How would you

describe yourself?
I am someone…
Does not easily get afraid of things.
Is not like most people in many ways.
Does not want to travel or party.
Dresses, speaks, and acts as most teenager in school.

Easily gets irritated even in small things.

Does not want to do hard work.
Loves to do new things and go to different places.
Easily gest stress about everything.
Loves to read and knows a lot of things.
 Knowing
and
Understanding
Oneself
during Middle
and Late
Adolescence
SELF-CONCEPT
Imagine yourself looking
into a mirror.
What do you see?
Do you see your ideal self
or your actual self?
IDEAL SELF
is the self that you aspire
to be.

ACTUAL SELF
Is the one that you
actually see.
ACTUAL SELF
The actual self is built on knowledge. Self
knowledge is derived from social interaction that
provide insight into how others react to you.

The actual self can be seen by others, but

because we have no way of truly knowing how
others view us, the actual self is our self image.
IDEAL SELF
The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want
to be. It is idealized image that we have
developed over time, based on what we have
learned and experienced.
The ideal self could include components of:
What our parents have taught us
What we admire in others
What our society promotes
What we think is in our best interest
The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories
of self-concept.

Self-concept refers to your awareness of yourself.

Self-concept is the construct that negotiates these two

selves. In other words, it connotes first the identification of
the ideal self as separate from others, and second, it
encompasses all the behaviors vetted in the actual self that
you engage in to reach the ideal self. Behavioral scientists
often assert that the self-concept is the sole perspective
from which one can understand an individual's behavior
because it includes all the dimensions of the self, including
how one looks (self-image) and what one knows (self-
knowledge), and the ways in which these exist for others
(fulfilling the ego).
ACTUAL SELF AND IDEAL SELF
Alignment is important. If the way that I am (the
actual self) is aligned with the way that I want to
be (the ideal self), then I will feel a sense of
mental well being or peace of mind. If the way
that I am is not aligned with how I want to be, the
incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in
mental distress or anxiety. The greater the level of
incongruence between the ideal self and real self,
the greater the level of resulting distress.
PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
Making use of all personal
resources, talent, skills, energy
and time, to enable you to
achieve life goals
Your knowledge of yourself and how
you manage yourself impacts directly
on your personal effectiveness. Being
self-aware, making the most of your
strengths, learning new skills and
techniques and behavioral flexibility
are all keys to improving your personal
performance.
Personal Effectiveness depends on our
innate characteristics (talent and
experience accumulated in the process
of personal development )

Talent
Experience
TALENT
Talent first are needed to be
identified and then developed to
be use in a particular subject
area (science, literature, sports,
politics, etc)
EXPERIENCE
Experience includes knowledge and
skills that we acquire in the process
of cognitive and practical activities
Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining an action plan to
achieve them and risk assessment.
Skills also determine whether real actions are performed in
accordance with the plan. If the same ability is used many times in the
same situation, then it becomes a habit that runs automatically and
subconsciously.
Here are some skills that will greatly
increase the efficiency of any person who
owns them:

DETERMINATION
It allows you to focus on
achieving a specific goal
without being distracted
by less important things
or spontaneous desires.
Here are some skills that will greatly
increase the efficiency of any person who
owns them:
SELF-CONFIDENCE
Self-confidence is manifested in
speech, appearance, dressing, gait,
and physical condition. To develop it
you need to learn yourself and your
capabilities, gain positive attitude and
believe that by performing right
actions and achieving right goals you
will certainly reach success.
 Here are some skills that will greatly
increase the efficiency of any person who
owns them:
PERSISTENCE
It makes you keep moving
forward regardless of
emerging obstacles-problems
, laziness, bad emotional
state, etc.
 Here are some skills that will greatly
increase the efficiency of any person who
owns them:

MANAGING STRESS
It helps combat stress
that arise in daily life
from the environment
and other people.
Here are some skills that will greatly
increase the efficiency of any person who
owns them:
PROBLEM SOLVING
SKILLS
They help cope with the
problems encountered with
a lack of experience. It
increases efficiency by
adopting new ways of
achieving goals when
obtaining a new
experience.
Here are some skills that will greatly
increase the efficiency of any person who
owns them:
CREATIVITY
It allows you to find
extraordinary ways to carry out a
specific action that no one has
tried to use. It can lead to a
decrease or an increase of cost,
but usually the speed of action is
greatly increased when using
creative tools.
Here are some skills that will greatly
increase the efficiency of any person who
owns them:
GENERATING IDEAS
It helps you achieve goals using
new, original, unconventional
ideas. Idea is a mental image of an
object formed by the human mind.
 Those are just some, but the
most important personal
effectiveness skills which make
the achievement of any goals
easier and less costly.
 BUILD ON YOUR
STRENGTHS AND WORK
ON YOUR WEAKNESSES
Most failures emanate from your weaknesses
that are not recognized or probably recognized
but not given appropriate attention or remedy.
This could be weakness in communications,
personality or ability, instead of giving up or
indulging in self-pity, take action.
Instead of simply focusing on your weaknesses,
recognized your own talents and abilities, build
on them, utilize them to your greatest
advantage.
EXAMPLE:
Handicapped people like Jose Feliciano and other blind singers did
not brood over their physical handicap. They recognized that they
have a golden voice so they search for ways to enrich that talent
and now they have won International fame in the field of music.
STORY: YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF
YOUR FUTURE

There are three kinds of people

in this world
MOVIEGOER
• This person watches the
movie of their lives,
admire some parts and
criticizes others.
• They do nothing else
aside from that
• The moviegoer feels she
has absolutely no Moviegoers are the most
control of their lives pathetic, miserable people
except to comment in the world.
about it
ACTOR
• This person does not only
watch the movie of his/her
life. He/she realizes she’s
the actor and can control a
big part of his/her life.
• He/she can actually make or
break the movie by how
well she/he delivers her at the end they wish the
lines and how she portrays movie would end in another
her character… way, but realize that they have
no say in such things
SCRIPTWRITER
• This person does not
only watch the movie
and does not only act,
but she actually creates
the entire movie from
his/her mind.
• This person determines This person realizes that he/she
what s/he will say, what has enormous control over her
he/she will do, and how life, and sees to it that the movie
the movie will end. of her life will turn out beautiful.
REFLECTION:

Who are you among these three

people?
Do you merely watch your life go?
Or do you act out a script that you
feel it has been handed to you?
Or do you write the script and make
your life beautiful?
By the way, the producer of the
movie is God. He tells you,
“make the movie beautiful, and I
will give you all that you need
for success”.
 THE POWER OF JOURNAL
WRITING: UNFOLDING YOUR
PERSONAL JOURNEY
The purpose of journal writing is to help you
become the scriptwriter of your life. There
are 4 practical reasons to maintain a journal.
1. It is cost-efficient and available
Emotional stress can be dealt in many
ways like talking to a friend over a cup
of coffee, eating, travelling, shopping,
painting and many more but writing is
the most inexpensive. Notebook and
pens are easy to find, available and do
not cost so much
The purpose of journal writing is to help you
become the scriptwriter of your life. There
are 4 practical reasons to maintain a journal.

2. It is preventive and pro-active.

Writing yields self-awareness. When
you write, you can discover your
strengths and limitations. You will know
your reactions are in different
situations and what better ways to
prevent or face your fears.
The purpose of journal writing is to help you
become the scriptwriter of your life. There
are 4 practical reasons to maintain a journal.
3. It is creative and
productive
Journal writing expounds your
imagination. You can see various
dimensions of your problem,
different points of view and
better solutions.
The purpose of journal writing is to help you
become the scriptwriter of your life. There
are 4 practical reasons to maintain a journal.

4. It is personal and private

You have the choice to keep it to
yourself. Writing is your time
alone. It is your way of loving
yourself. You will not be judged
by your writing.
You may use these questions as you
write in your journal:
1. How do you find this day? What are the positive things that
happened? What are those things that made you irritated or upset?
2. As you reflect the ups and downs of your day, what may be the
greatest lesson you can learn from them? What actions have you done
well and what actions you can do better?
3. What do you really want in life? What do you want to achieve for
yourself, your family, your community, and your country?
4. As you close the day, what are the small and big things you are
thankful of? Who are the people that made your day extra special?
Written Activity #1: Journal Writing
Directions: Recall your strengths and your limitations. Like an
investigator gather all the facts and write them down. Now, think of your
strength and your limitation. Write down one of your experiences on how
you were able to make use of this particular strength in your daily life.
Then, set a goal on how you will improve this particular limitation in
order to overcome it and make you grow as an adolescent. Write a
journal about these issues.

Criteria:
Content- 10pts.
Organization- 10pts.
Relevance- 10pts.