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and happenings are of each factor as different scenarios tend to lead to different
actions and experiences. It is also advisable that future studies regarding the topic
deepen the scope of the background of the participants in terms of their personality
and maturity. Previous experiences in dating and their impact on their identity should
be explored as building blocks for who they are as a person now. Studies regarding
maintaining long-term romantic relationships should include both partners to get both
views of the relationship and to get deeper sense of how individualism affects the
It is also advisable to quantify this study to further prove the points of the
result for more substantive evidence for future literature given the small amount of
relatively new studies about the topic. It is recommended that other findings such as
parental involvement, love language, communication style are looked upon by future
studies.
Reflexivity
The process of data gathering was simple, setting up a meeting that would be
held for less than an hour, typically not lasting more than 30 minutes. However, in
terms of analyzing data the researchers took their time with the processes needed to be
The process of data gathering was simple, setting up a meeting that would be held for
less than an hour, typically not lasting more than 30 minutes. However, in terms of
analyzing data the researchers took their time with the processes needed to be done in
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analyzing qualitative data. The researchers had to manage our time carefully as
external factors outside the study such as other academic and personal responsibilities
Belesta, Johanna S.
Maintaining a romantic relationship for long-term couples revealed the tedious work
both individuals. The efforts exerted in the relationship tend to be sacrificial that leads
to investing in their partner more. As the population of the study focuses on college
students, my observations towards the challenges and benefits were limited to the
environment of academic and familial related aspects. Futuristic goals were career
oriented for most of the participants that were mostly influenced by their families. The
findings formed from thematic analysis are somewhat similar to research abroad
inclined with ours. The foundation of similarities is yet to be explored and the sources
Diza, Angel M.
Having and maintaining a long-term romantic relationship shows that there will be
always problems and challenges that will come their way. Even though challenges
may arise there will always be a way to surpass them. There will be significant
benefits that every partner has. These findings mostly are limited to academic and
familial challenges. Knowing how the participants share how they handle every
challenge that comes their way, also makes them realize how far they are already in
Espino, Danielle D.
The semi-structured interview questions are devised to know more about the moments
of long-term romantic relationships that happen behind the scenes, not just what is
seen through the naked eye. There are similarities with the researchers’ experiences
and the participants as some of us are in a relationship while some of us are not, and
being a college student was also our common denominator. The participants
expressed themselves well, and as observed, there is a hint of happiness when talking
about what their experiences are with their partner, given that they survived and are
still striving to keep their relationship lasting longer. Mentions of having a hard time
while juggling academic life and romantic relationships was evident, but also there’s a
visible mutual understanding between couples that as a young adult, this is their
the insights I have collected from the results that have emerged are as follows: (1) in a
long-term romantic relationship, both partners may undergo individual changes and
face new challenges and this can impact the dynamics of the relationship, (2) a long-
among others during difficult times to navigate the ups and downs of college life
while nurturing the relationship, and (3) college life is often a time when individuals
gain greater independence and autonomy, including making decisions about their
respecting each other’s individuality and allowing space for personal growth and
exploration can positively affect the relationship in the long run. As a researcher, I am
the research themes identified in this study. By acknowledging our own subjectivity
as individuals of bearing, the research members and I aim to enhance the validity and
Oandasan, Angela E.
As a college student, seeing that a lot of people nowadays try to venture for love and
try to make their relationship last long at a time where one’s academics are at its most
fact, that relevant. As we continued with the study, I too became curious about many
things and thus had some observations. Finding some participants for this study really
took some time because what we needed were those who are in a relationship that is 3
years and above already, which made it hard because of the ones in a relationship today
had only started dating for days, months, year/s but only 1 or 2 not 3 and above. So, we
had a rough start as per trying to start our data gathering early. Through the study I
learned a lot and had some growth as a researcher who is just an undergraduate and has
more things to learn especially with the data gathering procedure that one really must
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Appendices
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Appendix H
Interview Guide
Statement of the problem 1: What are the experiences of the heterosexual college
romantic relationship?
Statement of the problem 2: What are the challenges faced by the participants in
1. What are the reasons that contribute to you staying in your relationship?
2. Can you provide benefits that you get from your partner?
Appendix I
Transcribed data
Participant 1
Duration: 18 min, 19 sec.
Line Key Content
No. Person
1 Good morning. Our research is about “Experiences of The Selected College
2 Students In Metro Manila In Maintaining Long-Term Romantic Relationships.”
3 So, we invited you today because..uhm, fitted ka as our participant.
4 Ayun dito sa inform consent form namin sinasabi lang naman dito na yung data
5 I mo gagamitin namin siya for our research and you have the rights to withdraw
6 anytime, and you can always contact us.
7 Nandito lang naman siya. So, let’s start. So, let’s talk about your experiences in a
8 romantic relationship - in a long-term romantic relationship. So, how would you
9 describe your experiences in maintaining a long-term romantic relationship?
10 P1 Uhm, paanong experiences ba, how would you describe it?
11 I Parang in general, yung mga naranasan mo lang, ganyan.
12 Ah ok. Of course may ano, high and lows.. sa relationships So, ano siya, mixed
13 emotions. Minsan happy ka, minsan nakakapagod rin makipag relationship
14 ganyan. Minsan stress reliever mo, minsan siya naman yung dahilan ng stress,
15 P1 ganun. Pero, all in all, siguro… uhm.. hindi naman kami magtatagal kung hindi
16 kami like, masaya, ganun. So, kahit may mga negative, I can say na.. [clears
17 throat], mas lamang yung like.. highs namin like, mas lamang yung happy
18 moments namin ganiyan. So, ayun lang.
19 I Uhm, yung experiences mo usually yung mga struggle in the relationship ganun?
20 P1 Oo, ganyan siya.
21 Sige, since napagusapan na’tin yung parang general gist ng relationship ninyo as
22 I a long-term romantic relationship, let’s move on naman. Can you tell us about
23 your happiest moments in the relationship?
24 Uhm.. Siguro ano, like, uhm, masaya na meron kaming milestones na parang,
25 magka.. magkasama kami sa mga milestones namin. For example, like, academic
26 ano ko, milestones ganyan. Tapos siya naman nag b-business ganyan, may
27 business, may small business kasi siya, ganun. So, ‘yun, tapos happiest moments
28 rin siguro yung pag.. uhm.. pag mag ce-celebrate kami ng Anniversary ganyan.
29 Kasi, before, nag start kasi kami ano parang bata pa ganiyan. 16 ako, tapos,
30 parang 17 siya ganyan.
31 So, parang, before, ano kami, parang lagi kaming pagod ganiyan. Mag co-
32 P1 commute kami, tapos parang lagi kami nagkikita ganyan. tapos, parang lagi kami
33 pagod. Magcocommute kami.. nag kikita ganiyan.
34 Kasi ano eh.. parang ‘yun yung love language ko, like, quality time ganyan, kaya
35 minemaintain talaga namin ‘yun all throughout.
36 So, before ganun, nakakapagod. Tapos, parang ngayon, kahit.. uhm.. like, kahit
37 simpleng aya lang, madali na kasi nagkakotse siya ganyan.
38 Kaya parang, upon looking back, malayo kami ngayon ganun.
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‘Yun lang.
39 Bale, yung happiest moments ninyo kasi diba nag start kayo early ganiyan, edi
40 I ngayon yung mga happiest moments ninyo yung mga na achieve ninyo
41 personally.
42 Ayan, sige. Sige let’s move on.
What are your sad moments naman in the relationship?
43 Siguro sad kasi.. parang ang broad ng sad so, pag sad siguro ano, pag may
44 misunderstanding kami ganyan kasi mag.. ano kami eh, parang opposite attitude
45 kami. Iba yung kinalakihan naming, ganun. Like, siya ano, yung family niya
46 parang ideal family ganyan. Parang, kada linggo simba. After mag simba, kakain,
47 ganun sila, while iba naman yung kinalakihan ko. So, yung parang, minsan nag c-
48 clash yung attitude namin, like ano, “Mali ‘yan”, tapos sa pananaw ko like,
49 P1 normal lang naman ganyan. So, ayun, minsan nagkakamisunderstanding kami.
50 Tapos, meron kasi siyang ugali na parang, nang s-shutdown, ganiyan, na parang -
51 parang kailangan niya munang kumalma ganiyan, pag nag aaway.
52 While ako, gusto ko naman, sinasabi ko kaagad kasi hindi ako parang hindi ko
53 kayang.. anong tawag doon.. kimkimin, parang ganun, and ayaw kong
54 pinapatagal.
55 So, ayun, parang sad moments siya tsaka ano rin, pag may pinapagdaanan kami
56 like, yung medical issues ganyan.
57 Yung family niya kasi parang, maraming like, issues within ano, health care din
58 kasi parang may sakit yung mama niya ganya.
59 So, ayun, parang palapit rin ako sa kanila. Parang, isang family nalang din kami
60 kasi minsan sa kanila ako tumutuloy ganyan pag walang tao sa amin, ganiyan.
61 Eh ‘di ayun. Ayun yung mga I can say sad.
62 Sige, ayun. Sige, since napagusapan naman na na’tin yung mga experiences mo,
63 I let’s move on naman sa mga challenges na kinaharap ninyo ng partner mo. First,
64 can you explain the challenges or problems that you encounter/encountered in
65 maintaining a relationship with your boyfriend?
66 P1 Uhmm paanong problems? Specific ganiyan?
67 I Oo, parang yung mga- parang mga specific napagdaanan ninyo, or yung mga-
68 kahit hindi yung super laking mga problems ganun.
69 Uhmm I can say na challenge talaga, ayun nga yung gaya ng sinabi ko kanina
70 yung pagkakasakit ng mama niya kasi parang.. ano.. nitong pandemic lang ‘yun
71 eh. Parang twice parang tinakbo sa ER ganyan tapos parang sobrang gulo rin ng-
72 syempre nagkakagulo yung family niya ganun. Then parang nag reflect sa kanya
72 parang naging gulo rin- nagugulo rin yung utak niya ganyan. So, parang syempre
73 kung ganun yung partner mo parang kumbaga parang foundation ng relationship
74 niyo yung isa, uhmm parang broke(n) ganiyan so parang mag rereflect talaga sa
75 relationship parang hihina yung foundation relationship ganyan. Tapos, minsan
76 naman ayun nga, since opposite kami ng attitude.. Uhmm, hindi rin kami same ng
77 parang love language, kaya minsan kapag may misunderstanding kami may mga
78 napapaoverthink ako ganiyan. I feel neglected ganiyan, I feel insecure. Uhmm,
79 tapos ayun, kasi nga ‘di ba, mas gusto niyang kumalma muna kapag nag aaway.
80 P1 So, ang dating sa akin nun ay, he can’t give me like the peace- the peace of mind
81 that I want so ayun parang - so, akin lang naman ‘yun… Pero siguro sa kanya iba
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82 yung like, pagkakaintindi niya gusto niya ng space ganyan. So, ayun pag matagal
83 na talaga kayo may mga phase na parang “Mahal ko pa ba ‘to?” ganyan. Parang
84 feeling mo ma f-fell out of love ka na ganiyan. Pero, parang phase lang naman
85 ‘yun kasi syempre pag nag boyfriend ka uhmm, siguro committed- kung ikaw
86 committed siguro yung ano mo pananaw mo kasi iba-iba naman ‘yan eh kasi ako
87 pag nagboyfriend, committed ako. So, ayun parang minsan..
88 uhm dahil doon, I feel ano, taken for granted ganiyan pero, ewan ko. Baka ako
89 lang. Baka ako lang ganiyan, kasi siya parang ok naman, happy go lucky ganyan.
