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BULLYING
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A large part of me is gratified that intentional, relentless cruel
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behavior amongst young people receives media coverage
these days. Bullying is a phenomena that has existed in the
shadows for too long; its exposure to the light of day is the
critical first step in stopping it. But another part of me sees
the abundance of headlines and I understand why one
teacher recently told me, “You know, we get all of these train‐
ings about legal obligations, paperwork protocols, what to
say to parents, and how to spot a bully, but what we really
need is specific instruction on what to do in the moment.”
DO:
1. Know bullying
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3. Make time
4. Smile
Seriously. Little things are big things in the world of young
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people. If you are still worried that you don’t have enough
time to connect with kids, try something as simple and quick
as smiling at each and every young person that you en‐
counter in a day whether at home or at work. While you are at
it, make eye contact and say hello to them, preferably using
their first name. Please know that I am not de-valuing the per‐
vasive and life-altering issue of bullying when I give this ad‐
vice; rather I am suggesting that something as momentary
and uncomplicated as a warm, daily greeting from an adult
can help a young person feel acknowledged, valued, and
worthy—and that that is a foundation for protecting a child
from the impact of bullying.
THE BASICS
5. Be Present
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• “It’s not okay to use those words to put someone down. Are
we good?”
7. Teach Skills
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DON’T
1. Don’t Dismiss
Bullying is not a rite of passage for young people nor is it a
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normal part of growing up. Conflict is one thing—and as not‐
ed above, kids do need skills to manage it effectively—but
being on the receiving end of relentless cruelty is another.
Kids need adults who are willing and prepared to step in to
stop bullying whenever they become aware of it. Kids who
are bullied should never, ever be asked to go it alone.
I am all for peer mediation programs. Just not for kids who
bully. While school-based peer mediation programs can
teach valuable skills for conflict resolution and respectful
problem-solving, in bullying dynamics, it can become a plat‐
form for peer domination. When kids who bully gain the op‐
portunity to outtalk and outwit their less articulate targets in
front of trained peer mediators, school counselors, and teach‐
ers, they are empowered. Vulnerable kids are further dimin‐
ished. Need I point out, this is not the outcome peer media‐
tion is designed for?
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4. Don’t Label
Bullies come in all genders and ages, shapes and sizes. They
come from troubled families and nurturing ones, wealthy
backgrounds and low socio-economic statuses. In truth, al‐
most any child can bully another child. When adults under‐
stand that by their very nature, kids are works in progress, we
stop placing them in harmful, self-fulfilling categories such as
“problem-child,” or “bully” and begin to view them as young
people who deserve to be taught better ways to behave.
5. Don’t Deny
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