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3 BOOST SELF CONFIDENCE AND SELF REGULATIONS

Self-confidence
 is defined as faith in one's own abilities and strengths. Self-confidence can be developed in a variety of
ways and is a combination of several factors such as self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-
acceptance.
 is not something that can be learned like a set of rules; confidence is a state of mind, positive thinking,
practice, training, knowledge and talking to other people are all useful ways to help improve or boost
your confidence levels.

Strategies For Boosting Self-Confidence:

1.Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion.
2.Focus on your strengths: It's easy to get caught up in your weaknesses and areas where you feel you fall
short. However, it's important to recognize your strengths and celebrate them
3.Take care of your physical health: When you feel good physically, it can have a positive impact on your
mental health and confidence.
4.Learn new things: Trying new things and learning new skills can boost your confidence by giving you a
sense of accomplishment.
5.Surround yourself with positive people: Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people can help
boost your confidence.

Examples of confidence

Situation Example of Negative Thought Reaffirmed Positive Thought

You achieve something at work
or in your personal life
You interview for a job but you
don’t get it
You’re applying for university
but aren’t sure whether to go
Confidence and Behavior
“Anyone could have done that; it
wasn’t that impressive.”
“It’s all my fault that I didn’t get
that job.”
“Going to university will be too
much for me to cope with.”
“I am good at what I do. My skills
are impressive and I made a big
achievement.”
“I was partly responsible for not
getting the job, as I know I could
have prepared for the interview
more. However, there were some
factors that were out of my
control, such as the number of
people who applied and the
quality of the other candidates.”
“I’ve faced many challenges
before, and have overcome
them.”

Take a look at the table below, which compares confident behavior with behavior that's associated with low
self-confidence.
Confident Behavior Behavior Associated With Low Self-
Confidence

Doing what you believe to be right, even if others Governing your behavior based on what other
mock or criticize you for it. people think.

Being willing to take risks and to go the extra mile Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure, and
to achieve better things. avoiding risk.

Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping

Admitting your mistakes and learning from them. that you can fix the problem before anyone
notices.
Waiting for others to congratulate you on your Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to
accomplishments. as many people as possible.

Dismissing compliments offhandedly. "Oh, that

Accepting compliments graciously. "Thanks, I
prospectus was nothing, really. Anyone could
really worked hard on that prospectus. I'm pleased
have done it."
you recognize my efforts."

As these examples show, low self-confidence can be self-destructive, and may manifest itself as negativity.
Self-confident people are generally more positive – they value themselves and trust their judgment. But they
also acknowledge their failures and mistakes, and learn from them.
Developing Self-Regulation:
Self-regulation
The ability to control one's behavior, emotions, and thoughts in the pursuit of long-term goals. 
It involves the ability to rebound from disappointment and to act in a way consistent with your values. It is one
of the five key components of emotional intelligence.

The Psychology of Self-Regulation

According to Albert Bandura (1991), the expert on self-efficacy and leading researcher of SRT, self-regulation
is a continuously active process in which we:
1. Monitor our own behavior, the influences on our behavior, and the consequences of our behavior
2. Judge our behavior in relation to our own personal standards and broader, more contextual standards
3. React to our own behavior (i.e., what we think and how we feel about our behavior)

According to emotional intelligence expert Daniel Goleman, there are five components of emotional
intelligence:
1. Self-awareness
2. Self-regulation
3. Internal motivation
4. Empathy
5. Social skills

Self-regulation, or the extent of an individual’s ability to influence or control their own emotions and impulses,
is a vital piece of emotional intelligence. The better able we are to understand and address our own emotions
and the emotions of others, the better able we are to make sense of our environment, adjust to it, and pursue
our goals.

How Self-Regulation Develops?

Your ability to self-regulate as an adult has roots in your childhood. 2 Learning how to self-regulate is an
important skill that children learn both for emotional maturity and, later, for social connections.

Viewed in this light, self-regulation as a more automatic and subconscious process—unless the individual
determines to purposefully monitor and alter their self-regulation—while self-control is a set of much more
active and purposeful decisions and behaviors.