90 Pero, ayun kasi yung like nag rereflect sa akin na ugali niya, ganun.
91 Ayun-ayun yung mga challenges [laugh].
92 I Ayun yung mga challenges naexplain mo
93 In what ways did this challenges affect you?
94 Uhmm siguro pag may current- kunyare-kunyare lang currently nasa challenge
95 kami ngayon siguro I try to reflect kasi nga minsan ano like, ganun nga yung mga
96 nararamdaman ko which is minsan pag nag- pinaguusapan naming, iba naman
97 pala yung gusto niyang- kumbaga gusto niyang iparamdam sa’kin ganyan kaya
98 parang ayun.. I use the time to reflect ganyan pero minsan pag sobrang lala ano
99 uhm, hindi mo talaga maiiwasan magiging anxious-maging anxious ganyan tsaka
100 P1 ‘yun nga minsan pag hindi niya paguusapan feeling ko uhmm, I feel insecure
101 ganiyan kasi, “Ano pa bang gagawin ko?”, ganiyan.
102 “Para pansinin mo’ko.” yung parang ganun eh siya ayaw nga niya ng ganun. So,
103 like ayun parang naiinsecure ako na- kasi pagka nag aaway kami, ang takbuhan
104 niya, mga friends niya ganyan mag ‘di-hang sila ganyan, lalaro sila. ‘Di ayun,
105 parang mabuti pa sila ganiyan pag galit ka ano napaguusapan niyo- ang
106 nakakausap mo. ganiyan. So ayun, I feel minsan insecure pero ‘yun, most of the
107 time naman nag re-reflect lang ako like “mali ba talaga ako?” ganyan, ganun.
108 I Kapag naiinsecure ka mostly ang ginagawa mo ay nag re-reflect ka lang?
109 Oo, iniisip ko kasi.. nga ayun sabi ko kanina parang may pagka overthinker ako
110 P1 [laugh], ganun so parang nag- nag re-reflect ako na syempre different nga kami
111 ng attitude so iniintindi ko in his shoes ganun, (ok, sige.) parang ganun.
112 I Let’s move on naman.
113 How do you manage the challenges in your romantic relationship?
114 Uhmm manage, ayun nga kanina uhmm dapat nag co-communicate talaga kasi
115 ganun yung nag ‘di-work sa’kin, yung parang as a person uhmm dapat talaga- I
116 feel like na dapat pinag uusapan talaga, kaagad!
117 Ayun naman yung akin, tapos yung ‘kaniya naman kahit-kahit pag ano na
118 P1 kumalma na ganiyan kasi syempre pag bugso ng damdamin kung anu-ano talaga
119 ang nasasabi ganyan. Tsaka, ayun nga dapat uhmm ay- I mean, committed talaga
120 kami. I can say naman na committed talaga kami sa isa’t-isa kaya ayun uhmm
121 whenever uhmm the challenges- the challenges happen.. Uhmm pinag uusapan
122 nalang namin talaga tsaka uhmm we apologize, of course, sa isa’t-isa.
123 I What are the reasons that contribute to you staying in your relationship?
124 Uhmm reasons… uhmm ano actually, kasi kumuha kami ng nag- may nag bigay
125 sa’min ng aso (Mhmm.) so parang anak namin yung aso- so kung sabihin mo na
126 reason, siguro isang reason na (Mhmm.) isang reason na yung aso na ‘yon. Like,
127 parang may- kung parang may uhmm reason ka kasi syempre hindi mo naman
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128 pwedeng iabandona yung dog like (Mhmm.) iiwan sakaniya ganiyan. Tsaka like
129 uhmm parang practical na rin like uhmm ang dami mo nang binigay sa
130 relationship. Alam mo ‘yon? Ang dami mo nang sinacrifice, ang dami mo nang
131 binigay. So, parang kung iisipin mo “Ay, parang nakakapanghinayang naman
132 pag iniwan ko pa ‘to.” ganyan. So ayon, parang isang reason din yung parang
133 marami ka nang binigay kaya nag s-stay ka sa relationship ganiyan. Pero- tsaka
134 ang dami na rin naming, like, experiences ganyan kasi minsan parang mindset ko
135 P1 na uhmm sa relationship normal lang naman yung mag aaway kayo ganiyan tas
136 pag iniwan mo humanap ka ng bago ganun din naman yung pagdadaanan niyo,
137 parang ganun. So, mag stay ka na like, mag stay ka na kung hindi naman like
138 sobrang toxic niyo ganun kasi masaya naman kami ganiyan. (Sige.)
139 Edi ayun, wait lang. Uhmm, ano pa ba? Tas minsan kunyari, pag nag aaway kami
140 ganyan parang I tend to give the benefit of the doubt doon sa person like “Ah,
141 baka mabago pa niya.” Yung parang ganun like na parang “Ah baka ngayon lang
142 ‘to.” “Baka phase lang ‘to”, “Baka eventually maging okay na rin.”
143 So ‘yon, for being honest ganun talaga yung reason kung bakit ako nag s-stay sa
144 ganun na relationship. Pero, in conclusion, syempre mahal ko rin naman yung tao
145 kaya ako nags-stay.
146 I Sige, can you provide the benefits that you get from your partner? In general
147 diyan tsaka ehh as a college student.
148 In general muna, of course benefit meron kang emotional support system ganiyan
149 Maybe uhmm in general or sa buhay or education ganiyan, kasi ngayon, as of
150 now, mas napapadali niya talaga yung buhay ko.
151 Lik,e for example, may kailangan- naalala ko noon noong last sem may kailangan
152 kaming mga participant ganiyan fit siya sa criteria, so parang ang-ang bilis- ang
153 dali lang ganyan tapos ngayon uhmm late yung uwi ko sa-sa OD late yung uwian
154 P1 ganian may tagasundo ako para hindi na ako mahirapan mag commute ganyan.
155 Mas napapadali talaga niya yung buhay ko. Tapos uhm.. pero all in all syempre
156 yung benefit na ‘yun in general like syempre masarap sa feeling ‘pag alam mong
157 may nagmamahal sa’yo ganiyan, may nag aantay sa’yo. So ayun siguro yung
158 benefit like- tapos minsan pag in school, pag nahihirapan ako sa quiz magpapa
159 review lang ako sa kanya ganiyan. So ayun, maganda talaga siya I mean as a
160 support system tsaka sa education na rin.
161 I Bale uhmm yung boyfriend mo ba ano, in college pa ba siya?
162 P1 Oo, nag aaral din sya.
163 I Ah, so nagtutulungan kayo in terms of academics?
164 Mhmm ayun! Ayun, siya din- mahina kasi siya sa ano sa english. Tagalog kasi-
165 parang mas maano siya sa tagalog.
166 So, parang nahihirapan siya minsan minsan mag ano ng sentences ganiyan-
167 P1 minsan may debate sakanila kailangan kong itranslate in english para-para ay- in
168 taga- yung English na question ittranslate ko in Filipino para maunderstand better
169 niya, ganun. Parang isang sabi ko lang rin na kailangan ko ng tulong tutulungan
170 niya ako well vice versa ganun.
171 I Sige, yung napagusapan na natin yung mga benefits na nakukuha mo tsaka siya.
172 How do these benefits affect you?
173 P1 Paanong affect you?
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174 I Parang.. ano bang nangyayari sa’yo pag nakukuha mo yung mga benefits na ‘to
175 Like.. uh, it affects me positively. Syempre, like ‘pag alam niyang may problema
176 sa school, hindi naman siya dumadagdag na ano.. so I think it affects me
177 positively. It teaches me a lot din. Syempre as a Psychology student din, parang..
178 Ah ganyan pala yung nararamdaman ng ibang tao ganyan, parang hindi pala lahat
179 P1 umiikot sa mundo ko, ganyan. Parang.. uhm.. Nakaka ano rin siya.. parang
180 nakaka open ng eyes [laugh], parang- parang ganun. Tapos like.. patience,
181 ganyan. Understanding. Parang ganun.. Ganyan, parang ayun yung mga benefits-
182 ay parang ganun nakakaaffect yung benefits. Mas nagiging stable ako as a person.
Participant 2
Duration: 19 min, 14 sec.
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1 Good afternoon, our study is about “Experiences of Selected College
2 Students in Metro Manila in Maintaining Long-term Romantic
3 Relationships.” So given na pinili po namin kayo, you fit the criteria for
4 being our participant. In our ICF po, nandito naman na lahat; nabasa niyo
5 naman po siya. Nandito din po yung contact number namin, and you can
6 I always contact us to withdraw kapag gusto niyo po, tapos contact niyo lang
7 po kami kapag may questions kayo, or kung niyo magwithdraw from our
8 study. Tapos, yung dito po.. uhm.. sa incentives, ibibigay na lang po namin
9 siya sa inyo. Tapos yung data ng research findings namin kung gusto niyong
10 malaman pwede niyo rin po syang itanong sa amin.
11 Ayun lang po. Start na po tayo sa question. Let’s talk about your experiences
12 in being in a long-term romantic relationship. How would you describe your
13 experiences in maintaining a long-term romantic relationship?
14 Uh.. Like yung mga sinasabi.. Parang similar lang din sa mga sinasabi ng iba
15 like, sa una ayon honeymoon stage. Puro fun kasi nandoon pa lang yung-
16 pero hindi namin siya masyadong napagdaanan yung honeymoon stage kasi
17 ‘di ba? Usually parang ‘yun yung get to know each other. Hindi namin siya
18 masyadong napagdaanan kasi, like, matagal muna kami- ay- friends muna
19 kami bago mag enter sa relationship. So parang rekta na agad. Like.. Ah-
20 hindi kami masaya lang sa una, parang na-m-maintain siya all throughout.
21 Hindi ako naniniwala doon sa sinasabi nila na sa una lang masaya kasi for us
22 kahit 3 years na kami, parang nandoon pa rin yung sparks. Sinasabi nila
23 nawawala na yung sparks, pero sa amin, parang mas nagiging deep pa yung
24 relationship namin, parang mas nagiging.. anong tawag dito? Mas nagiging
25 may spark pa siya, mas nagiging sweet kasi parang as we face yung mga
26 challenges namin sa relationship and habang naaayos namin ‘yun, habang
27 mine-maintain namin yung relationship namin, parang mas may natututunan
28 P2 pa kami sa isa’t-isa. Kasi doon sa honeymoon stage ang.. parang ang.. parnag
29 ang si.. natututunan niyo lang sa isa’t-isa yung mga favorites ganyan ganyan,
30 pero sa amin since alam na namin ‘yun since friends kami, ang natututunan
31 naming sa isa’t-isa is how we solve each other’s… ano.. ay. Yung mga
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76 about sa sarili namin, like yung.. Ako kasi parang feel ko hindi ako
77 emotionally stable ganyan ganyan. So parang pag kunyari sad ako or
78 something, napo-project ko sa kanya, so nag c-create ng misunderstandings.
79 P2 ‘yun.. ayon pag tinotopak ako, mga ganun. So doon laging nag aaway, yung
80 mga flaws namin sa sarili namin parang.. ‘yun.. doon nag s-start yung mga
81 sad moments kasi parang iniisip ba namin kung hindi namin kaya alagaan
82 yung sarili namin, parang.. kaya ba namin i-maintain yung relationship or
83 kaya ba naming, like, maalagaan yung isa't isa. Parang yung doubtful
84 moments na ‘yun, ‘yun yung pinakasad moment sa relationship namin.
85 I Since namention mo ‘yun, meron pa bang mga sad moments?
86 Uhm.. Ano siguro, since.. ayun nga, ngayon live in kami. Syempre may
87 times na.. Live in kami kasi same kami ng dorm, ganyan ganyan. Syempre
88 uuwi pa rin kami sa kanya-kanya naming bahay. So ‘yun, mga sad moments
89 na ‘yun, pag aalis siya. Kasi siya lagi nauunang umaalis eh. ‘Pag aalis siya,
90 P2 parang ayaw ko nang umalis. Ayaw ko siyang umalis ganun, kasi gusto kong
91 mag stay.. Very clingy kasi ako so, pag aalis siya isa yon sa saddest moments
92 ko kasi gusto ko lagi siyang kasama, ganyan ganyan.
93 Parang nasanay na ko na nandoon siya lagi tas biglang weekend wala siya so
94 ganyan ganyan. So ganun lang mga sad moments namin. Wala kaming sad
95 moments na may cheating. May ano may ibang.. may sinungalingan, ganun.
96 Puro about ourselves, saka kapag aalis siya.
97 Let's move on naman na,
98 Let's talk about the challenges na kinakaharap niyo in being a long-term
99 I romantic relationship. Can you explain the challenges or the problems you
100 encounter in maintaining a relationship with your boyfriend?
101 Ayun nga. Medyo nahirapan kami sa part na.. ng pagmaintain ng relationship
102 dahil sa mga problema sa mga sarili naming. Like, feel ko emotionally
103 unstable ako and siya rin naman merong siyang own struggles. So parang
104 dahil doon, sometimes nakakalimutan namin imaintain yung relationship
105 namin sa sobrang overwhelmed or sa sobrang naka.. naka delved kami sa
106 mga sarili naming problema. Parang.. parang nakakalimutan naman naming
107 na, "Uy date naman tayo." Kasi syempre sobrang sad mo na may sarili kang
108 problema or nalulungkot ka on your own tapos.. uhmh.. nakakalimutan mo
109 na ah shit kailangan mo pa pala alagaan ‘to si ano.. Yung boyfriend ko
110 ganyan. Kailangan ko pa pala siya alagaan, kailangan ko pa ipakita sakanya
111 P2 na I care. Kasi ayun nga, yung challenge is sometimes parang nakakalimutan
112 namin ipakita sa isa't-isa na mahal pa rin namin yung isa't-isa, kasi
113 namomroblema kami sa mga sarili namin. So yung mga individual problems
114 naming, yung pagiging emotionally unstable, nakakaapekto siya sa pag
115 maintain namin sa relationship naming. ‘yun lang talaga yung
116 pinakachallenge. Yung.. ‘pag lalo na pag sabay kami nagkakaron ng topak.
117 Like parehas kami na-f-feel na sad kami. Tapos pag sabay ‘yun, parang
118 syempre sabihin ko na icomfort mo naman ako, ganyan ganyan.
119 Pero siya, sad din syempre feel ko. “Icomfort mo na ako.” Ganyan ganyan.
120 So mga ganoong bagay yung mga nagiging challenge sa relationship namin
121 yung individual struggles namin. Yung makakafeel namin.. yung mapapafeel
121
122 namin sa isa't-isa na kailangan namin ng care, pero ang hirap idemand kasi
123 may pinagdadaanan yung partner mo. Ganun.
124 I Yung mga challenges na ‘to in what ways does it affect you?
125 Actually yung mga challenges na namention ko yung nga, yung individual
126 struggles. Yung want mo ng care pero hindi mo mademand kasi may
127 problema yung partner mo. Parang almost dahil.. almost doon yung reason
128 kung bakit kami nag break hindi dahil sa ibang tao, hindi dahil sa kung anu-
129 ano pang common problems ng mga couples ngayon. Ah.. ‘yun nga, yung
130 kami almost nang muntik maghiwalay lagi like parang gusto na namin
131 tapusin kasi nga hindi namin maayos yung mga sarili namin paano pa namin
132 i-m-maintain ‘to? So sobrang naapektuhan ako doon. Like.. pag nangyayari
133 ‘yun, like ‘pag nagsasabay kami ng topak, tapos gusto namin ng comfort sa
134 isa't-isa pero hindi mabigay.. Parang.. Hindi ako.. alam mo ‘yun, gusto ko na
135 lang magstay sa kwarto and ang hirap pa. Mas mahirap na ayun na.. Sorry.
136 P2 Naapektuhan kami sobrang hirap kasi. Ang hirap mag away pag nandoon
137 kayo sa isang space kasi live in nga kami. So ang hirap mag-away so imbis
138 na magkaroon kami ng alone time para mag breathe, para mag.. Alam mo
139 ‘yun, huminga, para mag catch up sa mga bagay-bagay, nahihirapan kami
140 kasi lalo lang sumasabog kasi nasa isang space lang kami. So ayun, sobrang
141 apektado ako doon na parang nandoon lang kami sa kwarto nakaupo tapos
142 hindi nag-uusap or tinatry ng isa makipagusap, pero ayaw.Mga ganung
143 bagay ako naapektuhan kasi nag c-clash nang sobra [laugh]. ‘Pag naglilive in
144 kami kasi wala kaming ibang mapuntahan.
145 I So pag ganun po yung mga instances ano yung nararamdaman niyo?
146 Ayon sobrang nasasad ako. Hindi.. like. Ang hobby ko kasi pag nalulungkot
147 ako is hindi ako kumakain, hindi ako kumikilos. Like nakahiga lang ako
148 buong araw sa kama. So ganun yung ginagawa ko like, iyak lang ako nang
149 P2 iyak. Ayon nga sabi niya nga kanina, sobrang iyakin ko daw which is true.
150 Like ‘pag konting.. ‘Pag alam kong may mangyayaring away iiyak na agad
151 ako. Hindi ko alam kung bakit pero ayun. ‘yun yung way ko.
152 Since.. uhm.. you experience challenges, how do you manage the challenges
153 I in your romatic relationship?
154 Yung mga first years sobrang hirap talaga imanage yung mga challenges na
155 ‘yun kasi ayon nga nagpandemic, ang hirap imanage nang hindi kayo
156 magkasama like kunyari mag-aaway kami nung pandemic syempre yung
157 way namin is video call lang. So paano maayos? Ang dali-dali mag offline.
158 So ngayon mas namamanage namin siya kasi mas nakakapagusap kami since
159 close enclosed nga kami sa iisang space ngayon. So ano lang, ‘pag kalmado
160 P2 na lahat.. pag hindi na alam mo yon, wala ka na sa verge ng emotions pag
161 kalmado na doon kami mag uusap kung ano mali ko, kung ano mali niya.
162 Kung pano namin masosolve together parang yung point namin is.. hindi
163 namin kaaway yung isa't isa, kaaway namin yung problems which is yung
164 problems ng isa't-isa. So yung nilalabanan namin is yung problems mismo
165 namin. Sobrang important talaga yung communication. Para sa akin, ‘yun
166 lang yung way namin kung paano namin namamanage.
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167 Sige. Let's talk about naman.. yung benefits mo as a student in being a long-
168 I term romantic relationship. What are the reasons that contributes to you in
169 staying in your relationship?
170 Aside from love, which is syempre mahal namin yung isa't-isa kaya kami nag
171 s-stay. Aware naman ako na hindi lang enough na dapat mahal mo yung
172 partner mo, pano kung sobrang toxic na ganyan ganyan. Pero sa amin kasi
173 yung reason kung bakit ako nag stay kasi sobrang comforting kapag
174 nandiyan siya parang pag kunyari nag break kami, mag s-start na naman all
175 over again. Parang nakakasawa papakilala na naman. Kaya ako nag s-stay
176 kasi una pa lang, maganda na yung foundation namin tapos nakikita ko all
177 throughout the relationship kahit sobrang daming challenges dahil feeling
178 P2 namin emotionally unstable kami. Na o-overcome namin yon and nakikita ko
179 na tinatry ng bawat isa na isolve yung problem, and hindi lang isa yung may
180 gusto. Hindi lang isa yung lumalaban. So parang nag contribute siya kasi..
181 parehas namin gusto eh. Kapag hindi niyo parehas gusto parang wala ng
182 point na mag stay doon sa relationship. And the fact na ang reason to stay in
183 a relationship, kasi pag nag break kami magkasama kami sa lahat ng
184 groupings sa lahat ng klase so pag nag break kami, ang awkward na ganon so
185 isa rin yon sa reason kung bakit ako nag s-stay.
186 I Can you provide benefits that you get from your partner?
187 Uhm.. benefits. Ayun parang lagi kaming nagtutulungan kasi kaklase ko siya
188 sa lahat so benefit na classmate ko siya. Benefit sa.. na parehas gumagana
189 utak namin sa mga school works, kapag may FA. Parehas namin nasasagutan
190 kasi parang.. Anong tawag ‘doon? Ano tawag ‘doon.. productive kami
191 together! So yung benefits is productive kami together. Mas kampante ako
192 na gumagawa kami pag magkasama. Actually narealize ko lang very ano
193 kami co-dependent ganyan [laugh]. Tapos ano kunwari, acts of service.
193 Ayan, mahilig siya mag acts of service. Kunwari, ayaw ko kasi naglilinis ng
195 CR doon sa place namin so siya yung gumagawa, so benefit ‘yun. Benefit
196 P2 din na ‘pag sa gabi may kasama ka ‘pag bibili ka sa kanto may kasama ka.
197 Yung companionship ayun benefit din ‘yun. And syempre [laugh], sinabi
198 niya nga yung sexlife benefit daw yon kasi before maging kami. Like
199 syempre pag gusto mo isatisfy needs mo like wala. Ganyan puro FuBu lang,
200 so ngayon katabi mo na agad. And ano pa ba.. ano pa bang benefits uhm
201 magkasama kami together, sa sexlife, sa acads. Yung friendship like yung
202 friendship namin. Worth keeping so beneficial siya, ayun.
203 I So kahit magboyfriend kayo, you still consider each other as friends pa rin?
204 Oo minsan nga nakakalimutan namin na magjowa kami kasi nagstart kami as
205 P2 friends. Doon kami sanay, and sinasabi ko sa kanya na, “Girlfriend mo ‘ko!”
206 ganyan ganyan [laugh] Inaasar niya kasi ako! Parang ganun.
207 I So with these benefits, how does it affect you?
208 Mas natutulungan niya ko sa.. Kasi sometimes na f-feel ko nagstrustruggle
209 ako emotionally. So parang ‘pag nakikita ko yung mga ginagawa niya for me
210 parang mas ginaganahan ako mag like bumangon everyday. Ginaganahan
211 ako bumangon like, ‘pag tinatamad ako. Or parang.. anong tawag doon..
212 P2 Parang pulling force ko siya parang ganun. Minomotivate niya ko in a way
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213 and of course nagiging happy ako kasi tinutulungan niya ko sa.. household
214 chores kahit kailangan ko pa siyang sabihan [laugh].
215 Minsan kasi nag c-cellphone lang habang nagwawalis ako sabi ko, “’Wag ka
216 naman mag cellphone. Kahit wag mo ‘kong tulungan basta wag ka na mag
217 cellphone." ganun [laugh]
218 Pero yung benefits yon nga tinutulungan niya ako. Ay- effect nga pala.
219 Ayun masaya nga ako and nagiging motivation ko siya. sa day by day ganun.
220 So that’s the end of our interview. Debrief ka lang po namin na this is what
221 I research is about. ‘Gaya ng sabi ko kanina, kung may question ka, you can
222 always contact us. Thank you!
Participant 3
Duration: 17 min, 6 sec.
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1 So bali po ito yung Informed Consent Form namin, nabasa niyo naman po
2 siya. Tapos nandito na rin po kung paano namin i-s-store at ide-delete yung
3 data po ninyo. So, our study is about “Experiences Of Selected College
4 Students In Metro Manila In Maintaining Long-Term Romantic
5 I Relationships”. And ikaw po as our participant, syempre you fit yung mga
6 kailangan po namin and yung critieria kaya namin kayo kinuha. Let’s start
7 with the interview. Sige. Let’s talk about your experiences in being in a
8 heterosexual long-term romantic relationship, so how would you describe
9 your experiences in maintaining a long-term romantic relationship?
10 Actually hindi ko alam kung paano ko siya i-e-explain kasi first ko. Pero so
11 far naman, since 4 years na, parang napansin ko na, base sa relationship
12 P3 namin is parang chill lang. Since wala pa naman kasi kaming gaano talagang
13 mga kahit anong ganap. Tsaka siguro yung experience, parang maganda lang
14 din kasi yung nabuild na relationship between, sa both families, so ‘yun
lang.
15 I ‘Yun lang yung experiences niyo so far given na.. 4 years na po kayo, baka
16 po may mga iba pa kayong experiences na pinagdaanan together, ganyan po?
17 Uhm, di ko lang alam kung masasagot ko yung ibang tanong kasi—pero
18 ‘yun, so far parang mas naging—nung una parang medyo ano pa kami, hindi
19 pa masyadong open sa isa’t isa. Nangangapa pareho kasi parehong kaming
20 P3 first sa isa’t-isa. Tapos parang in the long run din, naging close kami sa
21 family niya, family ko, ganon. Since magkapitbahay lang din, ‘pag kunwari
22 may kailangan ako, may kailangan siya, mabilis lang din.
23 I Ah, sige po. Bali ano po talaga kayo.. or close na po talaga kayo nung...
24 P3 Actually, magkakilala na kami since... grade 1.
25 I Ah, wow.
26 P3 [Laugh]. Oo.
27 I Sige. So, let's talk about your happiest moments in the relationship. Can you
28 provide us po yung mga masaya niyong experiences with each other ganyan.
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29 Siguro yung happiest kapag kunwari, uhm—hindi ko alam kung ‘yun yung
30 pinakahappiest, siguro yung kapag nakikihalubilo siya kasama family ko. Or
31 P3 happiest din kapag yung nasespend kami ng time na kami lang, kunwari out
32 of nowhere biglang magkakayayaan: “Tara dito, tara doon.” Yung mga
33 ganung bagay ba. Yung mga out-of-the-blue lang bigla nalang mang-aaya.
34 Tapos kahit walang gagawin, okay lang kami kahit kami lang, magkasama
35 lang kami, yung each other’s company, yung presence, yung ganun.
36 I Bali bukod doon, meron pa bang ibang happiest moments, kayo?
37 Happiest moments? Siguro yung pag ano, nagdedate ng biglaan. Kasi lalo na
38 ngayong college ang hirap na.. mag ano ng time. Lalo siya, parang ang dami
39 P3 niya ng responsibilities, hindi lang sa school pati din sa bahay nila. Kaya
40 ako, siguro nacoconsider ko ring happiest talaga kapag yung, kapag pwede
41 siyang makipag.. ano. Spend time kasama ako, yung mga quality time, ayun
42 talaga yung happiest sa akin.
43 So, since napag-usapan natin yung happiest moments ninyo in the
44 I relationship, let’s talk about your sad moments naman.
45 So, meron po ba kayong mga encounters na that made you sad, or the other
46 person sad, ganyan po?
47 Oo naman syempre, 4 years din eh. Although wala pa kami talaga yung..
48 yung grabeng away, pero yung sad moments medyo recent lang. ‘Di ko alam
49 kung siya din pero ako kasi, yung parang.. parang recent lang kasi yung
50 dumami yung responsibilities sa kanya. Parang ako naman, ‘di ko alam
51 kung.. pinangungunahan ko siguro na parang siguro ‘wag na lang muna
52 magsasalita ng kahit ano, kunwari gusto ko siya makasama hindi ako
53 nagsasabi kasi parang minsan, baka pahinga niya nalang din, yung ganon.
54 P3 Tapos minsan parang.. kapag nagtatry siya na magspend time sa akin, kaso
55 ang nangyayari is parang may gagawin din siyang errand kapag.. ‘pag inaaya
56 niya ako.
57 Eh hindi naman sa ayaw ko, parang kumbaga ang sa akin lang kapag ganon,
58 mas prefer ko aayain mo ko hindi lang dahil parang---parang nararamdaman
59 ko kasi is sinisingit lang ako, parang ganon lang naman. ‘yun lang naman
60 pero yung issue ko naman na ‘yun is na-open ko sa kanya and ngayon ay is
parang umookay naman na din.
61 I Since given with the responsibilities, your partner is in college po ba?
62 P3 Oo same lang naman kami.
63 So, since ayun po yung mga sad moments ninyo, kapag po may mga ganon
64 I kayong instances na ginagawa, nakakapagpalungkot po siya sa inyo?
65 P3 Oo.. oo.
66 So, let’s talk about naman yung challenges faced in staying in a long-term
67 I romantic relationship. So, can you explain the challenges or problems that
68 you encounter in maintaining a relationship with your boyfriend?
69 Siguro kasi dahil 4 years tapos ang tagal na naming ding magkakilala, tapos
70 before pa maging kami is parang—may ano na kami. ‘Di pa kami pero
71 parang kami, yung mga ganong label ba na.. Tapos since sobrang tagal na
72 naming magkakilala, tapos 4 years na kami officially, ang mahirap lang sa..
73 tama ba. pagmemaintain na na- encounter ko is hindi minsan namin
125
119 lang ang hindi lang maganda kapag nag uusap kami is through chat. Yung
120 mga ganung bagay kasi.. uhm.. pansin ko din sa kanya na hindi niya rin kaya
121 verbally sabihin kapag magkaharap kami. Mas nakakapag-open siya kapag
122 through messenger or ano, kahit tawag ganon.
123 Ang way niyo ng pagcocommunicate with each other parang nagkakaiba in
124 I person, kapag sa chat, or sa call?
125 P3 Sorry?
126 Kapag yung way po ba ng pag-eexpress niya magkaiba po ba in terms of
127 I yung mode of communication? For example, nasa call kayo iba yung parang
128 approach niya and yung nasa chat kayo...
129 Actually, hindi kami nagcacall. Chat lang talaga. Kung hindi chat, face to
130 face since magkapitbahay. Pero pag tinitignan ko.. looking back, hindi pa
131 talaga kami nag uusap face to face about something sa relationship na yung..
132 P3 parang seryoso type na usap. Kapag nagkikita kami, anon a lang. Parang
133 nagbabati na lang din kasi tapos na kami maglabas ng saloobin namin sa
134 isa’t-isa through sa chat. Pero minsan din kasi parang nakikita ko na lang din
134 siya, parang okay na lang din na... ewan ko, physical touch nagiging ano na
135 lang din sa akin, parang assurance na okay na, ganon.
136 I Nalalaman niyo po na.. uhm.. okay na kapag nagmimeet po kayo?
137 P3 Oo, feeling ko [laugh]. Feeling ko.
138 Sige po. So, let’s talk about naman the benefits of.. na nakukuha ninyo as a
139 I college student in being in a long-term romantic relationship. So what are
140 the reasons that contributes to you in staying in your relationship?
141 Hindi ko alam, meron ba? Charot. Reasons that contribute in staying.. Siguro
142 iba kasi talaga kapag yung partner is doon ka din nagvevent out. Parang no
143 judge talaga kapag kunwari may mga issues ka sa life na, yung, hindi mo
144 P3 kayang sabihin sa iba. May mga issue din ako na siya yung una kong
145 pinagsasabihan tapos parang siya lang din yung may alam, or kung hindi
146 lang siya yung may alam, siya talaga yung una kong pinagsasabihan na
147 talagang icocomfort ako without saying anything first, parang papakinggan
148 niya lang talaga ako. Siguro ayun lang talaga.
149 Yung parang may masasandalan ka kapag may problema ka. ‘yun.
150 I Can you provide the benefits that you get from your partner? Pwede po itong
151 in general or as a student.
152 As a student, ‘di naman. Hindi naman ako nagpapatulong. Siguro ‘yun ano,
153 siya ‘yun type of person na.. mahilig siyang magpakita ng affection through
154 acts of service. Kunwari, uh.. ihahatid niya ako dito kahit ‘di ko gusto. Hindi
155 naman sa hindi ko gusto, parang ayoko lang iparamdam na obligated siyang
156 gawin ‘yun kasi kaya ko naman. Para naman hindi niya maisip na kailangan
157 niyang gawin ‘yun lagi pag may pupuntahan ako or anywhere. Uhm, yung
158 benefits talaga, kapag may hindi ako kayang gawin. tutulungan niya ako.
159 Pagdating minsan sa bahay kapag may—kasi wala dyan yung dad ko eh—
160 P3 siya minsan yung gagawa. Ang benefit din talaga kasi, hindi lang ako yung
161 nagbebenefit – pati yung mom ko, yung parents ko na tumutulong siya sa
162 bahay. Yung dad ko kasi nasa ano.. nasa barko. And may mga ano siya.. mga
163 motor.
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164 Gusto niya lagi pinapaandar ganun, tapos sinasabihan niya yung boyfriend
165 ko na paandarin. Nagchachat sila, may sarili silang groupchat na tatlo, yung
166 mga ganong bagay ba. Kumbaga yung sa benefit na may magandang
167 relationship na nabuild siya with my parents is nagbebenefit, hindi lang ako,
168 pati yung family ko. Tapos minsan, uhm, nag ooffer siya, kapag sobrang
169 busy ko, kapag wala siyang ginagawa, maglalaruin niya yung mga aso ko or
170 iwo-walk niya. Acts of service talaga yung kanyang ginagawa.
171 I So, given with these things, how do these benefits affect you?
172 Minsan nahihiya ako. Na parang ginagawa niya ‘yun ganun. Although ano
173 naman siya eh, gusto niya talagang gawin. Pero ako kasi, para lang sa akin
174 na uhm, although gusto niyang gawin.. ‘pag inuulit-ulit niyang gawin ‘yun
175 parang hahanap-hanapin niyang gusto niyang laging may ginagawa siya not
176 only for me but for others din. Ayaw kong masanay siya sa ganoong
177 thinking na, nasasatisfy siya sa—parang nagbibigay ng satisfaction na
178 nakakatulong siya. Although okay yon, pero in terms of hahanap hanapin
179 niya, parang hindi okay sa akin kasi.. pag nag-oopen siya lately sa akin,
180 P3 ganon yung sinasabi niya. Parang ayaw niya na wala siyang ginagawa, gusto
181 niya laging uhm.. may humihingi ng tulong sa kanya. Naaapektuhan ako eh,
182 sa mga ganon, yung thinking niya minsan na... Gusto niya lagi, uhm. Ewan
183 ko, parang napapansin ko kasi sa kanya parang minsan pinababasehan niya
184 ng worth niya minsan yung ganon. Kaya ayoko minsan. Kaya minsan parang
185 sinasabi niya na susunduin niya ako, sasabihin ko ‘wag na.
186 Or siya maghahatid sa akin, ako nalang magdadrive nalang ako, mga ganung
187 bagay. Parang gusto niya laging may pinatutunayan, although sa akin naman
188 hindi mo naman kailangan kasi okay na ako sa kung anong kaya mong
189 ibigay, okay na ‘yun. Ako nang bahala sa iba.
190 For our questions ‘yun lang naman po siya. Tapos na po yung interview.
191 I Brief na lang po namin kayo ulit for our Informed Consent Form. Ito po
192 yung contact number namin if you wish to withdraw po, or ayaw niyo na
193 pong magjoin sa study namin. Ito po yung email namin. Tapos nandito rin
194 po yung contact number namin, tapos nandito rin po yung purpose of our
195 study naming since nabasa niyo naman siya. Tapos yung incentives namin..
196 P3 ‘Di okay na. Ah okay na sya.
197 I Ah okay [laugh]. Tapos yung results of our study namin, i-contact niyo na
198 lang din po kami.
199 P3 Tapos yung results of out study namin, icontact niyo na lang din po kami.
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Participant 4
Duration: 12 min, 27 sec.
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Person
1 Good morning so we are conducting our research and its qualitative in
2 nature. Our title is “Experiences of Selected College Students in Metro
3 Manila in Maintaining Long-term Romantic Relationships.” Just to brief
4 I you ito yung informed consent form namin tapos nandito naman yung
5 details kanina and nandito yung contact information namin in case na may
6 questions ka. Your participation is always voluntary and anytime you can
7 withdraw. As per our incentive ibibigay na lang namin sya.
8 So, let's talk about the experiences of being in a long term romantic
9 relationship? How would you describe your experiences in maintaining a
10 long-term romantic relationship?
11 Uhm, ayun. Yung relationship ko naman ngayon, siguro ma de-describe ko
12 sya as “rollercoaster ride” kasi syempre hindi naman always happy hindi
13 P4 naman always kilig kilig.
14 May times naman talaga na dumadaan sa lowest point namin.
15 Pero masasabi ko naman na yung status nami ngayon is okay and masaya
naman.
16 I Bukod doon may iba pa bang experiences naranasan?
17 P4 Experiences.. Uhm, wala naman na….
18 I Pag-usapan natin yung mga experiences ninyo since masaya kayo. Can you
19 tell us about your happiest moments in the relationship?
20 [Laugh]. Siguro yung ano.. yung isa na lang sa mga happiest moments
21 namin.. Siguro noong last year. One time, na.. naisama ko sya sa family
22 celebration naming kasi sa tagal ng relationship namin parang hindi pa
23 P4 kami totally accepted on my side. So parang.. isa ‘yun na happiest
24 moments on my side.
25 For the first time, uhm grineet siya ng Papa ko ganun, and kahit papaano
nginitian din sya.
26 I To follow up, since nabanggit mo na parang hindi siya totally accepted ng
27 parents. Ano ‘yun? Ano yung reason bakit ganun.
28 Kasi ano.. may nangyari na.. siguro.. ‘yun din yung matatawag ko na
29 saddest moment because until now, ramdam kong.. aware kami na hindi
30 kami totally accepted sa side ko kasi unang-una doon is late nila nalaman
31 na may boyfriend na ako and yung parents ko kasi may pagka traditional so
32 P4 parang nalaman nila na parang 2 years na kami and then parang akala nila
33 wala akong boyfriend, tapos bigla na lang malalaman, ah may boyfriend na
34 pala ako tapos ganun na katagal. So ayun.
35 Parang against sila sa relationship naming. To the point na parang gusto ng
36 father ko na parang maghiwalay na kami and all.
37 I Recently lang niya nameet yung parents mo?
38 P4 Recently lang ba.. 2022 like yung nagkita talaga. Pero wala kaming mga
39 formal na meet kasi nga hindi nga talaga open.
40 I Pero kilala siya?
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41 P4 Oo kilala, ganun, pero hindi kami yung typical relationship kagaya ng iba
42 na parang sobrang open nung family, ganun.
43 Sige since napag usapan natin yung happiest moments niyo..
44 I Meron pa bang ibang instances na naging masaya ka sa relationship na
45 parang tumatak siya sa’yo?
46 Siguro..
47 Yung sinurprise niya ako.
48 Kasi kaming dalawa hindi pa namin love language yung ganun, yung
49 P4 giving gifts yung ganun. Tapos hindi kami yung tao na masurprise, pero
50 siguro isa ‘yun sa tumatak sa akin kasi.. siguro.. 10 months kaming LDR,
51 and then nagwwork na siya that time. Tapos parang wala ako ka ide-idea
52 na umuwi pala siya ng isla kasi taga isla nga kami. Tapos ayun, sinurprise
53 niya ako sa school, parang nagvisit nga siya talaga siya. So ayun talaga
54 yung parang pinakamasaya kasi talaga yung parang pinakamasaya kasi
doon ko na ano na.. yung effort niya ganyan, para madalaw lang ako.
55 I Since napagusapan na natin yung happiest moments niyo, pag usapan
56 naman natin yung sad moments bukod doon sa nabanggit mo kanina.
57 P4 Bukod pa doon sa ano pa yung sad moments?
58 I Oo.
59 Siguro parang may one time na medyo related pa rin kasi doon eh. May
60 moments na muntik kami mag break dahil sa nga sa family issue kasi
61 masasabi ko na isa talaga na pinakamalaking factor kung bakit kung
62 nagkaka-away din kami. May times din talaga na gusto ko nang makipag
63 P4 break kasi nga nahihirapan na ako at na f-feel ko na parang ang unfair ko
64 sa kanya, kasi syempre, super open at super welcoming ng family niya sa
65 akin; tanggap ako, and then pagdating sa side ko, parang hindi siya ano.
66 So parang ako.. naffeel ko na, “Ang unfair ko ba?”, “Hindi niya ako
67 deserve.” Ayun yung isa sa mga saddest moments talaga.
68 Let's move on naman sa sunod na question. Let's talk about your
69 I challenges you encounter or problems in maintaining your relationship.
70 Can you explain the challenges that you encounter or encountered in
71 maintaining a relationship with your boyfriend.
71 Siguro ayun nga nabanggit ko na kanina yung family isa ‘yun sa
72 challenges, tapos communication din. Isa ‘yun sa. Uh.. mga nagiging
73 conflict din namin. Kasi.. parang.. ako siguro ako yung type ng tao na..
74 very vocal ba, na kapag kunwari, naiinis ako gusto ko sinasabi ko na lahat
75 P4 ng emotion nilalabas ko eh sya naman parang opposite.
76 Kunwari, imbes sabayan niya galit ko, parang mananahimik na lang,
77 parang hindi na namin mapapag usapan. Parang ayun, parang doon kami
78 nag c-clash kasi nagkaroon kami ng miscommunication.
79 I So kapag nangyari ‘to diba may mga miscommunication tapos hindi kayo
80 minsan nagkakaintindihan.. How do these challenges affect you?
81 Uh, ano.. Sobrang nakaka-affect sa akin na in a way, kasi ano.. ako.. may
82 pagkaoverthinker ba ganun, so parang kunwari na.. gusto ko kasi parang
83 pag usapan na agad. Eh syempre diba may instances talaga na yung mga
84 P4 away niyo hindi talaga mafifix within this day or night. Ako kasi gusto na
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85 agad agad maayos. Pero siya since parang na f-feel niya na hindi na kami
86 nagtutugma na pareho na kasi mainit ulo, ganyan, so yung way niya
87 kakalama muna sya hindi niya muna ako sasabayan. Ayun yung nagiging
88 way naming na, “Ah stop muna”, at kinabukasan pag usapan na lang ulit.
89 Nabanggit mo na napag uusapan ninyo..
90 I May iba pa ba na parang mga ways, na uhm how you manage these
91 challenges in your romantic relationship?
92 P4 Bukod pa sa ano.. parang paguusap?
93 I Oo.
94 Feel ko wala na kasi more o pinipilit naman talaga pag usapan, or minsan
95 P4 ‘pag hindi na talaga, gumagawa kami ng extra effort na.. magbibigay ng
96 gift at least para ma-feel namin yung affection.
97 Let’s move on naman sa mga benefits niyo as students students in being a
98 I long term romantic relationship? What are the reasons that contribute to
99 you staying in your relationship?
100 Siguro ano.. uhm kaya ako parang nag s-stay pa sa relationship namin is..
101 isa kasi sa mga tinitignan ko sa isang tao is yung treatment niya ba sa akin,
102 so kunwari maayos yung treatment niya.. nahahandle niya rin ako nang
103 P4 maayos. Isa ‘yun sa mga factor na kinoconsider ko kung bakit kaya nag s-
104 stay kami kasi, yempre aminin natin na may times na nagiging toxic. Pero
105 yung partner ko kasi alam niya paano ako ihandle yung mga mood swings
106 ko and all. Kaya ayun, kaya rin siguro tumagal din kami.
107 I Sige.. so, can you provide benefits that you get from your partner?
108 Yung benefit na nakukuha ko sa partner ko is.. isa kasi sya na masasabi ko
109 na.. pinagkukunan ko ng moral support talaga kasi parang, kahit parang..
110 kahit ano yung mga plans ko, talagang.. siya yung nagsusupport sa akin
111 ‘pag may times na sobrang anxious ako- sobrang nag d-doubt na ako sa
112 P4 kakayanan ko. Alam mo ‘yun, parang may taong nagpapalakas ng loob ko
113 and ayun talaga yung sa tingin ko na isang importante rin talaga sa
114 relationship. Tsaka ayun, sa mental health mo.
115 ‘Pag talagang may taong nakasuporta sa’yo.
116 I Sige.. so.. as a student, the same pa ba yung benefits, or may mga iba pa
117 ba? As a student may mga benefits ka bang nakukuha from your partner?
118 Ano.. minsan na ano.. more on moral support talaga kasi pagdating sa
119 P4 school, like as a student, hindi naman masyado nag a-ask ng help kasi may
200 iba-iba rin naman kaming responsibility?
201 I So yung.. since napag usapan natin yung benefits kagaya ng moral support.
202 How do these benefits affect you?
203 In a good way naman talaga siya nakakaaffect sa akin, kasi as a student
204 may sobrang stressful moments tayo, and dahil sa moral support niya, lalo
205 P4 ako malayo naman ako sa family ko so halos mag isa rin ako. So kahit sa
206 kanya, ah.. nakukuha ko yung moral support na parang kailangan ko.
207 So parang nagbboost din sa akin kahit papaano na maging kalmado, na
208 maging okay.
209 I Ayun lang naman yung for our interview, and thank you. So I will brief
210 yung lang ulit sa ICF namin.
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Participant 5
Duration: 10 min, 4 sec
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person
1 So again my name pala is [redacted] and I would be conducting your
2 I interview this.. What are your experience ba in.. ano.. as a heterosexual
3 student in college in maintaining a long-term romantic relationship?
4 Ano, for me, pinaghalong.. uh.. happiness and syempre yung downside nya
5 P5 yung times na malungkot. For experiences, nag r-range lang sa usually
6 minsan masaya, minsan malungkot.
7 I How would you describe your experiences in maintaining a long-term
8 romantic relationship?
9 P5 Ah.. Yung mga experiences ko kasi, ah, may times na ano, nahihirapan,
10 lalo na long-term kasi eh, for sure yung iba diyan na sa una lang masaya.
11 So, totoo naman na pag tumatagal na yung relationship, may times talaga
12 na parang feeling mo ‘di mo na sya mahal, parang ganun.
13 So far ‘yun lang naman, pero.. ano kasi kami, medyo long term (?) (long-
14 distance) dahil sa Las Piñas siya tapos nag s-stay na ako sa Manila. Tapos
15 ah.. bihirang-bihira lang magkita kasi ako busy sa duty, tapos siya naman
16 busy rin sa school niya.
17 I Ano course ng boyfriend mo?
18 P5 Hospitality management.
19 I Anong year level?
20 P5 3rd year din.
21 I And you are?
22 P5 Third year nursing.
23 I How long have you been together?
24 P5 Six years.
25 I Tagal! So that would be.. 20.. 2018?
26 P5 2017.
27 I So you were together since.. I guess, junior high?
28 P5 Grade.. grade nine.
29 So sabi mo nga na parang iba eh, sa una parang mahal pala, pero hindi
30 I pala. Paano mo madedescribe yung parang challenges nung bagu-bago
31 kayo, tapos yung challenges nung tumagal?
