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“I’m a failure. I’m stupid. I

don’t deserve more”

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Why did you stay in a relationship where you

were mistreated?

Do you think you deserve to be treated

poorly?

Are you certain only one guy will ever love

you?

Are you scared that you’re too ugly to get

another guy?

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Do you assume that you’ll fail?

Do you think you’re incapable?

Do you think you need more education?

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Check out my Fuck Your Ex Breakup

Workbook for more guided reflective
questions to help you after your breakup

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You want the love, connection

or validation from that person
that you were willing to do
whatever it takes. In the
process, you start betraying
yourself.

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A part of respecting yourself is

walking away when a guy
doesn’t respect your stated
boundaries. If they don’t
respect your boundaries, they
do not respect you!

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