8 Ways to Improve Self-Regulation

1. Leading and Living with Integrity: being a good role model, practicing what you preach, creating trusting
environments, and living in alignment with your values
2. Being Open to Change: challenge yourself to deal with change in a straightforward and positive manner
and work on improving your ability to adapt to different situations and stay positive through it all
3. Identifying Your Triggers: cultivating a sense of self-awareness will help you learn what your strengths
and weaknesses are, and what can trigger you into a difficult state of mind
4. Practicing Self-Discipline: commit to taking initiative and staying persistent in working towards your goals,
even when it’s the last thing you feel like doing
5. Reframing Negative Thoughts: work on your ability to take a step back from your own thoughts and
feelings, analyze them, and come up with positive alternative thoughts
6. Keeping Calm Under Pressure: practice keeping your cool by removing yourself from the situation for the
short term—whether mentally or physically—and using relaxation techniques like deep breathing
7. Considering the Consequences: when you are faced with a strong temptation towards “bad” behavior,
stop and think about the consequences (e.g., what happened in the past, what is likely to happen now, what
this behavior could trigger in terms of longer-term consequences)
8. Believing in Yourself: boost your self-efficacy by working on your self-confidence; focus on the
experiences in your life where you succeeded and keep your mistakes in perspective. Choose to believe in
your own abilities and surround yourself with positive, supportive people (Kline, n.d.)

Strategies for Developing Self-Regulation

Developing self-regulation skills can be particularly important in the context of career and life decisions. Here
are some strategies and techniques that helps develop self-regulation in the context of career and life
decisions:

Practice self-awareness: Self-awareness is an important component of self-regulation. Becoming aware of

thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and learning to regulate them in a healthy and productive way.
Set goals and prioritize: Setting clear goals and priorities can help develop self-regulation by giving a sense
of direction and focus. Setting specific and achievable goals for your career or life, and then breaking them
down into smaller, actionable steps.
Develop a routine: Establishing regular habits and routines for things like exercise, meal planning, and time
management. By developing a routine, you can reduce stress and increase your ability to regulate your
emotions and behaviors.
Practice resilience: Learning to reframe negative experiences as opportunities for growth, and focusing on
your strengths and resources rather than your weaknesses and limitations. By practicing resilience, you can
build confidence and increase your ability to regulate your emotions and behaviors in the face of adversity.
Seek feedback and support: Seeking feedback from colleagues, mentors, or trusted friends and family
members to help you improve your performance and decision-making. By seeking support and guidance from
others, you can increase your self-awareness and improve your ability to regulate your emotions and
behaviors.
Why Self-Regulation Is Important?
 Self-regulation involves taking a pause between a feeling and an action—taking the time to think
things through, make a plan, wait patiently. Children often struggle with these behaviors, and adults
may as well. It's easy to see how a lack of self-regulation will cause problems in life. 
 Self-regulation allows you to act in accordance with your deeply held values or social conscience and
to express yourself appropriately. If you value academic achievement, it will allow you to study instead
of slack off before a test. If you value helping others, it will allow you to help a coworker with a project,
even if you are on a tight deadline yourself

Why are Self-Confidence and Self-Regulation Important?

 Self-confidence and self-regulation are important for success and well-being in many areas of life,
including personal relationships, academic and career success, and overall physical and mental health.
 Developing self-confidence and self-regulation can lead to improved decision-making, resilience, and
emotional stability.
 Boosting self-confidence and developing self-regulation are important skills for success and well-being
in many areas of life.
 By practicing self-compassion, setting clear goals, focusing on strengths, seeking feedback and
support, embracing challenges, and developing routines and resilience, you can improve your self-
confidence and self-regulation skills.
 Start small and practice regularly, and remember that developing these skills takes time and effort.

References:
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/develop-self-confidence-boost-your-career-growth-taledge/
https://www.futurelearn.com/info/blog/general/how-to-build-confidence-5-tips-being-more-confident
https://www.mindtools.com/ap5omwt/how-to-build-self-confidence
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-you-can-practice-self-regulation-4163536#:~:text=Self%2Dregulation
%20involves%20taking%20a,will%20cause%20problems%20in%20life.
https://www.iyi.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Self-Regulation-Handout.pdf