32 Ano, nung bagu-bago kami for me masyadong mahirap yung pagiging
33 legal. Kasi hindi kami legal nung time na ‘yun kasi syempre bata pa. Ayun.
34 ‘yun yung challenges ko nung time na ‘yon.
35 P5 Then feeling ko nitong nagcollege na, nagmature na, uhm.. yung ano..
36 Yung ano.. quality time I think. Quality time. Kasi ayun nga bihira na lang
37 magkita tapos kung magkikita man saglit lang.. kakain lang, date lang.
38 Kung magkikita man, occasion lang- ‘yun.
39 I Ah, may masasabi ka ba, ano yung happiest moments niyo sa relationship?
40 P5 Happiest moment..? ‘Pag ano. Pagka ano, ‘pag sumasama siya sa amin
41 mga family bonding namin.
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131 I So I think that’s the whole entire interview naman na eh. So ang nakuha ko
132 sa’yo so far, you stay for the love, loyalty, and trust. And for his support
133 and affectionate siya sa’yo.
Participant 6
Duration: 21 minutes
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No. Person
1 Good morning po.
2 Explain ko lang po yung nasa ICF namin. Bali we are conducting research,
3 I qualitative po siya and it is about “Experiences of Selected College Students
4 in Metro Manila in Maintaining Long-term Romantic Relationships.” So
5 syempre, as mentioned po, na your relationship is already three--
6 P6 3 years and 6 months.
7 ‘Yun, fitted po kayo as a participant namin.
8 So, yung mga nakasaad po sa Informed Consent Form naming.
9 I Nabasa niyo naman po and you always have the right to withdraw naman po
10 and you can always contact us dito po. Sige po let’s start. For the questions,
11 being in a long-term romantic relationship, let’s talk about your experiences
in maintaining it. Kumusta naman po?
11 Actually.. ang pagmemaintain? Mahirap. Para lang yan grades, kailangan
12 mong pag-aralan, kailangan mo mag-observe, kailangan mo malaman lahat
13 ng mga hindi dapat gawin, paran sa school lang. Parang sa school lang.
14 Dapat alam mo yung mga rules and regulations. Yung mga basic na
15 kailangan gawin, being responsible, and ganun din sa love. You need to be
16 P6 responsible sa lahat ng action, lahat ng words. And hindi siya madali kasi
17 madaming temptations.
18 Parang estudyante madaming temptations, na gusto nating magpahinga pero
19 kailangan natin gawin yung isang project, or review for quizzes and final
20 examination. Ganun din sa relationship. Ang daming mga tukso, ang daming
21 mga problema na hindi mo naman dapat nararanasan pero nag ooccur na lang
siya dahil sa mga hinaharap natin sa buhay.
22 Based on your response, yung mga nakwento niyo about tukso, naranasan
23 I niyo na po?
24 Yes. Temptation. Nandiyan naman lagi yung temptation eh. Tao lang naman
25 tayo natutukso, pero I know what are my limitations. Hindi naman ako ..
26 P6 although, may mga small, little things na temptation, syempre human tayo.
27 Pero I know na hindi yon sapat na rason para gawin natin yung isang
28 temptation. Ayun, yes naranasan ko na siya
29 Sige po. So, since napag-usapan na po natin yung mga experiences ninyo.
30 I Can you tell us about your happiest moments in your relationship?
31 The happiest moments na naranasan namin, tatlo. First, syempre yung
32 official na kami. Pangalawa, yung magkasundo kami sa lahat ng bagay.
33 Pangatlo, yung nagmeet yung parents naming at parents niya officially.
34
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35 Syempre yung first ko, bakit ako naging masaya don, syempre yung first na
36 yon, yun yung sinagot niya ko. Kasi yun na yung time na kailangan ko na
37 maging committed sa isang relasyon. Kailangan ko na maging responsible sa
38 P6 lahat ng gagawin ko. Hindi na ako mag-isa sa journey. Kumbaga dalawa na
39 yung nasa isip ko. Kumbaga kung ano yung gagawin ko, maaapektuhan din
40 yung partner ko. Yung pangalawa, nagkakasundo kami. Kasi syempre—
41 although hindi ito yung first time namin magsama, since junior high school
42 pa lang kami, since grade 7, nagkaroon na kami ng mutual understanding.
43 Then naging official couple lang kami noong senior high.
44 So noong JHS kami nagkaroon na kami ng moments, pero hindi pa don yung
45 fully. Kumbaga hindi pa siya nailalabas kung sino talaga yung totoo, at kung
46 ano talaga yung mga ginagawa naming na hindi namin alam sa isa’t isa.
47 Noong masaya kami, nagkakasundo na kami, naiintindihan ko na kung ano
48 siya. Although dapat before kayo pumasok sa isang relasyon, alam mo na
49 dapat yung partner mo. Yes, andon na tayo, pero meron pa ding mga
50 circumstances, meron pa ding mga situation na hindi mo naman talaga
51 nararanasan beforehand. Mararanasan mo na lang siya kapag andon ka na sa
52 isang sitwasyon. So ayun nagkakasundo kami, nagkakaintindihan kami, kaya
53 nagiging masaya kami. Kasi naiintindihan ko yung side niya, naiintindihan
54 niya yung side ko. Yung third syempre yung officially na nameet na ng
55 parents ko yung parents niya. And nangyari lang yon this year since yung
56 father ko nasa ibang bansa. Although nagmimeet naman yung parents ko-
57 namin, pero mother lang, parang hindi buo. Pero now, pamilya niya talaga
58 pamilya ko, buo kami nagsama-sama, nagkakilalahan. So masaya ako don
kasi achievement yon for me.
59 Paano yung course ng relationship niyo? Nagstart kayo since high school pa,
60 I hindi lang kayo official?
61 Ya (Yes). Hindi kami official that time noong junior high school, kasi hindi
62 ako seryoso. Kaya isa yon sa mga happiness noong naging official na kami
63 kasi committed na ko.
64 P6 Noong JHS kasi ako, ang dami kong ineentertain. Student leader, active sa
65 school, so ang daming lumalapit, nilalapitan ko din at ineentertain ko sila. So
66 masaya ako that time. Sino ba naman ang hindi gusto yung madaming
67 kausap, madaming nagkecare sayo, nag-aalala sayo sa araw-araw.
68 I Yung pagmmeet ng parents ninyo, recently lang siya nangyari ‘di’ba?
69 Yung whole family. Nagkikita naman sila beforehand, bago ‘tong taon pero
70 hindi kumpleto. Like mother to mother lang, kuya to kuya tapos yung
71 P6 kapatid niya. Hindi buo, hindi complete family. Pero this year, since
72 kakadating lang ng tatay ko from Dubai, don na nagmeet lahat ng buong
73 pamilya ko actually, tsaka buong pamilya niya.
74 I So bali ano, hindi pa kayo legal?
75 Noong Grade 7 kami, alam na ng mother niya, buong family niya alam na
76 pero hindi kami official na magcouple. Kasi landian lang, mutual
77 understanding. Pero netong senior high school na, official na kami. Talagang
78 P6 legal na kami. Nasa dating stage pa lang kami bago niya ko sinagot.
79 So noong sinagot niya na ko, before pa niya ko sagutin, kilala niya na yung
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170 So alam ko maliliit lang yun na mga bagay, pero pag pinagsama-sama mo,
171 isa ka sa mga dahilan kung bakit ko makukuha yung achievement ko sa
172 academic. Hindi lang yon, tuwing may problema ako sa friends ko, medyo
173 na-awkward ako sa ginawa nila, andyan siya para maging okay ang lahat.
174 I So bali as in, partner talaga siya na tumutulong sayo?
175 P6 Oo, like parang… tulungan.
176 I What are the reasons that contribute to you in staying in your relationship?
177 Ahh! Para magstay kami sa relationship ano na contribute niya? Kasi Nakita
178 ko sa kanya na sobra siyang dedicated, committed sa relasyon namin. Kahit
179 P6 pagod siya, kahit may kailangan siyang gawin, nandiyan siya for me. Sino ba
180 naman yung tao na ayaw ng ganun diba. Like parang, iniwan ka na ng lahat,
181 tinalikuran ka na ng mundo. Nandiyan siya for you. Ayun yung mga
182 nagiging contribution niya sa relasyon. Atsaka yung love na pinapakita niya
sakin.
183 So bali, yung love talaga at paano ka niya trinato.
184 I So, syempre ganito nga yung dynamic ninyo. Can you provide benefits that
185 you get from your partner.
186 Provide? Yung ibang tao kasi kung ano yung natatanggap nila, yun lang dn
187 yung binabalik; hindi ako ganon. Money. Kasi may problem sila sa financial.
188 So ako kung kinakailangan na ng money, kaya ko magprovide. Time.
189 Minsan nagkaroon na rin kami ng problem sa time, pero dahil naging
190 P6 problem na siya hindi ko na siya uulitin, mas ipra-prioritize ko na yung time
191 naming sa isa’t isa. Yung mga paghelp sa kanya kasi dentist siya, so ang
192 daming bibit, ang dami niyang kailangan bilhin sa iba’t ibang so
193 sinasamahan ko siya. Ano rin, ang isa sa mga kaya kong macontribute ko sa
194 kanya is yung pagkakaroon ng faith kasi servant kami sa church so ako yung
195 nag-encourage sa kanya na “tara simba tayo, magdasal tayo”
196 I Para sayo naman, ano yung mga natanggap mo na galing sa kanya?
197 Ah galing sa kanya? Yung little things na pagtulong niya sa’kin. Yung
198 pagiging nandiyan niya sa akin. Ako kasi sanay ako mag-isa sa buhay. So
199 ayaw niya ko mag-isa. Bata pa lang ako, yung ginagawa ng pangmatanda,
200 nagagawa ko na. So ayaw niya yon na mangyari sakin. New na gawain gusto
201 P6 niya may kasama ako. Tapos sa lahat ng bagay inaassure niya na okay ako,
202 na may kasama ako, na alam ko gagawin ko, at yung mga reminders na oh
203 eto baka mangyari baka eto baka may makita kang ganito, baka may
204 kaharapin ka nanamang problemang ganyan. So kumbaga nandiyan siya para
205 i-guide ako. Pag ako lang gumagalaw, isip ko lang, point of view ko lang
206 yung nakikita ko, pero yung nakikita noong iba hindi ko nakikita so kumbaga
207 siya yung nagpapakita sakin kung ano yung nakikita ng iba
208 I So bali itong mga ito, nagbebenefit ka, in what way? Nakakaapekto ba yung
209 mga benefits para sayo?
210 Sobra kasi mas lalong lumalalim yung relasyon namin. Ang lalim na ng
211 pinagsamahan namin kasi sa lahat ng bagay magkasama kami.
212 P6 Yung pundasyon ba ng pagmamahalan namin hindi lang sa ‘good morning
213 love’, hindi lang ‘oy kain ka na ha’, hindi lang pang-valentines. Kumbaga
214 through ups and downs nandiyan siya.
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Participant 7
Duration: 17 min, 19 sec.
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person
1 Let’s discuss po kung paano kayo nakakapagmaintain ng isang long term
2 I relationship? And nakita ko po sa forms na ang nakalagay ay 4 years
3 mahigit na po kayo diba? How would you describe your experiences in
4 maintaining a long-term romantic relationship?
5 Since nakaabot kami sa ganitong year and month. First kailangan niyo
6 muna accept all your flaws and maintain niyo yung pagiging faithful and
7 P7 loyalty. And also dapat pag nagmamatain ka ng isang relationship
8 kailangan mo ng mahabang pasensya tapos hindi laging sarili yung una.
9 Dapat ‘pag meron ka dapat meron din yung partner mo. Bale give and take.
10 Nabanggit niyo po yung mga factors na kailangan natin para makapag
11 I maintain ng isang relationship. So ano po yung mga na experience niyo na
12 parang nasabi niyo na ‘yun yung mga bagay na kailangan niyo.
