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Melissa Torres
Society is always changing. Every generation is different and affects the way society
works in a different way. Things that are common today were most likely not common fifty
years ago. Although many things have changed over time, there is one thing that hasn’t really
changed: sex differences. There are so many sex differences in many aspects of life, but
especially when it comes to expressing one’s emotions and showing emotional support to others.
Men are less likely to express their feelings than women because of sociocultural factors and
There are two different types of socialization accounts that explain why there is such a
big sex difference in communication and support of emotion, which are the different cultures
account and the skill specialization account. (Kunkel, 1999) The first account, the different
cultures account, basically states that sex differences in emotional support and behavior reflect
what are seen as masculine and feminine cultures. (Kunkel, 1999) Since sex differences come
from different cultures, then that would lead to fundamental differences in the interpersonal
relationships of men and women. There would be differences in what women and men seek in
relationships, differences in how men and women develop relationships and differences in how
The different cultures account explains that the different socialization practices directed
at boys and girls leads to the articulation of two distinct cultures. (Kunkel, 1999) Since men and
women are socialized into different emotional worlds, they tend to develop different ways of
dealing with emotional experiences. It influences the ways in which they perceive and evaluate
behaviors such as comforting. It was found that men preferred talking to their same-sex friends
about both relationship and task problems, while women preferred talking to their same-sex
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friends about relationship problems and to men about task problems. (Kunkel, 1999) It was
shown that both men and women were satisfied with the type of comfort same-sex peers provide.
Since men and women grow up in different cultures, the way they perceive emotional
comfort differs and can lead to misunderstandings. Typically, men and women talk about
troubling situations, feelings or both, but there is a huge contrast in how they do it and the way
they comfort one another. Women often perceive men’s comforting efforts as dismissive, while
men are only trying to provide support in a respectful manner. (Kunkel, 1999) On the other hand,
men often perceive the emotional support provided by women as demeaning, when in reality
The second account, the skill specialization account, basically states that men and women
belong to the same culture, but the social distribution of knowledge lead women to be more
skillful in some areas, such as providing emotional support, while men are more skillful in other
areas, such as persuading and informing. (Kunkel, 1999) The differences in socialization results
in the development of emotional support skills in girls, but discourages these abilities among
boys. In time of stress, both men and women would prefer turning to women for comfort.
Research has shown that men may have skill deficits in communicative behaviors related to
expressing and managing emotions. (Kunkel, 1999) Since women are more able to create
feelings of intimacy and closeness, interaction with them results in reduced levels of loneliness
Evidence has been provided stating that men and women perceive and utilize
interpersonal relationships in a very different way. Women tend to engage in intimate, emotional,
and self-disclosing relationships. Men, on the other hand, engage in task- or activity-oriented
social interactions that are basically nonintimate. (Rosenthal, 1986) A study using a small sample
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of college students showed that women spent more time than men interacting with members of
their social networks and more time sharing feelings during a period of “environmentally
induced stress.” (Rosenthal, 1986) Another study using a sample of college students found that
women with low social support appeared to be less happy and more introverted than women with
high social support. On the other hand, the relationships for men were not as strong. (Rosenthal,
1986)
In a study conducted by scientists Stokes and Wilson, it was reported that women tend to
receive more emotional support than men. (Rosenthal, 1986) In a more recent study, it was
suggested that one’s sex role orientation, rather than gender alone, may be a very important
variable. (Rosenthal, 1986) With that in mind, would be possible for an individual to
demonstrate both instrumental behaviors, like men, and expressive behaviors, like women, at the
same time? The scientist Bem has been one of the first to suggest that this is possible and that
these individuals belong in a third category named androgynous. (Rosenthal, 1986) These
Not only do men and women differ in the way they communicate emotion verbally, but
also in the way they communicate physically. Physically interacting with one another, such as
touching is a rich medium of social exchange. Through it, individuals form strong attachments
and cooperative alliances. They also negotiate status differences, they soothe and calm, and they
express sexual and romantic interest. (Hertenstien, 2011) Given that touch is a major part of
social life, it is highly gendered form of human communication. Some research indicates that
touch communicates the hedonic tone of emotion predominantly, that is warmth or distress
(Hertenstien, 2011)
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In the study conducted by Hertenstein, it was found that women are more likely than men
to perceive touch from opposite-gender strangers as unpleasant and an invasion of privacy. The
more women perceive a touch as sexual from a male stranger, the less they perceive the touch as
warm and friendly. (Hertenstein, 2011) The more men perceive a touch from a female stranger as
sexual, the more they perceive it as warm and friendly. This demonstrates that even when both
genders have the same intention with their touch, they are perceived very differently by the
opposite sex.
According to both evolutionary and social role accounts, gender differences occur in the
communication of sympathy and anger between humans via touch. Evolutionary accounts
assume that women disproportionately take on the care-taking demands of raising offspring.
Social role accounts demonstrate that central socialization practices, such as parental discourse,
amplify the place of sympathy in women’s psyche. (Hertenstein, 2011) Both accounts suggest
that women should be more likely to experience and express sympathy. As adults, it was found
Evolutionary accounts state that men are more are likely to engage in confrontational
encounters to rise in hierarchies and gain access to mates, and so are more likely to experience
and express anger. Social role accounts assume that anger is a gendered emotion, one more fitted
with the stereotypical roles associated with men. (Hertenstein, 2011) It revolves around self-
assertion, competition and status. As adults, it has been found that men consistently report
experiencing and expressing more anger than women. It begins with the separation of culture, as
it was found that mothers talk more about most emotions to their young daughters than their
young sons. It’s a way to socialize girls in the ways of care-taking, while they talk more with
Sex differences will always be a huge part of our lives and I don’t believe sex differences
will be eliminated any time soon. It has severely affected the way men and women communicate
and the way they emotionally support each other. Society and culture has a big influence on sex
differences, guiding men and women to grow up in different environments and directing them to
the things that would make them “socially normal.” We have only barely begun destroying these
social influences on men and women and we have a very long road ahead of us.
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Works Cited
Rosenthal, K. R., Gesten, E. L., & Shiffman, S. (1986). Gender and sex role differences in the
Kunkel, A. W., & Burleson, B. R. (1999). Assessing explanations for sex differences in
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Hertenstein, M. J. (2011). Gender and the communication of emotion via touch. Sex