Professional Documents
Culture Documents
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Example:
• Surrendering to the Punitive Parent is an effort to support the need
for companionship in the attachment system.
• Overcompensation fighting with the Punitive Parent mode is an
effort to support the need for autonomy and esteem in the
assertiveness system.
Limbic activation,
physiological Emotional Processing
change happens here Schema Activation
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Emotional Activation
Clients are likely to experience strong and at times uncomfortable
emotions when experiencing Schema Therapy.
When activated, Schemas can activate Modes which affects the
client’s own here and now emotional cognitive and physical state.
Schema Modes are the combination of an activated Schema and
coping style. E.g. an activated Defectiveness Schema combined
with a Surrender coping style (accepting the Schema as truth) which
would lead to the triggering of the Vulnerable Child mode. In this
mode a person experiences some version of the shame, sense of
worthlessness, being wrong or bad, in some way that a child would
feel shamed when found unacceptable to a parent or caregiver.
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Vulnerable Child Mode II
In this mode, a client’s needs for attachment
and safety are strongest.
The mode that contains the schemas that
affect the client the most can trigger their
Coping Modes.
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Angry Child I
In the Angry Child Mode, lots of different
feelings can play a role. Its important to
understand the dominant angry child
feeling.
Is it ‘blind rage’
or
defiant or stubborn?
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Angry Child II
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Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child
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Mode flipping
Very frequently, the Angry and Impulsive Child
Modes are accompanied by the Vulnerable
Child Mode.
Example: Maybe you become very angry when
a friend cancels your date for the movies.
Afterwards, feelings of sadness, loneliness or
abandonment might come up. In this instance,
the Angry Child mode’s behaviour triggers the
Vulnerable Child.
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Happy Child
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Contented Child
Fun, light-heartedness, curiosity
Doing things that are fun and playful.
In the Contended Child Mode, a person feels attached
to other people and experiences closeness with them.
It’s important to have a repertoire promoting our
Contented Child Mode so that you can balance
moments of stress and frustration.
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Dysfunctional Parent Modes are part of
the complex introjects of significant others
Stored in explicit memory (appraisals)
Internalized in the mirror neurons in 2-ways:
(1) as a persisting, self-directed voice beating
oneself up
(2) as a model of how to treat others.
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Dysfunctional Parent Modes II
1. Demanding Parent/Authority Modes
2. Guilt-Inducing Parent/Authority Modes
3. Punitive Parent / Authority Modes
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Demanding Parent Modes (with a focus on
achievement)
Ï Patients mainly experience pressure and feelings of failure
when they do not manage to meet their own expectations
regarding performance – e.g. professional/educational
achievements.
Ï High achievement and doing everything in the ‘right way’
Ï In some cases, not demanding towards child but
indirectly influenced child by modeling extreme striving for
achievement in own behaviour
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Punitive Parent Mode – forms of abuse
In the Punitive Parent mode people devalue, denigrate or even
hate themselves.
1) Sexual abuse - Sexually abused children are ashamed of what
has happened even though they are not to blame. Abused children
often feel that they deserve no better treatment – in a way, the assault
is proof that “they are obviously bad”.
Physical Abuse- perpetrator has a bad temper, is impulsive or sadistic
leading to severe psychological scars and strong Punitive Parent Modes.
(Physical abuse can also happen between classmates or siblings, with
terrible psychological consequences for the victim).
3) Emotional Abuse- Emotionally abusive parents may tell their child
that it is guilty, and responsible for their problems, e.g. parent may leave
the house, or announce intention to suicide.
4) Neglect: When neglected child feel that they are not worth of good
care they will probably internalise a strong Punitive Parent Mode.
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Detecting a Punitive Parent Mode
I am not allowed to do pleasant things like other people
because I am bad.
I deserve punishment
I have the urge to hurt myself (e.g. cutting myself)
I cannot forgive myself
A person hates themselves most of the time, feels ashamed
of themselves, their feelings and needs, or thinks that
he/she cannot expect anyone to spend time with them.
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ÏTHE MORE MALADAPTIVE COPING MODE
ACTIVATION, THE LESS THE HEALTHY ADULT
Ï Strengthening the Healthy Adult is NOT sufficient,
because Maladaptive coping modes negatively
influence, or rather reduce, the Healthy Adult.