13 Sa una syempre hindi mo masasabi na siya na talaga. Kasi magsisimula
14 P7 muna yan sa background ng relationship niyo kung compatible kayo so
15 masasabi mo lang na compatible kayo pagtanggap niyo ang isa’t-isa.
16 I You’re implying po na tinatanggap niyo po yung partner niyo ganun po
17 yung experience niyo? Ganun din po yung partner niyo?
18 P7 Oo.
19 I Let’s move naman po sa mga masasayang moments ng relationship niyo,
20 Can you tell us about your happiest moments in the relationship?
21 Happiest moments, sa tingin ko yung everyday. Once na nakakapag usap
22 P7 kami kumbaga gumagaan loob ko tapos sumasaya ako kasi minsan kapag
23 sobrang overload na din ako siya tinatakbuhan ko.
24 I Paano pong overload, can you elaborate po?
25 Overload means kunyare sa research, may research ka inaayos mo chapter
26 1, 2,3 ,4 and 5 sabay may mga reportings ka pa and quizzes tapos sumabay
27 pa midterms and nag wowork din. So may time na hirap na hirap talaga na
28 P7 hindi mo na alam gagawin mo. Pero once na natawagan mo na mahal mo
29 sa buhay may mangyayari at mangyayari talaga na gagaan ang loob mo..
30 kasi siya yung nag b-build sayo ng confidence na gawin lahat ‘yun.
31 I Meron po ba kayo specific moments?
32 Na pinakagustong nangyari sa relationship?
33 P7 Siguro yung napakilala ko siya sa family ko tsaka napakilala niya din ako
34 sa family niya kasi doon na nabuild yung trust namin sa aming dalawa.
35 I Kailan po kayo napakilala during the relationship?
36 P7 Siguro umabot din kami ng six months, tapos ako yung unang nagpakilala
37 sa family ko muna.
38 I Legal na po kayo?
39 P7 Oo.
40 I So noong una po, ano po ang nangyayari noong hindi pa kayo napapakilala
41 within sa family ng isa’t-isa?
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86 so parehas naman kayo mag bebenefit sa mangyayari after niyo mag aral
87 kaya nagkaintindihan kami.
88 Alam niyo naman po yung prioritize ng isa’t-isa kaya naintindihan niyo
89 I naman po. So yung mga challenges na naexpreience niyo, paano po siya
90 nakakaapekto sa inyo?
91 Makakaaffect lang siya siguro kung hindi ka mag uupdate, number 1 cause
92 ‘yun hindi ka mag uupdate kapag may time na sobrang tagal niya
93 P7 magreply. May mga time na ‘di mo alam kung anong nangyayari sakanya,
94 kung nasaan na ba siya. Pero hindi naman namin hinahayaan na mapunta
95 sa point na pag aawayan namin. The way na hindi ako or siya nag uupdate,
96 we keep updating each other para mapanatag yung loob namin pareho.
97 Yung mga challenges na ‘to, how do you manage na maging okay, parang
98 I nabanggit niyo kanina yung finances, paano niyo hinahandle yung mga
99 ganitong bagay?
100 Nung panahon na ‘yun bumili kami alkanysa. Yung alkansya namin
101 dalawang dangkal na kalaki. Sabi namin everyday mag huhulog kami ng 5
102 pesos or 10 pesos. So bale ibibigay niya saakin 50 pesos per week tapos
103 ako 25 pesos lang. Nag iipon kami para yung ang gamitin namin pang date.
104 Bale hindi na kami bumabase doon sa. kunyare biglaan na tara ganun.
105 May understanding kami na, “Love students pa lang tayo wala pa tayong
106 ganung pera, need natin mag ipon.” then yung maiipon natin ‘yun yung
107 P7 pangdate namin. Kung may extra man makakagala pa nang sobra.
108 And hindi namin hinahayaan na magkaroon kami ng misunderstanding sa
109 hindi pag uupdate. Iniiwasan namin na magkakaroon kami ng away na
110 maglelead sa hiwalayan. Kapag alam na namin na mag aaway na kami,
111 Nagpapakumbaba na ako syempre lalaki. And ang maganda sa partner ko
112 is mabilis din bumaba yung tension or galit niya. After namin mag pababa
113 ng galit doon kami mag uusap nang maigi.
114 Ang way niyo para maayos ang relationship is through communicating.
115 I Since we talked about your challenges in the relationship. Pag usapan
116 naman po natin yung benefits as a student being in a long-term
117 relationship. What are the reasons for you to stay in the relationship?
118 So nasabi mo nga yung staying in a relationship. Nung niligawan ko siya,
119 sinet (set) ko sa utak ko na date to marry, sa panahon ngayon iba na. Yung
120 nacontribute ko sa relationship namin is pinupush ko siya bagay na hindi
121 P7 niya kaya. Accounting student siya sobrang stress, minsan inanxiety na
122 siya ang gingawa ko is communication talaga. Ang nacocontribute ko
123 sakanya is lahat ng kaya ko ibigay sakanya.
124 I Ano yung mga reason kung bakit kayo nag s-stay sa relationship
125 Sa akin kasi hindi siya reason more on validate. Once na tanggap niyo ang
126 P7 isa’t-isa, nandoon na yung contentment. So ‘di na kayo maghahanap ng
127 iba. Wala kayong tinatagong sikreto, nandoon na lahat kaya nag stay ako sa
128 relationship na ‘to.
129 Hindi niyo kinoconsider na may reason.
130 Gusto niyo lang magstay sa relationship dahil sa contented na kayo.
I
142
131 Bale move naman po tayo sa next na question what are the benefits po na
132 nakukuha niyo po sa partner niyo as a student din?
133 So natutulungan niya ako the way na sa assignments sa research even sa
134 financially. Nasabi ko nga kanina give and take.
135 Nagbibigay din ako sa kanya ng financial assistance kasi hirap na hirap na
136 P7 din kami mag provide ng sarili naming pera. So more on financial and
137 communication sa kanya. Kasi sabi niya maupdate mo lang ako or
138 makapag usap man lang tayo, okay na sa akin ‘yun.
139 I So yung mga benefits na ‘yun paano nakakaaffect sainyo ‘yun?
140 Minsan na wawalan ako ng pera, kasi may time na may babayran siya.
141 Hindi siya minsan umaasa sa magulang niya hirap din kasi OFW.
142 P7 And minsan na nakakain yung oras ko sakanya.
143 Pero lahat naman ‘yun ginagawa ko by heart. So di siya gaano
144 nakakaaffect. Bale normal lang din siya.
Participant 8
Duration: 17 min, 31 secs.
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Person
1 I How would you describe your experiences in maintaining a long-term
2 romantic relationship?
3 Siguro marami akong experiences sa past relationships ko na nagbuild up
4 para ma-maintain ko yung 3-year na relationship namin ngayon.
5 P8 Parang yung—naging stepping stone yung mga dati kong relationships.
6 Yung mga past mistakes ko sa previous relationships ko
7 inayos ko siya and nag improve ako para sa partner ko ngayon
8 I Sabi mo yung experiences mo parang dahil doon sa mga lessons na
9 natutunan mo sa previous.
10 Sa pagmemaintain ba, ano yung mga lessons na natutunan mo na ‘yun?
11 Siguro yung mga toxic traits, binawasan ko or tinanggal ko siya completely
12 Like yung masyadong strict, not understanding pero base sa akin ah
13 P8 Understanding na tao kasi talaga ako.
14 Parang hindi ko lang siya maintindihan kung nonsense na yung nangyayari
15 Parang walang logic yung ginagawa niya.
16 I Example ng toxic traits na meron?
17 P8 Ahm, super strict.
18 I Ikaw o siya?
19 P8 Both kami, noong sa previous relationship.
20 I This time around?
21 Ay ngayon, ngayong relationship ko, super complacent naming pareho na
22 Hindi na namin kailan magpaalam, pinapaalam lang.
23 P8 Like for example, “Uy alis ako mamaya ah, punta ako sa ganito, kasama ko
24 sa ganyan”
25 Sasabihin niya lang “Sige ingat ka po”. Not like past relationships I’ve been
26 I What are the experiences of you as a heterosexual college student
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116 na, bumitaw ka nalang kaysa magcheat. Panget naman talaga na magcheat
ka.
117 I Aside from affection, what are your other reasons for staying?
118 P8 Hmm, yung binuild up ko na time and effort.
119 Yung investment ko sa kanya. Lahat ng moments na pinagdaanan namin.
120 Kasi nga naririnig ko sa mga older couples, mga mag-asawa na yung love
121 nawawala talaga yan pero yung care mo sa tao, yung memories niyo,
122 nagsestay. Hindi naman sa nawala yung love, pero factor din yun bakit ako
123 nagsstay sa relationship namin.
124 I Can you provide benefits that you get from your partner?
125 P8 Syempre for me, college life is hard compared sa senior high and junior high
126 days mo na you have time to socialize—you have more time to socialize I
127 mean. Ngayon kasi you parang you need to focus more on your career, on
128 your course, para sa future mo. And for sure, may limitations ka sa
129 socializing. So, for me, naging way yung girlfriend ko na parang hindi ko na
130 kailangan makipag-socialize kasi andyan naman siya. Nafifeel niya naman
131 yung needs ko sa pakikipag socializing and you also have someone to help
132 you sa acads mo.
133 Parang tutulungan ka nila ano yung insights nila doon.
134 At may mapupuntahan ka pag may problema ka din. ‘di ko alam kasi parang
135 panget kasi pakinggan yung emotional dump mo siya, pero parang may
136 mapagkekwentuhan ka ng araw mo.
137 At the end of the day, may makekwentuhan ka na ganito nangyari sa class
ko, ganito nangyari sa ganyan ko, ganun.
138 I As a partner, aside from emotional support?
139 P8 Support in other aspects, like she supports me sa acads ko.
140 Pag feeling down ako sa grades ko, kino-comfort niya ako na kaya ko to.
141 Sipagan ko pa, bawasan ko yung ganito.
142 Siya rin yung nagsasabi, ‘mali yung ginawa mo, dapat ganito.
143 Magpaalam ka ng maayos’ ganun.
144 I How do these benefits affect you?
145 P8 It helps me grow individually, yun nga as I've stated earlier pag nanonotice
146 niya yung mali kong nagawa sinasabi niya na agad, like hindi niya na
147 tinatago. Kasi yun dapat yung isang factor sa relationship, yung honesty.
148 Kahit makakasit—masasaktan mo man yung partner mo, at least honest ka
149 hindi ka nagsinungaling kasi ganun yung gusto kong relationship na it’s built
150 on trust and honesty.
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Participant 9
Duration: 17 min, 28 secs.
Line Key Content
No. Person
1 I Ano yung experiences mo as a heterosexual college student in maintaining a
2 long-term romantic relationship?
3 P9 Experience.. Pwede bang specific? Uhh, wait lang, nag iisip ako..
4 Syempre, in terms of pang long-term, aware tsaka prepared ka na
5 magkakaroon ng problems. Kumbaga, totoo yung sinasabi nilang, “sa una
6 lang masaya lahat”.
7 And doon yung part na after niyong masolve yung problem
8 Doon nagiging mas strong yung relationship, and syempre,
Magiging mas prepared kayo para.. kung ano man.. problems na susunod.
9 I How would you describe those experiences?
10 May times syempre na ano siya dramatic, and may mga times na…
11 Mostly ang involved syempre yung parents din tsaka family ng both sides.
12 Tapos, sa.. tawag dito? Pati sa time din ng isa't isa ganun.
13 P9 So, mostly nag- umiikot lang siya sa quality time, sa- pati syempre kung
14 yung in a relationship Ka kailangan mo rin makipag- magkaroon ng maayos
15 na relationship dun sa parents.
