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Desiree Perez
10 February 2023
“Am I The Asshole?” For some, this is a very important question to ask. It is needed for
the sake of perspective and resolving conflict. Today, people across the world unite, and often
come together to ask and answer this question to and for each other. “How is this possible?” One
may ask. This is possible through the internet, and more specifically through a community that is
continually growing and rising in popularity, the subreddit community called “Am I The
Asshole?” Or AITA for short. A subreddit community is subsection of the website, reddit, that is
specifically dedicated to the AITA prompt. This community is growing so big and popular to
participate in that it has now traveled across multiple platforms, or genres. The community
enjoys communicating within the genre to ask for advice, give advice, and observe and interact
The first way the AITA community utilizes the genre, is by using it to ask for advice.
This advice can be open-ended but is typically revolved around one question, whether or not they
were in the wrong in a conflict. The person who posted the advice will give background
information, talk about the situation and where the conflict happened, and then ask the question
of whether they were at fault. For example, I observed one post from a man under the
screenname “u/aita_dad_”, who was asking if he was at fault in a conflict he had with his
daughter. The situation was he had recently reconnected with, and was becoming close with, a
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half-brother he did not know he had, his daughter was also really enjoying getting to know her
cousins. They were enjoying their newfound family members, especially, because they were not
close to the family they had. The situation arose when the man’s daughter asked if he could feel
out what their political views were for her because she is gay. She was scared they would feel
negatively about her if they found out she was gay and was worried about the negativity, but also
that they could potentially become hostile. He at first had told her she should do it herself as she
was an adult, but later edited his post to say he had realized his wrongs and had apologized to his
daughter after receiving an overwhelming amount of advice suggesting he may have been at
fault. With the help of receiving advice from that community, he was able to gain some
perspective and benefit his life for the better. When people use that genre and that community to
ask for advice, they can trust they will receive the perspective and guidance they needed to
The second way the AITA community utilizes the genre, is by using it to give advice. Not
everyone is brave enough to post their own personal issues they need help figuring out, or better
yet, maybe they are fortunate enough to not be in a conflict they need help resolving, but the
community would be nothing if not for its popular genre of people using the community to give
advice. This part has been explored in video, podcast, and commenting formats, but it has
become extremely popular as people seem to enjoy being able to give their perspectives on
different situations. They either reprimand the person who posted if they believe the poster is at
fault or provide encouraging words if they believe the poster is not at fault. Above all, however,
they give advice. For example, a teenage girl posted a story asking whether she was the bad guy
in a situation where she was moving away from home because she was tired of how much
responsibility her parents put on her to watch her 3 very young siblings, cook, clean, and
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maintain the household. The poor girl likely felt like the bad guy because of how her parents
made her feel about the situation, and what they said in response to her refusing to continue that
way, but the comments rushed in from people giving nothing but support. They understood why
this girl was questioning herself, they shared their similar experiences, they comforted and
reassured her, and gave her strategies for how to proceed so she could better her life. The AITA
community really enjoys using the genre to give advice, it makes them feel like they have
The third way the AITA community utilizes the genre, is by using it as a means for
gaining perspective and entertainment. One less direct way people interact with this genre is by
observing. It is, actually, one of the most popular ways people interact and communicate with
this community. The aforementioned videos, podcasts, and comment sections contribute to the
AITA genre being active because of who creates them and their original perception of the advice
posts; but the posts, community, and genre thrive because of the communication existing in
relation to those people commenting and giving advice. For example, I usually neither post nor
comment, but I know I and others enjoy reading the posts asking for advice, reading the
comments of people giving their opinions and stories, and simply reveling in all the unique
perspectives. People enjoy observing and interacting with these posts because they can observe
the many perspectives being given in relation to these testimonies and even add to the comments
To conclude, the AITA community thrives because of the communication they have
within the genre that consists of people asking for advice, giving advice, and engaging. This
genre provides a safe space for people to get perspective on the conflicts they are encountering,
for people to leave their perspectives on different issues, and for the community as a whole to be
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able to spectate and interact with a large variety of people having open discussions on a large
variety of topics. The community helps people, provides perspective, and is used as a means of
Works Cited
U/aita_dad_. “AITA for Telling My Daughter That She Can’t Expect Me to Do the Hard Things
for Her Just Because She Doesn’t Want to Do Them?” Reddit, r/AmItheAsshole, 25 Jan.
2023,
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/10l8whv/aita_for_telling_my_daugh