ÏThe Healthy Adult does not negatively influence
(reduce) the Maladaptive Coping modes by cognitive
interventions.
ÏChange requires emotional & experiential
interventions.
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• “I avoid
• E.g. passively (Detached Protector) as “freezing” behaviour
to avoid harm
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Compliant Surrenderer
Functions to avoid further mistreatment through
being compliant, passive and dependent
This person allows others to abuse, neglect, control,
devalues self - in order to preserve the connection or
avoid retaliation
Feels helpless in the face of a more powerful figure
Feels they have no choice but to try to please this
person to avoid conflict.
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Angry Protector
Controlled anger, hostility, irritability
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Bypassing Detached Protector
INITIAL STEPS in by-passing DP
Label the mode in the session
Help patient recognise signs of the detached protector
Default mode – label
Why did they develop this? Find out:
What was so bad that caused them to detach
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Remembering Kim
Can’t connect with people
Flat affect
Acting Strong (Don’t hesitate to tell the patient what you see)
Concept of Little Kim
What happened to little Kim
“She’s lost “...
Imagery is the main way of accessing the child modes
Jeff: “Do you think you are saying that because you don’t want to
get into the sad side of you?”
“Tough Kim is not letting anyone love her. Unless I can get Tough
Kim to step aside so we can find Little Kim, we can’t find her and
care for her.”
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Overcoming Obstacles
E.g. Building trust
1. We have to earn their trust to get through the
Detached Protector.
2. Convey warmth, nurturance and caring.
3. Be a real person, don’t play the role of the therapist,
be honest, direct and genuine.
4. Don’t problem-solve, correct distortion, or give advice
in this stage.
5. Ask about previous experiences in therapy
6. Ask about positive and negative reactions to you as a
person – not just a therapist
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Therapists have modes too……
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Overcompensating Coping Modes:
2. Perfectionistic
Overcontroller
3. Paranoid Overcontroller
Vigilant, mistrustful, alert
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Overcompensating Coping Modes:
Predator Mode
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Functional, Healthy Modes
ÏContended Child Mode - Feels loved,
spontaneous, understood, connected,
content and satisfied.
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Why is it necessary to balance focusing on
Schemas and Modes?
Working with Schemas and Modes accomplish different
functions.
When a therapist works with Schemas, he or she is working at a
deep level with core issues. There will be deep affect.
Attachment needs will be addressed and healed only when
work with Schemas.
Mode work focuses on behavioural change.
If want to change deep core processes and reactions, therapists
need to address a client’s Schemas.
If focus on both, will see deeper healing.
Working with both provides the only full conceptualization of a
client case.
If work on both, can overcome life patterns that are so resistant
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Problems that occur when therapists focus
only on Modes (part III)
8. Some therapists practicing Schema Therapists don’t prioritise
limited reparenting – and will only undertake this minimally.
9. Since it is the therapy bond that leads to Schema healing,
clients will not feel a strong enough connection to you.
10. If clients feel they are not changing quick enough, or that you
don’t understand them, ruptures in the therapy bond will
increase the frequency of drop out if mode work is the only
focus (the bond is not strong enough to deal with the
arguments that come up).
11. If you don’t understand the core needs, you will miss the
reason for the maladaptive problematic coping. When there
hasn’t been enough guidance, protection, autonomy clients
can’t easily get their core needs met - some core needs will not
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Problems that occur when therapists only
focus on Schemas (part III)
5. Parts of the self do not become fully integrated. Part of the self
are partially dissociated from each other (e.g. PDs) If therapist
is only working with the Schema part (primarily Vulnerable
Child), you are not working with the parts of the client that
have been split off and need to be healed (e.g. Angry Child). If
heal the VC mode alone this doesn’t mean you have been able
to heal other parts of the self.
Example: If don’t work with the separate part that is the
Compliant Surrenderer Mode, if only work on the Schema
of subjugation, and the client does not understand that there
is a separate part of themselves that must go along with what
everyone else wants, that is associated with the VC mode,
then client will not experience change.
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Step 2 – Name the maladaptive
behaviour and validate origin and
function of mode
Validate the biographical origins and
need to cope in this way
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Step 5 – Making the decision to change
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