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Children give up their very sense of Foreclosing the awareness and Foreclosing authentic expression,
existence, disconnect, and attempt to expression of personal needs. Children responding with what they think is
become invisible. give up their own needs in order to expected of them. Children give up
focus on the needs of others, direct expressions of independence in
particularly the needs of the parents. order not to feel abandoned or crushed.
Disconnected from physical and Difficulty knowing what we need. Feeling burdened and pressured.
emotional self. Difficulty in relating to Feeling our needs do not deserve to be Difficulty saying no directly and setting
others. met. Fear of being rejected when limits.
expressing our needs.
Become the care givers.
Source: Laurence Heller: Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship 8
Connection Attunement Autonomy
Focusing on positive resources, focusing The challenge is to learn how to attune Renounce goal-orientation
on what works well in life. to our own needs, to express them I am ok, even when doing nothing!
Recognize when disconnection and appropriately, and to tolerate more Listen to all sides of the internal struggle
when connection happens charge, fulfillment, expansion, and Stop being the “good boy” or “nice girl”
Grounding and feeling. aliveness. as an attempt to control
Let go of compulsive caretaking and find Courage to being frank, honest and
more fulfilling ways of meeting our own forthright in close relationships and
needs. allow the response to be as it will.
Acknowledge of old grief and loss as Allow intimacy while remaining in touch
part of the growth process. with ones own independence
Source: Laurence Heller: Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship