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The field of mental health is moving away from simply ameliorating psychological
distress and towards promoting life fulfillment and well-being. In this positive psychology
movement, the concept of flow is an important component. Flow is the psychological concept
that describes the sense of ultimate meaning and fulfillment felt when engaging in an
intrinsically rewarding activity. Separately, intimate relationships are among the most fulfilling
experiences in life. However, few academic works have investigated the intersection between
flow experiences and intimate relationships. In this article, I will review one of the few journal
through the self-expansion framework. Self-expansion theory suggests that individuals have a
fundamental drive towards new and challenging experiences that will improve their own
competencies and sense of self, which will allow them to better survive and thrive in the world.
Intimate relationships are an important means towards achieving self-expansion; love serves as a
motivation towards self-development and taking on a partner into our own identity. Graham
hypothesizing that; couples who together engaged in more exciting activities (experiencing more
excitement and arousal) would experience higher relationship quality and closeness during or
immediately after engaging in those activities. These exciting activities bear a strong similarity to
flow experiences and so the author also examined how the results could be incorporated into
flow theory. Specifically, flow theory suggests that flow experiences are inherently enjoyable.
So, the author investigated whether the increased feelings of enjoyment experienced during joint
The author utilized the experience sampling method (ESM), which involves
electronically notifying study participants at several random points during the study period (1
week) whereby participants then immediately completed a questionnaire detailing the nature of
their current activity and describing their own psychological state in various measurements such
as affect, motivation, concentration and engagement. The study participants were a small group
of cohabiting couples who replied to flyers posted in local community centers offering a $50
incentive to participate; over half of the couples were married while the vast majority were in
heterosexual relationships. All the couples identified themselves as being in long term committed
Graham (2008) found that higher levels of excitement were correlated with higher levels
of relationship quality at a statistically significant level and were not impacted by other
demographic characteristics such as gender, age or relationship length. Next, the level of
enjoyment variable was added to the model and it was found that level of excitement was no
longer associated with relationship quality but rather level of enjoyment was the more important
statistical relationship. Hence, the author concluded that the level of enjoyment felt underpinned
The author listed self-reporting bias as a key limitation; participants responded to only
two-thirds of the survey signals sent out, which indicated that the participants were self-selecting
which activities and times they chose to complete the questionnaire thus introducing the
as a key limitation in the study; the racial composition of the participants was overwhelmingly
white and household income data was not collected; both these aspects indicate that the sample
Reference
679–694. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.95.3.679