16 I Hindi kayo legal?
17 P9 Legal sa tatay, pero sa nanay hindi.
18 I Niya?
19 P9 Sa nanay niya.
20 I Very untypical ah, usually tatay.
21 P9 Baliktad eh, oo.
22 I So, sabi mo nga medyo dramatic, tanungin kita, ano ang saddest moment sa
23 relationship?
24 Actually, twice na siyang nag attempt na mag- na makipag break.
25 Twice na. Tapos, kasi yung- parang mom niya, high expectation.
26 Kumbaga, honor- laging for honors kasi siya noon.
27 Parang, top ng buong batch. Second ba or..
28 Tapos, ang sagot- parang sagot sakaniya ng mom niya,
29 P9 Ako yung naging dahilan kung bakit siya naging top 3.
30 Tapos, yun, habang nasa tumagal parang naging-
31 Na d-deteriorate yung relationship namin sa nanay niya.
32 Hanggang sa, to the point na 2018 'yon or 19.
33 Nag sabi na siyang ayaw niyang ano, nag sabi na siyang ayaw niyang ano
34 Pero yung sa father naman niya, okay lang naman.
33 I Nag break kayo once? Never?
34 Ayun, so nung nag a-attempt mag break
35 Ang sabi ko lang ano ka ngayon eh parang emotionally unstable.
36 Ang gusto ko mag isip ka muna, mag pahinga ka ganun.
36 P9 Kumbaga kasi may pressure ng family, ng acads, yun ang sabi ko sakaniya.
37 Mag usap ulit tayo the next day.
38 Tas yun ang final answer ko
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127 I think nasa values na rin 'yon ng specific na tao kasi, kumbaga ang value
128 ng- ang values ng isang tao parang may nakausap ako no'n eh.
129 Ang babae parang ano lang daw, parang damit, napapalitan.
130 So, kung ganun yung mindset mo pati values mo, wala ka talagang
131 mapupuntahan na long-term relationship.
132 So, parang samin kasi, napagusapan na namin kung ano yung long-term-
133 kung
134 Bakit kami nasa relationship na 'to.
135 So, ayun nga kung bakit kami nag d-date nun, kaya kami nasa relationship
136 na 'to is nakitaan ko na siya ng potential as maging future wife, future
partner for long-term talaga.
137 I Aside from parang..
138 Sabi mo nga, positively na apektuhan yung mental health mo, can you
139 provide benefits that you get from your partner?
140 Tapos kanina as a college student, ngayon naman as a partner.
141 P9 As a partner? Mga advices tapos, ano pa ba?
142 Kumbaga ano, a different perspective sa mga bagay.
143 Kasi kung yung mga problems a-actionan mo ng naiisip- ng sariling
144 perspective mo which is hindi naman masama 'yun. Pero if titignan mo lahat
145 ng anggolo sa isang problema ganun, mag hahanap ka ng ibang opinion diba
146 ms magkakaroon ka ng maayos ng pag solve dun sa problem.
147 Ano pa ba? Syempre, hindi naman mawawala yung, tawag dito?
148 Yung intimacy tsaka yung sex life, which is exciting.
149 Totoo yung sinasabi ni Abraham Maslow?
150 I Alin do'n?
151 P9 Yung ano, yung sex is a parang primary need ng isang tao.
152 So, kung hindi mo *inaudible* sa iba mo siya hinahanap.
163 Hinahanap mo siya sa sarili mo, sa ibang tao- ibang babae ganun.
154 So- tsaka kumbaga, depende din siya kung gaano ka content yung isang tao.
155 So kung hindi siya contented sa partner niya, talagang mag hahanap siya sa
156 iba. So, ayon, nahahanap ko rin sa partner ko yung contentment.
157 I So with everything said, how do these benefits affect you?
158 P9 Ayun, mas naging content ako sa life.
159 At the same time, naging open ako sa mga options sa buhay.
160 Mas naging, ano ba? Ano yon, opportunities to grow. Yun lang.
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Participant 10
Duration: 11 min, 22 sec.
Line no. Key Content
person
1 Good afternoon po. Our research is about “Selected College Students in
2 Metro Manila in Maintaining Long Term Romantic Relationships.” For our
3 informed consent form, nandito naman po yung gagawin namin sa
4 research, paano namin ikikeep yung data and kung paano siya idedespose
5 after. Tapos, you can always withdraw from our study, nandito naman
6 I yung contact details naming- yung number and email. If you wish po na
7 makuha yung results nung study naming, you can always ask po and just
8 contact us. And as for the incentives we will also give you that. Let’s talk
9 about po your experiences in being in a heterosexual relationship. How
10 would you describe your experiences in being in maintaining a long-term
11 romantic relationship
12 To be honest kasi, first time ko magkaroon ng long term relationship. Like
13 literally yung partner ko yung first official partner ko.
14 P10 Medyo nahirapan ako sa una mag adjust since ako yung type of person na
15 more on logical instead of emotional. Mahirap talaga alisin yun sa una
16 nagkaroon kami ng rough start.
17 I As per the struggles po na syempre hindi kayo emotional person. May iba
18 pa ba kayong experiences in the long-term relationships?
19 Since nagkaroon kami ng rough start, pero nung nagamay ko na talaga
20 yung kung paano maghandle ng mga certain situations like yung mga
21 P10 away. Kung paano namemaintain yung happiness, parang naano ko yung
22 satisfaction na tama yung ginagawa ko. Na worth it magchange into a
23 different person para lang dun sa taong pinili mo.
24 I Since we talk about your experience po, let's talk naman po about the
25 happiest moments in the relationships.
26 Siguro yung mga happiest moments is during anniversaries since dun
27 P10 talaga kami nag all-out when it comes to spending.
28 And siguro noong nagdorm ako nung first sem kasi parang yung feeling is
29 live in partner na.
30 I What is the reason bakit siya yung happiest moment/s?
31 Well ayun nga.
32 Tulad nung sabi ko sa anniversary kung saan-saan kami napapadpad kasi
33 P10 all out talaga sa gastos.
34 Syempre yung experience tsaka treasured memories tapos yung sa dorm.
35 Like yung feeling na kasama mo siya every day..
36 Like yung katabi mo siya matulog, tapos approachable kasi nandun lang
37 kaso sa isang dorm. And since fourth year na kami malapit na mag
38 graduation hindi naman na siguro kami mag b-break.
39 So mag lilive na talaga yung sa actual live in partners in the future.
40 At least noong first sem nagkaroon kami ng experience kung ano yung
41 feeling tsaka dapat gawin.
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42 I We talk about the happiest moments in the relationship, what are your sad
43 moments naman in the relationship?
44 Siguro nagkaroon ng pandemic, like noong nagkaroon ng online classes
45 kasi ano.. yung nagpandemic second year palang kami noon.
46 Paumpisa pa lang kami gaya ng sabi ko hindi pa ako ganun ka emotional
47 P10 person. Sobrang hirap i-ano.
48 Like, almost evevery day nag aaway kami dahil sa mga problems namin
49 tapos yung mga frustrations nung pandemic.
50 Tapos hindi pa kami madalas nagsasama parang nagpipile up siya.
51 I Ayun lang naman po diba?
52 Noong pandemic mas mahirap mag communicate.
53 P10 Tsaka mas mahirap maging intimate kasi laging napupunta sa away.
54 Since tapos naman na tayo sa experiences niyo..
55 I Can you explain the challenges or problems that you encounter in
56 maintaining a relationship with your girlfriend?
57 Siguro yung biggest challenge..
58 Is changing my entire personality.
59 Kasi literal na nung past hindi ko pinapansin yung emotional side ko.
60 Like nirereseaon out ko lahat ng decisions and actions ko. Syempre
61 P10 maapply ko din yun sa partner ko.
62 Since yung partner ko mas focus siya sa emotional stuff sobrang
63 nahihirapan talaga ako mag adjust tsaka ichange yung personality ko.
64 It took almost 2 years para machange ko totally yung self ko pero
65 thankfully hindi naglead sa breakup.
66 I Since naexperience niyo yung ganitong bagay,
67 In what ways does this affect you?
68 Siguro in some way, since nung binago ko yung sarili ko hindi na kami
69 like parang noong pandemic na laging nag-aaway.
70 P10 Tsaka yung mga nangyayari sa amin noong pandemic, hindi na siya
71 nangyayari saamin ngayong third and fourth year so siguro right decision
72 yung ginawa ko. Pero nakakasad din na kailangan mo baguhin yung self
73 mo para sa iba, part naman yun sa relationship so okay lang.
74 I So how do you manage the challenges in your romantic relationship?
75 Like tinitignan ko na siya kung paano siya nakakaapekto.
76 Like pag may away instead na niraration out ko.
77 P10 Tinitignan ko kung may nagawa ako para maramdaman niya yung
78 ganitong bagay so in that way mas nakakapagfocus ako kung paano ko
79 masosolve emotionally rather than logically.
80 Tapos na tayo sa challenges. Let’s talk naman about the benefits do college
81 I students get by being in a long-term romantic relationship. What are the
82 reasons that contribute to you staying in your relationship?
83 Ano kahit na emotional ng partner ko.
84 Like.. let’s say na sobrang responsible ng partner ko. Like alam niya yung
85 dapat gawin tulad ng gawaing bahay. Tsaka yung fact na hindi siya nag
86 give up nung pandemic. Kasi diba yung ibang couples kapag sobrang nag
87 P10 aaway na minsan nag lelead na sa breakup.
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88 Pero dumating kami sa point na sobra-sobra na pero hindi pa din siya nag
89 give up. Ayaw niya pa din umalis sa relationship namin. Siguro ayun yung
90 big factor kaya ako ang stay sa relationship namin.
91 Since we talk about the reasons. Can you provide benefits that get from
92 I your partner it can be general or being a student?
93 For being a student, siguro sobrang makakalimutin ko siya lagi yung
94 nagpapaalala na may “Uy may homework”, “Uy may part na hindi ka pa
95 P10 nagagawa sa grupo”, ganun. Like lagi niya ako pinupush mag aral kahit
96 sobrang tamad ko. In a relationship siguro yung feeling na lagi kang may
97 person na tatakbuhan tapos yung warn feeling nung love.
98 I Syempre yung benefits na nakukuha natin sa partner..
99 How does this affect you?
100 Parang yun lang din yung reason kung bakit stable pa rin ako. Being a
101 rational and logical person, napapabayaan mo talaga yung emotional health
102 mo or emotional stuff mo and since napapabayaan m, ‘pag once na
103 P10 nakafeel ka ng certain emotions you can’t stop na.
104 You let yourself feel emotions again and ma-a-addict ka sa feeling na
105 maging emotional and since ayaw ko ng ganun, yung main motivation ko
106 not to explode from emotions is yung partner ko.
107 Yung lang naman po, that is the end of our questions. To brief you lang po
108 I again with our ICF, you can always withdraw from our study and nandito
109 rin po yung contact number namin. Thank you.
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Appendix J
Demographics of Respondents
Duration of
Participant Age Sex Year Level Romantic
Relationship
P1 21 F 4th Year 5 years and 1
month
P2 23 F 4th Year 3 years 10 months
th
P3 22 F 4 Year 4 years and 2
months
P4 22 F 4th Year 7 years
P5 20 F 3rd Year 6 years
P6 21 M 4th Year 3 years and 6
months
P7 23 M 4th 4 years and 5
months
P8 21 M 3rd Year 3 years
nd
P9 22 M 2 Year 7 years and 3
months
P10 22 M 4th year 3 years
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Appendix K
Researchers Bionote